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A Nigerian man has sparked intense debate online after opening up about the real cost of marriage. In his candid video, he asked:
“Go marry? What exactly is my gain? I’ll hustle, pay for everything, and take on massive responsibilities, while she may not contribute financially.”

He explained that men often bear most of the financial load — impressing the woman’s family, sponsoring her clothes and feeding, covering hospital bills during childbirth, and even hosting her mother. According to him, marriage can feel overwhelming.

He also highlighted the emotional side of relationships, noting that arguments can lead to heartbreak, with women sometimes leaving with the child.

While men voice concerns about the financial and emotional weight of marriage, many women are still struggling to find partners ready to commit.

Recently, two sisters in their late 30s shared a video about their challenges in finding husbands, despite years of effort, prayers, and social involvement. Their story reinforces that the difficulty in finding partners affects both men and women — though the pressures are different.

The video has since attracted a range of reactions online, sparking debates about the responsibilities of men and women in marriage, the challenges of modern relationships, and the financial pressures faced by Nigerian men seeking love.

Watch the video and share your thoughts in the comments below!

https://gtvdaily.com/why-many-nigerian-men-say-its-becoming-difficult-to-settle-down/

Summary:

A Nigerian man has gone viral after candidly sharing his frustrations about marriage. He questioned the benefits of settling down, explaining that men often shoulder the entire financial burden — from impressing a woman’s family, covering her clothes and feeding, paying hospital bills during childbirth, to hosting her mother — while the woman may not contribute financially.

He also highlighted the emotional challenges of relationships, saying that arguments can sometimes lead to heartbreak, with the woman leaving with the child. His confession has sparked heated discussions online about the financial pressures, responsibilities, and realities of marriage in Nigeria today.

The man is speaking facts honestly. People act like marriage is some kind of investment where the returns are guaranteed but for a Nigerian man in this economy the risk is too high.

I know guys who married, built the house, paid bride price, took care of everything — and then the wife packed and left with the kids when things got tough. No accountability, nothing. The court system will still favor her.

That said sha, I dont think all women are like that. Some women genuinely hold their men down and contribute. The problem is you can't always tell who is who until its too late.

The real issue is that our society still has this old mindset — man must provide everything — but has also adopted new ideas where the woman has freedom to leave if she feels like it. Its a one sided deal now.

Marriage still has its value but a man needs to choose very carefully these days. Financial compatibility should be discussed openly before anyone says I do. If she earns money but expects you to pay all bills, thats a red flag. Period.

Wahala for who marry motayoayinde

The older I get the more I understand marriage.

Women are like pet dogs
You pet her too much, you spoil her
You become firm with her. She respect you

Just like pet dogs, women want to be feed by you. They depend on you for food.
Telling a woman that she needs no man
Is like telling a dog that it needs no owner

No dog wants to be a stray dog
No woman wants to be without a man

Stray dogs and independent women have to survive and hunt for their survival.
While pet dogs just chill and get feed by the owner.

Some will say this is Misogyny
But this dog pet analogy is the real truth that women are scared to admit because it will make them look like a sub ordinate.

Our fathers married some fierce women
The reason was they know this woman is troublesome and a troublesome woman will fight tooth and nail for her children.
So these men marry such women in the hopes that if they die, these women will fight and protect his house and children.

Just like you get a bulldog to guard your house
Some will get a chuwawa that can't fight but will bark up and down and disturb your peace.

Dogs want to be feed by owners
Women want to be feed by men (owners)

Choose a dog you can handle

I will take time to read later

Marriage this side of the world is the act of creating jobs for the bride and her family at the expense of the bridegroom. Well-paying jobs.

Marriage only favors women and If you don’t have a supporting woman at least 70/30 pls young men don’t marry .
When you see responsibilities,you will forget love .
The easiest fall for any man is to marry liability ,you will regret it

Gotocourt:
Wahala for who marry motayoayinde

No be you say you go japa for January
You still dey naija dey talk rubbish.

This institution don spoil finish it seems.
Partnership o... No go die with responsibility; if the woman no get money, then she norva ready for marriage - just as a man will not be married without money.

Marriages are not the same so the experiences.One swallow doesn't make a summer.

Marriage na scam
At the end men have no gain.Only few women are ready to support for the bills,
House rent
NEPA bills
Water bill
School fees
Sometimes my mind is always skip when I see my wife calls 😂😂😂
Is either gas has finish,
Fuel finish inside her own car.
When the kids grow up they focus on mum than dad.

Men should really think deeply before going into marriage


Sadly,marriage wasn't made to favor men in any way


Young single guys should take note

Reality of life is changing...
With dis kind of awareness men are getting. Time go come, na women go find husbands tire

livinbygrace:
Marriage only favors the women

It favours every gender.

My bro is getting married for the second time after his first divorce.
Wetin dey vex me pass be say the guy man never learn his lessons yet.

Marriage can only get better when there are no entitled in-laws, and the wife is also bearing part of the responsibilities.

Glimpsetv:
Summary:

A Nigerian man has gone viral after candidly sharing his frustrations about marriage. He questioned the benefits of settling down, explaining that men often shoulder the entire financial burden — from impressing a woman’s family, covering her clothes and feeding, paying hospital bills during childbirth, to hosting her mother — while the woman may not contribute financially.

He also highlighted the emotional challenges of relationships, saying that arguments can sometimes lead to heartbreak, with the woman leaving with the child. His confession has sparked heated discussions online about the financial pressures, responsibilities, and realities of marriage in Nigeria today.

Ogbeni, who begged you to do this AI summary which is just a carbon copy of the original article? 🤔

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiwjtH_8ylI?si=QC029cPtis7iG6Mb



https://gtvdaily.com/why-many-nigerian-men-say-its-becoming-difficult-to-settle-down/

That's a very smart dude right there 😁

Marriage is what you make out of it.

Marry a liability, not just in terms of finance; emotional and mental liability partner exist, you'll regret it.

Marry an asset, and truly become one, then you'll enjoy it.

Don't pay attention to the thousands who paint marriage black when there are hundreds who still enjoy theirs.

If you believe you'll enjoy marriage, you will. And if you believe the opposite, you will attract what you believe.

One thing I have seen after some time on this world

After 3 4 5 children the man sends them to school and they graduated
The man usually kpai before 70 if he is lucky
Often earlier
The grown up children live happily with their mother who will live well into her 70s or 80s. Enjoying HER children

SpencerForbes:
Marry if you want a legacy, but if not, just secure your future and enjoy your life. Don't let anyone pressure you into a choice that isn't yours.

What legacy does marriage give? 🤔

He sounded really pained. Did someone break his heart already or this is just how angrily he passes his points across?

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiwjtH_8ylI?si=QC029cPtis7iG6Mb



https://gtvdaily.com/why-many-nigerian-men-say-its-becoming-difficult-to-settle-down/

Marriage?

From my own perspective, I think the institution called "Marriage" only favors women ooooo.

As a man, u go spend sote you go run comot for your house cos of billing...

Marriage has more trouble than enjoyment.

Man go pay bride price, pay for tradition and white wedding. E enter marriage na suffer head ehn? Den the younger sister of Eve go stress the man dey shout shout on top im head so tay e go come grow grey hair.

Over thinking go come eventually kpai am.

Wetin man dey gain for marriage self?

tiswell:
Men should really think deeply before going into marriage


Sadly,marriage wasn't made to favor men in any way


Young single guys should take note

which note....when u dey f free titi why u nor complain then...e don cast u con dey complain...🙄

You are free to try man. Who are you fighting with all this shalaye! No be by force to marry woman. People de marry undercover woman-man. You also fit stay single. Keep your poison inside your mind.

We often receive the kind of love we allow and believe we deserve. There are genuinely kind women out there who are ready and willing to support their husbands. Sometimes, the experiences some men complain about happen because certain red flags were noticed early on but deliberately overlooked.

For instance, how can you be in a relationship where your partner has never, even once, bought you a meaningful gift? You are always the one giving, giving, and giving. That should raise concerns. Secondly, some men enter relationships with the mindset that, as the head of the family, they must shoulder every single responsibility alone. That belief can be unhealthy.

I am a married man, and I can confidently say that my wife contributes without me asking. My responsibilities include paying the rent, children’s school fees, and buying major food items like garri and rice, nepa bill. However, she often takes care of things like food items such as beverages, Indomie, snacks, children home clothes and other household needs like filling of gas (although not all time). Sometimes without my knowledge. That kind of support matters.

Another major issue is marrying someone with no source of income or engagement. How do you expect such a person to contribute financially? Empowerment is key. Help her get a job, learn a skill, or start a small business. That's if you are married to her. With time, if she is sincere and honest, she will naturally support you.

That’s my honest perspective on the matter.