₦airaland Forum

HowDareU:
Man go pay bride price, pay for tradition and white wedding. E enter marriage na suffer head ehn? Den the younger sister of Eve go stress the man dey shout shout on top im head so tay e go come grow grey hair.

Over thinking go come eventually kpai am.

Wetin man dey gain for marriage self?

Yankiss:
Marriage this side of the world is the act of creating jobs for the bride and her family at the expense of the bridegroom. Well-paying jobs.

livinbygrace:
Marriage only favors women and If you don’t have a supporting woman at least 70/30 pls young men don’t marry .
When you see responsibilities,you will forget love .
The easiest fall for any man is to marry liability ,you will regret it

SeunDeCraze:
Reality of life is changing...
With dis kind of awareness men are getting. Time go come, na women go find husbands tire

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiwjtH_8ylI?si=QC029cPtis7iG6Mb



https://gtvdaily.com/why-many-nigerian-men-say-its-becoming-difficult-to-settle-down/

ispreloaded:
most important thing na to get pikin ...try as much as possible to get plenty pikin..

MiamiLord:
My bro is getting married for the second time after his first divorce.
Wetin dey vex me pass be say the guy man never learn his lessons yet.

Entanglement:
With the kind of entitlement mentality our women have! Marriage favours no man at all.
Better to be single and enjoy your life than to carry one unvirgin woman to foot all her bill!

Imagine her father will be asking you, what do you do for living to know if you can take care of his unvirgin self entitled entity of his daughter

empron:
Marriage na scam
At the end men have no gain.Only few women are ready to support for the bills,
House rent
NEPA bills
Water bill
School fees
Sometimes my mind is always skip when I see my wife calls 😂😂😂
Is either gas has finish,
Fuel finish inside her own car.
When the kids grow up they focus on mum than dad.

Entanglement:
With the kind of entitlement mentality our women have! Marriage favours no man at all.
Better to be single and enjoy your life than to carry one unvirgin woman to foot all her bill!

Imagine her father will be asking you, what do you do for living to know if you can take care of his unvirgin self entitled entity of his daughter

Wotowotoman:
What legacy does marriage give? 🤔

Mathewrichard99:
Marriage only benefits women. It's always an achievement for women but slavery for men. That's the absolute truth......

as69:
The man is speaking facts honestly. People act like marriage is some kind of investment where the returns are guaranteed but for a Nigerian man in this economy the risk is too high.

I know guys who married, built the house, paid bride price, took care of everything — and then the wife packed and left with the kids when things got tough. No accountability, nothing. The court system will still favor her.

That said sha, I dont think all women are like that. Some women genuinely hold their men down and contribute. The problem is you can't always tell who is who until its too late.

The real issue is that our society still has this old mindset — man must provide everything — but has also adopted new ideas where the woman has freedom to leave if she feels like it. Its a one sided deal now.

Marriage still has its value but a man needs to choose very carefully these days. Financial compatibility should be discussed openly before anyone says I do. If she earns money but expects you to pay all bills, thats a red flag. Period.

manuelkel:
It favours every gender.

Gajagojo:
One thing I have seen after some time on this world

After 3 4 5 children the man sends them to school and they graduated
Th man usually kpai before 70 if he is lucky
Often earlier
The grown up children live happily with their mother who will live well into her 70s or 80s. Enjoying HER children

israelmao:
Marriages are not the same so the experiences.One swallow doesn't make a summer.

EmperorIsaac:
"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
Hebrews 13:4 (KJV). Therein is the reward!

Gajagojo:
My response to you is this

Before whitepeople brought their story book to you our ancestors did not marry?
They did not have marriage traditions

You cannot find something in Edo sayings ,Igbo sayings telling you that marriage is good and the rules governing it?

Marriage is a way of organising society so that there is order and cohesion

Just like the rules governing how you build a house . You put in place a good foundation and follow the rules of physics

It has nothing to do with God

Don't threaten anyone with Hebrew God it has nothing to do with us
We have been marrying for ever because our ancestors figured out benefits in it and established procedures that suited their times

They did not need advice from Hebrews then and we don't now

Times are changing, we now live in big cities , miles apart from our relatives, in an era of electricity and social media

Population is growing
The next generation will work it out with their brains
It has nothing to do with any Hebrew deity

Gotocourt:
Wahala for who marry motayoayinde

edogu:
We often receive the kind of love we allow and believe we deserve. There are genuinely kind women out there who are ready and willing to support their husbands. Sometimes, the experiences some men complain about happen because certain red flags were noticed early on but deliberately overlooked.

For instance, how can you be in a relationship where your partner has never, even once, bought you a meaningful gift? You are always the one giving, giving, and giving. That should raise concerns. Secondly, some men enter relationships with the mindset that, as the head of the family, they must shoulder every single responsibility alone. That belief can be unhealthy.

I am a married man, and I can confidently say that my wife contributes without me asking. My responsibilities include paying the rent, children’s school fees, and buying major food items like garri and rice, nepa bill. However, she often takes care of things like Indomie, snacks, children home clothes and other household needs like filling of gas (although not all time). Sometimes without my knowledge. That kind of support matters.

Another major issue is marrying someone with no source of income or engagement. How do you expect such a person to contribute financially? Empowerment is key. Help her get a job, learn a skill, or start a small business. That's married to her. With time, if she is sincere and honest, she will naturally support you.

That’s my honest perspective on the matter.

EmperorIsaac:
The Bible is not a story book. It is God's word! It's life.

Wotowotoman:
What legacy does marriage give? 🤔