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Old age and dementia dey worry this papa

Fair enough. If na you wan see her.


In other words na who De urge go carry load

A sensible girl invited on a date won't eat more than what she can't afford or what the person is ordering.

Orlandoo:
I disagree with the sage here. That I invited her doesn't mean I should pay for everything she eat during the outing. So if she's a glutton I have to fulfill her gluttonous stomach abi!

Yes. If you know you'd be sharing the bills communicate in advance

Na these kind things make most babes never marry.The lady should be able to use her discretion.That I invited you on a date is not a ticket to empty my pocket.Some will even go as far as ordering for take away .Ladies should always ensure to go with their own money when going on a date to avoid any embarrassment.

tonicyril:
Agreed 100%.


If u invite someone, be responsible for his or her expenses unless he or she chooses to help out

Now, is the person the one to determine what you spend on?

What if the person ask for a private jet on a date?

Can you afford everything they ask for?

Peter's statement is blanket and not realistic.

You guys should think about what you type.

masterfactor:
I support man. Dating, Relationship and Marriage, if you can't pay bills, you have no reason to involve in it. Thats what makes you a man

So your only purpose of dating, relationship and marriage is to pay bills?

Don't you know the sage is stylishly woman wrapper, a complete elderly simp....😂😂😂😂


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Orlandoo:
I disagree with the sage here. That I invited her doesn't mean I should pay for everything she eat during the outing. So if she's a glutton I have to fulfill her gluttonous stomach abi!

But that is not applicable in the law court

I concor... 50cent said the same thing... Anybody that call for a date should fund it..


Be it the lady or the guy..

Don't you know the papa is stylishly woman wrapper, a complete elderly simp...you know some men wey dey open mouth like trap and saliva go dey comot when dey see women wey fine.😂😂😂😂
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mascot87:
Old age and dementia dey worry this papa

Ki lo fa ekun?
Wetin dey cause the wailing...

Rep9jaCom:
Veteran Nollywood actor, Pete Edochie, has sparked conversation online after sharing his opinion on who should handle expenses during a date, Rep9ja reports.

According to the respected actor, a man who invites a woman out should be fully prepared to take financial responsibility for the outing, including transportation and any other costs.

Speaking on the matter, the Nollywood legend emphasized that the woman should not be expected to pay for anything since she did not initiate the meeting.

In his words, he said:


Edochie maintained that the woman should not bear any financial burden during the outing because the invitation came from the man.

His remarks have since sparked debate on social media, with many users sharing differing opinions about dating expectations and financial responsibility in modern relationships.

While some people supported his view, arguing that the person who invites should naturally handle the bills, others insisted that dating in today’s world should involve shared responsibility between both partners.

𝙑𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤 𝙀𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝘽𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙬 👇👇

“If you invite a girl out on a date, you must take responsibility for whatever she does, transportation and other expenses. She is not the one who decided to pay you a visit on her own; you are the one who invited her.” — Chief Pete Edochie https://t.co/s1sYktvlLI pic.twitter.com/iG07EUQWsf

— Rep9ja.Com (@Rep9jaNg) March 9, 2026

https://www.rep9ja.com/celebs/invite-woman-pay-bills-pete-edochie/

I had wanted to disagree with his stance but then I checked again his personality and experience and I conclude that it is man's responsibility to choose wisely who deserves to enjoy his wealth. You cannot be inviting all these hungry looking wretched girls out on a date. Choose wisely who you spend your hard earned money on. At the end of the day, it is an investment that you tend to reap at the right time. There are good women out there and they deserve that treat

Let me summarize what he said.
Whoever requested or invited the other person should pay the bills.
That means, if the girl said she wants you guys to go out, she should pay the bills. If the guy says he wants them to go out, he should take care of the bills. .. that's responsibility, simple.

His message is no surprise to me. He grew in the most passive of times. Below is the name and definition of his generation.

The Silent Generation (born 1928–1945) is named for its tendency toward conformity, caution, and lack of public rebellion compared to the preceding and following generations.

Daddy folded his arms and looked while Gen X started changing things, Millennials followed suit and Gen Z no gree follow rules with their “everybody must collect” mentality.

realsoftouch:
I concor... 50cent said the same thing... Anybody that call for a date should fund it..


Be it the lady or the guy..

How many people are as rich as 50?

Have you asked yourself why 50 cent isnt married?

That should tell you all you need to know.

50 cent dont trust dem 404s

Òrò lo’gbó yen o
Bàbá Hamedi
😄

Masculinity!! Na wetin gen gen (or whatever his name is) wont teach you

tonicyril:
Agreed 100%.


If u invite someone, be responsible for his or her expenses unless he or she chooses to help out

See mentality. damn!
Some men they shame me!

Where is it write that dates are strictly for expenses? The white men you all copied how to take a woman out on a date, do they see it as a compulsory expense?

Did your forefathers took their women on dates to spend money?

Yeye generation.

crossbreedwears:
A sensible girl invited on a date won't eat more than what she can't afford or what the person is ordering.

Not all girls are sensible.

Fuckyoumod:
See mentality. damn!
Some men they shame me!

Where is it write that dates are strictly for expenses? The white men you all copied how to take a woman out on a date, do they see it as a compulsory expense?

Did your forefathers took their women on dates to spend money?

Yeye generation.

You are enlightened.

Peter edochie did not tell us the purpose of dating.

99thEnemy:
Simply just limit the options.

Some girls are shameless. There's one I took out one day and I didn't know she ordered for takeaway when I went outside to make call due to loud music playing there. It was the time I was about to pay that they brought what she ordered and I was surprised. I still paid for everything but I was disappointed.

YoungLionken:
I hate to admit it but true that. Whoever wants the outing should get ready for the spending that comes with it. Some Nigerian men are overly obsessed with anything inside skirt, that's why these girls are capitalizing on it. We men are actually the ones spoiling our women, making them become so self entitled to our purse or materialism. The other day, one of my former close friends sent money (50k) to a lady, we asked him why, he said he wanted her close, showed us the chats just to clarify our unbelief and yes he actually did with a particular text of serious concern "please manage this amount, I just want to appreciate you for giving me your number and then your beauty". He saw how disappointed we were and still went to defend his action. Oh well, the rest they say, is history...

Dude seems like a lost cause. But if he's your friend, you guys can try explaining things to him, I guess.

Mrchippychappy:
50/50 is only when she offers to pay.

You can't take someone on a date and DEMAND that they pay 50/50.

If you can't handle it then forget about dating and work on your finances.

Sure, the man should be prepared to pay for whatever is consumed during the outing. But her transport to the venue? Why should that be on him - assuming she's a working person. Why should the outing not cost her something too?

True.

Orlandoo:
Not all girls are sensible.

I support this 💯
Absolutely 💯.
...and it's your responsibility to marry a productive lady too.

Before you take her to a particular joint or bar...sebi you must have done your findings to know if the place is affordable to you.

When you finally sit, it should be your responsibility to check what she orders if you are ok with it, in terms of the cost.

She cannot come and force what she wants to eat on you, except she will be the one to pay, because otherwise you calling her out, she might not be in that location at that particular time.

So, truly....Pete Edochie is right.

Rep9jaCom:
Veteran Nollywood actor, Pete Edochie, has sparked conversation online after sharing his opinion on who should handle expenses during a date, Rep9ja reports.

According to the respected actor, a man who invites a woman out should be fully prepared to take financial responsibility for the outing, including transportation and any other costs.

Speaking on the matter, the Nollywood legend emphasized that the woman should not be expected to pay for anything since she did not initiate the meeting.

In his words, he said:


Edochie maintained that the woman should not bear any financial burden during the outing because the invitation came from the man.

His remarks have since sparked debate on social media, with many users sharing differing opinions about dating expectations and financial responsibility in modern relationships.

While some people supported his view, arguing that the person who invites should naturally handle the bills, others insisted that dating in today’s world should involve shared responsibility between both partners.

𝙑𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤 𝙀𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝘽𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙬 👇👇

“If you invite a girl out on a date, you must take responsibility for whatever she does, transportation and other expenses. She is not the one who decided to pay you a visit on her own; you are the one who invited her.” — Chief Pete Edochie https://t.co/s1sYktvlLI pic.twitter.com/iG07EUQWsf

— Rep9ja.Com (@Rep9jaNg) March 9, 2026

https://www.rep9ja.com/celebs/invite-woman-pay-bills-pete-edochie/

moje4:
Is a two ways things. A rich man will pay all the bills. A poor man will share the bills. cut your coat according to your size

When I was dating my now husband, we both paid our bills. if I didn't have money to pay when I go out, I cancel the outing. This was because we agreed on "no sex, no spending".

Chickensoup:
I always tell people that if you understand the purpose of dating and what relationship is really about, you will know that a man paying for date isn't the golden rule.

If you leave a guy who has shown qualities of a good husband or father simply because he didn't pay for your date, then you are not ready for the relationship. If you can't pay for your meal then you should get a job not dating. If he insists that he wants to pay then allow him but try to insist once in a while.

If you want to capture a man with ease, go shopping with him to buy food ingredients, cook a nice meal and both of you eat. For security reasons, you can put the food in a flask and take the date somewhere else.

If you must go to a nice place for a date, then atleast buy him a small gift to show appreciation. It can be a keyholder or anything.

My now husband didn't pay when we go on dates/outings.
We used to foot our bills separately.
He never bought me any gift or gave me money and vice versa.
We dated for 8 months and got married .
It's been 7 years plus and we are cool.
He started buying me gifts after we got married but I still find it difficult to reciprocate

Ruth15:
Poor man contradicting an already established man wetin we no go see for inside this Nairaland.

Ok lets say edochie is a gen z man at the level of his wealth, if a girl ask for a 2026 private jet as part of his bill during his dating, can he afford it?
Shebi all na bill.
He should stop making blanket statement.

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Chief Edochie is right…but then he is 79 years old. Times have changed.

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Pls, what instigated this talk o?

This my don seems tough as that his naughty son o

Respect, anyway!