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If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

ebubeson:
✓ If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.
✓ Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

Religious marriage is overwhelmingly an endurance game. Ask any religious married couple out there and they will tell you the truth by way of the words they use in describing their union. A good majority will try to sprinkle words in to mislead those not paying attention. However, when you pay close attention, you will come to know many religious people have no real idea what enjoyment is in a relationship. 🥱🥱

2. Always pretending this God is the one living the reality and not humans. Anyways, what is happening in Afghanistan is also god-ordained. Yes, as ordained by the Allah of the Mohammedans, yet you don't see any of the women shouting about enjoyment in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

Solofresh2:
The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

Yes, its true after all they all vowed to disobey God and the things they say are right in their own eyes. So endurance dem dey find endurance they must get ee ooo, oooo.

Marriage is majorly for companionship between the man and the woman, then procreation.

Kobojunkie:
Religious marriage is overwhelmingly an endurance game. Ask any religious married couple out there and they will tell you the truth by way of the words they use in describing their union. A good majority will try to sprinkle words in to mislead those not paying attention. However, when you pay close attention, you will come to know many religious people have no real idea what enjoyment is in a relationship. 🥱🥱

2. Always pretending this God is the one living the reality and not humans. Anyways, what is happening in Afghanistan is also god-ordained. Yes, as ordained by the Allah of the Mohammedans, yet you don't see any of the women shouting about enjoyment in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

What did religious marriage do to you? Have you been in one before? Is it the only form of marriage you know?

ExudeLoveToAll:
➜What did religious marriage do to you?
➜Have you been in one before?
➜ Is it the only form of marriage you know?

Nothing! 🥱🥱🥱

2. No! 🥱🥱

3. It is not the only form, but it is also not among the best, given what we now know from study after study of marriages and happiness in relationships. Every religious marriage is designed to subjugate— literally force submission unilaterally— one gender, typically the female, under the man. That stands against the universal rights of every human being. 🥱🥱

A mix of both. There are times when you enjoy and times when you have to endure.

Enjoyment

It all depends on who U get married to

Its for better for worse

Sometimes it's never a good idea to be constantly praising your spouse publicly, a human heart is an envious heart... You'll only be opening doors for vultures to get in with an attempt to have their own piece of the pie.

And endurance is the main component of sharing a household, it can be either with your spouse, siblings, parents, or even your children... There'll be those days whereby you can't stand each other, but have to endure one other in order to keep coexisting under the same roof.

Na endurance pass enjoyment


Who no go can never know

Na enjoyment, until una begin born pikin.

Endurance for both party involved but hardship for the men ,relieve for the women if the man is responsible one , it's like you will work and feeds person forever,no break time and even help them cloths and pay bills, I pity the one wey born anyhow,no bi every pikin get luck to get money fast like kiruku and the rest

Marriage is for better for worse till death do you apart.

marriage is a social concept. sex and relationship is more paramount

Where enjoyment dey permanent without intermission?
No be to quick die be that?
There's no blue sky without shades of grey.

Marriage is DEFINITELY NOT for enjoyment!!!
Marriage is WORK!

Marriage bad! Marriage bad! Yet you see people marrying every Saturday

Marriage is for enjoyment and many of those people who are enjoying their marriage do not talk about it. News of working marriages do not make it to the news because it is "boring"

The annoying thing is that people make the wrong choice In a partner and are not able to mend their differences , go ahead to blame the institution of marriage for their failure

Togetherness, in Austerity and prosperity.

In pains and in gains.


In labour and in favor.

Sometimes you enjoy, sometimes u endure.

If you endure, you'll definitely Enjoy later, that's if you are Sensible amidst the endurance period

tuoyoojo:
Marriage bad! Marriage bad! Yet you see people marrying every day

Why not ,They must marry first before they see how terrible marriage is now..how would I tell someone that okoro draws if the person hasn't tasted the Okro.

Enjoyment and Endurance

It’s a poverty alleviation program for most Nigerian ladies

For both. Endure to Enjoy

Procreation and companionship.

Marry the right person and enjoy. Marry the wrong person and endure or even worse, experience hell.
We are not perfect. We sometimes hurt each other. Our last real quarrel was about 6 years ago and after that we've understood each other better and learned to adjust to each other. In the overall, I'll say I'm enjoying my marriage.
I don't know about you.

Endurance

Enjoyment

Complication

It is what it is to who it is

Life in general is endurance & enjoyment