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Do not get married guys, do not get married!!

It serves little or no purpose for you outside passing your genes to the next generation!

You are perfectly right. Marriage is a very big endurance and if you decide to stay in there, that's an unending endurance. Practically most marriages are just mere endurance based on what would people say if I fail, how would my family feels, the kids would grow up without the two parents been together. It's more of covering up the shame, enduring the pain and just generally trudge along. Marriage has been over hyped, it's loosing it importance because of the greed, lies and deceits of both female and male parties..no truth again among couples. ...you hardly find truth nowadays....everyone is selfish And concern about their own personal comfort and interest....

Kobojunkie:
Religious marriage is overwhelmingly an endurance game. Ask any religious married couple out there and they will tell you the truth by way of the words they use in describing their union. A good majority will try to sprinkle words in to mislead those not paying attention. However, when you pay close attention, you will come to know many religious people have no real idea what enjoyment is in a relationship. 🥱🥱

2. Always pretending this God is the one living the reality and not humans. Anyways, what is happening in Afghanistan is also god-ordained. Yes, as ordained by the Allah of the Mohammedans, yet you don't see any of the women shouting about enjoyment in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

It is either Marriage or Manage. Choose.

Nothing like endurance, enduring what? The way brothers and sisters in a single family fight, settle, relate is the same way in marriage, two different people with different characters and egos. So marriage should be more of tolerance than endurance

Skepticus:
Go MGTOW

Do not get married guys, do not get married!!

It serves little or no purpose for you outside passing your genes to the next generation!

I have been preaching this too. Mgtow is the way to go. These modern women aren't worth the stress.

Couples will enjoy marriage when the couples truly love each other, have feelings for each other, care for each other, unconditional love ..

Couples will endure marriage when the couples do not truly love each other, conditional love, do not have feelings for each other

I don’t know how you guys pick your spouse, but marriage is enjoyment if you follow the right formula.

If you pick someone because of “spec”, didn’t acces their character, their past, and family background, don’t come and say marriage is bad.

I GUESS IT THE COMBINATION OF BOTH,IF YOU DONT WANT TO COMBINE YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE.

Marriage is just life. At some point you don't even know you married. Just going about you business. You sad sometimes, other times happy. The person you with may determine to an extent if you comfortable though. That's is neither happy nor sad.


We can't be happy in life. We can experience little pocket of happiness. The most time we just living

For both in balance

Marriage is for endurance and enjoyment........ A time for endurance and a phase of enjoyment........ Then endurance again, depending on their health status.......

None of the above.

Solofresh2:
The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

Wen u go to school you will put efforts and commitments, and endurance until you succeed, the same thing goes to people who learning trade, or job, but wen it comes to marriage,the partners will be putting on "I don't care attitude" expecting the marriage to work itself to success, wen it finally fails they will be blaming marriage, as if, marriage is human beings with functional brain to make itself workable instead themselves.

Back to your conclusion, no 2 people in marriage are lucky enough, before their marriage successful, they work day and night and all season, before it successfully, no matter how Rich or good-looking both of them are, know that and starting working for your marriage to be successful.

Hhh4444:
I have been preaching this too. Mgtow is the way to go. These modern women aren't worth the stress.

You think the way your fore fathers treated stark illiterate women in the past, you can treat Morden ladies, who are educated as you do and earning income just like you do like that? To make it worse, taken care of kids are joint venture between husband and wife now.

If you don't change your mindset and start leaving in today's world instead of past, you will end like baba n dagbe(old cargo bachelor)

People still dey marry ?


I nor remember d last tym I hear marriage planning


People lyk us don run comot, and some people wan enter


Note, Nor be money issue, my wife earns times 3 of her salary... Bt my peace of mind pass dey more important than any marriage

Your comment wins.

Solofresh2:
The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

Enjoyment for the man. Endurance for the woman.

Fiscus105:
You think the way your fire father treated stark illiterate in the past, you can treat Morden ladies, who are educated as you do and earning income just like you do, to make worse, taken care of kids are joint venture between husband and wife.

If you don't change your mind and start leaving in today's world instead of in the past, you will end like baba n dagbe(old cargo bachelor)

Na mumu still dey marry. I am not willing to be a mumu to keep any woman at home. I value my peace of mind more than the validation men get from marriage.

adamkkk:
People still dey marry ?


I nor remember d last tym I hear marriage planning


People lyk us don run comot, and some people wan enter


Note, Nor be money issue, my wife earns times 3 of her salary... Bt my peace of mind pass dey more important than any marriage

The thing still dey shock me say people still dey marry... They are not aware that marriage is now obsolete.

Marriage was for enjoyment until Adam and Eve came into the picture and ruined everything. Now, only a very few people enjoy marriage because marriage is now very heavy and expensive. Only a very people can afford it.

Na for enjoyment. When I realized I wasn't enjoying my first Marriage while also enduring it, I had no choice than to get a divorce and later remarried. I thank God for that bold decision and now, I dey enjoy my Marriage. My wife nor give me wahala at all, She's matured, a matured single Mother, Very Loyal and beautiful inside out. I never had any day of my life to regret my decision. Me wey no fat in my first marriage because of wahala,now all my clothes don tight me for house cos of fatness. I don dey even watch my weight Sef. I don get peace of mind my wife promised to give me.

Kobojunkie:
Religious marriage is overwhelmingly an endurance game. Ask any religious married couple out there and they will tell you the truth by way of the words they use in describing their union. A good majority will try to sprinkle words in to mislead those not paying attention. However, when you pay close attention, you will come to know many religious people have no real idea what enjoyment is in a relationship. 🥱🥱

2. Always pretending this God is the one living the reality and not humans. Anyways, what is happening in Afghanistan is also god-ordained. Yes, as ordained by the Allah of the Mohammedans, yet you don't see any of the women shouting about enjoyment in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

What are your personal experiences about marriage?

ebubeson:
If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

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Most marriage pictures they show are the first few months of lovey-dovey. It takes the first and second childbirths for stress to start manifesting seriously.
That's when marriage starts.

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Life in itself is a blend of Enjoyment and Endurance...! Sometimes, not in equal measures.

The problem a lot of you singles are having is overthinking and over-analysis.

Endurance or enjoyment, marriage works only if you go in with the right person and for the right reasons.

If you marry solely for personal and selfish reasons, just know that endurance go plenty later on.

Sirleo05:
Marriage is for better for worse till death do you apart.

That formula applies more to those who have given up on life entirely. And have fully chosen suffering as their lot in life. 🥱🥱

Marriage can never be enjoyed without both in balance, not imbalance because nobody is perfect.

Solofresh2:
The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

wisdom wan finish you. Well on a seriou note, this is well said

Dtruthspeaker:
Yes, its true after all they all vowed to disobey God and the things they say are right in their own eyes. So endurance dem dey find endurance they must get ee ooo, oooo.

Living in it's self requires endurance.. let alone with another human.

There'll be enjoyment, there'll also be endurance. Whichever experience one choose to magnify, will determine whether the union will continue. Some humans go suffer you because of small thing and expect you to endure because God no like divorce. No be juju be that?

wallrichy:
You are perfectly right. Marriage is a very big endurance and if you decide to stay in there, that's an unending endurance. Practically most marriages are just mere endurance based on what would people say if I fail, how would my family feels, the kids would grow up without the two parents been together. It's more of covering up the shame, enduring the pain and just generally trudge along.
✓ Marriage has been over hyped, it's loosing it importance because of the greed, lies and deceits of both female and male parties..no truth again among couples. ..✓ you hardly find truth nowadays....everyone is selfish And concern about their own personal comfort and interest....

1. You described there religious/traditional marriage to a T. 🥱🥱

2. I disagree! Instead, I would discourage individuals from choosing to live their a lives according to the model that their parents and traditional/religious leaders prescribe. The vast majority of folks out there subscribe to scams out of fear and anxiety and religion/tradition is a system built to take advantage of such simple-minded individuals.🥱🥱

Religion/tradition should have no place in marriage as it comes with its own sets of rules which seek to exert control leading to anxiety, fear and the violation of the rights of individuals in relationships as well as the ignoring of boundaries. 🥱🥱

3. People have always been selfish. This phenomenon did not start nowadays and will never end we far as humans remain humans. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Nothing! 🥱🥱🥱

2. No! 🥱🥱

3. It is not the only form, but it is also not among the best, given what we now know from study after study of marriages and happiness in relationships. Every religious marriage is designed to subjugate— literally force submission unilaterally— one gender, typically the female, under the man. That stands against the universal rights of every human being. 🥱🥱

I don't even understand what you mean by religion marriages. My wife and I were joined together by a religious leader, never did a court wedding or anything, yet there is no oppression or suppression in my home. So, may be you're talking about pastors and alfas homes and marriages

maasoap:
✓ I don't even understand what you mean by religion marriages. My wife and I were joined together by a religious leader, never did a court wedding or anything, yet there is no oppression or suppression in my home. So, may be you're talking about pastors and alfas homes and marriages

Feigning ignorance of what is said do not the message change. 🥱🥱🥱

Even life itself isn't a bed of roses, so everything in life has ups and downs including marriage. It's a mixture of the sweet, the bitter , the beautiful and the ugly