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I had a similar experience some years back when my dad placed me in care of a man from Iddo (Lagos) to Zaria (night bus), when the man started touching i had a small first aid box in my bag ; i brought out a razor and gave him a big cut!!! When he shouted and was asked he said nothing!!! Then started pretending to sleep and would place the whole of his weight on me ( he has the window seat) i simply waited until we got to a very sharp corner and i stood up, so he fell flat on the aisle of the bus with a resounding bang, the driver even had to pack to question him along with others if all his well!!!! Guest what he never slept till i got to Zaria and he paid for taxi to take me to my campus.

Kingsley34:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M-j7gQVoIg&pp=0gcJCcUKAYcqIYzv

A young lady shares her emotional experience after allegedly being sexually assaulted on a public bus.

According to her: A man in his late 50s sat beside her, placed his hand on her lap and began rubbing it inappropriately. She confronted him, but when she reported the incident to other women on the bus, they reportedly asked, “Is that why you’re crying?”

She recorded this tearful video immediately after alighting from the bus.

This story has sparked massive debate online — some people question why she didn’t react more physically in the moment, while others argue that no one should ever be touched without consent in public spaces.

What do you think? Should women normalize immediate physical confrontation in such situations? Drop your thoughts below 👇

Alleging is not the same as proving.

If the video you posted does not include when the Man was rubbing your laps inappropriately, then what evidence do you want us to work with?

Looking for followership online does not mean we should lose our sanity please.

Arindin

The man saw how senseless you are that was the reason he did that. The way you were crying I don’t just understand. Should we start arresting every man we see on the street now or what?

Someone was doing that to you, and you couldn’t scatter everywhere, after some days you started crying like a chicken!

In as much such action is condemned if it was true, as a grown up lady, you should have taken a far more active decision at the point of incidence.

advanceDNA:
lol….so women should fvck without caution just to help men?? Sound like the dummest reason ive ever heard….

It is not men they are helping. They are helping your daughters and sisters by reducing the chances of predators making them victims.

If all the women in the world choose to spread their legs on the street for any man to just dive in… there will still be rapist…..because it won’t fulfil their psychological power drive

Of course there will still be rapists. But it will be in far lesser numbers compared to when you make sex scarce for males by pushing only women to be virgins and giving males a pass to have sex

Like I asked u before.. show me where I said it’s okay for men to fvck around and women ahould be virgins…??

It's not just about you. Several males on Nairaland always talk about marrying female virgins after they must have taken the virginity of several women. The result of this is that more women would want to be virgins to please this category of men. And when more women choose to be virgins it creates the scarcity of having less women available to cater to the sexual needs of men who don't want to be virgins. And when sex becomes scarce for males it multiples the population of rapists.

The issue is not with the man, or the women that trivialized the whole matter or even her tears. The main issue is her dressing. Men are attracted by what they see. You exposed your sexually seductive laps which is attractive to the man. The man could not resist the urge/temptation to have a feel of it. You refused the man and the man respected himself and did not go further. Why did you not close the deal calmly and learn your lesson and move on ? Were you expecting the onlookers in the bus or within the environment or even nairalanders to empathize with you or condemn the man? What actually do you want.

Next time, learn how to dress decently, covering all your lapses, lower abdomen, navel and all those privates you people like to expose. What you did is invitation to treat to all the available men and the one in the bus with you made an offer.

Training your child in this environment starts with you and from you when you make the environment decent by dressing decently and live the life of moderations. It is well

Nchoje34:
I still don't trust most of these girls most times, they are very good in cooking up stories

I swear

If really this happened, It's insane really! Why on earth can't some men exercise discipline even if their head dey push them?

Another twist to this though, is that some girls could be very despirate to cook up stories like this to make social media content or to get public sympathy for victimisation that never happened. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Cunha247:
Some men needs to be castrated to be frank

For those who might be eager to abuse the poor girl imagine if she happens to be ur sister.

This is no longer getting funny to be sincere

Jennyclay:
I hope you won't repeat this statement when it happens to the women in your family.

Rest abeg

If no be rape, then there's nothing like sexual harassment or assaulted

Sometimes na misunderstand.

Some of these things can't be proven in the court of law except rape anyway.

Let's just all be careful both man and woman

Cunha247:
Some men needs to be castrated to be frank

For those who might be eager to abuse the poor girl imagine if she happens to be ur sister.

This is no longer getting funny to be sincere

Why do I feel she’s lying, even if you didn’t record him in the act, you could have brought out your phone and recorded his face… the world of trend by force… na wa o

People are becoming too lilly livered these days for my liking. He was touching you and you couldn't stop the bus and confront him? The next thing is to bring out your phone to start shedding crocodile tears for pity? Attention? Or content? I just don't understand people of this generation again.

Ses her lips ole moroko

sailor2011:
😁😁😁 Must she cry and make content with it in other to trend ? Couldn't she have been more assertive and resist the assault immediately she notice what the randy man was doing ? Na WA ooo

my thoughts exactly 💯
See her big mouth.. she wants to trend. So as big as she is, she couldn't give the man a dirty slap?

Jennyclay:
I hope you won't repeat this statement when it happens to the women in your family.

he said the truth. he never said she is telling lies.

Nefort:
It is not men they are helping. They are helping your daughters and sisters by reducing the chances of predators making them victims. [/quotej]
Oh … so some women will sacrifice themselves by spreading legs everywhere to help your daughters and sister…. Again.. thats like the dummest thing i will hear this week …. And the week is still very young..


[quote author=Nefort post=138877372]Of course there will still be rapists. But it will be in far lesser numbers compared to when you make sex scarce for males by pushing only women to be virgins and giving males a pass to have sex

This is another fallacy….because u are ignoring the fact that rape is a power play and not a sex deprivation move…
Men generally start having sex later than their female mates….in fact u find millions of many men who are virgins into their adult years like 25, with no incident of rape……
Again… rapist dont rape because of sexual urge….they do so to fulfil their power drive against a weak person or a prey….

Nefort:
It's not just about you. Several males on Nairaland always talk about marrying female virgins

This is their choice….
Mind you, this choice is driven by many reasons u are refusing to consider becos u prefer fallacy to fact….
The world has bcome a nasty and horrible place, where pple have sex for money, bcome hoees of yahoo boys, but somehow u are tying to paint men black for wanting sexually disciplined women… okay ooo..

Nefort:
after they must have taken the virginity of several women.

this is another fallacy…:
Look around u…. Look at how ur gender behaves, look how they sell themselves, look how shameless many parade themselves, many with tens of abortion history, some dont even have w0mbs and even long history of prostitution…
.This are more of what drives some men to want virgins… of course they know there are many good women that are not virgins…. But it has come to a point where it is better to be safe than sorry….
Even mothers want their children to marry sexually disciplined women… so why are u here making it look like men are evil for wanting same for themselves..

Furthermore, Check most guys… if u have brothers or friends….ask them … they will tell u one common thing…all the women they’ve slept are women several other men have slept with……most guys ddnt disvirgin the women they slept with… fact !!

I told u something earlier… women start having sex earlier than men….this is another fact….another fact is they dont have it with their age mates
……. Most times these sex happens with elderly guys on their street, neighbours, sometimes married men because they want money….

And if u check well these men and elderly guys are responsible for disflowring multiple girls … which is why many guys their age never disflower any girls.. even guys that have very high body counts……

Nefort:
The result of this is that more women would want to be virgins to please this category of men.

This is just pure lies….. to be a virgin, if it’s a deliberate decision, is a difficult task, that requires discipline because sex is a biological need ……No woman does it to please any man

Nefort:
And when more women choose to be virgins it creates the scarcity of having less women available to cater to the sexual needs of men who don't want to be virgins.

Fallacy again……
By natural selection, there are more women than man in the gene pool of Homo sapiens….what this means is that the decision of some women choosing to be virgins doesnt limit the sexual needs of anyone… an all men in the world do not be come sexually ready at the same time… so u are just painting false and fallacy driven narratives to prove your false point..

Nefort:
And when sex becomes scarce for males it multiples the population of rapists.

Again… this is fallacy or outright lies…..u dont like to dialogue basses in facts, true premise and existing realities

From premise…in the olden days when it was common for parents match make their sons and daughters and moral standards was not this bad, men married earlier……which I already told u will be the outcome if women dont make sex available outside marriage…

In fact, The reason men stopped marrying early is because women became more sexually wild…… America sold Hollywood and pornográphŷ to the world , and made one night stand a norm with hiv and stds as the order of the day…..everyone now has access to easy sex…..
If women closed their legs …. Men will only go back to the time they married early… it will not lead to any wide spread rape like you are claiming

Sonnobax15:

She probably sat close to a man who massages women for a living

Is massaging women even a decent job? A man is not even supposed to touch a woman because it is a sin( except if it is his own wife).

Instead of her to give the man a dirty slap, she decided to create content with it.

I once told my little neighbour that if any man tries to touch her inappropriately, she should slap him. That was after she told me that one stupid boy (about 9 years) asked her to kiss him.

Nchoje34:
I still don't trust most of these girls most times, they are very good in cooking up stories

Honestly, I have one who lives very close to me . She is an actress in making with bull cook cook story to get sympathy from people

joedejoe:
The issue is not with the man, or the women that trivialized the whole matter or even her tears. The main issue is her dressing. Men are attracted by what they see. You exposed your sexually seductive laps which is attractive to the man. The man could not resist the urge/temptation to have a feel of it. You refused the man and the man respected himself and did not go further. Why did you not close the deal calmly and learn your lesson and move on ? Were you expecting the onlookers in the bus or within the environment or even nairalanders to empathize with you or condemn the man? What actually do you want.

Next time, learn how to dress decently, covering all your lapses, lower abdomen, navel and all those privates you people like to expose. What you did is invitation to treat to all the available men and the one in the bus with you made an offer.

Training your child in this environment starts with you and from you when you make the environment decent by dressing decently and live the life of moderations. It is well

I believe it has more to do with the man because he has a choice. If the man should face God for what he did, will he now use the woman's dressing as an excuse. He will still definitely face punishment.Not to deny the woman should dress properly but it is primarily the mans fault for not exercising self control or for choosing to sit next to her. This man is purported to be middle-aged and he is behaving like a pervert to someone young enough to be his niece

Cunha247:
Some men needs to be castrated to be frank

For those who might be eager to abuse the poor girl imagine if she happens to be ur sister.

This is no longer getting funny to be sincere

Many women like Simi said more than this and it later turned out the lady was lying. The whole thing is not adding up, it should be a lady fought a man in a bus for wanting to harras her sexually. Was she sleeping when the man's hand was on her thigh, caressing her without a fight.

So someone put hand on ur lap, u cannot fight there- it is when d person is nowhere to be found n dats when u are crying like a bush baby, oga gerrrrout.

I beg make we hear. Men have become element's of your scorn. Why didn't she raise alarm when this thing was happening?

Jennyclay:
I hope you won't repeat this statement when it happens to the women in your family.

The face wey i dey see so go like prick well well.....

The guy just did soapy on her. Make she no vex. She should help the needy......

She for stone the man blows make everything end with fight. What is all the noise about after the fact? She could’ve fought, probably got beaten, but still ended the matter with her dignity intact. Now, she’s confirmed to everyone that she’s both a coward and a crybaby.

This one na better lie. See her ugly face

You should have slapped the man viciously when you felt his hand and cause some commotion in the bus, the people obviously don't believe it was done intentionally so if you had slapped him and he uttered apologies maybe they'd have believed it happened. Sorry dear, it's just unfortunate that a lot ills have been normalized in Nigeria and so many insane people are roaming freely

CaptainJune:
I want everybody to know that most humans are generally demonic. The only reason you don't witness bloodshed and rape in broad daylight is the fear of the law. If humans were allowed to give their carnal and beastly desires free rein the recent rape festival in Delta state would be a flea bite compared to what would happen.

There are billions of people now walking who do not deserve the human skin God clothed them with. You can easily identify a beast and know how to treat it. What happens when that beast is in human skin?

The police said it was not a rape festival o

brain54:
Sexual assault allegations is the new thing...


The latest Vogue!

Do u mean she's lying??

Kingsley34:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M-j7gQVoIg&pp=0gcJCcUKAYcqIYzv

A young lady shares her emotional experience after allegedly being sexually assaulted on a public bus.

According to her: A man in his late 50s sat beside her, placed his hand on her lap and began rubbing it inappropriately. She confronted him, but when she reported the incident to other women on the bus, they reportedly asked, “Is that why you’re crying?”

She recorded this tearful video immediately after alighting from the bus.

This story has sparked massive debate online — some people question why she didn’t react more physically in the moment, while others argue that no one should ever be touched without consent in public spaces.

What do you think? Should women normalize immediate physical confrontation in such situations? Drop your thoughts below 👇

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Nchoje34:
I still don't trust most of these girls most times, they are very good in cooking up stories

Maybe your sister, niece or cousin should cook up the story. The dance of a mad man is only funny when the man is not your relative.