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Avoid bringing in family members to live with you as newly Weds. Spend the first few years alone bonding with your partner. E get why

Samantha125:
Enjoy your singlehood while it lasts because marriage is a full time job.

I've been seeing some people talking about how this is the worst week to be with someone from my province... ... I hope my husband doesn't come across one of the comments because as I type this, I'm also getting ready to go home for the Easter weekend...

The N1 road will be packed.

Sawubona, are you married?, cos you don't act like one. now how is this week said to be one of the worst week to be with someone from your province?

Check your Zodiacs to see how compatible you are.
Our zodiacs represent our inner self and tendencies. If someone is incompatible with you, two of you will rarely understand each other. It's not that he or she is a bad person, it is just who they are and they don't go well with you.

Firstly, we don't have anything called "sawubona" in my language, so I don't know what you're talking about.

And no, I'm not married, I'm in a relationship with 9 guys from all the 9 SA provinces.

tobenuel:
Sawubona, are you married?, cos you don't act like one. now how is this week said to be one of the worst week to be with someone from your province?

sorosoke101:
Don't ever marry her out of pity,you will eventually regret it big time

you married out of pity?

gift2xl:
No be every time your penis go stand up for her.

Marriage is not primarily for sex, marriage is responsibility (full responsibility) unlike boyfriend/girlfriend where you will have sex at length and switch partner as you desire.

As a man, do what makes you happy, even in marriage, and make sure you take care of your health cos if you kpai na akara dem go dey fry every year to remember you while life goes on for your partner.

The sweetness of a woman is not the same with bringing up children

At some point, you are going to get bored and get tired of sex.

sorosoke101:
Don't ever marry her out of pity,you will eventually regret it big time

I can frame this advice on a wall 🖼️

However, some women also marry out of pity...that's why divorce rate is increasing 📈 daily.

Marry someone that loves you more.
Love is intentional
Love is a decision.

You may not be in the mood for opueh but your wife needs it..you must to do it or you communicate for proper understanding

Let your wife wear that wish you fancy from other women but not going naked.

Be ready to be misunderstood for a little talk but explain to her better..etc

Have nothing to say, but if you enter you sef go see am.

Do everything you can to maintain your mental and emotional health. Dont trade these for anything or anyone in the world

oz4real83:
All the money you weren't making while you were single, you will suddenly start making them but you won't see them because they have all gone into family expenses 😁😁🤣🤣. You will only know you made big money by calculating your expenses within a particular period🤣🤣🤣. You will keep telling yourself that if you had made such money when you were still single, when your expenses weren't as they are now, maybe you would have even owned a private jet by now🤣🤣🤣. May God bless our marriages

How will you suddenly make more money when you’re married? Except one changes to a better job or goes into a more profitable business. If it’s same status quo even in marriage it’s same income.

RhemaJet7:
Abstain from every form of premarital SEX, God hates it

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THIS IS EXTREMELY BAD ADVICE, SINGLE PEOPLE, FLEE FROM IT. IT IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT TO HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE TO ASSESS YOUR SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY.

Love is not enough

Smartguyboy:
Love is not enough
Marry someone who respects you .

Never allow your wife have financial freedom!

Never allow your wife have financial freedom!!

Take good care of her and once she demands financial freedom, if you can afford it, do it for her but my guy, start looking for another good woman as this one you have is gone already into the hands of bad society women!


I'm a living example....




People told me but I rebuked all of them calling them names.. Slave masters, wife beaters, irresponsible men and so on!

I empowered my wife with enough support.

Immediately I lost my job. Boom I became everything less to my once supportive and obedient wife! It doesn't stop at that, she went ahead talking all sort of things to my family and her own family and friends too.

Omo she call me lazy man, weak man and all sort!

But I thank God now things are beginning to get better for me but I kept it to myself. She still believes I'm broke. T
No long story till I find another true love

visit your wife family and study how her mother treats her father. coz you are definitely getting that treatment too

Marry someone you are sexually attracted to. This is probably the most important thing no one will tell you.

Date your partner for up to at least a year so that you can know his or her true characters and behaviors.. and to know if both of you are compatible and you both truly love each other .. before you decide to get married to your partner or not

kingthreat:
Check your Zodiacs to see how compatible you are.
Our zodiacs represent our inner self and tendencies. If someone is incompatible with you, two of you will rarely understand each other. It's not that he or she is a bad person, it is just who they are and they don't go well with you.

fxcck the zodiac signs though

Sirchiboy:
Those who are married. Tell those who are not yet married something they need to know before marriage?

It is easier for a married man to make heaven than for a single or divorced man. This is because marriage will so humble a sincere married man that he will easily carry his cross and follow Jesus everyday even with tears in his eyes and heart until it becomes second nature.

Jerchance:
Just got served a quit notice to leave where I live: reason is due to inadequate maintenance of the surroundings. Surroundings here is because my wife hung baby clothes on the balcony railings. There has been a soft verbal reminder about two years ago though , and now – quit notice.

When you get married and to a working class or busy woman, and don't have money for domestic staff, this may likely happen to you as home housekeeping won't be the same again like when you are single

If there is a tenancy agreement for your tenancy in this apartment, I will advice you look through it thoroughly, especially the clauses that have to do with period of notice. If the period of notice the landlord gave you is less than the period of time to quit in the quit notice, that notice is defective and would not terminate the tenancy. I always advise clients in such situations not to bother until the court date, then the lawyer to the tenant would ask the court to strike out the case against the tenant, due to the inadequacy of the notice. This would teach such landlords a lesson that owning a house no mean say u be God.

MarketDispatch:
By all means, don’t go broke in marriage. If you do, her true colours will show. Only then will you realise that the person you married doesn’t support you she reports everything to others.

this is for those that marries their enemies . Trust me , I'm going through shit for the past 20 months and nothing changes in my home . Marry your friends and she won't throw you under the bus when shit hit the roof .

mirrael68:
It is easier for a married man to make heaven than for a single or divorced man. This is because marriage will so humble a sincere married man that he will easily carry his cross and follow Jesus everyday even with tears in his eyes and heart until it becomes second nature.

You are very correct. God bless you

IAM4BAT4plus4:
Never allow your wife have financial freedom!

Never allow your wife have financial freedom!!

Take good care of her and once she demands financial freedom, if you can afford it, do it for her but my guy, start looking for another good woman as this one you have is gone already into the hands of bad society women!


I'm a living example....




People told me but I rebuked all of them calling them names.. Slave masters, wife beaters, irresponsible men and so on!

I empowered my wife with enough support.

Immediately I lost my job. Boom I became everything less to my once supportive and obedient wife! It doesn't stop at that, she went ahead talking all sort of things to my family and her own family and friends too.

Omo she call me lazy man, weak man and all sort!

But I thank God now things are beginning to get better for me but I kept it to myself. She still believes I'm broke. T
No long story till I find another true love

Chai! U got kids?

Marriage na scam

Never give your wife chance to keep any unmarried. Divorced or Single mother as friends.
They day you see any of the aforementioned with your wife as friends and ignore is the beginning of the end of your marriage.

Go and find out ur own

Sirchiboy:
Those who are married. Tell those who are not yet married something they need to know before marriage?

Romantic love is not enough reason to marry anybody.

The most important things you must consider before you marry anyone as a man (I am speaking from a man's angle) are:

1.) The person has to be physically appealing to you to start with, she mustn't be too beautiful or sexy or a killer beauty.


2.) She must be financially productive; meaning she must have a sellable handwork, craft, trade, business, job or career.

Don't ever marry an idle, jobless woman today if not you will regret, unless you are very financially buoyant enough to be the sole family breadwinner without complain.


3.) Before you marry any girl please do a family background check. Don't marry anyhow. Find out the family and community she comes from and know if they have any spiritual or traditional baggage that may affect the family you want to start and if you can carry the problems.


4.) You must be ready to help your wife in some domestic chores, it's not a taboo even if you are the breadwinner except you are ready to hire at least 2 domestic staffs to assist your wife. Even at my small level I still carry my kids, I dress them up, I personally do their shopping, I even clean them up when they poopoo and also change diapers. I use to assist in bathing my son during our first issue and I still bath him today whenever it's necessary or whenever he insists that it's me that he wants to bath him.


So be ready to assist your wife domestically and you will enjoy a happy home.


6.) If you must cheat as a man, please cheat with utmost wisdom and discretion. Keep it far away from your wife oh. Cheat responsibly and respectfully bearing in mind that you are someone's husband


Don't throw your cheating in the face of your wife just because you think you are rich or the breadwinner.



7.) Expect less from your wife when it comes to financial contributions even if she is working, this will keep your home healthy and happy. Just ignore what outsiders may say, assume she is broke and earns nothing and try to be in charge of your family's financial provision.


8.) Avoid your wife's phone, it's her privacy, if she decides to cheat, checking her phone cannot help you to stop her. Women are the boss in keeping secret and operating under the radar, so don't stress yourself on that, just treat her nicely, be a worthy husband and trust me, she won't see any need to cheat.


9.) Make your family peaceful by avoiding arguments with your wife. You are man my brother, you don't need to argue with your wife to establish that you are the man of the house. Overlook things and cast and bind the spirit of violence and verbal abuse or exchange. Talk less and your wife will respect you a lot.


10.) If child bearing delays, don't blame your wife and don't get tired of the marriage, just trust and look up to God and if you can afford it, go for IVF or even surrogacy or adoption depending on your financial capacity, they are all your legal kids once you do it legally.


11.) Plan your retirement. Remember kids will always show more pity towards their mother as you guys grow older, don't be jealous about that, that's why you must bear this in mind now that you are young and start early to plan your retirement without depending on your kids

DavidEsq:
Chai! U got kids?

Yes bro