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Sometimes the feeling of regrets sets in.

I'm not married but I generated this reply using AI:

"Marriage is not romance 24/7. That's the first lie they sell us.

Before marriage, you think about love. After marriage, you think about patience—plenty patience. That person you're marrying will do things that will make you wonder if your eyes were closed during the courtship.

But here's the real thing nobody tells you: You will marry their family. Not completely, but enough. If their mother is a professional agitator, she will not magically become an angel after the wedding. If their father doesn't respect boundaries, prepare yourself.

Also, money argument is real. Before marriage, talk about how you both see money. Not just 'we will manage' but actual talk: tithe, savings, who handles what. Because when rent is due and the children are hungry, love alone will not cook rice.

And please, pray together before you marry. If you cannot pray with somebody, don't share a bed with them. That one is Bible o—2 Corinthians 6:14. Unequally yoked is real suffering.

Finally, lower your expectations of perfection and raise your commitment. The feeling of 'in love' comes and goes like NEPA light. But commitment—that decision to stay and work—that one will carry you through the dark seasons.

Marriage is good. God invented it. But it is work. Real work. Anybody telling you different is either lying or not married yet."

Remain unmarried and get one two baby mamas

No dey too cho cho cho to your wife about your friends.

Marry young
Make sure to find out about their family value system
Marry someone you would be proud to model their character and behaviour in your children. No yahoo 419 so that you don’t bring up criminals and convicts.
Commitment and respect from both sides
Marry someone hardworking, with clarity of purpose and respect for other people’s time and resources.

Marriage is a scam... it is meant to exploit your weak partner... as soon as the relationship starts... both are going to test each other's strengths and weaknesses in order to know the stronger and the weaker... and once the weaker one has been determined during courtship or the relationship, then follows the exploitation... and the weaker or prey in the marriage is not about the gender... it is about capacity, and this is why some ladies or guys also add juju to make their partner weaker, and when this has been established... exploitation begins till the death of the weaker partner's part...

So marriage is a scam...preferably get a baby mama and pay her for childcare. It's safer, cheaper, and wiser... You will not witness all the excesses that some of these married couples are going through but refuse to voice out.

AllBlack:
Where una dey go select this kain women from? God I thank you oh

Wow!
I think you are the first person to make me really feel like marrying right can be a blessing. "God I thank you oh" definitely means you feel lucky to marry your partner.
I will love to listen to your advice, if you won't mind.
I am 35 now, and I am already feeling like, I do not want to get married ever. But I will love to listen to you.

Mosco100:
I'm not married but I generated this reply using AI:

"Marriage is not romance 24/7. That's the first lie they sell us.

Before marriage, you think about love. After marriage, you think about patience—plenty patience. That person you're marrying will do things that will make you wonder if your eyes were closed during the courtship.

But here's the real thing nobody tells you: You will marry their family. Not completely, but enough. If their mother is a professional agitator, she will not magically become an angel after the wedding. If their father doesn't respect boundaries, prepare yourself.

Also, money argument is real. Before marriage, talk about how you both see money. Not just 'we will manage' but actual talk: tithe, savings, who handles what. Because when rent is due and the children are hungry, love alone will not cook rice.

And please, pray together before you marry. If you cannot pray with somebody, don't share a bed with them. That one is Bible o—2 Corinthians 6:14. Unequally yoked is real suffering.

Finally, lower your expectations of perfection and raise your commitment. The feeling of 'in love' comes and goes like NEPA light. But commitment—that decision to stay and work—that one will carry you through the dark seasons.

Marriage is good. God invented it. But it is work. Real work. Anybody telling you different is either lying or not married yet."

I love your honesty about the AI stuff. And the advice is actually smart.
Thanks.

You will get married one day.

Sirchiboy:
Those who are married. Tell those who are not yet married something they need to know before marriage?

immortalcrown:
Marry for inner satisfaction, not for public validation.

Avoid in courtship what you cannot tolerate in marriage.

I second this.

Don't lose your job or struggle in business, if the money stops flowing she will call you a lazy and useless man and bruise your ego badly.
Don't allow lousy friends to get too close and friendly with your wife because they will be feeding her with your secrets and she will be constantly one step ahead of you in terms of actions you plan to take

1. Make una dey hear word

2. Your partner is not your slave

3. You are both to work it out and not leave the job to one person

4. If you cheat on your partner, you are not being smart but being foolish because you have opened yourself and home up for spiritual attacks

5. Consult Jesus Christ no matter how you can handle the matter, e get reason

You will succeed by the power of the Lord Jesus Christ

Statistically, married women are unhappier and less fulfilled in virtually all their personal aspirations when compared to single women.

QuinQQ:
How is it your choice? When society goaded you into it? How is it your choice when you knew nothing about marriage. Your SECOND marriage could be said to be your choice!

do not blame the society for making you get married...you are responsible for your decision to get married as an adult.

All married women have boyfriend outside

Make up your mind to make it work or else you might get tired and leave within a short period of time.
Build your home oh yeah Men and Women. By all means take your relationship or marriage from social media or third party control

gift2xl:
No be every time your penis go stand up for her.

cho I hope this is not true...

gift2xl:
No be every time your penis go stand up for her.

Bro I no believe this o.
My own penis dey stand everytime I see my own wife o, especially if I see her chest or touch it

sorosoke101:
Don't ever marry her out of pity,you will eventually regret it big time

hmm

Intercourse is once in blue moon

SixSeven:
E be like say you never read wetin our elders don know. E get why

I sha go marry for beauty, no be my pikin dem go use act witchcraft for school drama day😒😊

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I'm looking for a wife.. which lady is ready to settle down too let's get marry

Marriage isn't for the weak only the strong survives. The reality is money is important but money cannot solely saved your Marriage. A lots is still needed to sustain your marriage.

SpencerForbes:
I sha go marry for beauty, no be my pikin dem go use act witchcraft for school drama day😒😊

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Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...

You need a lot of patience as a man to stay married

Brutal but factual;

Never marry a lady raised by a single mother

Never marry a lady from a poor family

Never marry a lady who can't solve your kid's assignment


Never marry a lady with a low self esteem


Never marry a lady with high body count (they are always emotionally unstable)


Thanks a lot

Jerchance:
Just got served a quit notice to leave where I live: reason is due to inadequate maintenance of the surroundings. Surroundings here is because my wife hung baby clothes on the balcony railings. There has been a soft verbal reminder about two years ago though , and now – quit notice.

When you get married and to a working class or busy woman, and don't have money for domestic staff, this may likely happen to you as home housekeeping won't be the same again like when you are single

You can just get a big clothes dryer na

QuinQQ:
How is it your choice? When society goaded you into it? How is it your choice when you knew nothing about marriage. Your SECOND marriage could be said to be your choice!

You sound very funny but I gave you a like for your comment sha.
You made a point that many won't understand

DrAda:
Statistically, married women are unhappier and less fulfilled in virtually all their personal aspirations when compared to single women.

Sounds like something yet to married woman would say