₦airaland Forum

Talismann:
in life, when you ignore the signs, you will surely see wonders

zuby4real10:
As a business man i no see reason wey go make me leave my card with any body in this world. If there is need for money for any body i will just transfer it to my employees account. We are now in a digital era where almost everybody has an account. Not even my wife can access my card i will rather be transfering money to her account.

Kalatium:
Last month, my friend traveled to Kaduna to secure a site and left his boy in charge of the Abuja site. Everything seemed perfectly fine when he left.

Barely a day later, he received a debit alert from his Zenith Bank account: ₦20,000 gone.

He tried calling the boy . The phone was off. Confusion turned into worry, why would someone he trusted use his card without permission?

Then more alerts came: ₦20k. ₦30k. ₦50k. ₦30k. At that point, it was clear this wasn’t a mistake. He immediately blocked the ATM card.

Two days later, he finally reached the boy. The boy apologized and claimed it was a family emergency. But how do you explain withdrawing ₦150,000 without permission ? Is that not stealing? He had access to the ATM because he’d often run errands for building materials.

My friend’s first instinct was to involve the police, but he asked himself: how would he recover the money if the boy had no job? So, he decided to give him a second chance. He sent him to come work at the Kaduna site to repay the debt, even paying him extra for food and transport.

But the story didn’t end there. Suddenly, the boy had no phone, so my friend bought him a ₦12,000 torchlight phone to stay in touch. When the boy was done he returned to Abuja. Only for my friend to later discovered this boy had sold 2 of the 6 bags of cement in store another ₦20,000 gone.

My friend has to rush to Abuja. Before any confrontation, the boy lied about losing the new phone. Days later, he called, only for the truth to emerge: he hadn’t lost the phone; he owed someone ₦16,000, and the phone had been seized. Another lie, another betrayal.

The lesson hit hard. Betrayal isn’t just about money, it’s about the person.

Giving someone who stole from you a second chance isn’t always kindness. Sometimes it’s permission to continue what they started. They aren’t sorry. They’ll do it again.

Trust must be earned, not given blindly. Your ATM, your cards, your valuables, be careful who you place them with. Some people will disappoint you, not because they’re evil, but because their choices are self-serving.

My friend’s deepest pain wasn’t even the money, it was that someone he considered almost a brother could betray him so completely.

Lesson: Trust cautiously. Second chances can be powerful, but sometimes they are a green light for repeat betrayal.

Class dismissed.

Kalatium:
Last month, my friend traveled to Kaduna to secure a site and left his boy in charge of the Abuja site. Everything seemed perfectly fine when he left.

Barely a day later, he received a debit alert from his Zenith Bank account: ₦20,000 gone.

He tried calling the boy . The phone was off. Confusion turned into worry, why would someone he trusted use his card without permission?

Then more alerts came: ₦20k. ₦30k. ₦50k. ₦30k. At that point, it was clear this wasn’t a mistake. He immediately blocked the ATM card.

Two days later, he finally reached the boy. The boy apologized and claimed it was a family emergency. But how do you explain withdrawing ₦150,000 without permission ? Is that not stealing? He had access to the ATM because he’d often run errands for building materials.

My friend’s first instinct was to involve the police, but he asked himself: how would he recover the money if the boy had no job? So, he decided to give him a second chance. He sent him to come work at the Kaduna site to repay the debt, even paying him extra for food and transport.

But the story didn’t end there. Suddenly, the boy had no phone, so my friend bought him a ₦12,000 torchlight phone to stay in touch. When the boy was done he returned to Abuja. Only for my friend to later discovered this boy had sold 2 of the 6 bags of cement in store another ₦20,000 gone.

My friend has to rush to Abuja. Before any confrontation, the boy lied about losing the new phone. Days later, he called, only for the truth to emerge: he hadn’t lost the phone; he owed someone ₦16,000, and the phone had been seized. Another lie, another betrayal.

The lesson hit hard. Betrayal isn’t just about money, it’s about the person.

Giving someone who stole from you a second chance isn’t always kindness. Sometimes it’s permission to continue what they started. They aren’t sorry. They’ll do it again.

Trust must be earned, not given blindly. Your ATM, your cards, your valuables, be careful who you place them with. Some people will disappoint you, not because they’re evil, but because their choices are self-serving.

My friend’s deepest pain wasn’t even the money, it was that someone he considered almost a brother could betray him so completely.

Lesson: Trust cautiously. Second chances can be powerful, but sometimes they are a green light for repeat betrayal.

Class dismissed.

Lalami3232:
This is a nice story for men who married nonvirgins and still won't go for DNA test. Oga you don give her first chance by marrying her, don't make a double mistake my not going for DNA test. DNA test no dey spoil marriage, rather it gives you that 100% trust say na your seed and not someone else's seed. If you like allow your nonvirgin partner to gaslight you say DNA test means lack of trust. I go dey here to read your lamentation. Ask yourself this question, "IF SHE WAS DECENT AND HAD SEXUAL DISCIPLINE, WHY DIDN'T YOU MEET HER AS A VIRGIN AND NOT A FAIRLY USED". Ok oooooooo, I rest my case


What do I even sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide