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From what i just read, you have just one problem and that problem is Low Self-esteem.

Stop focusing on things you can't change. No matter how you whine from now till eternity, you will not become 'fat' or 'short and muscular'.

Never talk down on yourself no matter what. Love thyself!

Don't hit any gym yet, just stay clean, fresh and eat well.. few yrs to come, you will love, cherish and appreciate that darn height of yours.

it is normal to feel that way cos of the environment you find yourself, so chill you still up and growing

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Onewazobia:
Gym operators must chop by all means if it's not your genetic, nothing for you bro, I was in same situation but that level done pass, you gat to look at yourself in the mirror and accept your genetic formation, follow by holistic high self-esteem build up.
Years too come, you will be glad and highly satisfied with your stature

don't advise on what you have limited understanding about.
No matter your genetics so long as a person is not lazy like most are and has normal motor function the muscle has no choice but to adapt to load realities. Genetics only come to play when it is a matter of food alone and op already said his appetite is poor weight training will help adjust that. When I was skinny I also thot is was gene programed as I would eat a lot and take supplements, waton etc but there was no change until I started loading the muscles and left them with no choice and stretch marks scared the body .
U must not incure the cost of enrollment in an expensive gym you can used anything heavy around you like blocks or molding your own weights with cement and do regular pushups to broaden that chest

From your write up
The problem here is that you don't even love or appreciate yourself.
What you don't value, how can people value it........
You are only concerned about how people see you.
Thousands of girls love you the way you are but your self confidence and esteem is very very low

Change your mindset about your look
Appreciate yourself
Dress well
Dress smart
Have good communication skills

Leave the rest for God but do your own part first.

Bandirao:
So this is me, a 21 year old, I am 185cm (6.1feets) and very slim. I have this kind of build that can be considered ectormorphic putting on weight is very hard for me. I only weight around 66 to 68 kg. I am just simply a twink.

People always call me dogo (tall in hausa) even though I am not very tall, I hate it when people call me skinny. I started going to the gym to help matters but I can't continue the diet. I have low appetite with high metabolism.

My life is just sad.
I am introverted and I don't want to go out I just wish I am short and muscular or even fat, some people are just aggressive towards me for no reason at all and always want to make small thing big and want to engage in a fist fight with me especially shorter guys.

In short my life is just sad. I have no girl friend because I think probably no girl will love me. I always live alone and I cope with just being a nerdy and terminally online, but anyway I think probably there are people like me with the same experience with me and I just waft them to share their experiences and give me advice so I can feel related.

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You just described me. Exactly 6.1 and slim.

You problem is that you dont love yourself.

I am 40 years old now and I look and feel so good and healthy. I feel lite and full of life. My stature now makes more sense than 95% of my friends. I am a clean, healthy looking sugar zaddy now.

You no go appreciate yourself now until you grow up.

Love yourself. Love everything about being tall and thin. Thats all.

Your mindset is the one troubling you. Did anyone create himself? Can anybody take credit for his height or weight or complexion or look or whatever? Stop giving a damn to what you are not supposed to give a damn to.

Be free. Live your life. Many people want to have your height?
Live as if you don't care. Live as if it doesn't matter because it doesn't. It only matters in your head.

Just hit the gym, bro, and increase your calorie and protein intake.

Bandirao:
So this is me, a 21 year old, I am 185cm (6.1feets) and very slim. I have this kind of build that can be considered ectormorphic putting on weight is very hard for me. I only weight around 66 to 68 kg. I am just simply a twink.

People always call me dogo (tall in hausa) even though I am not very tall, I hate it when people call me skinny. I started going to the gym to help matters but I can't continue the diet. I have low appetite with high metabolism.

My life is just sad.
I am introverted and I don't want to go out I just wish I am short and muscular or even fat, some people are just aggressive towards me for no reason at all and always want to make small thing big and want to engage in a fist fight with me especially shorter guys.

In short my life is just sad. I have no girl friend because I think probably no girl will love me. I always live alone and I cope with just being a nerdy and terminally online, but anyway I think probably there are people like me with the same experience with me and I just waft them to share their experiences and give me advice so I can feel related.

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I'm your exact height, and I weigh 64kg, so my case is even worse than yours. But as I got older (I'm in my early 40s now), I just learnt to live with it.

When I was in the uni, there was one time we went on ASUU strike for like 6 months...out of boredom I started doing push ups and lifting the iron we used to fetch water from our well back then. It was when I got back to school I realized I had put on some lean muscle, and the girls just started getting attracted to me all of a sudden. I went from 62kg at the time to 74kg.

I maintained the physique for like 8 years or so...from 22 to 30. Around 30, I got really sick, spent weeks in the hospital and I lost all that weight. I went down to 55kg and started looking like a skeleton. I started withdrawing from people. I tried gaining weight again with weights and food, but I was never able to go back to 74kg. After a while, I settled at 64kg, with height of 6ft1. I just made sure I dress well, I wear what fits my physique, and girls started loving me again.

I'd advise you to try lifting weights...if you have no chronic illness, you will surely gain muscle mass. I wish you all the best.

See this guy
Me I weight 75k and I'm 6feet 5inch.
And I'm 31 years old.

I don try add weight to no avail. I just rest

SpencerForbes:
Na wa oo. This life no fit balance. Short people are insecure because they think girls love tall guys and tall guys are insecure for what I can’t even explain.

Well, I’ll advise since you have low appetite or probably low stomach, don’t try to over feed in a spot. Divide your 3 square meal into 6 smaller portions. Don’t drink water before and while eating only after 30 minutes of eating.

You can also gain weight without heavy but nourishing food. Milk, eggs and Akara for breakfast, then by 10 am you can chew groundnut with any light meal or even bread.

For lunch, you can take pap or custard and moimoi with lots of milk and 2-3pm, bread and egg.

For dinner then you can go a little heavy, you can take rice and beans (always add protein and vegetable oil with some pumpkin leaves.)

To gain weight in this tinubulation, you must budget 200k - 300k monthly. Remember you’ll be taking fruits during this intervals.

Avoid drugs like apetamine and co. They’ll slow your metabolism. Eat right and with a little exercise, you’ll bulk up. Also work on your self esteem because your main purpose of bulking up shouldn’t be for women but to improve yourself.

Talk to girls in your circle and start from the ugliest one. Keep that up and you’ll be laughing with the hottest girl in no time.

You seem knowledgeable.

I need the opposite. I grew up eating large portions and now, I am chubby with a large appetite.

How can I reduce my appetite please?

Albertone:
You seem knowledgeable.

I need the opposite. I grew up eating large portions and now, I am chubby with a large appetite.

How can I reduce my appetite please?

You’ll need discipline to reduce weight. Drink lots of water before and during meals and try to turn your fat into muscles with exercises. Don’t eat fatty and oily foods and quit eating bread or junks. More liquid less solid should help you out.

Also try out intermittent fasting. Sometimes eat light breakfast because if you skip it fully, you might eat twice as much to cover it but you can skip lunch or take just snacks while working. Resist the urge to eat that late night snacks or meals and you should be getting better in few weeks.

Most important, hit the gym.

Bandirao:
So this is me, a 21 year old, I am 185cm (6.1feets) and very slim. I have this kind of build that can be considered ectormorphic putting on weight is very hard for me. I only weight around 66 to 68 kg. I am just simply a twink.

People always call me dogo (tall in hausa) even though I am not very tall, I hate it when people call me skinny. I started going to the gym to help matters but I can't continue the diet. I have low appetite with high metabolism.

My life is just sad.
I am introverted and I don't want to go out I just wish I am short and muscular or even fat, some people are just aggressive towards me for no reason at all and always want to make small thing big and want to engage in a fist fight with me especially shorter guys.

In short my life is just sad. I have no girl friend because I think probably no girl will love me. I always live alone and I cope with just being a nerdy and terminally online, but anyway I think probably there are people like me with the same experience with me and I just waft them to share their experiences and give me advice so I can feel related.

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Have you cpnsidered Modelling?

I see Nigerian male models getting flown put to countries like France and Japan. You could go on IG and look for legit modelling agencies (Few Models, Beth) and try your luck.

You are not a serious person. The Bible says we should give thanks to God in every situation. Instead of you to give thanks to God who has wonderfully and marvelously created you for His own pleasure, you are coming to nairaland to complain about your stature. Please, do not make God to be angry with you. Go to disable people's home and you will be grateful for what God has done for you.Even those ones in those places are very agile and happy because God spared their lives. Repent and ask God for forgiveness. Very ungrateful human being that you are.

OP

You are perfect the way you are. When you grow older you might end up spending money to lose weight

You naturally gain weight as you grow older.

Guy man. Go make money first

Why would you be like a coward?.... an introvert because you want to hide from people?...afraid they will comment on your height and being skinny? It's not a manly thing to be so " sensitive " ... "having your feelings hurt" because of what people say or may say. Keep this up I guarantee they'll soon say you're gay....maybe they already are suspecting you.
I am taller than you .... six feet 3 inches ...skinny ... like a spear. They say that all the time ...why would I be upset if that's a fact? If I were tall and huge ... they'll be calling me "Tiny"... that's common here. Growing up..one guy in our group was small stature ...short and thin ... we called him "fat man" .... to this day he answers to that name.

My advice to you is to first work on your mindset ... have confidence in yourself .. see yourself as a man ...have a man's mentality.... stop being sooo sensitive... that's the trait of females.. and so is being locked away in the house . What sport do you play?....have you played? ...I guess none when you should've already been outdoors and played whatever was being played. Maybe you had the talent of an athlete ... a Usain Bolt locked in the closet. Wasn't Bolt also tall and skinny? .. don't you think they called him names? ....he didn't lock himself away...now the whole wide world knows him. Not saying you can be like him ...but how will we know? Hakeem Olajuwan ....talll ...picked up basketball as an adult and became a legend in the very competitive and talented US basketball league. Did he sit at home? Why did you give up going to the gym?...because you didn't pile on the muscles? The idea should be to become fit. It is not in your DNA to be muscular at this stage of your life. Ask your father ...check his photos when he was your age and I guarantee he was skinny. Simply try to be fit ... physically fit ... the little muscles you have should be firm .. and that comes through exercise. You do nothing to help. Lanky me used to play all sports ... skinny but physically fit. Are you? Afraid of people picking fights with you...go to You tube..learn how to make a fist...throw a punch ..a straight right ..an upper cut ...a hook .. a kick ...practice at home. When you get tired of the teasing.... use the right hook and punch a tough guy on the nose...busting his nose ...his lips and dislodging a few teeth... a one punh fight ... they'll leave you alone after. Get up get out..be a man

SpencerForbes:
You’ll need discipline to reduce weight. Drink lots of water before and during meals and try to turn your fat into muscles with exercises. Don’t eat fatty and oily foods and quit eating bread or junks. More liquid less solid should help you out.

Also try out intermittent fasting. Sometimes eat light breakfast because if you skip it fully, you might eat twice as much to cover it but you can skip lunch or take just snacks while working. Resist the urge to eat that late night snacks or meals and you should be getting better in few weeks.

Most important, hit the gym.

Thank you so much.
I will implement it.

Evergreen4:
From wetin you describe so, only trailer breeze fit move you comot from ground.

There's this heavy wind the Edo people call eziza (whirlwind). Don't go close when it's happening because na next street you go see your sef

exactly what I did. I started doing push ups last year, I think about 20 once every 2 days, right, now my wife looks at me with so much admiration.

Bandirao:
So this is me, a 21 year old, I am 185cm (6.1feets) and very slim. I have this kind of build that can be considered ectormorphic putting on weight is very hard for me. I only weight around 66 to 68 kg. I am just simply a twink.

People always call me dogo (tall in hausa) even though I am not very tall, I hate it when people call me skinny. I started going to the gym to help matters but I can't continue the diet. I have low appetite with high metabolism.

My life is just sad.
I am introverted and I don't want to go out I just wish I am short and muscular or even fat, some people are just aggressive towards me for no reason at all and always want to make small thing big and want to engage in a fist fight with me especially shorter guys.

In short my life is just sad. I have no girl friend because I think probably no girl will love me. I always live alone and I cope with just being a nerdy and terminally online, but anyway I think probably there are people like me with the same experience with me and I just waft them to share their experiences and give me advice so I can feel related.

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Enter gym and feast on eggs

SpencerForbes:
Na wa oo. This life no fit balance. Short people are insecure because they think girls love tall guys and tall guys are insecure for what I can’t even explain.

Well, I’ll advise since you have low appetite or probably low stomach, don’t try to over feed in a spot. Divide your 3 square meal into 6 smaller portions. Don’t drink water before and while eating only after 30 minutes of eating.

You can also gain weight without heavy but nourishing food. Milk, eggs and Akara for breakfast, then by 10 am you can chew groundnut with any light meal or even bread.

For lunch, you can take pap or custard and moimoi with lots of milk and 2-3pm, bread and egg.

For dinner then you can go a little heavy, you can take rice and beans (always add protein and vegetable oil with some pumpkin leaves.)

To gain weight in this tinubulation, you must budget 200k - 300k monthly. Remember you’ll be taking fruits during this intervals.

Avoid drugs like apetamine and co. They’ll slow your metabolism. Eat right and with a little exercise, you’ll bulk up. Also work on your self esteem because your main purpose of bulking up shouldn’t be for women but to improve yourself.

Talk to girls in your circle and start from the ugliest one. Keep that up and you’ll be laughing with the hottest girl in no time.

OK thanks for the advice I will try this one but previously my gym master told me to include enough carbohydrates in my diet because I already have low body fat, but I think I will just balance it with like 50 50 carbs and protein.

Brandiebird:
Nephew, you need to relax! Men age well. You will be fine as hell once you enter your 30s. Get your bloods checked for vitamin deficiencies which may be related to your loss of appetite and then take your supplements and train 3/4 days a week for 45 minutes a day. Your appetite will increase once you workout often because your body will compensate for the energy expenditure. Life is easy. People’s opinion of you is NOT your business. Focus on your health and the body will follow.

It is not their opinion that bothered me the most it is the way they treat me, I just don't want it when people make unnecessary comparisons with me and always want to exploited my weakness and put me down so that they can feel better this happen even to the people I can call my friends,

Gotocourt:
Lanky Gombe fulani man, no kee ur sef

missionmex:
If you like the way you look then you don't have a problem. But if you don't then there is nothing anybody can do about it. It starts and ends with you.

But what about how they treat me? Which is the most important, I don't like how this shorty shorty people always say this Lanky guy and I must accept it and move on and let them feed their ego else they will become aggressive.

Tendd:
..l started going to the gym but l can continue with the diet...l didn't get what you wrote there,bro.You already have a physique to build and develop muscles.You don't have much fat which makes it easy to build muscles.Make going to a gym your lifestyle and you would definitely see some changes.You can also train at home if you can't afford it or prefer home training.Try do some push ups and you would begin seeing results.Consitent training would get you a defined arms,bigger chest, broader shoulders, better posture and overall healthy appearance.Just be consistent and your looks and your height would attract women.Most guys wouldn't want to mess with you.

Yes I already see some development after I start working out I used to weight 60 to 62 kg and my overall strength improve, but the diet I am put in is too high my maintenance is already nearly 3000 calories in a normal day and I was told I need to eat 4000 calories per day, eating that much is challenging for me, but did there are drugs that can increase my appetite and make me eat a lot?

Dogalmighty17:
What is the size of your cucumber? That's the important thing. You can't be unfortunate twice. It dey abi it didn't dey? That's what you should be measuring. 🥒

una get bad mouth sha

I can say you eat the normal staple foods thet we eat for now.Nutrition is very complex.Don't only overeat to prevent fatty belly.You can build much muscle since you are not fat.Train regularly, even on times you don't feel like it ,eventually it would become a normal routine.l was a skinny guy and gym training has given me much confidence and self-esteem..Not looking for women for now but it gave me a boost when l was single.Gym really changed my physique.lt is doable and with your height, you would stand out.

Bandirao:
Yes I already see some development after I start working out I used to weight 60 to 62 kg and my overall strength improve, but the diet I am put in is too high my maintenance is already nearly 3000 calories in a normal day and I was told I need to eat 4000 calories per day, eating that much is challenging for me, but did there are drugs that can increase my appetite and make me eat a lot?

I just want to tell you that you should love yourself and ignore the names they call you.
Be grateful, be contented and be happy. You can't keep letting yourself feel sad about your own body. They are happy in theirs, so why can't you?
Don't create any problem for yourself where there is none because you are beautifully and wonderfully made by God.

Bandirao:
But what about how they treat me? Which is the most important, I don't like how this shorty shorty people always say this Lanky guy and I must accept it and move on and let them feed their ego else they will become aggressive.

Aggressive? Sorry, do you live in the ghetto? People have been called worse names and they seldom bother. Some will even give you thumbs up and move on. Like I said it begins and ends with you.