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Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Ay04z(m): 12:01pm On May 03
Nigeria don scatter even though u earn abt 20k daily wen u remove feeding and ur Little savings...money don finish
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Bittersweetnig(m): 12:03pm On May 03
Betterthanwalki:
Advice to the legit working singles
You better buy enough clothes for yourself, before jumping. That ur account balance go flatt..

like as in, a responsible decent family man, you, wife a kid cost BTW 250k - 500k monthly up keep alone, with strict management. Haaaba how do you want a young man to get marry now. This fuel prices anomalies has reduced me to nothing in the house.

Pls share your experience
if there's a way to escape this, but no way. It has not been easy, we can no longer manage #100k per week anymore on feeding Alone
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by ogolemati: 12:04pm On May 03
franktech:
Tinubu's government is working relentlessly to reduce hardship in this country. Only time it iwill take. BAT 2027 is a goal
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin seems like demons are whispering to you.Agbero chairman the weapon fashioned against Nigerians from the pit of hell that prospered

Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Johnisine12: 12:05pm On May 03
[b][/b][color=#006600][/color]Has a responsible father of 3kids it has not been easy at all ….all online loan app have been disgracing me and the economy is getting worse even with 500k you can’t feed your family….this school period again ….just do your best and leave the rest to God
Tinubu humble me….can’t you see no much wedding outside again
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Akalia(m): 12:07pm On May 03
The simple strategy is living within my means strictly.
However, I do flex myself and family during days of financial windfall.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Godfullsam(m): 12:08pm On May 03
Fi you know what is good for you ;

1. Don't birth too much children

2. Make sure you marry a lady that is doing something (working)
3. Make sure your wife is ready and willing to support.
4. No carry family matter for ya head. Those your siblings will find a way to sort things out for themselves with or without you. Just do your best for them and leave the rest.
5. Take good care of your parents if they are still alive. Their prayers go a long way more than your pastor's prayers in your life.
6. Don't try to impress any body, especially your wife family.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by netmillionaires(m): 12:14pm On May 03
School no be scam. Even if your income comes from YouTube or Instagram monetization, the English you use to understand how to operate the YouTube or Instagram was learnt in school. People who say "school a scam"simply do not understand the essence of going to school.

Fekumzi123:
Believe or not I'm doing okay even though I'm not using my certificate to work.
School no be scam.
Those saying school is scam have short memory and forgot what school did for them.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by geoworldedu: 12:19pm On May 03
Dshocker:
Na who get extra extra extra, dey fit see money buy okrika put for body... Na why i no dey pity who born more than 1 pikin, come dey complain, when you know you are not earning enough.
Before you may start not to pity who born more than 1 pikin should be in the next ten years, not right now when the pikins were already there before Tinubu happened to them. 3 children of ages 5, 8 and 11 for a parent wasn't bad until Tinubu came into power. So how do you blame such parents?
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by frankblinkz(m): 12:20pm On May 03
My family has left me that's how I'm doing


My woman took my 3 years old daughter and left.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by geoworldedu: 12:21pm On May 03
Johnisine12:
[b][/b][color=#006600][/color]Has a responsible father of 3kids it has not been easy at all ….all online loan app have been disgracing me and the economy is getting worse even with 500k you can’t feed your family….this school period again ….just do your best and leave the rest to God
Tinubu humble me….can’t you see no much wedding outside again
I feel very sorry for you. 500k in this economy is like 50k in Jonathan's era. It will only sustain an unmarried man.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Gerundphrase: 12:22pm On May 03
Thank god I have paid my house rent. Half of people living in my apartment haven't payed their rent. Landlord Don give quit notice tire. Thank Gos for mmesomachukwu that girl has been a blessing to me. Find a partner that has hand work and sense too. E get why
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by ZombieTERROR: 12:25pm On May 03
franktech:
Tinubu's government is working relentlessly to reduce hardship in this country. Only time it iwill take. BAT 2027 is a goal
Relentlessly by releasing boko haram back to the society to cause more insecurity..

Farners have all left the town to the cities in fear, how do you think prices of foot stuff and services can come down

my yoruba Muslim friend, reason before you talk.. the day Tinubu creates state police and signs a law making kidnapping banditry and terrorists punishable ONLY death sentence, Insecurity will be solved by 50%

but will Tinubu do it? NEVER
man is a walking failure
He will release Boko haram and hold Justice crack who exposed the wrath in the Army..
who feeds with 3k daily in this country? not even a baby,
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by engrchykae(m): 12:28pm On May 03
Irresponsible men are not aware of what God did for them.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by gigabyte13: 12:30pm On May 03
All l can say is that
Anyhow it is
It is far far better than being
IRRESPONSIBLE......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Irresponsible people go think say dem they enjoy, until dem reach old age
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Eriokanmi:
I don't know how long it would take seun osewa to create a family thread with strict access .

Firstly, I'd say we're architect of our fortune or otherwise in life. We can all begin to getting it right by voting right leaders in governing positions. Take it or you leave it, the masses are always at the receiving end, irrespective of tribal affiliations.

I just dropped off my son at his school today and I knew how much I paid in school fees alone, not to talk of provisions, pocket money, mention it. I get pikin wey dey university too, a private one for that matter.

All I can say is, God's grace has been sufficient for me.

Don't wait until you have a 2-bed before you get married. Things will get better with time. Let your fiancé agree with you on this. Plan for your future. By the time you attain our level, stress or pressure won't be much. If you have the opportunity to japa, don't hesitate but japa with sense. Go to school and come back as I always advocate. It's the best decision ever taken by me.. Invest in meaningful endeavours. You may also stay there but don't dull yourself. If your friends are riding big cars, don't copy them. Its a liability. Enter train.If they're throwing parties abroad and buying asoebi, waka pass because if you attend one, when it gets to your turn, you must spend too.

Hear this, salary will never make you rich, regardless of where you're working or living on earth. The world is changing so don't rely on 9/5 job. Establish yourself. It's not easy to be self-employed but it pays in the long run
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by DeclanR(m): 12:33pm On May 03
joseph032:
God will continuously keep Us All
I'm indebted to petty rawfood traders around my house and the constant disgrace makes me esteem myself very low
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by opera1(m): 12:36pm On May 03
Betterthanwalki:
Advice to the legit working singles
You better buy enough clothes for yourself, before jumping. That ur account balance go flatt..

like as in, a responsible decent family man, you, wife a kid cost BTW 250k - 500k monthly up keep alone, with strict management. Haaaba how do you want a young man to get marry now. This fuel prices anomalies has reduced me to nothing in the house.

Pls share your experience
I took a loan of 500k, start biz and double the money together with the help of my wife.
We got married and continue the biz, add other stuff to the biz,.
Today, we make over #1m per month.
Last time we balance our account, I think our money is close to 30m.
I married my classmate, course mate and my friend.
We will be leaving school soon.

The thing is that : get a supportive partner, don't stay idle. Work out things yourself.
Do extra outside the salary coz salary alone cannot sustain a family if the pay is not tangible.
Don't blame Government on everything.
Whoever in power, whether he perform or not, I must achieve something.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by enemyofprogress: 12:49pm On May 03
The responsible families that we have in Nigeria no reach two thousand. I'm happy to inform you that I'm one of them. You are not. tongue tongue
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Lumig:
I don't know why whenever I hear the tag "responsible men" it always sounds like "mugu" and "easily manipulated" men.
A puppet or tool in the hand of one lazy and cunning grown-up, to achieve her personal goals at the expense of the man.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Yxxx: 12:55pm On May 03
R
juwoonn:
Marry a wife that would share the bills with you..70/30 is okay.
Both partners should be responsible undecided
Some men want. 30 70 In reverse .
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by translux(m): 12:58pm On May 03
Eleribu have spoilt everything but thanks to Jehovah for his blessings.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Originalsly: 1:01pm On May 03
Is really more rough all around. I really have no clue how people ...with children ...manage under Tinubu....especially if one is depending on salary. I believe salaried white collar workers ...especially graduates....are more affected than blue collar workers. To cope with this crisis one needs more income ....and to cut down on expenses. We're talking legit ways. The white collar worker has the chains of pride holding him back ...neither he nor his family can be seen doing things below their status to supplement income. He will prefer to look online to make the extra buck ...which for the most...comes to nothing. The blue collar worker can use his skills ...no problem hawking ...raising chicken ..selling foods...using his car to do taxi work... getting rid of his helpers and making his kids work... his wife also chipping in....while the white collar wife has to maintain her image. We need to get rid of pride....and try as much as possible to be self sufficient and look around us for opportunities to have alternative income ....have a freezer?..sell ice....at the end of the month ..the freezer will pay the light bill ...one less bill...run the car taxi after work...the car will take care of the school fees ... fruit trees in the yard? ...use the fruits to make juice ...the juice will will take care of the rice bill ... have a little yard space?... raise chickens...local chickens ... they'll find their own food ... give you eggs ... the eggs will take care of the gas bills .....but pride will not let us do these little things. Just saying.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by FutureFocus: 1:03pm On May 03
You just have to keep going, irrespective of what Tinubu throws at us , they survived Nebuchadnezzar , we survived Buhari, We Survived R Kelly , we will survive Tinubu
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Aroyjunior(m): 1:15pm On May 03
Sometimes it feels like I want to run mad.
But thank God for opay,palmpay and fair money.
Those apps can be a fucking life saver.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Solseal007: 1:17pm On May 03
I use the monthly income entirely fir the family, not always enough, credit helps om some essentials and friends and biz partners who can help do sometimes.

When the big commission and business comes, we fill up the gaps and pray for more.

Na men dey suffer the economic hardship of this government! God help us married men most times not our goodness.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Wotowotoman: 1:18pm On May 03
b0rn2fuck:
Tinubu isn't new to bringing hardship to the economy, he sold all the fields we use to play ball them to Catholic schools when he was in governor while in Lagos , Wetin that man do for Maryland field, that field wey get 6 different places to play ball, sell ham ...
Ogbeni, wetin be this wey you write so? I don tell you. Go and buy Brighter Grammar asap for your own good angry
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Wotowotoman: 1:25pm On May 03
Eriokanmi:
I don't know how long it would take seun osewa to create a family thread with strict access .

Firstly, I'd say we're architect of our fortune or otherwise in life. We can all begin to getting it right by voting right leaders in governing positions. Take it or you leave it, the masses are always at the receiving end, irrespective of tribal affiliations.

I just dropped off my son at his school today and I knew how much I paid in school fees alone, not to talk of provisions, pocket money, mention it. I get pikin wey dey university too, a private one for that matter.

All I can say is, God's grace has been sufficient for me.

Don't wait until you have a 2-bed before you get married. Things will get better with time. Let your fiancé agree with you on this. Plan for your future. By the time you attain our level, stress or pressure won't be much. If you have the opportunity to japa, don't hesitate but japa with sense. Go to school and come back as I always advocate. It's the best decision ever taken by me.. Invest in meaningful endeavours. You may also stay there but don't dull yourself. If your friends are riding big cars, don't copy them. Its a liability. Enter train.If they're throwing parties abroad and buying asoebi, waka pass because if you attend one, when it gets to your turn, you must spend too.

Hear this, salary will never make you rich, regardless of where you're working or living on earth. The world is changing so don't rely on 9/5 job. Establish yourself. It's not easy to be self-employed but it pays in the long run
Ogbeni, the bolded is total bull crap. You think say na every job dey pay 100k? There are people making millions per month from salary. Total BS going straight to trash 🗑️ 🚮
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by shedy03(m): 1:25pm On May 03
franktech:
Tinubu's government is working relentlessly to reduce hardship in this country. Only time it iwill take. BAT 2027 is a goal
Person wey campaign with "we'll reduce the purchasing power of the citizens and widen tax net", na that one go reduce hardship in the country? Hahaha....
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Eriokanmi: 1:32pm On May 03
Wotowotoman:
Ogbeni, the bolded is total bull crap. You think say na every job dey pay 100k? There are people making millions per month from salary. Total BS going straight to trash 🗑️ 🚮
Hmm. What a poor man's mentality grin. My advice isn't for your category anyway. The more your salary, the higher your commitment. My salary is also in millions monthly as a business owner. If I relied on that as an employee in any company. I won't achieve anything. Convert that so-called millions to usd, how much is that? I have 2 friends working in shell who resigned. They're both medical doctors. Their salary will shock you but they still left. In the estate where i live in lagos, a plot of land is now 135m with begging. Will your millions buy you only land without building on it? How many years salary will take your house to a lintel level in such an estate ?
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by SouthSouth1914: 1:32pm On May 03
Fekumzi123:
Believe or not I'm doing okay even though I'm not using my certificate to work.
School no be scam.
Those saying school is scam have short memory and forgot what school did for them.
How does this relate to the topic? I am just confused, any clarification?
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Emeka71(m): 1:36pm On May 03
jojothaiv:
It's not easy but being a man of modest income, I've always learn how to live within and most times below my means.

What I earn on a monthly basis isn't enough to last me for three weeks so I augment it with the little agribusiness and bricklaying hustle I do on the side, not married and I don't even dig most female company, I don't frequent the pub, smoke or go clubbing, I don't have the money to toss around on such frivolities. I believe with time my finance will take shape I just have to be intentional with the way I live and manage expenses.
Likewise me.
Re: Responsible Family Men, How Are You Coping? by Wotowotoman: 1:37pm On May 03
Eriokanmi:
Hmm. What a poor man's mentality grin. The more your salary, the higher your commitment. My salary is also in millions monthly as a business owner. If I relied on that as an employee in any company. I won't achieve anything. I have 2 friends in shell who resigned. They're both medical doctors. Their salary will shock you.
Ogbeni, I won’t waste my time engaging you. Me and you clearly no dey the same level in anything. I seriously bow for the kind people wey man pikin dey jam for here. They need to start teaching critical reasoning and logic in our schools!
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