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FlamingBulb:
I am currently jobless, lost my job when Kuda downsized over 40% of its staff.

Currently l paid all 3rd term schools fees for my 3 kids
Bought bag of rice and carton of spag
Paid my rent till Feb 2027

Once I see like 5k to 20k I use it to buy anytin not available or about to finish

I just dey house dey look up n dwn, I am currently so afraid and don't know what to do.

How can you have 3 children?

Betterthanwalki:
I quoted BTW 250k to 500k, if you are spending less than that, you need to explain to us

If you're spending anywhere within that range, YOU need to explain to US

Betterthanwalki:
Advice to the legit working singles
You better buy enough clothes for yourself, before jumping. That ur account balance go flatt..

like as in, a responsible decent family man, you, wife a kid cost BTW 250k - 500k monthly up keep alone, with strict management. Haaaba how do you want a young man to get marry now. This fuel prices anomalies has reduced me to nothing in the house.

Pls share your experience

Am not 100% responsible? So therefore l can't answer ur question..?

I be 70% responsible, because l dey drink carry woman joined my marital status

Kingrshd3:
When Jonathan was in power people complained even buhari so nothing is new with Tinubu plz

Just double ur source of income and smile

nooo you donzo

Tinubu made things ten times worst at an alarming rate.
U sef reason from dollar to fuel

tgmservice:
nooo you donzo

Tinubu made things ten times worst at an alarming rate.
U sef reason from dollar to fuel

That's why i wonder how does he intend to convince the people who voted him in 2023 to give him a second chance?

FlamingBulb:
I am currently jobless, lost my job when Kuda downsized over 40% of its staff.

Currently l paid all 3rd term schools fees for my 3 kids
Bought bag of rice and carton of spag
Paid my rent till Feb 2027

Once I see like 5k to 20k I use it to buy anytin not available or about to finish

I just dey house dey look up n dwn, I am currently so afraid and don't know what to do.,

You did this to yourself so don't regret what you did to yourself.

frankblinkz:
My family has left me that's how I'm doing


My woman took my 3 years old daughter and left.

Why did she live you?
Women sha

opera1:
I took a loan of 500k, start biz and double the money together with the help of my wife.
We got married and continue the biz, add other stuff to the biz,.
Today, we make over #1m per month.
Last time we balance our account, I think our money is close to 30m.
I married my classmate, course mate and my friend.
We will be leaving school soon.

The thing is that : get a supportive partner, don't stay idle. Work out things yourself.
Do extra outside the salary coz salary alone cannot sustain a family if the pay is not tangible.
Don't blame Government on everything.
Whoever in power, whether he perform or not, I must achieve something.

Which business are you doing?

Jabar2017:
Omo na killer with 70k salary with 2kids plus wife omo he no easy,but we give God d glory at least we dey manage...

How did you manage that? 🤔 You alone sef 70k never reach.

Eriokanmi:
Hmm. What a poor man's mentality . My advice isn't for your category anyway. The more your salary, the higher your commitment. My salary is also in millions monthly as a business owner. If I relied on that as an employee in any company. I won't achieve anything. Convert that so-called millions to usd, how much is that? I have 2 friends working in shell who resigned. They're both medical doctors. Their salary will shock you but they still left. In the estate where i live in lagos, a plot of land is now 135m with begging. Will your millions buy you only land without building on it? How many years salary will take your house to a lintel level in such an estate ?

What business are you doing tho?

tensazangetsu20:
How can you have 3 children?

Bc I am a living thing and it is expected to reproduce.
You can have big business and it will fail
You can be earning big and you get sacked or anything can happen.
Having kids is one of my greatest joy and achievements in life.
Remebr, you can get twins or triplet at once.

Kaczynski:
You did this to yourself so don't regret what you did to yourself.

I got a well paying job, I got married and God bless me with triplet...So how is this my fault?

FlamingBulb:
Bc I am a living thing and it is expected to reproduce.
You can have big business and it will fail
You can be earning big and you get sacked or anything can happen.
Having kids is one of my greatest joy and achievements in life.
Remebr, you can get twins or triplet at once.

Story. Have more. Children are a blessing 😂

FlamingBulb:
I got a well paying job, I got married and God bless me with triplet...So how is this my fault?

Rushing into marriage was your first mistake, your desperation to satisfy those social norms.

Kaczynski:
Rushing into marriage was your first mistake, your desperation to satisfy those social norms.

To be fair, there's nothing wrong in marrying immediately after getting a good job. The problem is listening to outsiders in the name of "family" in how to run your home. Today, the same family isn't helping him out with food provisions or accommodating at least one child so as to reduce the responsibilities on his neck. I would have said the wife should work, but she's a new mother, with twins sef, so it's not easy.

Just because you can reproduce doesn't mean you should be inconsiderate with it. I think many of our people, especially men and unfortunately so, believe marriage is full of enjoyment. Well, it can be, but only when the responsibilities are taken care of first.

I hope he gets another good job, and as another Nairalander stated, stop childbearing even when/if his finances improve tremendously.

zanshi:
That's why i wonder how does he intend to convince the people who voted him in 2023 to give him a second chance?

No serious opposition. People should accept the inevitable - Tinubu would win. Maybe next time, the stoopid opposition should have merged in 2023 to prevent him from entering Aso Rock.

Fekumzi123:
My education is helping me to cope.
I must have talked about you, ndi school is scam.

Nope, you were diversionary somewhat of someone who needs psychiatric assistance immediately.

Eriokanmi:
I don't know how long it would take seun osewa to create a family thread with strict access .

Firstly, I'd say we're architect of our fortune or otherwise in life. We can all begin to getting it right by voting right leaders in governing positions. Take it or you leave it, the masses are always at the receiving end, irrespective of tribal affiliations.

I just dropped off my son at his school today and I knew how much I paid in school fees alone, not to talk of provisions, pocket money, mention it. I get pikin wey dey university too, a private one for that matter.

All I can say is, God's grace has been sufficient for me.

Don't wait until you have a 2-bed before you get married. Things will get better with time. Let your fiancé agree with you on this. Plan for your future. By the time you attain our level, stress or pressure won't be much. If you have the opportunity to japa, don't hesitate but japa with sense. Go to school and come back as I always advocate. It's the best decision ever taken by me.. Invest in meaningful endeavours. You may also stay there but don't dull yourself. If your friends are riding big cars, don't copy them. Its a liability. Enter train.If they're throwing parties abroad and buying asoebi, waka pass because if you attend one, when it gets to your turn, you must spend too.

Hear this, salary will never make you rich, regardless of where you're working or living on earth. The world is changing so don't rely on 9/5 job. Establish yourself. It's not easy to be self-employed but it pays in the long run

Drawn a lot from your wisdom. I will be 40 this December and my life is way better than it was when I was bachelor and even as early in marriage. Truly, life gets better for a responsible married man with time by God's grace.
When I was a bachelor I craved travelling abroad for greener pasture but here am I today, still in Nigeria, gradually establishing myself, to me traveling abroad for green pasture is not a dream anymore unless otherwise I am re-directed by Providence.

My kids are the ones I reserve the dream of traveling abroad for schooling.

Akalia:
Drawn a lot from your wisdom. I will be 40 this December and my life is way better than it was when I was bachelor and even as early in marriage. Truly, life gets better for a responsible married man with time by God's grace.
When I was a bachelor I craved travelling abroad for greener pasture but here am I today, still in Nigeria, gradually establishing myself, to me traveling abroad for green pasture is not a dream anymore unless otherwise I am re-directed by Providence.

My kids are the ones I reserve the dream of traveling abroad for schooling.

Good! All the best bro

Kaczynski:
Rushing into marriage was your first mistake, your desperation to satisfy those social norms.

I was 34 wen I settled down, my oldest is 6 bros I no marry early oo or you mean I shld have waited till 40

Johnisine12:
[b][/b][color=#006600][/color]Has a responsible father of 3kids it has not been easy at all ….all online loan app have been disgracing me and the economy is getting worse even with 500k you can’t feed your family….this school period again ….just do your best and leave the rest to God
Tinubu humble me….can’t you see no much wedding outside again

Do you mean N500k can't feed a family of 5 in a month? Do you bulk buy?

Eriokanmi:
I don't know how long it would take seun osewa to create a family thread with strict access .

Firstly, I'd say we're architect of our fortune or otherwise in life. We can all begin to getting it right by voting right leaders in governing positions. Take it or you leave it, the masses are always at the receiving end, irrespective of tribal affiliations.

I just dropped off my son at his school today and I knew how much I paid in school fees alone, not to talk of provisions, pocket money, mention it. I get pikin wey dey university too, a private one for that matter.

All I can say is, God's grace has been sufficient for me.

Don't wait until you have a 2-bed before you get married. Things will get better with time. Let your fiancé agree with you on this. Plan for your future. By the time you attain our level, stress or pressure won't be much. If you have the opportunity to japa, don't hesitate but japa with sense. Go to school and come back as I always advocate. It's the best decision ever taken by me.. Invest in meaningful endeavours. You may also stay there but don't dull yourself. If your friends are riding big cars, don't copy them. Its a liability. Enter train.If they're throwing parties abroad and buying asoebi, waka pass because if you attend one, when it gets to your turn, you must spend too.

Hear this, salary will never make you rich, regardless of where you're working or living on earth. The world is changing so don't rely on 9/5 job. Establish yourself. It's not easy to be self-employed but it pays in the long run

Good morning,
Returning to settle in Nigeria and wouldn't mind connecting with you.

SouthSouth1914:
Nope, you were diversionary somewhat of someone who needs psychiatric assistance immediately.

😂
You might need it more if you check well

Fekumzi123:
😂
You might need it more if you check well

I asked first

Gerundphrase:
Thank god I have paid my house rent. Half of people living in my apartment haven't payed their rent. Landlord Don give quit notice tire. Thank Gos for mmesomachukwu that girl has been a blessing to me. Find a partner that has hand work and sense too. E get why

Hassanmaye:
Link me with her sister

I am also interested in this family chief

Lol they are only two. The first is married. I Don go give her people assurance already. Just find family wey the mother has respect for the father. Their girls always gives their man peace...

Omayie:
I am also interested in this family chief

Gerundphrase:
Lol they are only two. The first is married. I Don go give her people assurance already. Just find family wey the mother has respect for the father. Their girls always gives their man peace...

Since family slot is full.
Please introduce me to her best friend. People like her can never go wrong in their friend selection.

Mitsurugi:
God is the source of my provisions. Because each year I spend far more than what I envisage. I don't womanize or club or spend frivolously. Sometimes when I doubt my expenditure I have to cross check my expenses and it's always on point. It's just God.

Testimony. I went from a 1.5 flat to a 3.5m flat last year. It wasn't planned at the start of the year. But it happened. Then a baby also came. Omo. Na God.

You do not explain to people explicitly. Typical nigerian mentality. You are dishonest.

God ko, God ni.

JooEeL:
You do not explain to people explicitly. Typical nigerian mentality. You are dishonest.

God ko, God ni.

I give God all the glory

Mitsurugi:
I give God all the glory

Get outta here, osiso!

JooEeL:
Get outta here, osiso!

If you're fighting God, I'm not. If you have a problem with Him, I don't. Nwanne face your issues, my God is my sustenance. Je zia kwuo udo!

tgmservice:
nooo you donzo

Tinubu made things ten times worst at an alarming rate.
U sef reason from dollar to fuel

Meaning Nigeria was once better but u didn't appreciate the leaders then ..

So no point to backup Tinubus failure abeg