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UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition


OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

I love this about Annang people as it's very easy and workable.

And if the bride price is 2,000?

BodyCount:
The culture and tradition of bride price is for virgins...
All these useless and senseless culture taking advantage of it to rip men off is unfair...
I don't blame the shameless parents demanding huge bride price ON CHILDREN THEY DIDN'T EVEN RAISE OR TRAIN WELL,
I blame the mumu men paying it.
How many of these girls you pay huge bride price on do you marry as virgins?

Imagine paying huge on second-hand product .
You pay huge bride price on a girl that one guy use Indomie and fanta to deflower.
Or a girl that gave it out freely as birthday or Valentine gift.
GOD FORBID EVIL SPIRIT.

If I be una, we will do the math.
HER BRIDE PRICE WILL BE DIVIDED BY HER BODYCOUNT.
If bride price is 1,000,000 and BODYCOUNT is 20,
What her parents will collect is
1000000/20 = 50k.

Some ladies go remain for their papa house bdat

VYourstories:
https://www.voiceyourstories.com/nigeria-the-reality-of-double-bride-price/

If the man agrees to pay double bride price, na to pack the mother inlaw and the bride go him house be that nah as double wives. What a tradition... hmm!

The truth is that it is morally wrong for a father to collect bride price of a daughter, born by a woman of whose bride price he never paid!
The burden is not with the man who is trying to marry the the daughter, but with father who failed to do what he was supposed to do!

BodyCount:
"Ah yes, the classic ‘men are animals, women are innocent bystanders’ arguement. Very convenient!

According to this logic, women apparently have no agency, no standards, no choices, no accountability. Just helpless passengers floating through life while men magically control every sexual decision on earth. Interesting feminism.

You say prostitution exists because men pay for sex. True. It also exists because people willingly sell it.
PEOPLE RUSH FREE, CHEAP AND AFFORDABLE COMMODITIES...
Funny how responsibility suddenly becomes a one-way street whenever accountability gets uncomfortable.
Do you see men rushing and sleeping with MODEST, well-trained and high moral standard girls or women?

And the ‘women cannot raise boys’ part is ironic too. So fathers are absent, men are terrible, yet somehow only women deserve sympathy while men are blamed for literally everything from hookup culture to bad parenting to society itself. At some point this stops being analysis and starts sounding like resentment disguised as wisdom.

Reality check: both men and women contribute to the culture we live in. Men sleep around because women AVAILABLE, cheap, loose and agree to sleep around too.
It's also a very easy and simple job lazy and morally bankrupted girls and women can use to make money.
Women shame women. Men shame men. Bad fathers exist. Bad mothers exist. Weak men exist. Reckless women exist. Human beings are flawed across the board.


But pretending women are eternal victims with zero responsibility for their own choices is exactly why these conversations never improve. Accountability cannot be gender selective."

Tell your neighbour to explain the text you quoted because you clearly didn't understand it. The point is simple - the society failed because families failed. If you have to apportion the blame, it must go round.

BTW, for men to even accept to pay whatever they are asked to on non-virgins means they have accepted their fate. If you go ranting from today to the end of the world, it will change absolutely nothing.

More importantly, teach your boys to start learning willpower and self-control instead of watching porns just to learn skills for becoming professionals in sexual activities, then women will be forced to remain virgins. Those ones don't have a choice because we go to them.

As an Akwa Ibomite of over 40, I am reading and hearing about this for the first time.

SmartPolician:
Tell your neighbour to explain the text you quoted because you clearly didn't understand it. The point is simple - the society failed because families failed. If you have to apportion the blame, it must go round.

BTW, for men to even accept to pay whatever they are asked to on non-virgins means they have accepted their fate. If you go ranting from today to the end of the world, it will change absolutely nothing.

More importantly, teach your boys to start learning willpower and self-control instead of watching porns just to learn skills for becoming professionals in sexual activities, then women will be forced to remain virgins. Those ones don't have a choice because we go to them.

Your problem is not even bias at this point, it's basic comprehension. You quoted a post and still somehow missed the meaning completely.
I literally said families failed and society failed. That includes men, women, parents, culture, upbringing, everybody. But somehow your brain translated that into "attack women only."
That level of selective reading needs scientific study.
Then you contradicted yourself in the same breath. First you say blame must go round, then you immediately dump responsibility on men and start talking about “women will be forced to remain virgins” as if men are mindless creatures with no agency or discipline.

Next time, before quoting text, try understanding it first. It helps.

This is not actually a double bride price issue because you are not paying two bride prices for your wife to be.

Moreover, you are not forced to do it because you will not be killed if you decide not to do it.
However as a necessary evil, most people choose to do it considering how far they have gone with the relationship, the resources they have put in and how entangled they have already become with the family maybe because of the relative peace the family gives to them and so on.

The truth is that it's a very shameful thing that man and woman will live together to the extent of having grown-up children without considering it wise to do the needful; if not for any other thing, for their children's sake, hence the more reason that wise lady decided to settle her mother's before her's.

Akaibom is even wise to demand their's while the shameless parents are still alive because this issue of bride price in so many African traditions is never something to be neglected because no matter how you run to avoid it, it will still hunt you and your generation till the deed is done.

In other words, some tribes will keep calm till when the person is dead while some without much talks, will be silently disgracing and punishing the family through their different ways like no participation in some things, no contribution in meetings (if you dare, a very young person will finish you up based on that and no one will come to your rescue, instead all will join in insulting you), anywhere you are seen in the community, one insult or the other for not paying her bride price or not allowing your bride price to be paid before couplelating.

I think, non payment of bride price is a very big issue every where especially in Africa because one way or the other, you must pay it whether in life or death.

Luminee:
This is a culture shock to me and it is inappropriate to burden the intended couple with responsibilities that he knows nothing about.

If he pays the bride price of his in-law, does that mean he has claims over his mother-in-law too, is he marrying both daughter and mother?

There are a lot of stwepid traditions in Akwa Ibom and Cross River States. Same tradition is also observed in Cross River. There are communities in Cross River that their sons and daughters are forbidden to be buried outside that community. Technically, the community owns them instead of the other way round.

You Igbos take up peoples culture to dissect yet ignore urs.

You don’t know the issues surrounding that one case you saw.

Yet you take it here to chase clout.

I don’t blame you na

UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition


OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

which part of annang is that because the list I collected is much bro all annang pride prices are cost some of your eastern people are much cheaper than your people's own

Nigerians, Bride price and poverty alleviation goes hand in ✋

All these nonsense traditions sef. Who dem help?

VYourstories:
https://www.voiceyourstories.com/nigeria-the-reality-of-double-bride-price/

So. You'll pay the bride price of a woman's whose physically but a Big Grand matron in the witchcraft coven world or marine kingdom. You don be her husband be that. Once you pay the bride rice of ANY WOMAN, she's AUTOMATICALLY your wife. Tradition or not.

I'll drop the girl and forget about the marriage instantly

Everything that has been said above is true .
I have had marriage list from the family of my Akwaibom girlfriend for 1 year plus now .

Everything in the list can start a standard supermarket. Even with 4m , you will still be begging.

To even think that I paid 50,000 cash to collect the list is the most annoying part .

Even her brothers can not fulfill one page of the items in that list

Nonsense culture

Its for virgins not for boreholes or 6inches pipes.

Winnerfx:
You sound so bitter towards women. Why? You don't even sound like a man who would support a lady to uphold her virtue... Rest let real men who know how to protect women talk

SHUT Y0UR TRAP, YOU woman disguising with you profile.
Real men, indeed. The line you all use to manipulate gullible men into doing your biddings.

People are waking up.

UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition


OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

How many tribes are in Akwa ibom? I thought that its is only the Ibibios and Annangs.

Kyn4life:
It's the bitter truth because am from there

hope is not Annag tribe

UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition


OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

that’s what bothering me too my bro cuz I’m from essein udim and I wasn’t born and base there I want to know

nony43:
How many tribes are in Akwa ibom? I thought that its is only the Ibibios and Annangs.

There are 5 tribes in Akwa Ibom

Annang
Ibibio
Ekid
Oro
Efik

Few ijaws can also be found in Akwa Ibom

Some have decided to abolish such tradition anyways

UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition

OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

You wrote well but allowed tribal bigotry to cloud your mind. The topic is on double bride price. Why drag your Eastern neighbors inside. There are Annang women who are cohabiting as i am typing.

UkoAnnang:
There are 5 tribes in Akwa Ibom

Annang
Ibibio
Ekid
Oro
Efik

Few ijaws can also be found in Akwa Ibom

I noticed in that people in Eket speak differently, are they under Ibibio, Anang, or on their own?

Winnerfx:
You sound so bitter towards women. Why? You don't even sound like a man who would support a lady to uphold her virtue... Rest let real men who know how to protect women talk

Men like him promote sex on first date and patronise pros.titutes .. That's why he is so bitter and obsessed about a woman's body count to the point that it affected his mental health.

This is the most disgusting thing I've heard all year

S

UkoAnnang:


Op kindly single out these tribes in Akwa.
Don't say Akwa Ibom in general.

We have many tribes in Akwa Ibom and this nonsense here is not applicable to my Annang tribe.

In Annang tribe cohabitation is prohibited. if a man must live together with a woman, then he must pay her bride price.

Note, in our tradition, bride price is not expensive, in some family bride price is not more than ₦100, while some is as low as ₦10, ₦20 and ₦50 with a bottle of dry gin.

For the father
1. Tobacco
2. Walking stick
3. One traditional wear with strikes of lions or tiger heads (what we call uko ekpe). This wear signify the strength of a traditional Annang man.
4 a traditional Annang cap


For the the mother.
1. One length of wrapper
2. A bag of salt
3. A smaller basin of crayfish
4 one umbrella.
5. 1 stick of dry fish

For the general house
1. 2 cartons of beer
2. 2 create of soft drinks
3. 1 create of malt
4. Football
5. 5. Packet of Cigarette.
6. 1 red and white chalk (usei)
7 1 bottle of dry gin
8. small fishes
9. 1 female goat (this is only applicable if the bride is the first daughter of the family)

The palm wine for the events is to be provided by the father in-law. After drinking the palm wine, the son in-law can put anything or even return the cup empty to the father in-law.
We are not like our eastern neighbours who demand for dollars before the cup could be returned back

With what its listed a man can marry a woman, if the man is incapable to afford these items, his kins men can do so in his behalf.

Therefore the the issue of cohabitation is impossible in my tribe. So the prospective son in-law cannot pay bride price of mother in-law.

Also note that, in our traditional Annang land, if a man refuses to pay his woman bride price, the family of the woman will not accept anything from him, be it food, drink, money, kola, water. The mother of the woman is prohibited from visited her daughter while in such marriage.
These make it more difficult for a man and woman to cohabit in my tradition

OP next time make ur research well and single out the tribe involved in some abominable tradition before thunda faya u

This one is already blaming Igbos as if Igbos penned the article.

Codes151:
You Igbos take up peoples culture to dissect yet ignore urs.

You don’t know the issues surrounding that one case you saw.

Yet you take it here to chase clout.

I don’t blame you na

Where was it stated thar author of the stoopid article is an Igbo person?

concho:
Everything that has been said above is true .
I have had marriage list from the family of my Akwaibom girlfriend for 1 year plus now .

Everything in the list can start a standard supermarket. Even with 4m , you will still be begging.
To even think that I paid 50,000 cash to collect the list is the most annoying part .
Even her brothers can not fulfill one page of the items in that list

I think the bold is a good way to assess the acceptability of bride price. If her brothers cannot afford the items on the list, I won't perform any or I would choose what to perform.