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pocohantas:
Yesterday after listening to the full VN from FE. I come pity am. He really tried to patch things up. Went to Chike. Called his wife's church mother to talk to her, yet she continued. Would FE of 15yrs ago take such nonsense? In his words, he told Chike she is his wife and they have kids. That he wants to raise the kids together with her. Don't be surprised he didn't do as much as she alleged, but she knows he is the one with a failed marriage already. Now he should explain 2 failed marriages. 😂😂😂

the pussy your new wife was sharing with you when you were still married to your ex wife , she will share with someone else when she is married to you.

new take on the cane proverb

basically most people who marry new wife or husband were already knacking the person first and likley on a regular basis - so their character is already in question -

i have not been following the story like that and this is sad

@semid4lyfe release my post na

abi is it because it is celebrating cuckery

izzou:
Ned and Okowa dey the same party?

Yes, Apshit

Akinlot:
Yes, Apshit

E for stay for PDP nau.

Okowa fit win the primaries oh

Melvyn11:
I will never understand men who claim to love their wives soo much yet they cheat constantly in their marriages. Like what exactly is the thought process of hurting the person you claim to love repeatedly. For her to say Bleep the marriage she must have endured a lot from Frank to even make that decision.

I am trying to remember the blog zi saw those recordings __ legit or colors. Maybe you should listen to it too. She honestly didn't sound like someone who was out on a vendetta. It was more of a fling that turned serious. If she did it with a non-celeb, I doubt he would have caught. But it is hard to move around with someone popular and not be sighted once or twice. As for damning the marriage, look at FE, look at that babe. Why did he think he would retire with her?

GloriousGbola:
the pussy your new wife was sharing with you when you were still married to your ex wife , she will share with someone else when she is married to you.

new take on the cane proverb

basically most people who marry new wife or husband were already knacking the person first and likley on a regular basis - so their character is already in question -

i have not been following the story like that and this is sad

I haven't too. I personally was just enjoying how triggered some Naija men were, plus his history with his exwife. That was my own in the matter. In the VN he said she introduced him to her church mother 16yrs ago. He also sent her to school (I don't know which school) in 2010-2011. This confirms the rumour that they were indeed at item while he was married to the first wife.

She sef messup. She no suppose marry her sugardaddy. Once iyale commot and you enter to start pounding akpu and submitting. Come add am pikins, e no go sweet again. E dey sweet before because you see him weekends and follow for imaginary business trips. No marry am ooo. 😂😂😂

Ihebu4chelsea:
E no hard pass this one.

Yes o baba

afrodoc2:
You wan chop bottom pot abi?

'But I go chop all the washing as long as you give me my portion' Mr Eazy 2016

These are the words I live by Egbon

KingTom:
How about the ass tho? Tell us wise one

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BlueRayDick:
The points you listed in the bolded are actually more loaded than they seem.

For example, let's look at failure to fulfil responsibilities : It can be financial in nature, sexual and even psychological in nature.

A man may suddenly go broke and becomes unable to fulfil his financial responsibilities to his family. He may try his best but things end up not working out. There is no amount of communication he may apply, once the bills are not getting paid the woman may start looking for way out of the marriage.

All those talks about patience, mutual respect, forgiveness etc will fly out of the window.

Methinks all those "infidelity, abuse, failure to fulfil responsibilities" you listed as valid grounds for divorce are intertwined with "understanding, communication, forgiveness, patience, and mutual respect." which you expected partners should exhibit to have a long lasting union. They are not independent of each other.

I don't know if I make sense sha.

I understand your point, and I actually agree that these issues are interconnected. My point, is that many marriages today collapse too quickly over problems that could still be managed with maturity, patience, understanding, and genuine commitment from both sides.

Using your example of financial hardship, if a man genuinely falls on hard times but remains responsible, transparent, hardworking, and still makes efforts to provide for his family, then understanding and patience should naturally come into play. Marriage vows exist “for better or for worse,” not only for the comfortable seasons.

Almost all our mothers have stories of how they struggled with their husbands during difficult periods before things eventually got better. They endured hardship together and built from nothing. But with this Gen z generation , it is becoming increasingly rare to find people willing to stay committed during seasons of struggle.
Many now want the finished product while they themselves are still raw, so raw + raw is equal to collapse. it's like sands mix with water without cement and you want use it to build mansion, marriage is for matured minds not for kids, Marriage is the only institution where you receive a certificate before you begin the course, (meaning there is no more graduation.) The course you keep learning throughout the union is “for better, for worse.” So when divorce sets in, it is like you defraud the institution that gave you the certificate, because the motto of the institution that issues the certificate is “till death do us part.” 😂😂😂

That said, I am not referring to situations where a partner completely abandons his or her responsibilities, refuses accountability, becomes abusive, reckless, chronically unfaithful, or engages in criminal behavior. Those are serious issues that can destroy the very foundation of a marriage and are far different from temporary setbacks or normal human imperfections.
So if none of these extreme issues are present in a marriage, and the couple is blessed with children, I personally see no reason why two mature individuals should be quick to seek divorce instead of working through their differences with patience, understanding, and commitment.
My opinion though...

Ibime:
The kain hammer Desmond go hammer between now and election day no be here

The sad thing be say Desmond still dey spend money to chase this train wey don leave am

Instead of accepting fate, he go dey blow money wey go soon stop to flow

izzou you no go queue behind Ned Nwoko line?

FLASH: Delta North Senatorial APC primary has commenced in Delta.

The race is between Okowa and Ned Nwoko.

You won’t believe the number of people on the line for Ned😂😂 pic.twitter.com/KqgsedecKP

— Thεό Abu (@TheoAbuAgada) May 18, 2026

izzou:
I really don't think this has anything to do with Tinubu for most cases.

Okay, let's look at the Delta guy that was deceived with the time just to rig him out.

He won the 2023 election. Guess who he won against? Ndudi Elumelu.

This guy did not have any supporters. He just bought the LP form, and with the Top to bottom wave, he defeated an incumbent legislator.

He assumed he had political roots, which he doesn't. He then decamped to the same party with the man who you won, has been in politics for decades, and has a supporter base that has been hungry for 4 years because you edged them out.

Abeg, how on earth do you think you can win?

Many of these guys do not think. It is just common sense to either stay where you got your victory.

You’ve said it all.

The Delta case is similar to GEJ. Jonathan would be deluding himself if he thinks he has an independent political structure outside of the PDP machine that brought him to power in 2011

MorataFC:
I understand your point, and I actually agree that these issues are interconnected. My point, is that many marriages today collapse too quickly over problems that could still be managed with maturity, patience, understanding, and genuine commitment from both sides.

Using your example of financial hardship, if a man genuinely falls on hard times but remains responsible, transparent, hardworking, and still makes efforts to provide for his family, then understanding and patience should naturally come into play. Marriage vows exist “for better or for worse,” not only for the comfortable seasons.

Almost all our mothers have stories of how they struggled with their husbands during difficult periods before things eventually got better. They endured hardship together and built from nothing. But with this Gen z generation , it is becoming increasingly rare to find people willing to stay committed during seasons of struggle.
Many now want the finished product while they themselves are still raw, so raw + raw is equal to collapse. it's like sands mix with water without cement and you want use it to build mansion, marriage is for matured minds not for kids, Marriage is the only institution where you receive a certificate before you begin the course, (meaning there is no more graduation.) The course you keep learning throughout the union is “for better, for worse.” So when divorce sets in, it is like you defraud the institution that gave you the certificate, because the motto of the institution that issues the certificate is “till death do us part.” 😂😂😂

That said, I am not referring to situations where a partner completely abandons his or her responsibilities, refuses accountability, becomes abusive, reckless, chronically unfaithful, or engages in criminal behavior. Those are serious issues that can destroy the very foundation of a marriage and are far different from temporary setbacks or normal human imperfections.
So if none of these extreme issues are present in a marriage, and the couple is blessed with children, I personally see no reason why two mature individuals should be quick to seek divorce instead of working through their differences with patience, understanding, and commitment.
My opinion though...

there are multiple reasons for this

one is social media which is selling a false narrative

but also is their mothers experiences - my dad was from a polygamous family and his dad had 4 wives . at on point in his dads life his dad was very very very rich and this was likely when he was marrying up and dan. but he became broke and it was hard times fro all of them. none of my dads immediate siblings married more than one wife. but we had relatives that did.

And it was usually the same story where the man hit small money and then went to marry a smallie. So the immediate family who have managed through the hard times are now not the ones to enjoy the good times. i have an uncle an engineer who married a second wife in his 50s. the difference between the lifestyle of first wife and second wife ehn - first wife was living in a house in one backwater backwater place in ilorin. as in we always hated going to visit them because you would go through a very very local part of ilorin to get there. [most middle class professional lived in an area called GRA].

but his second wife - they bought a house in VGC. his kids from first wife all went to public schools [though they ALL did masters in uk] . pikin from second wife were going to athlantic hall.

who go see that one and say i will stick with my husband so that when he hammer he will remember my bobby no tanda and marry a trophy wife and push me to the background?

the lesson is hard work patience and sacrifice no dey work - and one small girl will overtake you.

PDPGuy:
You’ve said it all.

The Delta case is similar to GEJ. Jonathan would be deluding himself if he thinks he has an independent political structure outside of the PDP machine that brought him to power in 2011

The people who said things were good under GEJ will vote for him back nto power over Obi

raumdeuter:
The sad thing be say Desmond still dey spend money to chase this train wey don leave am

Instead of accepting fate, he go dey blow money wey go soon stop to flow

desmond may be on whatever atiku is on. i dont belive it but it seems that if he had sat through his 4th term he may have been on a path to becoming speaker - which means that like atiku, he moved too fast on what was already for him , blew it and is now doomed to chase it for the rest of his life.

Kidnapping news from oyo and kwarra is now reoccurring ,it's now hitting close to home.

Keep playing politics 👍🏿

So they really beheaded that Mathematics teacher and the country is normal. What was his crime? Will the man's children forgive this country and the callous cluelessness of the leaders.....

raumdeuter:
izzou you no go queue behind Ned Nwoko line?

FLASH: Delta North Senatorial APC primary has commenced in Delta.

The race is between Okowa and Ned Nwoko.

You won’t believe the number of people on the line for Ned😂😂 pic.twitter.com/KqgsedecKP

— Thεό Abu (@TheoAbuAgada) May 18, 2026

Pa Nwoko in the mud

PDPGuy:
You’ve said it all.

The Delta case is similar to GEJ. Jonathan would be deluding himself if he thinks he has an independent political structure outside of the PDP machine that brought him to power in 2011

Things wey dey bother Soludo dey funny.. What's government's business with what anyone wants to give to a bereaved family?

BlueRayDick:
The way we have now got used to hearing those horrific news and how easy it is for us all to move on without government/security agents doing much to curtail insecurity is just so sad.

Like an hour ago I saw the video of a GUO bus that was attacked by kidnappers/bandits while travelling. The driver of the bus was shot dead while he was trying to maneuver the bus to escape their assailants. His corpse was right there in the bus with a gunshot to the head. It seems the passengers were eventually kidnapped because only the driver's corpse was left in the bus.

Looking at that video I was just wondering why is it that the security agents cannot comb those forests along the major express where these kidnappings take place? Why can't they go on months of offensive in those forests and weed those criminals out ? Why is it that these incidents keep reoccurring since around 2016/2017?

Maybe because the thing never really touch people wey dey power sha. I mean like that GUO driver now, his kids are now fatherless; his family have lost a breadwinner just like that! And nothing will ever be done to get these people justice.

And going through these roads you can see like 50 checkpoints. So you start to wonder who is fooling who

izzou:
Pa Nwoko in the mud

Make e focus on him sugar babies

izzou:
E for stay for PDP nau.

Okowa fit win the primaries oh

I believe he defected before Okowa if I'm not mistaken.

With the benefit of hindsight, I doubt he would have defected to APC.

MorataFC:
I don't get dis.
Rufai Oseni and Ruben Abati dey do what? 😂

Yes, I have seen them anchoring events before.

GloriousGbola:
@semid4lyfe release my post na

abi is it because it is celebrating cuckery

Sometimes I get extremely busy offline, and NL takes a backseat.

I have just unblocked the post

semid4lyfe:
Sometimes I get extremely busy offline, and NL takes a backseat.

I have just unblocked the post

i am just messing with you chief - sometimes if my post is too salty you leave it locked

CrystalTiger:
Things wey dey bother Soludo dey funny.. What's government's business with what anyone wants to give to a bereaved family?

Dee Soludo matter don tire me

MorataFC:
Lubbish
These ladies are something else

You never sabi anything the poosie he was getting before will be child's play compared to now.

If he wants to monetize am he can even be dealing with strictly mature corporate big girls wey no wan dey under any man. All those niggas wey say them no go call am for wedding be proper JJC wey never sabi as e dey go. As if several other streams of income no dey. Na who them catch be thief

I need niggas to know the game dun changed

raumdeuter:
The people who said things were good under GEJ will vote for him back nto power over Obi

I would say those people will split their votes close to 50-50 between Obi and GEJ

CrystalTiger:
Things wey dey bother Soludo dey funny.. What's government's business with what anyone wants to give to a bereaved family?

Lmao

Maybe too many people, who were burdened by the traditional burial rites, pressured Soludo to enact this policy