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It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

I have been in your shoes helping people like that, such that if I should look back at how much I have given them, patronize what they sell, I will feel that anger and annoyance in me when they betray you
One thing I used to comfort myself is I also have been a situation that I need help, and people go out of their way to help me,
But I believe we humans need each other, when you feel you are been exploited, you back off


The funny thing is that they will be addressing you as yes sir, yes ma, praying prayers on you like anything, when table turns, you will know their real colour, it better you just avoid them

In everything you do, never loose guard for anything

Sometimes, just help and leave the rest for God. But then again,e get some kind people wey you go help,you go just regret why you be kind person for the rest of your life.

Personally I've gotten my own fill of this type of friendship. Your own even good na. There's a neighbor of mine whom I've helped countless of times,but today she doesn't patronize me at all. Instead,she patronize others . Unfortunately,things seems to have gotten tough for them. So 3 days ago,she came to my shop, wanting to fill her gas on credit. Imagine,she has been buying from others but for the first time of wanting to buy from me,na credit leg you use waka come . Omoh,tho I really wanted to help her but one small voice on the inside of me whispered to me, reminding me of how many times I've helped them in the past but was paid with bad.

Powerbandooo:
I have been in your shoes helping people like that, such that if I should look back at how much I have given them, patronize what they sell, I will feel that anger and annoyance in me when they betray you
One thing I used to comfort myself is I also have been a situation that I need help, and people go out of their way to help me,
But I believe we humans need each other, when you feel you are been exploited, you back off


The funny thing is that they will be addressing you as yes sir, yes ma, praying prayers on you like anything, when table turns, you will know their real colour, it better you just avoid them

In everything you do, never loose guard for anything

Very funny bro. And to think I was even planning big things for him not knowing his own heart is crooked

Sonnobax15:

Sometimes, just help and leave the rest for God. But then again,e get some kind people wey you go help,you go just regret why you be kind person for the rest of your life.

Personally I've gotten my own fill of this type of friendship. Your own even good na. There's a neighbor of mine whom I've helped countless of times,but today she doesn't patronize me at all. Instead,she patronize others . Unfortunately,things seems to have gotten tough for them. So 3 days ago,she came to my shop, wanting to fill her gas on credit. Imagine,she has been buying from others but for the first time of wanting to buy from me,na credit leg you use waka come . Omoh,tho I really wanted to help her but one small voice on the inside of me whispered to me, reminding me of how many times I've helped them in the past but was paid with bad.

Lol she's wicked. Only remembered you when she needed to buy on credit. Bro I done accommodate guy make him no lose him job opportunity. Even his younger ones in Lagos refused to accept him but I opened my door wide for this guy. Only for him to show me his true colors. I come broke one period, this guy see me dey carry one of my laptop go sell to fill gas and buy some food stuffs, bro just lockup. Someone earning about 500k monthly minis allowances lol. To make matters worse this guy come dey order expensive clothes then him go leave the price tags on top tv stand so I must see it. Na few weeks later na I let am know say him done gather money reach to rent somewhere and I need space. Till today him dey narrate me to him people say I do am bad thing. Na only those mutual friends close to me know the real truth. I go say I nor go help again but then, what to do

kiddaz:
Lol she's wicked. Only remembered you when she needed to buy on credit. Bro I done accommodate guy make him no lose him job opportunity. Even his younger ones in Lagos refused to accept him but I opened my door wide for this guy. Only for him to show me his true colors. I come broke one period, this guy see me dey carry one of my laptop go sell to fill gas and buy some food stuffs, bro just lockup. Someone earning about 500k monthly minis allowances lol. To make matters worse this guy come dey order expensive clothes then him go leave the price tags on top tv stand so I must see it. Na few weeks later na I let am know say him done gather money reach to rent somewhere and I need space. Till today him dey narrate me to him people say I do am bad thing. Na only those mutual friends close to me know the real truth. I go say I nor go help again but then, what to do

. You even try say you allow am to stay your house after you discover. Person wey you for show the exit door the moment you see that price tag on top your TV. Honestly,na now I understand why my father say to help human beings these days don dey hard for am.

Sonnobax15:
. You even try say you allow am to stay your house after you discover. Person wey you for show the exit door the moment you see that price tag on top your TV. Honestly,na now I understand why my father say to help human beings these days don dey hard for am.

I dey like give people long rope sha but once my mind is made up it's final even if heaven fall nothing go change am. No lies, to help come get as em be these days

Even the one who created humans destroyed them in a flood once upon a time.

No I'm surprised that you are surprised

Helping people these days is like starting what you can't finish because people are so terrible

Nigerians generally r ungrateful lots..
I met a friend who had yams for sale in bulk....I saw d yams myself cos d guy is a farmer....so I trusted him...we work 2geda in a site....so he was to go back n asked me if I needed yams....i told him yes....we agreed on 50 tubbers o....I paid dis guy....omo d rest na history....yam I no see, my money, I no see....if I call d guy, na one excuse or d other till date

What you are sharing sounds like you're getting exhausted with the help you are giving because it keeps returning. One of the things you learn as you grow is not to be bothered by people's reaction but be bothered by your own intention.

This will change the way you do things. You ask yourself why you do what you do. Why? Are you doing it for them or you are doing it for your purpose on earth? It's with that understanding that you will never bother about human beings and their reactions. You won't be distracted by their distraction too. Many people put too much reliance on gratefulness (which is a good thing to have) but sometimes I ask myself, ifManbeGod, do you know how the world would have ended since? How many times do I thank my Creator for my lungs, my eyes, my brain, my nerves, my blood, my lungs, my skin, my hair, my nose, my nails, my eyebrow, my tongue and so many things I took for granted but when you take time to study it, you see the perfection in which you were created and took for granted? If I don't do that and I can't be as merciful as God, then who am I to complain about man to man?

In Buddhism, giving with the expectation of gratitude, praise, or a reward from the recipient is recognized as a common human impulse, but it is considered an inferior or impure form of giving.
While it still generates some positive karma, it does not lead to spiritual liberation because it is driven by ego and attachment.

If you keep receipts of those you have "helped", it is not giving, it was business you were doing. I don't keep scores. I score my goal and go to the next match.
It is for this reason I don't bother about the games of the receiver because me I am playing a different champions league. And I know that my favor is not from them because in most religious books I have studied and in spiritual life, the givers never lack but the givers who put condition go slack. If you grew up with grandmas, grandpas and elderly, you'll understand the concept of giving more. They are not dumb when they give but they learned some things from African spirituality in giving. I also don't get carried away by all the money in the world because the concept of money is man made, so we continue In the endless pursuit of paper currency, expecting it to solve problems money will never solve!


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That he bleeped up doesn't mean you should stop being good to people, there will always be an ungrateful person around.

Poverty can do that to people bro. Don't take it personally. It's difficult to survive in the current Nigeria, people can tell any lie to survive to the next day. I'm not excusing the behaviour or anything, I'm just saying cut him some slack. Just tell him you don't appreciate being lied to and he needs to find a away to get back on his feet. Funny how I was in the same situation recently and I felt so patronised that I stopped talking to that niqqaa. I should take my own advise lol.

marlow1962:
That he bleeped up doesn't mean you should stop being good to people, there will always be an ungrateful person around.

dey play, once you seen as a giver you done for. e one of my guy his ready to milk you dry, e get some boys wey dey jobsles too for my area gate and i close late some times so i always give them something at least to avoid being robbed na so one day as i dey com i see them dey drink jin na so i park hail them give them 2k na so one say no o i no see say them plenty say their money na 5k na there i para say mak them gimme the 2k fess na so the one we be like their oga com dey beg me, my wife dey fear say i for no do so. see leech na leech if you no careful them kill you.

Welcome to the club. Street no get memory as they say. Just do your best and leave the rest for God.

Ifexibe:
Welcome to the club. Street no get memory as they say. Just do your best and leave the rest for God.

Aje!... street no get memory... Give and don't expect... never speak of your good deeds... human were built to fail not perfection .... sync

You use your hand pay Yahoo boy transport to come to Nigeria from Ghana, What do you think he was doing there ? So sorry bro. Please forget that idiot .

Since he has skills, let him work with it. He is a frigging LEECH

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

Dem no Dey help poor man. 🙂
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This post gave me headache trying to figure it out.
I may be wrong, but my analysis is stated below;
They are Edo boys (dont ask his I know)
They are yahoo yahoo.
The poster is offended his friend is ungrateful.
The friend is ungrateful.

Sphinx419:
Aje!... street no get memory... Give and don't expect... never speak of your good deeds... human were built to fail not perfection .... sync

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Aspirin in Nigeria? The guy don't even know that aspirin can't be sold to him in Nigeria again. The guy is a terrible liar.

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

this life just funny. Some of us genuinely dey find who go put us on. We no even need the money. Just be kind enough to show us road to take dey earn something. One animal dey one side dey make am harder. Sorry for your experience OP. Na God go reward am

kiddaz:
Very funny bro. And to think I was even planning big things for him not knowing his own heart is crooked

bros I dey Lagos with you. Leave am. Make we talk. I don't even need your money just your connect. I get plans. Just need enabler.

kiddaz:
Lol she's wicked. Only remembered you when she needed to buy on credit. Bro I done accommodate guy make him no lose him job opportunity. Even his younger ones in Lagos refused to accept him but I opened my door wide for this guy. Only for him to show me his true colors. I come broke one period, this guy see me dey carry one of my laptop go sell to fill gas and buy some food stuffs, bro just lockup. Someone earning about 500k monthly minis allowances lol. To make matters worse this guy come dey order expensive clothes then him go leave the price tags on top tv stand so I must see it. Na few weeks later na I let am know say him done gather money reach to rent somewhere and I need space. Till today him dey narrate me to him people say I do am bad thing. Na only those mutual friends close to me know the real truth. I go say I nor go help again but then, what to do

Omo. Lord have mercy. You don see things sef o

You story sounds real but I've been in both shoes. There's something you need to understand. People beg when they really need it. A normal human being should be ashamed of begging. What I will suggest in my opinion is. Try to find out if he drinks, smokes, gamble or spend on women. If these are his reasons for taking money from you then cut him off completely. But if not maybe what he needs is a better job. If you send someone 5k today, there's probability they'll ask for more in few days because that money won't go anywhere especially if you are the only person that listen to them, true, true some people don't have much people to depend on because it seems everybody's got their problems these days. Plus 5k, 10k I'm sorry to say don't mean jack these days. That's why I de always pity people earning below 100k. They are going through a lot.

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

u just waste money wey u for carry overcalculating camp her for one weekend ontop one ungrateful soul

DMCA:
u just waste money wey u for carry overcalculating camp her for one weekend ontop one ungrateful soul

That one? Na babe? Lol you sure say nor be those types when go blow you jazz make you sleep before them go rob you and disappear so

kiddaz:
Very funny bro. And to think I was even planning big things for him not knowing his own heart is crooked

Bros. He's not crooked because he gives you format. Sometimes someone needs a big story to move you to help them even if they need the money for other things. You'll never beg in your life. Try to understand what he's doing with money and try to understand if his job is enough to care for him or not, If the monies you help him with goes betting platforms then you just need to be careful but I still won't say don't do that big thing for him. We never can really tell. Poverty and lack of money can make someone seem crooked because desperation must set in. I always think before someone can call for help it's not easy but I will still give you another take that's why in my first comment above I imply you make your research on him.

Some people go de with people de flex then they realize they are the only one that's not adding money to the flexing. Then they'll call you and start calling you sir, bros, giving you all sorts of format, the moment you send them money they'll be like. "I told you, my boy must send something, my own g be that" avoid those kind people.

That's why you must research on him.

Una still Dey help people?Helping people only make them see you as a mugu. Human being Dey terrible, just focus on yourself. Most of the enemies you have today are people you have helped before.