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alanto:
You story sounds real but I've been in both shoes. There's something you need to understand. People beg when they really need it. A normal human being should be ashamed of begging. What I will suggest in my opinion is. Try to find out if he drinks, smokes, gamble or spend on women. If these are his reasons for taking money from you then cut him off completely. But if not maybe what he needs is a better job. If you send someone 5k today, there's probability they'll ask for more in few days because that money won't go anywhere especially if you are the only person that listen to them, true, true some people don't have much people to depend on because it seems everybody's got their problems these days. Plus 5k, 10k I'm sorry to say don't mean jack these days. That's why I de always pity people earning below 100k. They are going through a lot.

Lol I get you. If you read what I posted you will understand what I sent him was more than the 5k I'm assuming is the price of aspirin. He asked me for 12k to get the prescribed drugs I added 6k sending him 18k. I know how much I send to him every Tuesday. He has his vices drinking and pills but last time I saw him after he got really ill he dropped them. I don't know if he has resumed. You are not wrong to say 10,15, 20k small truly but if you are getting it every week from one side (I don't believe I'm the only one he's asking) cos he get uncles too when I know they send him money but me I know how much I send him sometimes twice weekly, even at that you fit manage cook one soup and buy garri or stew. Bro I done struggle no be say I done arrive na just say my heart open. I done survive on 2/3 slices of bread with mayonnaise and sliced onions every day for weeks, sometimes beans steadily or sweet potatoes and German sauce. Na as you get you go package na. 300k salary sef na struggling but then who sabi plan and manage go know say sacrifices must be made and lifestyle changes necessary too till you fit bounce back

alanto:
Bros. He's not crooked because he gives you format. Sometimes someone needs a big story to move you to help them even if they need the money for other things. You'll never beg in your life. Try to understand what he's doing with money and try to understand if his job is enough to care for him or not, If the monies you help him with goes betting platforms then you just need to be careful but I still won't say don't do that big thing for him. We never can really tell. Poverty and lack of money can make someone seem crooked because desperation must set in. I always think before someone can call for help it's not easy but I will still give you another take that's why in my first comment above I imply you make your research on him.

Some people go de with people de flex then they realize they are the only one that's not adding money to the flexing. Then they'll call you and start calling you sir, bros, giving you all sorts of format, the moment you send them money they'll be like. "I told you, my boy must send something, my own g be that" avoid those kind people.

That's why you must research on him.

I have seen such people

Ungrateful people or people that want to used you as vehicle of their enjoyment.
Let me share my experience yesterday with a lady. I went to Oil perfume shop in Portharcourt to restock my perfume collection, i met this lady fair in complexion, buying her own set of oil perfume, I ask her about the price of the oil perfume, she responded that i should ask the seller but i sense that she buys cheaper and she paid through POS and left. Some minutes later she came back to ask for another brand of oil perfume and notice a car key in my hand, she requested that she wanted to joined since i came with a car and responded immediately that she cannot join me because i need her favour in first place which she declined and started begging. I just left there and zoom off.

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

seanery:
YOUR MONIKA THO'.

KID...

ABCDE

You no wise at all

Sphinx419:
Aje!... street no get memory... Give and don't expect... never speak of your good deeds... human were built to fail not perfection .... sync

It's non of that. I dey help whom I nor even know from anywhere come be say expect wetin? I'm just surprised that he's not even seeing me same way I see him, as a brother. Truth is he's my barber and I no one talk b4 maybe him dey NL now but fk it. No matter where I dey for Lagos na only him dey barb my hair even though his own is expensive but it's worth it cos the guy too good for the work. I know how many big salons done drop down cos say the guy left the place. Anywhere he goes his customers goes and he has a lot of us. Na just that pills and alcohol overuse be his problem before but I thought he had already overcome all of that. I'm only disappointed, nothing else

Hhh4444:
Una still Dey help people?Helping people only make them see you as a mugu. Human being Dey terrible, just focus on yourself. Most of the enemies you have today are people you have helped before.

If you know, you know.

kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

"We live in a world obsessed with vindication, but as followers of Christ, we are called to a higher, narrower path. Scripture reminds us that it is far better to suffer for doing right, if that should be God’s will, than for doing wrong. In fact, when you do good and suffer for it patiently, you hold God's own approval. This is the very thing you were called to. Why? Because Christ also suffered for you, leaving an exact blueprint so that you might follow in His steps. He committed no sin, and no deceit was ever found on His lips. When He was insulted, He didn't hurl insults back. When He suffered, He didn't threaten retaliation. Instead, He surrendered His cause to the One who judges justly. When we choose patience over retaliation, we aren't losing; we are walking the exact path our Savior walked."
I hope this helps ease your mood.

Eventhough, I didn't read till the middle. But just know Nigerians are opportunist, give according to your spirit and don't let anyone compel you to do beyond your capacity.

WantsandMore:
"We live in a world obsessed with vindication, but as followers of Christ, we are called to a higher, narrower path. Scripture reminds us that it is far better to suffer for doing right, if that should be God’s will, than for doing wrong. In fact, when you do good and suffer for it patiently, you hold God's own approval. This is the very thing you were called to. Why? Because Christ also suffered for you, leaving an exact blueprint so that you might follow in His steps. He committed no sin, and no deceit was ever found on His lips. When He was insulted, He didn't hurl insults back. When He suffered, He didn't threaten retaliation. Instead, He surrendered His cause to the One who judges justly. When we choose patience over retaliation, we aren't losing; we are walking the exact path our Savior walked."
I hope this helps ease your mood.

bros,real life scenario no send this your epistle.continue playing.

NA YOUR FAADA I COPY

kiddaz:
You no wise at all

Hhh4444:
bros,real life scenario no send this your epistle.continue playing.

you're most likely to suffer doing the right things in life, than trying to be calculating and always trying to guard, but like a woman who goes through anguish before child birth but soon later forget her pain and clings to her baby with joy, so is your reward for suffering if God wills it. Cheer up Christ has overcome the world .

One should give what they can afford to lose. If they don't, they'll tie their expectations to that excess they gave and this attachment causes suffering

SixSeven:
What you are sharing sounds like you're getting exhausted with the help you are giving because it keeps returning. One of the things you learn as you grow is not to be bothered by people's reaction but be bothered by your own intention.

This will change the way you do things. You ask yourself why you do what you do. Why? Are you doing it for them or you are doing it for your purpose on earth? It's with that understanding that you will never bother about human beings and their reactions. You won't be distracted by their distraction too. Many people put too much reliance on gratefulness (which is a good thing to have) but sometimes I ask myself, ifManbeGod, do you know how the world would have ended since? How many times do I thank my Creator for my lungs, my eyes, my brain, my nerves, my blood, my lungs, my skin, my hair, my nose, my nails, my eyebrow, my tongue and so many things I took for granted but when you take time to study it, you see the perfection in which you were created and took for granted? If I don't do that and I can't be as merciful as God, then who am I to complain about man to man?



If you keep receipts of those you have "helped", it is not giving, it was business you were doing. I don't keep scores. I score my goal and go to the next match.
It is for this reason I don't bother about the games of the receiver because me I am playing a different champions league. And I know that my favor is not from them because in most religious books I have studied and in spiritual life, the givers never lack but the givers who put condition go slack. If you grew up with grandmas, grandpas and elderly, you'll understand the concept of giving more. They are not dumb when they give but they learned some things from African spirituality in giving. I also don't get carried away by all the money in the world because the concept of money is man made, so we continue In the endless pursuit of paper currency, expecting it to solve problems money will never solve!


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seanery:
NA YOUR FAADA I COPY

YEAH? AND I KNOW YOU NEVER HAD A FAADA SO NO BLAMES BOI

Reverseng:
One should give what they can afford to lose. If they don't, they'll tie their expectations to that excess they gave and this attachment causes suffering

Expect nothing from man but appreciate everything from God

NOW THEYRE GOOOOOOOOOONNEE!