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Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here. I am about to take my wife home to their parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me, I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many cases, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house. As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now, my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can send them home. What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

God speed with this new phase of your life.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here. I am about to take my wife home to their parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me, I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many cases, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house. As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now, my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can send them home. What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Take her home
You should come first before any person including your kids.

If you not ok you won't be able to take care of anyone 🙂
Be selfish to save yourself

She has to go so she won't kill you before your time .


Life has no duplicate
No reverse no rewind.
Manage yourself well
To fulfill what you are sent to do on earth ..
Leave your mark on earth do not allow anyone to kill your dreams..

See questions how many times we talk am here
Don't tolerate it
D first time might be a mistake but once she try it a second time be sure she go use sex as weapon continues
No need talking or advice guy she no feel u again move on
Your kids will be fyn just always get in touch with them make she no poison der mind towards u
Good luck

Ameduedwin:
my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind?

They are my worry too.
What kind of person is your wife?
Do you trust her parenting skills? I don't trust it from here, but I might be wrong.

She's already preparing her load? It's mutual, it's come to it's natural ending. Don't force it now, this is sad

Take her home to her parents,am I the only one not understanding.......book a bus ticket for her nah.

On a serious note,you don't need to bother yourself too much,never go violent on the mother of your children,quietly get yourself a place to stay that no one except maybe one or 2 people you trust will know,quietly leave the house for her.....trust me she will start calling you within 2 days,within a month she will gradually start coming back to her senses.

As for the kids only cover their basic needs just enough for them to feed,no excesses,pay school fees directly to the school,be prepared not to see them for a whole year or 2 if possible.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here. I am about to take my wife home to their parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me, I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many cases, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house. As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now, my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can send them home. What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

bro run for your life. This woman will kill you with anxiety and depression. A whole 7 years and you are still contemplating because of your kids what about your life isn't worthy. Marriage is not a do or die affair if it's causing you your very life run immediately. You will surely find peace again with another woman then she will learn the hard way. I believe she might be cheating. It's all left for you to decide.

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

tolerate fire! Purshure her.

Ride on....
It seems you have reached your elasticity limit.....so do what makes you happy....for your own sake.
Here's an opportunity to experience a new beginning on your own terms....you suppose do thanksgiving.
Enjoy the new momentum....no joy for the wicked.

If you have the means marry another wife. Monogamous family is thesame everywhere. It's nothing new here

Ameduedwin:
➜Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here. I am about to take my wife home to their parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me, I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many cases, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house. As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now, my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can send them home. What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

If your wife is not financially independent at this time, would you let your kids go anywhere with her? I hope not!😒

Go file for an official divorce from your wife in the courts. If you are not an abusive father, you should be able to care for your children while requiring that the courts require your wife to pay child support to you at least until she gets her foot on the ground and can care for the children about half of the time, too. 😒

What I'm about to say might sound funny.... Don't send her away, but cut of from her emotionally and romantically..

Provide for the family as you have been doing, pay your children school fees directly to their school, apart from feeding money don't give her any money again...

If she try initiating intimacy tell her that you're no longer interested... Trust me she'll be the one fighting to save the marriage...

Treat her as you would treat a mad person: don't beat,nag or quarrel back. Ignore her wahala.

Some women frequently have unbalanced hormonal influx. They crave a touch of violence because peace feels unrealistic to them.

Have you never heard of STOCKHOLM syndrome?

Some women actually crave a husband who'd beat them black and blue with bruises and injuries - and I'm not even lying to you.

Amadou challenge..



Handiwork of sidechick is that you?
Side chick is the antagonist of this marriage.




Invite your wife here to come tell her part of the story.

Precious201010:
What I'm about to say might sound funny.... Don't send her away, but cut of from her emotionally and romantically..
Provide for the family as you have been doing, pay your children school fees directly to their school, apart from feeding money don't give her any money again...
If she try initiating intimacy tell her that you're no longer interested... Trust me she'll be the one fighting to save the marriage...

You are literally suggesting he make her an official house slave, abi? If a man did the same to you, would you be happy? 😒

This is quite fearful. I will suggest you go on with the test first and let the dad know the outcome. Tell him to follow you to report the case if she was abused. If he refuses, go ahead by yourself.

When you marry a bad wife, you have everything to lose. Send her home but still be there for your children.

Kobojunkie:
You are literally suggesting he make her an official house slave, abi? If a man did the same to you, would you be happy? 😒

So he should sponsor someone that despises him? Even if she' got IQ challenges like some people I know, she has hands and legs and can work to feed herself

Kobojunkie:
You are literally suggesting he make her an official house slave, abi? If a man did the same to you, would you be happy? 😒

did you not read his post? The woman doesn't even allow him touch her... So should he go on his knees and beg for sex from his legally married wife?..

The best option is for him to completely ignore her, live as if she doesn't exist... 2 can play the game, the woman started it, but the man is going to finish it.

Divorce is not African thing. Add another wife to the mix. If she ask questions, direct her to this page

You will be able to take care of your kids and hold your sanity

You forgot to add keeping MALICE to the dos and donts you listed.

Precious201010:
What I'm about to say might sound funny.... Don't send her away, but cut of from her emotionally and romantically..

Provide for the family as you have been doing, pay your children school fees directly to their school, apart from feeding money don't give her any money again...

If she try initiating intimacy tell her that you're no longer interested... Trust me she'll be the one fighting to save the marriage...

The way many of you wax freaky ideas into people's heads eeh.....na God go help una.

Why are people asking him to allow her take the children with her?
Tomorrow it's the same people that'll be lamenting how children abandon their fathers.
Is she financially and emotionally capable?

For the sake of your kids,don’t send her out but start a new chapter of making yourself happy..Look for another shawty for your pleasure and if she does rubbish later,THROW HER OUT..

Caaz:
You forgot to add keeping MALICE to the dos and donts you listed.
The way many of you wax freaky ideas into people's heads eeh.....na God go help una.

Am entitled to my opinion so are you, if you have better idea, tell the man na...

No woman can frustrate my life in my own house, not even mother..

DJ play me “Stuck with each other” by Shontelle ft Akon

Precious201010:
✓ did you not read his post? The woman doesn't even allow him touch her... So should he go on his knees and beg for sex from his legally married wife?..
✓ The best option is for him to completely ignore her, live as if she doesn't exist... 2 can play the game, the woman started it, but the man is going to finish it.

If you as a woman reject a man, it becomes OK for him to use you as a maid? Would you prescribe this so-called idea to the husband of your own daughter(assuming you love her)? 🥱

2. You didn't suggest she be ignored. Rather, you insist she be reduced to just a tool...a slave in the marriage. Why is that? 🥱

kingthreat:
✓ So he should sponsor someone that despises him? Even if she' got IQ challenges like some people I know, she has hands and legs and can work to feed herself

Sponsor? Are you still struggling with basic language comprehension in 2026? 🥱

Kobojunkie:
If you as a woman reject a man, it becomes OK for him to use you as a maid? Would you prescribe this so-called idea to the husband of your own daughter(assuming you love her)? 🥱

2. You didn't suggest she be ignored. Rather, you insist she be reduced to just a tool...a slave in the marriage. Why is that? 🥱

if that's the way U chose to interpret it, who am I to argue with you?..

Remember the woman started it, and she's not willing to change, so should the man kill himself? Is he the only married man?..

I am solely responsible for my own happiness, no woman or man can take that away from me... If U like let Ur own happiness be in the hand of another person...

Kobojunkie:
Sponsor? Are you still struggling with basic language comprehension in 2026? 🥱

Just say the IQ no reach, we understand.