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Esthered:
Why are people asking him to allow her take the children with her?

Tomorrow it's the same people that'll be lamenting how children abandon their fathers. Is she financially and emotionally capable?

They actually do not like being saddled with the kids. If anything, they see the children as your punishment and would rather go start a new family. So the new woman would do the caregiving job. Have you forgotten one that kept crying here. When we told him to collect the kids, he did a U-turn.😂

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here. I am about to take my wife home to their parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me, I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many cases, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house. As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now, my worries is my children, are I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can send them home. What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

You don't need to send her away, at least because of your children. If I were in your shoes, I'd just ignore her as if she doesn't exist. Provide for your children. Pay their fees. Make sure there's food in the house. If conji too hold you, get a side chick but never forget to always use protection to avoid stories. Completely ignore her.
Alternatively, get a room selfcon. for yourself and leave the house for her. But whatever you do, don't send your children to the village.
Another option you have is to send her alone to the village while you take care of your kids.

pocohantas:
They actually do not like being saddled with the kids. If anything, they see the children as your punishment and would rather go start a new family. So the new woman would do the caregiving job. Have you forgotten one that kept crying here. When we told him to collect the kids, he did a U-turn.😂

That towncrier with female children 🤣🤣🤣
Start a new family, scatter, rinse and repeat....they've seen Uncle Frank, Sir Ned...I hope they take the lessons.

They don't want to be saddled with the children that they claim to love....

Esthered:
That towncrier with female children 🤣🤣🤣
Start a new family, scatter, rinse and repeat....they've seen Uncle Frank, Sir Ned...I hope they take the lessons.

They don't want to be saddled with the children that they claim to love....

I wouldn't know why they do not think of it this way. Their own is always to run off to a sidechick or new wife. Even that towncrier ended up complaining of the new gf.

Love indeed. They only love those kids to the extent they love the mum. Once they despise the mum, the kids are toast. That is why in polygamous homes, children of the favourite wife access most resources.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

What did DO you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

I will LIKE to be BRIEF too, i have two corrections to make, 1st, your vocabulary error on the use of "DID"

secondly, a Married man cant be ADVISED! as a MAN we USE our DISCRETION, except for who have experienced fully or closely to your CASE, then you pick your lessons from theirs and make use of some tactics or point and learn from their mistakes, so it still boils down to not to BE ADVISED! marriages are different so also PARTICIPANTS, what work for others mai KPAI u INSTANTA.

But let me leave u a nice QOUTE from REALITY "WHEN a car is not PERFORMING as expected , we all take back to DEALER!
that's ur PLUG!" my CAR will DISPLAY "VISIT DEALER SOON" on its dash when i have any contrary to how a good CAR should function.

This is what am passing through now
Fucking in a fix
But the true God will see me through

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Ensure you have custody of the children. I think you wife checked out of the marriage a long time ago but you were not sensitive to figure.

OP listen to me, go to the court, get a formal divorce, strive to either get full custody or joint custody with her, don't let her have full custody, she will poison the mind if your kids against you. Divorce takes time,z start now!

Send her packing for two months to see if her behavior will change

Mine did same, been 7 months now, I occasionally send upkeep money.
Any lady that can't respect her husband belongs to her fathers house

Precious201010:
What I'm about to say might sound funny.... Don't send her away, but cut of from her emotionally and romantically..

Provide for the family as you have been doing, pay your children school fees directly to their school, apart from feeding money don't give her any money again...

If she try initiating intimacy tell her that you're no longer interested... Trust me she'll be the one fighting to save the marriage...

A woman like this, she'll then go outside and cheat and then say, because you were keeping malice with her. Remember Frank Edoho?

A woman like this needs to be made to realize her place.... I say OP file for a divorce and seek full custody of the children, that way she can't take the children away.

Then he can make arrangements, for a live-in nanny from a reputable hiring firm to care for the kids.

He missed it at the beginning. The first show of disrespect MUST be severely rebuked so there's no incentive to try it again, ever.

I will tolerate anything but disrespect in any form.

coming from someone thay doesnt have a child
you should come first before anyone including your kids bla bla bla. at 28 you suppose get sense if you no get experience

jaguar1997:
Take her home
You should come first before any person including your kids.

If you not ok you won't be able to take care of anyone 🙂
Be selfish to save yourself

She has to go so she won't kill you before your time .


Life has no duplicate
No reverse no rewind.
Manage yourself well
To fulfill what you are sent to do on earth ..
Leave your mark on earth do not allow anyone to kill your dreams..

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

He should tolerate a woman that may likely kill him at any given chance? It's better he takes his kids to his mother and return his wife to their family. Simple! You want him to die of BP abi

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Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

What is the age difference between the two of you?

you need to have a side chick .Every married man that does not have a side chick is wasting his time

Both parents are dead and u want to take her to then right? Means una go kpai each other to meet with the dead right

I saw this story almost now, why is coming to front page after almost a week?

The 7 years of no sex didnt add up.
The first child was born 2020..
I wonder how the other kids were born without sex..

Man married the wife because he saw woman with fine bodi. Woman married the man because people were putting pressure on her because she is not married at her age.

My advice to the OP, and to ninety percent of the jokes advising him to leave his wife (except Kobojunkie, who has given standard sane advice)...is that he should learn that marriage is , and always has been, about self sacrifice and about looking at one self.

The guy has refused to get counselling. He has refused to ask his wife why she is angry with him. Instead he wants to throw her out like that.

Yep, this is the usual...another day, another thread on how evil the opposite sex are.

OP better look for someone to advice him and his wife, and he better learn that he did not marry a blow up doll, he married a woman. Dolls are for playing with, women are for something else.

You have told us your own side of the story, I need to hear her own side of the story before I comment on this matter

Apcshit:
you need to have a side chick .Every married man that does not have a side chick is wasting his time

LOL, and all those guys with side chicks, it usually ends, as it happend in one case I know of, of the eldest child of a man cursing his father in public, because of the man's virtual neglect of him and his siblings for side chick, (and the guy's mother, to her credit, tried to shut him up and tell him to respect his father), but everyone knew the kid was right. Oh yes, everyone knew.

Or the guy whose side chick cleared his entire house after a two year relationship. Took the money too, and vanished.

I did not talk against polygamy, but our ancestors, when they wanted to marry a second wife, observed the usual rituals and ceremonies. They did not keep side chicks.

You are talking like this because you are very young. When you are as 'old' as me, and have seen things, you go take back this your comment.

I can help you... Send me your email address so we establish correspondence

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

The worst advice you can ever give a man.

Until the old enough to live their own life and leave him empty?

He needs to start a new life with another woman so he will not die early

Esthered:
Why are people asking him to allow her take the children with her?
Tomorrow it's the same people that'll be lamenting how children abandon their fathers.
Is she financially and emotionally capable?

I know one guy whose father abandoned him, his brothers and their mother for side chick decades ago

Guy is now married, has two sons. Up till today, he has not taken his children to see the father. Father dey try reach out, nothing at all.

Marriage, e no easy. Yes there are evil manipulative people out there, and yes, some marriages deserve to end, but op self, na I,I I dey his tory.

nairalanda1:
LOL, and all those guys with side chicks, it usually ends, as it happend in one case I know of, of the eldest child of a man cursing his father in public, because of the man's virtual neglect of him and his siblings for side chick, (and the guy's mother, to her credit, tried to shut him up and tell him to respect his father), but everyone knew the kid was right. Oh yes, everyone knew.

Or the guy whose side chick cleared his entire house after a two year relationship. Took the money too, and vanished.

I did not talk against polygamy, but our ancestors, when they wanted to marry a second wife, observed the usual rituals and ceremonies. They did not keep side chicks.

You are talking like this because you are very young. When you are as 'old' as me, and have seen things, you go take back this your comment.

When I say side chick I mean a responsible girl .I don't mean a gold digger or someone that takes your time .

Do not send her away yet

leave the house for her and the kids and be sending them upkeep money

get another place for yourself for your sanity and peace of mind for the time being. A sidechick can help pending when you guys get things back on track

If she loses the marriage in the process, then let it be

some women don't learn, until things go extreme.

She can go for all I care.Make sure you arrange days for the kids to come stay with you for sometime.Also ensure you do proper follow on them.You will be fine.Please pray very well before making any decisions

Apcshit:
When I say side chick I mean a responsible girl .I don't mean a gold digger or someone that takes your time .

Hembelembe.

Una no know that people dey change?

Plus if a girl agrees to be side chick, that one is not a responsible girl. Responsible girls will insist on marriage, and would even run away if they hear that you are married, or even divorced... the ones with slight cunny sense will even either insist they come in as second wife, or that you divorce your wife and marry am.

If a girl comes into a relationship as side chick to a married man, t[b]hat means that she is an evil girl. It means that she is ready to betray her fellow woman for kudi. And a woman who is a betrayer...she will be ready to betray the man next if it suits her[/b].Such girls are to be avoided. Plus such girls are very likely to have side pieces on the side themselves. Remember I said that a side chick has the nature of a betrayer?

LOL at responsible girl being side chick. Even the ones that somehow get there, once their eyes open, palava dey.

See that chidinma who was side chick to that rich man that she unalived? See how innocent she looked, and even kukuma came from a responsible family?

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You even said good side chick should not be gold digger.

By Athena and Aphrodite, and Isis, and Seraphis..are you that innocent, oga? .WHAT DO YOU THINK is the ESSENCE OF A SIDE CHICK RELATIONSHIP? EH? No be money, money, money?

Cc izzou

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