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What was the spark in the relationship before taking her home. Find that spark. Make your marriage interesting. Make you home livable...
Don't be in charge of everything. Give her some responsibility and task in the marriage.
Build the trust you had for her before marriage.

Your kids will get old and leave but you are to spend your entire life with that woman.

Sit down and ask yourself some critical questions of the things you ought to do and not to do.
Note before a woman start denying you her body ... Kindly no that is either you are a cheat or you are comparing her to other women.

Brotherly you can do better. Fix your home

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

Marry 2nd wife and prepare your mind Incase she decided to do nonsense

Abraham married 2 wives and he still remain the father of faith

Kobojunkie:
If your wife is not financially independent at this time, would you let your kids go anywhere with her? I hope not!😒

Go file for an official divorce from your wife in the courts. If you are not an abusive father, you should be able to care for your children while requiring that the courts require your wife to pay child support to you at least until she gets her foot on the ground and can care for the children about half of the time, too. 😒

What about if he didn't do court wedding what business does he then have with the court?

You don talk your own
She never talk her own
So make we judge her by werrin you talk abi
Talk true
Wertin you do her first.....
You no go tell us....

pocohantas:
They are my worry too.
What kind of person is your wife?
Do you trust her parenting skills? I don't trust it from here, but I might be wrong.

I am Surprised you didn't say the story was fake and that the OP hate women. 🤡

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Please tolerate her a little more as long as she doesn't cheat on you.

Be less available at home, try to ignore her sometime. Just focus on yourself and the children, she will soon come back to her sense as she aged. And if you must date another girl, let it be casual and not make it to be obvious to her.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

She's tired of the marriage. Let her go!

If your mom is alive you can take the kids to her or you take them instead and get a maid

yemmit90:
Please tolerate her a little more as long as she doesn't cheat on you.

Be less available at home, try to ignore her sometime. Just focus on yourself and the children, she will soon come back to her sense as she aged. And if you must date another girl, let it be casual and not make it to be obvious to her.

Madness

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

Arrant madness. Better to let her go than for the young man to Kpai all in the name of marriage

mysticwarrior:
What about if he didn't do court wedding what business does he then have with the court?

Assuming the guy is a christian, during the marriage ceremony he and his wife would have signed a Statutory marriage certificate or form E...which is basically as good as saying he went to court for the marriage.

If the church is not licensed to offer the statutory marriage certificate, then it is advised that the copule does a court marriage before going to church.

So, yeah, the guy has business with the court if he wants to divorce, so long as he signed a Statutory marriage certificate, form E.

Same thing for mosque, and presumably for traditionalists.

mysticwarrior:
What about if he didn't do court wedding what business does he then have with the court?

For traditional marriages, customary courts also fall under courts, unless the man and woman were merely cohabitating all of this time. 😒

Goo0dHardDick:
Madness

Not madness, for every action, there is always reaction. We don't live with them, and I am very sure op too will have some shortcomings he won't tell us here in his narrative. Women became wise as they aged, as long as a woman doesn't sleep around, you can definitely manage her if you are smart enough.

Every woman on earth are intolerable especially if you are looking for perfection from them. The most viable way wise men used to address such situation is to become less available at home.

Goo0dHardDick:
I am Surprised you didn't say the story was fake and that the OP hate women. 🤡

Because he isn't a 🤡 like you.
Nice to see you are still hurt. 🙂

That load she's preparing she's trying to blackmail you... Let her go dammit... Make the process fast for her. Let her go with the kids bro. 30 days is enough for you to become normal

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Can you swear that you have not had sex with another in those 7 years? If yes, then why send your children caregiver away? It is obvious to me from "this girl does not want me to touch her", that you don't respect your wife as you should. When a marriage has produced children then that marriage is no longer about the feelings or interest of husband and wife but of the children, every decision should be about protecting them but only responsible men think like that and endure for the children. Therefore, you can ignore her and let her take care of your children while you continue to get sex how you have been getting it for 7 years now but i think if you get off your high horse and show some respect towards your wife you'll get it back in return not by bringing your "family" to mock her and disrepect her further in the name of "talking" to her only weak men do that to their wife.

Once a woman starts denying you sex, she can kill you. She has someone else in mind.
Send her back so that she can find the love of her life.

Going through the exact same thing now just that my marriage is a year younger than yours.

First of all, I am sorry you're going through this. The pain nor be here, but you have to bite that bullet if it has reach this point.

Lest you commit murder unintentionally!!

Bros, if na your spirit tell you to do this thing, you 100% know.

If na by vibes, you also 100% know.

But one thing is sure, you don't want to remain there for your kids to use as a manual of how NOT to be in a marriage.

If na boys, very dangerous. You're teaching them to live in/endure disrespect and maltreatment.

For girls it is even worse because they will be served hot breakfast by boys/men who will not tolerate such behavior, assuming said girl(s) get married.

Remember that a woman's behavior towards a man in romance is usually a magnification of the mother's behavior towards the father, if said woman grew with both parents.

Denial of sex is usually accepted grounds for divorce, especially for this length of time.

So again, who has your wife been giving coochie for the last seven years?

Don't stay there and be pitying someone who doesn't give an eff about you, Sir.

Before she and her boyfriend will kpai you O.

Me I nearly died because I come from a place where we don't cheat, unless they want their spouse to die whichever direction the cheating may be.
Happens faster if the cheated spouse knows and does/says nothing.

This woman knew the above and still went ahead to cheat.
Me I was "aware" to the extent of calling her literally before she "fell" on the guy's dick yet she denied doing wrong.

A few weeks later I was so sick that I realised she had cheated that day I suspected her and sent her away.

Her response was a drama of the highest quality but men mount.

And pro tip......Do NOT request for your bride price until your children are in your custody. This one no dull o, if not you go sell your children Sahara!

Kwechiri my man, lest you be described to your children in glowing terms by a mother who couldn't stand you alive while you're encased in concrete six feet under the ground.

I come peacefully 🙏🙏

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

You have to man up. Don't allow your emotions to be your decision maker. There is this movement now trending that women who are not under any man's make more money that those in their husbands house. My only advice to you is that, if you guys eventually go separate ways, before you send money for upkeep for those children, make sure you CONDUCT a DNA test on them so that you will be sure you are spending your money on your biological children.

Lithiumite:
Take her home to her parents,am I the only one not understanding.......book a bus ticket for her nah.

On a serious note,you don't need to bother yourself too much,never go violent on the mother of your children,quietly get yourself a place to stay that no one except maybe one or 2 people you trust will know,quietly leave the house for her.....trust me she will start calling you within 2 days,within a month she will gradually start coming back to her senses.

As for the kids only cover their basic needs just enough for them to feed,no excesses,pay school fees directly to the school,be prepared not to see them for a whole year or 2 if possible.

You are a wicked person. See the kind of bad advice you are giving this man towards his wife and kids. Have you heard from the wife? No woman sets out to be wicked.

Hmmmmm2024:
You have to man up. Don't allow your emotions to be your decision maker. There is this movement now trending that women who are not under any man's make more money that those in their husbands house. My only advice to you is that, if you guys eventually go separate ways, before you send money for upkeep for those children, make sure you CONDUCT a DNA test on them so that you will be sure you are spending your money on your biological children.

Oil nor go ever finish for your head!

This DNA own na me you dey tell, just call me with your full chest😂💀💔

Lol. A lot of people here are single. Its very obvious. It shows your level of maturity to come online to ask for advise on a 7yr marriage with 2 kids. The issue here is obviously communication. So you think you will marry and there will be no conflict? How you manage conflict determines the outcome of your marriage. If you marry again 10 times, there will still be conflict. If you have not matured to the stage of resolving conflict and not obsessed with always being right or having your way. All those marriages will fail too.

Bro this type of action you talk less and act much. You don't plan to do this and uou start ringing the bell you are putting yourself in more dilemma if you mean business do it codedly telling us here shows you are not ready yet, it shows you are not tired yet so enjoy the situation bit more and when you are tired you will act like a man without noise.

Chief Judge

You judged unjustly
Have you heard from the other party?

jaguar1997:
Take her home
You should come first before any person including your kids.

If you not ok you won't be able to take care of anyone 🙂
Be selfish to save yourself

She has to go so she won't kill you before your time .


Life has no duplicate
No reverse no rewind.
Manage yourself well
To fulfill what you are sent to do on earth ..
Leave your mark on earth do not allow anyone to kill your dreams..

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

What sort of advice is this? To prove himself to toddlers?

Even if he sacrifices his life for them, children can never appreciate their fathers enough because they are not just mature enough to realise it. When they eventually do, the man is too old or long gone.

We all have individual lives to live and men didn't come to this world to suffer for anyone. We are not the second Christ. Our only responsibility is to take care of those entrusted in our care to the best of our comfortable ability. No more, no less.

If the wife is misbehaving, send her away because you deserve your peace of mind. You can't spend your time and resources on caring for people who spit in your face. If she can't take care of the kids, she will ask for money and you give. The only crime is if you have, and you don't.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Too much nolloywood

How can you send somebody you cannot control to her family house. Dont be surprise that another man is waiting to receive her

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Both of you should see a counselor.

nairalanda1:


Hembelembe.

Una no know that people dey change?

Plus if a girl agrees to be side chick, that one is not a responsible girl. Responsible girls will insist on marriage, and would even run away if they hear that you are married, or even divorced... the ones with slight cunny sense will even either insist they come in as second wife, or that you divorce your wife and marry am.

If a girl comes into a relationship as side chick to a married man, t[b]hat means that she is an evil girl. It means that she is ready to betray her fellow woman for kudi. And a woman who is a betrayer...she will be ready to betray the man next if it suits her[/b].Such girls are to be avoided. Plus such girls are very likely to have side pieces on the side themselves. Remember I said that a side chick has the nature of a betrayer?

LOL at responsible girl being side chick. Even the ones that somehow get there, once their eyes open, palava dey.

See that chidinma who was side chick to that rich man that she unalived? See how innocent she looked, and even kukuma came from a responsible family?

Modified

You even said good side chick should not be gold digger.

By Athena and Aphrodite, and Isis, and Seraphis..are you that innocent, oga? .WHAT DO YOU THINK is the ESSENCE OF A SIDE CHICK RELATIONSHIP? EH? No be money, money, money?

You have a negative and twisted mindset sir. I am sorry for you.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of things.


I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Send her home.
Even if u didn't send her now, u will later send her.
So it's better u do it now because its obvious everything has ended and dead naturally.
Don't force it because it can't resurrect.

DaddyGoo:
Going through the exact same thing now just that my marriage is a year younger than yours.

First of all, I am sorry you're going through this. The pain nor be here, but you have to bite that bullet if it has reach this point.

Lest you commit murder unintentionally!!

Bros, if na your spirit tell you to do this thing, you 100% know.

If na by vibes, you also 100% know.

But one thing is sure, you don't want to remain there for your kids to use as a manual of how NOT to be in a marriage.

If na boys, very dangerous. You're teaching them to live in/endure disrespect and maltreatment.

For girls it is even worse because they will be served hot breakfast by boys/men who will not tolerate such behavior, assuming said girl(s) get married.

Remember that a woman's behavior towards a man in romance is usually a magnification of the mother's behavior towards the father, if said woman grew with both parents.

Denial of sex is usually accepted grounds for divorce, especially for this length of time.

So again, who has your wife been giving coochie for the last seven years?

Don't stay there and be pitying someone who doesn't give an eff about you, Sir.

Before she and her boyfriend will kpai you O.

Me I nearly died because I come from a place where we don't cheat, unless they want their spouse to die whichever direction the cheating may be.
Happens faster if the cheated spouse knows and does/says nothing.

This woman knew the above and still went ahead to cheat.
Me I was "aware" to the extent of calling her literally before she "fell" on the guy's dick yet she denied doing wrong.

A few weeks later I was so sick that I realised she had cheated that day I suspected her and sent her away.

Her response was a drama of the highest quality but men mount.

And pro tip......Do NOT request for your bride price until your children are in your custody. This one no dull o, if not you go sell your children Sahara!

Kwechiri my man, lest you be described to your children in glowing terms by a mother who couldn't stand you alive while you're encased in concrete six feet under the ground.

I come peacefully 🙏🙏

One can only know/say this much from experience. Kudos to you sir, na man you be.

worst advice ever...you want to die early.....

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

Stephen0mozzy:
A woman like this, she'll then go outside and cheat and then say, because you were keeping malice with her. Remember Frank Edoho?

A woman like this needs to be made to realize her place.... I say OP file for a divorce and seek full custody of the children, that way she can't take the children away.

Then he can make arrangements, for a live-in nanny from a reputable hiring firm to care for the kids.

He missed it at the beginning. The first show of disrespect MUST be severely rebuked so there's no incentive to try it again, ever.

I will tolerate anything but disrespect in any form.

The woman can go ahead and cheat if she wants, and what makes you think she's not cheating already?.

GloriousGbola:
Cc izz.ou

Thank me later

Hahahahahaha.
I am choking here.
Izzòu go too get job this season.
Everybody blood dey hot. 😂😂😂