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I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else. I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

this one loud oh. abeg make una go for complete check up, una gametes, sperm, egg, fallopian tube to uterus/womb, rhesus composition.

Hmmm... 🤔🤔🤔



This is strong o!

Exercise patience sir. When the time is right, you will get your heart's desire.

Privateworld:
➜I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else. I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

Since you did traditional marriage(and assuming you registered the marriage), find your way to the traditional court and file the necessary papers. Make sure the girl is aware of your intentions, so she can deal with the emotional fallout and decide what to do from there. Call up her parents and schedule a date to return the bride price. And then you can go from there to find yourself a future babymama. 😒

We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

Eba50:
this one loud oh. abeg make una go for complete check up, una gametes, sperm, egg, fallopian tube, rhesus composition.

We didnt do court marriage, its just the traditional.

Kobojunkie:
Since you did traditional marriage(and assuming you registered the marriage), find your way to the traditional court and file the necessary papers. Make sure the girl is aware of your intentions, so she can deal with the emotional fallout and decide what to do from there. Call up her parents and schedule a date to return the bride price. And then you can go from there to find yourself a future babymama. 😒

Honestlyi don't have that patience again. I'm already tired. I don't want to wait and regret later

HeatSeeker:
Hmmm... 🤔🤔🤔



This is strong o!

Exercise patience sir. When the time is right, you will get your heart's desire.

Privateworld:
➜We didnt do court marriage, its just the traditional.

Usually, to have a marriage, you have to file papers in the courts, regardless of what type of marriage it is, and this works the same way in Nigeria. If you didn't file any official documents, then what you have is a marriage in the word-of-mouth sense of it, aka cohabitation. 😒

How would you feel if you were the infertile one, your wife wasn't patient and wanted out?

And how sure are you that she's the problem and not you?

Okay if that what it means then yes sir

Kobojunkie:
Usually, to have a marriage, you have to file papers in the courts, regardless of what type of marriage it is, and this works the same way in Nigeria. If you didn't file any official documents, then what you have is a marriage in the word-of-mouth sense of it, aka cohabitation. 😒

Privateworld:
Okay if that what it means then yes sir

If you filed official marriage papers, then you need to notify the courts of your divorce. 😒

I'm not the problem cos we have done all the necessary test. And if i was the one with issue I'm sure she will leave without looking back.

Samantha125:
How would you feel if you were the infertile one, your wife wasn't patient and wanted out?

And how sure are you that she's the problem and not you?

How would you feel if she left you based on your infertility?

Privateworld:
I'm not the problem cos we have done all the necessary test. And if i was the one with issue I'm sure she will leave without looking back.

There is nothing official we did. No files or documents. Simply went with my folks to meet her people and did the necessary traditional rites.

Kobojunkie:
If you filed official marriage papers, then you need to notify the courts of your divorce. 😒

Privateworld:
➜There is nothing official we did. No files or documents. Simply went with my folks to meet her people and did the necessary traditional rites.

So, you two were essentially cohabitating. Oh well, inform the woman of your intentions, and then go ahead and make an appointment with her parents. 😒

Alright appreciated

Kobojunkie:
So, you two were essentially cohabitating. Oh well, inform the woman of your intentions, and then go ahead and make an appointment with her parents. 😒

Omo mehnnnn, no love left in the world

"Her womb isn't working, 2 years don knack oya make i return item back to the shop and get a refund".

Then God will hear her cries, bless her and your next wife will be perfectly fine but nothing will happen for 6 years

Don't get this wrong but this aint nollywood though. Lets drop emotions aside. How about we split and i find someone else, get married and have kids. While, she finds someone else get married again and have kids.

Onegai:
Omo mehnnnn, no love left in the world

"Her womb isn't working, 2 years don knack oya make i return item back to the shop and get a refund".

Then God will hear her cries, bless her and your next wife will be perfectly fine but nothing will happen for 6 years

Privateworld:
We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

if you truly loves her
Go for IVF
Surrogate mother is best solution now!

How people marry wickedness is a mystery to me till this day!
Because of how set his heart is to be wicked, he has forgotten that he paid the bride price...he wants to return what he paid!

Privateworld:
Don't get this wrong but this aint nollywood though. Lets drop emotions aside. How about we split and i find someone else, get married and have kids. While, she finds someone else get married again and have kids.

My brother, you don't know the value of marriage and are treating it like a transaction. So because you're not yet benefitting, you're ready to leave as quickly as possible.

One Doctor told you PCOS (which is very easily treatable but you didn't even wait one moment, you're looking to replace her.

You don't seem like you're capable of loving or putting anyone else above your wants. Which is unfortunately quite common and even celebrated in moral society nowadays.

If you have an accident and they tell your wifeyour recovery period will be over 1 year and she says she can't wait and dumps you and hopes you find another woman to care for you, you will be very angry and feel betrayed.

You won't be able to take what you dish out. Most people can't.

This isn't emotions talking, just cold ,calm facts.

Privateworld:
We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

You are leaving your wife because she has pcos? Na wah oooo.

Privateworld:
Honestlyi don't have that patience again. I'm already tired. I don't want to wait and regret later

Think positive. Everything will be alright

Let her go for pcos n hormonal profile while you go for sperm analysis too

How about getting a second wife?

Onegai:
My brother, you don't know the value of marriage and are treating it like a transaction. So because you're not yet benefitting, you're ready to leave as quickly as possible.

One Doctor told you PCOS (which is very easily treatable but you didn't even wait one moment, you're looking to replace her.

You don't seem like you're capable of loving or putting anyone else above your wants. Which is unfortunately quite common and even celebrated in moral society nowadays.

If you have an accident and they tell your wifeyour recovery period will be over 1 year and she says she can't wait and dumps you and hopes you find another woman to care for you, you will be very angry and feel betrayed.

You won't be able to take what you dish out. Most people can't.

This isn't emotions talking, just cold ,calm facts.

I think he should divorce her. Because he does not sound like he deserves her at all.

Have which kids since you said she's the one who's infertile?

If you really loved her, you'd have been acting as her support system by looking for an egg donor together with a surrogate to be carrying your child and more future children that you'll raise together as a couple... I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you guys sat down and thoroughly discussed about it.

Privateworld:
Don't get this wrong but this aint nollywood though. Lets drop emotions aside. How about we split and i find someone else, get married and have kids. While, she finds someone else get married again and have kids.

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

What about if the fault is from you?

I no understand ooo abeg which tribe be that way be say na the bride they pay bride price, abi wetin you say you want return again ? no be you supposed collect back your bride price abi na Indian you be Iran or Pakistan

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

What if you re the problem and not her?
What if you re sterile?

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