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Oga you are not a Saint because you're a man what did you do before she started acting up you only presented one side of the story

Precious201010:
The woman can go ahead and cheat if she wants, and what makes you think she's not cheating already?.

So what's the motivation for keeping a might-cheat or already-cheating, disrespectful and poor specimen of a wife?

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

DM me for my residential address. Let her come for holiday in my place for 1month.

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

it's not everything U tolerate, the kids will adapt when growing, they are always like that, let him show her he's in command,
U guys don't know what men go through,
school fees, house rent, waste disposal, Phcn, her in-laws, his own family, feeding etc,
allow him be in-charge of his domain abeg

callmemakaveli:
You have a negative and twisted mindset sir. I am sorry for you.

So you think a girl who desires a relationship with an already married man (polygamists excluded) is a responsible girl?

A girl who is willing to betray her fellow woman, will not betray the man tomorrow if push comes to shove.

Oga, better stop calling me negative and twisted. I know what I have seen. It always never ends well.

nairalanda1:


Hembelembe.

Una no know that people dey change?

Plus if a girl agrees to be side chick, that one is not a responsible girl. Responsible girls will insist on marriage, and would even run away if they hear that you are married, or even divorced... the ones with slight cunny sense will even either insist they come in as second wife, or that you divorce your wife and marry am.

If a girl comes into a relationship as side chick to a married man, t[b]hat means that she is an evil girl. It means that she is ready to betray her fellow woman for kudi. And a woman who is a betrayer...she will be ready to betray the man next if it suits her[/b].Such girls are to be avoided. Plus such girls are very likely to have side pieces on the side themselves. Remember I said that a side chick has the nature of a betrayer?

LOL at responsible girl being side chick. Even the ones that somehow get there, once their eyes open, palava dey.

See that chidinma who was side chick to that rich man that she unalived? See how innocent she looked, and even kukuma came from a responsible family?

Modified

You even said good side chick should not be gold digger.

By Athena and Aphrodite, and Isis, and Seraphis..are you that innocent, oga? .WHAT DO YOU THINK is the ESSENCE OF A SIDE CHICK RELATIONSHIP? EH? No be money, money, money?

I am looking at it from a point of view of When a wife stops sex ,then a man can find a side chick. It isn't a betrayal to her fellow women,it is natural

Apcshit:
I am looking at it from a point of view of When a wife stops sex ,then a man can find a side chick. It isn't a betrayal to her fellow women,it is natural

Lol..NA betrayal. If a woman is able to make a man betray his wife (keep in mind I am not talking about legit polygamy marriages, where everyone knows what they are getting in for)...that woman will betray the man if the opportunity presients itself.



And a side chick is by nature a gold digger. That is the one and only reason why women become side chicks. Gold digging...looking for what they can get. They are not in it for you, they are in it for their pocket.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advise me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

dont don’t do it cos of the kids.u no get money?if u Dey see money set up another side chick and begin to get ur happiness from outside.one woman no fit stress me.

Stephen0mozzy:
So what's the motivation for keeping a might-cheat or already-cheating, disrespectful and poor specimen of a wife?

when she's tired she'll go, I won't waste money filing for divorce.

Post natal something something... Some ogbanje women are not supposed to born. If they born, they go begin run mental. Let her go and heal somewhere or you go and heal somewhere. That space will help her.

Depression and worry kills faster than anything.its in your best interest to chase her away

My boss, you should flee from them. Also did you check a DNA test? Just leave that woman. No matter what, at least you tried, for 7 complete years she didn't bother to stop her character. Leave that woman and make sure you don't get back with her before someone makes you commit murder or suicide.

That's how the first ten years into marriage is.
Don't take her home.
By the way, you appear too authoritative and that's not good in marriage. Your wife is an equal partner...listen to her.

Caaz:
You forgot to add keeping MALICE to the dos and donts you listed.
The way many of you wax freaky ideas into people's heads eeh.....na God go help una.

U wey dey wait make ur husband old come d dey sick and weak then u go start show am pepper nko?
Abi u think say we forget that post?

Collect your children from her and send her back she has someone she is sleeping with that's why she lost interest in you

dawnomike:
Tolerate her for the sake of your kids...

At least, till they are old enough to understand that you were not at fault. Lest their mother poison their young pure beautiful minds against you that you threw them out to re-marry!!!

You sef, she will poison their hearts if she wants to 🤷🏿.

She needs counselling maybe she is passing through postpartum depression.
She really needs prayers too.
There's nothing God cannot do.

IyanAtiEgusi:
U wey dey wait make ur husband old come d dey sick and weak then u go start show am pepper nko?
Abi u think say we forget that post?

Jealousy is the last class to attend before becoming a WIZARD.



Roll in your MUD Alone.

No one is asking of his own relationship with the woman for her not to be remorseful and ready to leave

Ilola:
No one is asking of his own relationship with the woman for her not to be remorseful and ready to leave

. What is the point of asking any such when the woman herself is not here to verify any of what he says? He, an adult, has made up his mind to leave said woman. He technically has a right to leave the marriage whenever he is done. So, the concern should be more on the welfare of the children in the situation at this point. 😒

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

If you have decided on separating and you want to be in contact with your children, rent an accommodation for them within your area. Then start custody proceedings whether permanently to you or co parenting.

Send her away

Let her do her worst

Wetin men dey even benefit from marriage sef

Seek the help of God before marriage, you say it's old school. Don't send her away, take her to your pastor for counseling.

Seek a spiritual help and a Christian psychologist. Sending her away won't please God and your children will be exposed.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

take your problem to GOD. You want men that will not give you permanent solution to give you a temporary one. Take your problem to GOD!

Precious201010:
What I'm about to say might sound funny.... Don't send her away, but cut of from her emotionally and romantically..

Provide for the family as you have been doing, pay your children school fees directly to their school, apart from feeding money don't give her any money again...

If she try initiating intimacy tell her that you're no longer interested... Trust me she'll be the one fighting to save the marriage...

Really funny

Be fast about it, a nagging wife can kill

Osanoghodua1:
Seek the help of God before marriage, you say it's old school. Don't send her away, take her to your pastor for counseling.

Seek a spiritual help and a Christian psychologist. Sending her away won't please God and your children will be exposed.

She can't change

She doesn't like and respect the man, and I guess the man isn't rich enough for her to manage him

Guy, you come first, the children will be fine. If she succeeds in sending you to your early grave (God forbids), the children will be fine. Quietly let her be and be there for the children, foodstuff, school fees (buy the food and pay fees directly to the school); starve her of physical cash, and see the narrative taking a different twist. Unfortunately, someone is playing the drum she is dancing to its beats. He eyes go soon open when the drummer suddenly stops drumming.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

You married the wrong woman

There's no solution than to just separate from her

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

We can't conclude, unless we hear from her.

pocohantas:
Hahahahahaha.
I am choking here.
Izzòu go too get job this season.
Everybody blood dey hot. 😂😂😂

when last u choke on something good?

Beninwitch:
You are a wicked person. See the kind of bad advice you are giving this man towards his wife and kids. Have you heard from the wife? No woman sets out to be wicked.

Thats the best thing to do in a hostile situation like this,tge guy is telling you he is at a breaking point already,tempers already flairing,only a little provocation can resort to violence then you start saying the man is evil......the best thing to do in situations like this is for the man to excuse himself and let time heal the anger.....both parties might just need a little time to cool off ,I am even buying the woman tine to come to her senses,instead of returning to her parents .