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When marriage is being discussed—whether online or offline—you rarely hear people talk about consummation challenges. Yet it’s just as important as planning a fancy proposal. I believe this is an experience that can leave you traumatized, stressed, or dealing with sleepless anxiety.

I got married recently and prepared everything to the best of my knowledge and ability. I watched clips online about marriage, but I hardly saw anyone addressing this topic. Maybe a few people make content on it, but not nearly enough.

To be honest, everything I heard or read about the wedding night was either inaccurate or lacking real detail. All the talk about pre-intimacy and types of lubricant just isn’t enough. From my own experience, I realized that most intending couples simply don’t have enough reliable information about this.

I used to think the hymen was just a soft, flexible membrane that could be pierced with a little push. Well, I learned that the hard way. Two weeks after our wedding, my wife was still a virgin. Despite all the pre-intimacy (like babying sitting an adult) and lubrication (like a locomotive train), I felt like I was wearing a learner’s tag around my neck.

But in the end—we’ll all be alright.

How do you know your wife is a virgin? Read below

QuinQ:
How do you know your wife is a virgin? Read below

What's your insinuation, because you have not contributed to the topic yet.

ComingKing:
What's your insinuation, because you have not contributed to the topic yet.

No insinuation at all. I just want to marry a virgin
and I want to know how to know one in view of the above screenshots

QuinQ:
No insinuation at all. I just want to marry a virgin
and I want to know how to know one in view of the above screenshots

If God favours you, you will get one.
Forget about what you posted in the screenshot. I wrote in my earlier, most of the information online are less helpful, until you experience yourself.

By the way, any virgin lady will tell you if they are.

ComingKing:
By the way, any virgin lady will tell you if they are.

That's my problem - how do I know they telling truth. Remember that guy about to marry 32-year-old "virgin" doctor. Come to find out she had abortion!

ComingKing:
➜To be honest, everything I heard or read about the wedding night was either inaccurate or lacking real detail. All the talk about pre-intimacy and types of lubricant just isn’t enough. From my own experience, I realized that most intending couples simply don’t have enough reliable information about this.
I used to think the hymen was just a soft, flexible membrane that could be pierced with a little push. Well, I learned that the hard way. Two weeks after our wedding, my wife was still a virgin. Despite all the pre-intimacy (like babying sitting an adult) and lubrication (like a locomotive train), I felt like I was wearing a learner’s tag around my neck. But in the end—we’ll all be alright.

You only read what you wanted to read as you remain absolutely clueless still. A short video on YouTube would have easily filled you in on the Virginity myth.😒

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9sFGQd1v4qs?si=uyLfDcBgSiea8rB2

Are you by any chance an Islamist? I ask because Islamic women have, for centuries, used a trick to fake the blood on the wedding night thing. Maybe you should have looked it up for your wife before the wedding night. Unfortunately, the process is painful and possibly dangerous for many such women who use it. 😒

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFTdTnV8hmg?si=Eejx-RBIVTrf28uq

Religion is some serious level mental illness!

Kobojunkie:
You only read what you wanted to read as you remain absolutely clueless still. A short video on YouTube would have easily filled you in on the Virginity myth.😒

Since you are a lady, maybe you can share your knowledge . The random video you share has incomplete information.

So they can't lie?

ComingKing:
If God favours you, you will get one.
Forget about what you posted in the screenshot. I wrote in my earlier, most of the information online are less helpful, until you experience yourself.

By the way, any virgin lady will tell you if they are.

ComingKing:
✓ Since you are a lady, maybe you can share your knowledge . The random video you share has incomplete information.

Are you an Islamist? I ask because it generally makes no sense that someone who is not would choose this level of ignorance in 2026 on a matter that is so simple. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Are you an Islamist? I ask because it generally makes no sense that someone who is not would choose this level of ignorance in 2026 on a matter that is so simple. 🥱🥱

What do mean by Islamist?
This topic has nothing to do with religion

Samantha125:
So they can't lie?

There high possibilities for that.
But but there should be a way to figure that out.

Figure it out how when some virgins don't have hymens?

ComingKing:
There high possibilities for that.
But but there should be a way to figure that out.

ComingKing:
✓ What do mean by Islamist?
This topic has nothing to do with religion

The concept of virginity comes squarely from the domain of religion/traditions. If you are going to have us believe next that you don't also know this at this point, then I would need to hope I am not here conversing with a minor. 🥱

Kobojunkie:
The concept of virginity comes squarely from the domain of religion/traditions. If you are going to have us believe next that you don't also know this at this point, then I would need to hope I am not here conversing with a minor. 🥱

Virginity is a biological phenomenon and has nothing to do religious view. Every female child or at least above 90% are born BIOLOGICALLY with hymen.

To bring you back to the Topic, am not talking about the concept of Virginity here, but the course of getting the hymen out of the way.

ComingKing:
➜Virginity is a biological phenomenon and has nothing to do religious view. Every female child or at least above 90% are born BIOLOGICALLY with hymen.
To bring you back to the Topic, am not talking about the concept of Virginity here, but the course of getting the hymen out of the way.

OMOGOSH!!! I am actually conversing with a minor here... abeg, make I waka pass! 😒😒

Samantha125:
Figure it out how when some virgins don't have hymens?

Well, you still get a tight entrance no matter what. And if you get to meet who lied about what you are asking for, then the relationship itself is built on falsehood and should collapse.

Kobojunkie:
OMOGOSH!!! I am actually conversing with a minor here... abeg, make I waka pass! 😒😒

Eshe OG, awon ti old school ton Jo Garala sorin Tetuila