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“My money is my money, his money is for all of us” – Woman sparks debate with bold views on marriage

A Muslim woman has sparked reactions online after sharing her views on marriage, finances, and the responsibilities of a husband in the home.

According to a now-viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), she argued that a husband should be solely responsible for providing for the family, while a wife’s earnings remain exclusively hers.

In her words, she said:

“My husband cannot say I should come and pay school fees with him. It’s not done. My money is my money. His money is for all of us. He has to provide everything.”

She explained that her position is based on her understanding of Islamic teachings, maintaining that a man is expected to cater for his family’s needs regardless of his wife’s financial status.

“You can’t pick a child from Banana Island and take her to Agege. How will she survive? You can’t pick a child that has grown up with maids and chefs and everybody around, then ask her to come and do her laundry by herself,” she added.

Her comments have generated mixed reactions online, with some agreeing that a husband should bear the primary responsibility of providing for the household, while others insisted that marriage should be a partnership involving shared responsibilities.

The video continues to trend on social media as Nigerians debate gender roles, financial obligations, and expectations in marriage.

“My husband cannot come and say I should come and pay school fees with him, it’s not done… My money is my money. His money is for all of us. That’s what Islam says…” pic.twitter.com/1vxv1aRXGw

— @𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗷𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗯𝗼𝘆 (@OneJoblessBoy) May 30, 2026

Notice how it’s always single women making all these declarations. It shows they are out of touch with reality. Na their type dey silent collect anything them see for marriage.

Let them make you keep producing children; you are the one that will suffer to train the producer and the produced...and when you are old and can no longer provide, the producer will go stay with the produced.
Men must receive sense by force!

But his debt is not your debt, theif in human flesh

She is 100% correct,in Islam,it is the husband's duty to provide for the household.
No matter how rich the wife is, it is not compulsory for her to provide but she can support the household.

Al rijal qawwamun ala nisa" (الرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ) is a well-known phrase from the 34th verse of Surah An-Nisa in the Quran (4:34). It translates to: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women".The verse outlines the foundational roles and responsibilities within a marriage in Islam.
Its core concepts are:
Maintenance and Protection: The verse states that men are designated as caretakers because God has given them strengths to excel over others, and because they are required to spend their wealth to provide for and protect their families.

Reciprocal Rights: Scholars emphasize that this role implies heavy responsibilities rather than absolute authority. Men are required to ensure the financial security, physical safety, and overall well-being of their families.

EmperorIsaac:
Let them make you keep producing children; you are the one that will suffer to train the producer and the produced...and when you are old and can no longer provide, the producer will go stay with the produced.
Men must receive sense by force!

This woman is right! According to Islam, a woman's money belongs to her. So the woman is right in determining that in her Islamic marriage, her money should belong to her. Unfortunately for her, the arrangement also determines that since she is her husband's property in marriage, he can decide whether she can work during the marriage or not. 😒

For non-Islamic marriages, however, these rules do not apply at all. 😒

I keep saying this marriage is a complete scam. It's a trap it's better you marry 3 wives than one entitled thief let all of them go and hustle just do your best to get your own home 🏠. I can never die because of any woman never I rather get baby mama

Well, I heard this is the standard in Islam.
I wish Gloriousgbola gave me update.

I am a man and most of the married women I know, including my own relatives, are helping their husbands financially, some are even the bread winners. All these talks of "my money is my money" is unrealistic for someone who really wants to get married.

Gone are the days when men used to earn significantly higher than women. Nowadays, most women are working and earning, some even earn far more than their husbands, so how do you run a family while earning money and expecting your husband to foot all bills. It doesn't work that way.

That's good for you, please we need the kidnapped victims in your state released.

The woman worwor,her thunder dey do press up

Lazy gender...always seeing men as poverty allevation programme

Using islam to defend her lazy nature but when the man now use same religion to marry more wives..it becomes a problem, hypocrite

This is getting interesting

it might be that she is the one chesting al d bills in her house, cos she see camera begin yarn dust

At the end that’s the kind of women that fits so many me to be honest

Na your so called husband I blame

She's a real and intentional woman, well, let wait for some of them who tend to speak and type words from both side of their mouths/keypads to say something else.

pocohantas:
Well, I heard this is the standard in Islam.
I wish Gloriousgbola gave me update.

I am not sure

What I do know is that prophet Muhammad's first wife was a widow was older than him, was wealthy, originally employed him

Most of the people who make all this noise are always pako. When I saw noise about banana island I thought I would see a fresh looking chick. Instead na one hard face babe with simian features.

I can always take care of the necessity-stuffs at home, but am not buying her clothes, cream, shoes, accessories, data, transport, her personal stuffs etc... she will take care of private self.

Am not doing any surprise, birthday gift, hangout for her too.

after sharing her views on marriage, finances, and the responsibilities of a husband in the home.

Just make sure u sort out all that long talk b4 u marry him and not after u marry him or else u are on ur own cos after marriage u take what ur husband can comfortably do or support him to do more by bringing ur own money.

So islam says the man should do everything no problem so what does islam say the wife should do?

After alll her talking the man will marry 5 other wives according to islam and she will be negelected intentionally or unintentionally.

Banana island my foot! Na eko atlantic

GloriousGbola:
I am not sure

What I do know is that prophet Muhammad's first wife was a widow was older than him, was wealthy, originally employed him

Most of the people who make all this noise are always pako. When I saw noise about banana island I thought I would see a fresh looking chick. Instead na one hard face babe with simian features.

So after she employed him, he went to marry second wife? Okunrin! 😩

Lol! I didn't even listen to anything she said. That line of owning all her money and co-owning her husband's already told me she isn't balanced.

Axis313:
She is 100% correct,in Islam,it is the husband's duty to provide for the household.
No matter how rich the wife is, it is not compulsory for her to provide but she can support the household.

Al rijal qawwamun ala nisa" (الرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ) is a well-known phrase from the 34th verse of Surah An-Nisa in the Quran (4:34). It translates to: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women".The verse outlines the foundational roles and responsibilities within a marriage in Islam.
Its core concepts are:
Maintenance and Protection: The verse states that men are designated as caretakers because God has given them strengths to excel over others, and because they are required to spend their wealth to provide for and protect their families.

Reciprocal Rights: Scholars emphasize that this role implies heavy responsibilities rather than absolute authority. Men are required to ensure the financial security, physical safety, and overall well-being of their families.

Thanks a million times for your brilliant insights 👏👍🙏

pocohantas:
So after she employed him, he went to marry second wife? Okunrin! 😩

Lol! I didn't even listen to anything sje said. That line of owning all her money and co-owning her husband's already told me she isn't balanced.

In spite of my issues with Aisha, for the time and place the man was progressive

It was simply a fact of life at the time.

And Old school Arabs were far more fked than these red pill wan kers

They were literally burying baby girls alive.

That was one of the first things that was put a stop to

It's easier said than done.

Come online to spew nonsense, but in reality they do, or even take worse.

Make una dey talk quick.she says is from the Quran not her personal decision.

Is good to listen or read before judging

Thunder wey go fire this woman still dey do press up

When menopause start to creep in his money will be his money and your money Will be for the family, and another fact is that the richer the Man the more side chicks he is likely to have because he can afford them.

Axis313:
She is 100% correct,in Islam,it is the husband's duty to provide for the household.
No matter how rich the wife is, it is not compulsory for her to provide but she can support the household.

Al rijal qawwamun ala nisa" (الرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ) is a well-known phrase from the 34th verse of Surah An-Nisa in the Quran (4:34). It translates to: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women".The verse outlines the foundational roles and responsibilities within a marriage in Islam.
Its core concepts are:
Maintenance and Protection: The verse states that men are designated as caretakers because God has given them strengths to excel over others, and because they are required to spend their wealth to provide for and protect their families.

Reciprocal Rights: Scholars emphasize that this role implies heavy responsibilities rather than absolute authority. Men are required to ensure the financial security, physical safety, and overall well-being of their families.

..... Most of the Nigeria Muslims live in the North which is also the most impoverished segment of the country, in these situations how can poor men provide for their multiple wives if they adhere to Islamic teachings, or is that why we see most northern women in IDP camps or begging as a profession in the south.

Tomorrow that pikin go come dey celebrate their mama pass
The world has never been fair to men 💔