My Husband Is Already Cheating Three(3) Weeks After Our Wedding

“I can’t talk to anyone. I’m still in shock. I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me. I feel like I want a divorce already.

I don’t think I can ever let him touch me again. How do I handle or get past this? Does any one have a cheating husband? Does this get worse? I’m loosing my mind, please advise…

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In a traditional african society a man is entitled to more than one wife- laws of lagos and Yoruba land.
Why not sit him down and discuss the problem with him.

you saw pictures and you want to divorce him, if you catch him on bed with a woman, what will you then do? Divorce him na and come and marry my own.

Op put ur source na, lindaikejiblog.

"Seek and you shall find".

Before people start giving you funny ideas that could break your marriage; I want to leave you with this old rural adage: "If everybody begin look wetin dey inside river before them drink water, na him be say nonody go drink water again".

1. Surprise him. Invite him for an evening walk, a movie or somewhere naturally calm and cosy...thats if you haven't confronted him already. There, you bring up the topic and trash it out...away from third parties. If he is reasonable, he will respect you.

2. Leave his phone alone. You have yours.
Trust me; if he picks up your phone and gently runs a peruse, he will see a couple of things that would be frowned at...not necessarily promiscuity.

Everybody is entitled to a degree of privacy...no matter the intimacy you share.

#TruthIsBitter

How was he prior to marriage? Did he have loads of girlfriends? Did you overlook it?

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I don't think that constitutes enough reason to go for a divorce.

I think you need to sit down, discuss and trash the issue out with him.

He's probably still got the flirting mentality he had as a bachelor. He'll soon get out of it.

4 him to be begging another gal for nude pics just three weeks after your wedding simply means that its either there's a fault from you or he has always been like that before your marriage so first take every thought of divorce off your head and sit down quietly n talk to him first .

My sis,divorce is not the best option for you because your marriage is so young,why can't you communicate your fears to him and sort it out.what you should focus on is how to make your marriage work.
I have learnt not to check my husbands phone so as not kill myself with unreasonable assumptions.Enjoy your home

omg, whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

seriously u need to have a heart to heart talk with him, my dear u have a lot to deal with in dis marriage. i pray God gives u wisdom.

Op come back and answer a couple of questions before we proceed.

Omexonomy: In a traditional african society a man is entitled to more than one wife- laws of lagos and yoruba land.
Why not sit him down and discuss the problem with him.

if you don't have something meaningful upstairs to type or comment, then keep mute . Stop showing us your stupidity, we are tired of it. You talk as if no man in your land as never or will never marry more than 1 wife willingly or non willingly.
@topic, my simple advice to you, talk to him , let him reason that such act is too early in your marriage and the act will never sow the seed of goodness. If he does not change , then the ball is in your court either to move on or move away.
Jah Bless

Just 3weeks and you are considering divorce? What the fùck is wrong with you?


I can bet that you never really love him and wanted to marry him in the first place! Smh.

Thinking about Divorce without finding out what the whole stuff is all about is kinda hasty. You need to gather all the evidence that you can then have a serious talk with him.

Omexonomy: In a traditional african society a man is entitled to more than one wife- laws of lagos and Yoruba land.
Why not sit him down and discuss the problem with him.

Bro,

dridowu: if i don't have something meaningful upstairs to type or comment, then i should keep mute . I should Stop showing people my stupidity, i am tired of it. I talk as if no man in my family as never or will never marry more than 1 wife willingly or non willingly.
Jah Bless

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Danhumprey: Bro,

yes boss how may i help u

Op,you'd have to try as much as possible to calm yourself,you can only talk to someone if and when you're calm,talk to yourself first,be at ease,try not to get angry or look for faults in your self,do not think there's something wrong with you...after you've calmed down,send him a message,about what you saw,tell him you'd like for him to come home and give you an explanation,you probably don't need any,but you need to get a reaction from him,and the only way to get one is by calmly asking for it.
Might be that he still does not know what marriage is all about,no one knows what marriage is about until they're in it, perhaps he is still thinking like a bachelor. ..if he was thinking like a married man,you won't see anything at all,you might not even have access to his phone,biko leave his phone alone.

I f you no go peep him phone, you for dey as happy as you bin dey oooo . .


Sorry though. Ask him about it. Then and only then, will you know your next move. This is a big NO-NO

.....And you didn't upload the pics on face book and NL, that's the first thing I would have done if I were you .So the world will have a piece of her sexiness, decide what to do with your husband afterwards.



What's with this leave his phone people are advising? Nawaoooh!!! Nah only una know as una take marry una own.

Busted! Copy and paste story straight from linda ikeji's blog.

As usual but wetin consain me



I just dey waka pass.i fit come back come bring my brand new mat

Dont ask for divorce

Na wa ooooo

Jenchi: My Husband Is Already Cheating Three(3) Weeks After Our Wedding

“I can’t talk to anyone. I’m still in shock. I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me. I feel like I want a divorce already.

I don’t think I can ever let him touch me again. How do I handle or get past this? Does any one have a cheating husband? Does this get worse? I’m loosing my mind, please advise…

only 3 weeks after your wedding? it must have something to do with your snoring or your body odour.

He must have been cheating before the wedding. So how come you didn't notice
-are you not observant?
-or is he such a great pretender?
-or you thought he would change?
But If he just started under 3weeks (after your wedding), then there is provision for you to talk to him.
You know him better, we don't. You are in a better position to advice you.

Am definitely not leaving my husband over any side chick / #hoe#

cocospice: Op put ur source na, lindaikejiblog.

I tire oo. See how she carry the tin like say na her mata.

Quiting has never solved any problem. So you want to run away from your marriage because of this small matter?



Luckily for you, you've discovered a dent in your marriage early on. What you should be concerned with is how to repair the dent and not running away.

Every woman has got the power to tame her man. The fact that a lady like you is tickling the fancy of your husband, should give you a ray of hope that you can also do that to him and win him back to you.

By the way, There's no perfect marriage anywhere - even ferrytale marriages start with ruff times before ending with happily ever after...

It is time for you to employ all the positive strategy you can think of to win back your husband. Asking for help from women with cheating husbands, is a good way to start, but it may not be that much helpful because every human being is peculiar. Therefore, what worked for one may not work for the other.

You know your husband and God has given you brain, exercise it and see what solution you can come up with to solve your problem.

Stay off your spouse's fone

Did he tell you to answer his phone for him, or you don turn to answering machine.

Danhumprey: Bro,

Sir,you are the stu.pid one because you know nothing about human beings.Monogamy is garbage and polygamy is the way forward for marriages to be truly functional.By the way,who told you human females aren't biologically polygamous?If the male population was three times that of women,women wouldn't mind having a child each from three different men inorder to receive more child welfare packages from the men and even playing the men against themselves.Read the book 'The manipulated man' by Esther Vilar.Its available everywhere