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Good day everyone,

I don’t even know where to start from, but I’ll try to be as honest as possible because I truly need help and direction.

There was a time my life made sense. I ran a good business, had staff working with me, and things were stable. I wasn’t rich, but I was comfortable and hopeful. I had plans. I had structure.

Then everything changed.

My two offices were demolished by the government due to road expansion. Just like that. No proper recovery plan, no real compensation that could help me restart meaningfully. Overnight, I lost my base, my daily operations, and the structure I had built over time.

Since then, it has been one struggle after another.

I tried to bounce back. I really did. Different ideas, different small ventures, different approaches… but nothing has worked. In fact, the more I tried to stand strong again, the more I kept losing the little strength and money I had left.

It got to a point where I started questioning myself.

Maybe I’m the problem.
Maybe I’ve lost my touch.
Maybe I don’t even understand life again.

I’ve applied for jobs—both within my level and even below it—just to have something stable to hold on to, but nothing has come through. Rejections, silence, or no response at all.

Spiritually, I have not been sleeping.

I have fasted.
I have prayed.
I have sought counselling.

But honestly… nothing seems to be changing.

I won’t lie, this phase has affected me deeply. My confidence is not what it used to be. The energy to “try again” is no longer there like before. I wake up some days and just feel blank.

Right now, I’m exhausted.

Not just physically… mentally and emotionally too.

That’s why I’m here.

Please, I need honest advice:

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

How do you restart when everything you try keeps failing?

Should I keep pushing business ideas or completely change direction?

How do you rebuild when you’re already drained?


I’m open to anything—advice, correction, shared experiences, even tough truths.

Thank you for taking your time to read this.

Someone with experience or more knowledge should please respond to the OP. Let's learn.

So sorry you feel this way.

Do you have any skills? if you have to pivot what can you do?

My main advice would be to migrate legally out of the country if you can afford it but I am not sure if you can, so you may have to just totally downsize / live a lower cost of living while rebuilding.

Can I send you a DM?

donwily:
Good day everyone,

I don’t even know where to start from, but I’ll try to be as honest as possible because I truly need help and direction.

There was a time my life made sense. I ran a good business, had staff working with me, and things were stable. I wasn’t rich, but I was comfortable and hopeful. I had plans. I had structure.

Then everything changed.

My two offices were demolished by the government due to road expansion. Just like that. No proper recovery plan, no real compensation that could help me restart meaningfully. Overnight, I lost my base, my daily operations, and the structure I had built over time.

Since then, it has been one struggle after another.

I tried to bounce back. I really did. Different ideas, different small ventures, different approaches… but nothing has worked. In fact, the more I tried to stand strong again, the more I kept losing the little strength and money I had left.

It got to a point where I started questioning myself.

Maybe I’m the problem.
Maybe I’ve lost my touch.
Maybe I don’t even understand life again.

I’ve applied for jobs—both within my level and even below it—just to have something stable to hold on to, but nothing has come through. Rejections, silence, or no response at all.

Spiritually, I have not been sleeping.

I have fasted.
I have prayed.
I have sought counselling.

But honestly… nothing seems to be changing.

I won’t lie, this phase has affected me deeply. My confidence is not what it used to be. The energy to “try again” is no longer there like before. I wake up some days and just feel blank.

Right now, I’m exhausted.

Not just physically… mentally and emotionally too.

That’s why I’m here.

Please, I need honest advice:

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

How do you restart when everything you try keeps failing?

Should I keep pushing business ideas or completely change direction?

How do you rebuild when you’re already drained?


I’m open to anything—advice, correction, shared experiences, even tough truths.

Thank you for taking your time to read this.

donwily:
Good day everyone,
Thank you for taking your time to read this.

What kind of business were you running before the demolition?
How long ago did this happen?
What sources of income, if any, do you currently have?

Bcpump:
So sorry you feel this way.

Do you have any skills? if you have to pivot what can you do?

My main advice would be to migrate legally out of the country if you can afford it but I am not sure if you can, so you may have to just totally downsize / live a lower cost of living while rebuilding.

Can I send you a DM?

Thank you. Yes, you can. I'm grateful

joinnow:
What kind of business were you running before the demolition?
How long ago did this happen?
What sources of income, if any, do you currently have?

I was running a micro-lending business and daily savings. People used to invest in my business as well. So, when the office was suddenly demolished, the savers started asking for withdrawal while most of the borrowers stopped paying. It was so bad that I had to sell off properties to settle the investors and the savers.
Currently, I and my family are just managing life with a boutique that I opened for my wife before the demolition.
I have applied for jobs but to no avail.

donwily:
Good day everyone,

I don’t even know where to start from, but I’ll try to be as honest as possible because I truly need help and direction.

There was a time my life made sense. I ran a good business, had staff working with me, and things were stable. I wasn’t rich, but I was comfortable and hopeful. I had plans. I had structure.

Then everything changed.

My two offices were demolished by the government due to road expansion. Just like that. No proper recovery plan, no real compensation that could help me restart meaningfully. Overnight, I lost my base, my daily operations, and the structure I had built over time.

Since then, it has been one struggle after another.

I tried to bounce back. I really did. Different ideas, different small ventures, different approaches… but nothing has worked. In fact, the more I tried to stand strong again, the more I kept losing the little strength and money I had left.

It got to a point where I started questioning myself.

Maybe I’m the problem.
Maybe I’ve lost my touch.
Maybe I don’t even understand life again.

I’ve applied for jobs—both within my level and even below it—just to have something stable to hold on to, but nothing has come through. Rejections, silence, or no response at all.

Spiritually, I have not been sleeping.

I have fasted.
I have prayed.
I have sought counselling.

But honestly… nothing seems to be changing.

I won’t lie, this phase has affected me deeply. My confidence is not what it used to be. The energy to “try again” is no longer there like before. I wake up some days and just feel blank.

Right now, I’m exhausted.

Not just physically… mentally and emotionally too.

That’s why I’m here.

Please, I need honest advice:

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

How do you restart when everything you try keeps failing?

Should I keep pushing business ideas or completely change direction?

How do you rebuild when you’re already drained?


I’m open to anything—advice, correction, shared experiences, even tough truths.

Thank you for taking your time to read this.

Change your location and then start building from scratch. And go solitary while at it. Let only a few persons you really really trust know where you at and what you're up to. Keep all the others at arms lenght till you get back on your feet again. I can assist you with the change of location and building something up again.

Thank you. I am willing to do that if you can assist as you said. I'm grateful.

Robertgreene1:
Change your location and then start building from scratch. And go solitary while at it. Let only a few persons you really really trust know where you at and what you're up to. Keep all the others at arms lenght till you get back on your feet again. I can assist you with the change of location and building something up again.

Sorry, I saw that you sent a message to me but the email I used on NL is no longer accessible and I have been trying to change it but to no avail. Please, can you send me a message on donwily4u@gmail.com. Thank you

Robertgreene1:
Change your location and then start building from scratch. And go solitary while at it. Let only a few persons you really really trust know where you at and what you're up to. Keep all the others at arms lenght till you get back on your feet again. I can assist you with the change of location and building something up again.

donwily:
Sorry, I saw that you sent a message to me but the email I used on NL is no longer accessible and I have been trying to change it but to no avail. Please, can you send me a message on donwily4u@gmail.com. Thank you

Alright l will...

Thank you sir

Robertgreene1:
Alright l will...

donwily:
Thank you sir

Howdy i replied your mail but it didn't deliver so drop your digits so ill reach you directly.
Shout-out to all chess players on nairaland earning via the game.

081_2361_9010.

Thank you.

Nostalemate:
Howdy i replied your mail but it didn't deliver so drop your digits so ill reach you directly.
Shout-out to all chess players on nairaland earning via the game.

donwily:
Thank you sir

Hello sir, apologies for the delay, l've been terribly busy all this while. WhatsApp me on 09029541178, let's talk. Regards...

donwily:
Thank you. Yes, you can. I'm grateful

i sent you an email

Seen. Thank you

Bcpump:
i sent you an email