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voiceunheard:
UPDATE FOR THOSE WHO SAID I WAS LYING OR ENTITLED:

Acknowledgement message from the church since 16th of January:

Greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Thank you for your latest email and for sharing the draft statement you intend to publish. We have received this message and confirm that it has been read and noted with utmost seriousness.

First, please accept our sincere apologies for the prolonged silence you experienced following your earlier correspondence. We recognize that the lack of acknowledgment understandably compounded your pain, frustration, and sense of being unheard. For this, we are truly sorry.

We'd like to assure you clearly and unequivocally that your matter is now getting urgent attention. Your emails, including the allegations of unfulfilled commitments, inappropriate language, threats, and emotional distress, will be escalated to the appropriate authorities within the church structure for immediate review.

We deeply regret the emotional toll this experience has taken on you. While it is true that human beings can err — including making promises they are unable to fulfill — this in no way excuses, silence, intimidation, abusive language, or conduct that aggravates the distress of a vulnerable individual. God alone is infallible, faithful, and unwavering in keeping His word, and we encourage you to continue to lean on Him even as this process unfolds.

With respect to the statement you intend to publish, we kindly and respectfully request that you pause further public disclosure at this time. This appeal is made in good faith, not to suppress your voice or diminish your experience, but to allow the church conclude its internal review responsibly, confidentially, and without prejudice. Please be assured that refraining from publication at this stage will not hinder action being taken.

To enable us conclude our investigation promptly and accurately, we kindly request that you reconfirm or provide the following details (if not already fully supplied):

Your full name (for official records)

Your current phone number

The full name of the pastor involved

His church/area location

His contact phone number (if available)

Furthermore, to guide the resolution process appropriately, please let us know what outcome you are seeking in this matter. This may include (but is not limited to) clarification, apology, disciplinary action, pastoral intervention, restitution, or other resolution you deem appropriate.

Please be assured that allegations of threats, abuse, or misuse of spiritual authority are treated with utmost gravity. Where misconduct is established, appropriate disciplinary steps will be taken internally, and individuals will be held accountable in line with established procedures.

We also advise, in your own interest and wellbeing, that you allow this process to run its course rather than bearing this burden alone. You are not wrong to speak up, and your concerns will not be ignored.

You will be contacted as soon as the preliminary review is concluded. Kindly rest assured that prompt action is now underway.

Once again, we appreciate your patience and openness. Our prayers are with you for healing, peace, and restoration, and we trust that God — who never fails — will bring clarity and closure to this matter.

Yours sincerely,


Till now, no update from the church.

voiceunheard:
People who are saying I went too far to report him, it's because they don't know the full story, so it's not their fault, they don't know the emotional distress this whole thing has made me go through coupled with the health problem I have been going through for several years.

I have reported this matter to another authority (with evidence) for consideration.

The church headquarters should continue to sleep on this matter. Their goal is that after ignoring me several times for several months, I will give up and allow the matter to die.

But I can't, until this matter is resolved. The more they ignore this matter, the more I escalate it.

Ishilove:
Op, let it go. Dust yourself and move on. He promised and failed. He called you bad names. He was reckless etc.

Okay, agreed. The best form of revenge is success. Succeed and put him to shame, but you can't succeed if you're hung up in the past and refuse to move on.

Move on, because you are not going to win this. Try and get yourself something doing and block all those werey apps. Report their number as spam so you don't get their texts. Use Truecaller to mark their numbers as spam. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

Ishilove:
If you had something financially productive to do with your time, trust me you won't have this kind of time. It is obvious

voiceunheard:
Is it because I didn't mention the amount I am owing them here? It's not about blocking them, it's about looking for a way to pay the money.

That is EXACTLY what the church headquarters wants, they think that by ignoring me for several months, at a point I will get tired and give up, and the matter will just die like that.

Even if I won't win in court (as you have said), I don't want this matter to be a secret, I want it to go viral. The pastor/church are unlikely to take this matter to court because they know they won't win either.

Even if I later leave it, many people would have heard about it. There is nobody this kind of thing will happen to who will not want to expose it.

voiceunheard:
I am seeking for justice.

I cannot just keep silent.

I don't want to keep saying it that the pain is too much for me to bear.