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“I’m a 46-Year-Old Yoruba Woman and I’ve Never Been Married” – Lady Explains Why She Chose to Stay Single

A 46-year-old Nigerian woman has sparked conversations online after revealing why she has never been married and why she has no regrets about her decision.

The woman, who identified herself as Yoruba, shared her thoughts in a viral video where she explained that marriage had never been a personal goal despite societal expectations.


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According to her, she has never been engaged, planned a wedding or imagined herself walking down the aisle.

“I’m 46 years old, Nigerian, Yoruba. I have never been married before, I have never been engaged. I’ve never looked at wedding pictures, I’ve never looked at wedding dresses, I’ve never looked at venues, I’ve never even come close to it,” she said. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

Marriage Was Never My Priority

The woman stated that her decision to remain single was not due to a lack of attention from men or failed relationships.

She explained that she had been in serious relationships in the past, including one that lasted up to five years, but marriage was never something she desired.

“Before you say maybe because no man likes you, I have been in relationships—two years, and I think the longest was like four or five years. But baby, never ever, it’s not, never been a priority for me. I just don’t want this,” she said.

Childhood Experiences Shaped My Perspective

Reflecting on her upbringing, she disclosed that she was raised in what many Nigerians would consider a stable home.

According to her, both of her parents remained together until her mother’s death, and she grew up in a professional and relatively comfortable environment.

However, she said her observations of marriages around her gradually influenced her opinion on the institution.

Looking at Marriage Through Data and Experience

The woman, who described herself as a data analyst currently studying data engineering and artificial intelligence, said she tends to analyse life choices based on history and observable patterns.

“One thing I understand is that when you want to predict the future, you collect data and you go by history,” she explained.

She added that the experiences of women around her, including her grandmothers, mother and other married women she has known, contributed to her views.

“You go by the history of marriages in our communities, the current marriages in our communities, everything I’ve seen growing up, the way our grandfathers treated our grandmothers, the way our fathers treated our mothers, the way our mothers endured and suffered,” she said.

According to her, those experiences led her to conclude at an early age that marriage was not a path she wanted to follow.

Fear of Unhappiness

The woman further revealed that her greatest fear is being trapped in an unhappy marriage.

She stated that she would rather face life’s challenges alone than remain in a relationship that leaves her miserable.

“My biggest fear in life is to be stuck with someone and be miserable with him. I’d rather be miserable by myself,” she said.

She added that she has yet to encounter a marriage she personally admires enough to make her reconsider her stance.

Mixed Reactions Online

Her comments have since generated mixed reactions on social media.

While some users applauded her for making a personal decision and refusing to bow to societal pressure, others argued that her experiences and observations may not accurately reflect every marriage.

Several commenters pointed out that healthy and successful marriages do exist, while others agreed that individuals should have the freedom to choose the lifestyle that best suits them.

The viral video has once again sparked conversations about marriage, societal expectations and the growing number of Nigerians choosing unconventional life paths based on their personal experiences and beliefs.

source : https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/06/18/im-a-46-year-old-yoruba-woman-and-ive-never-been-married-lady-explains-why-she-chose-to-stay-single/

Hmmmm. Content everywhere

Can someone pls summarize?

I hope you have a child or two.

The system of one man one woman is of the disadvantage of women because of their population, but since they always champion the statement, they should prepare for things like this.

Or maybe you met or grew up in the wrong environment.

If you have no regrets why mount a camera and ring light to tell us?

She should keep deceiving herself.

Nobody gives a Bleep….every mallam with his kettle

Akalia:
Can someone pls summarize?

just another Love Machine warrior.. ranting about how she decides to live her life

Enjoy your time and be happy with the results

Another content creator
.
E be like I go start content creation on tiktok also

There's nothing new there... You were busy chopping men's money while time was busy counting.
From 10 toasters daily, to 5 daily until wrinkles take over your body and you hit menopause but still waiting for that rich handsome man. Body go tell you

Marriage is not compulsory. It's better for some people to remain single than to mess up another person's life by being married to them.

Many horrible people have gotten married and made other innocent people's life miserable. Stay away from marriage if you have no value to bring to another person's life.

What is her name and the name of her father

Wetin now concern us for your personal decision Madam? It's your sh't and you are dealing with alone...however, I am suspecting something, she's lonely and now advertising herself for prospective guys to approach her.... But looking into her deeply, it seems she would be very sinister and wicked..... Sounded like that, my personal observation...

Your lifestyle your decision

Your fears are valid and you are not
disrespectful about it. Anyone triggered by a woman's choice to remain single needs to be studied. You can easily go marry the ones seriously praying for husbands.

Many people are not fit for marriage and looking at Nigerian marriages, they are not the right people to marriage-shame anyone.

Good luck to her. I hope she never end up like mother

All I see is pains and trauma all over her face! The fact you didn’t see a working marriage around you doesn’t mean others aren’t working! The time is already wasted ma, come back and queue again!

Tell us say na your covenant in Marine world that you won't get married.

Make her fellow Yoruba men find her andarfu her naaa that's simple

Just like how the world has changed marriage is gradually fading out of vogue. These ladies are not making it easy for the men and honestly what do men even gain in marriage, nothing!!!

Your life your choice my dear. Even if you prefer Eve to Adam, still your life, your choice

Gbadugbakun:
If you have no regrets why mount a camera and ring light to tell us?

She should keep deceiving herself.

I swear. Believe the EkukeS at your own risk.
She has been in relationships on and off but she chose to remain single

BioData45:
I hope you have a child or two.

The system of one man one woman is of the disadvantage of women because of their population, but since they always champion the statement, they should prepare for things like this.

Body go tell you, imagine marrying two wives under this bad economy, don't tell me that some men are capable, let those men use that money to give their children the best, not all women will marry, some are destined not to get married, same go to men

Why do these people feel the pressing need to turn on ring light, face the camera and tell us how happy that they are being single because they have accepted that marriage is not a good thing for them?

Always sounds like cope in my ears. If she was genuinely happy, she doesn't need an audience.

When you are done deceiving yourself, switch off the ring light and put off your camera then go back to reality

BioData45:
I hope you have a child or two.

The system of one man one woman is of the disadvantage of women because of their population, but since they always champion the statement, they should prepare for things like this.

Many people don't know that the system didn't favor women at all.
In my neighborhood sometime ago,in a week six babies were born, five were girls and one boy, and I am sure the pattern will almost be the same everywhere.
When one male chose one of those females to marry,who is going to marry the remaining four?
But all of us have adopted the Western style of marriage and nobody sees anything wrong in marrying one wife and have unlimited number of mistresses.

nnamdi640:
Body go tell you, imagine marrying two wives under this bad economy, don't tell me that some men are capable, let those men use that money to give their children the best, not all women will marry, some are destined not to get married, same go to men

But those wives too are not handicapped. They will also be working.

It is okay we all agree with u. Just hoping you change ur mind later when u see something else in another direction.

Give her more 5yrs from now when all her friends will be occupied with family issues to even hang out or gist with her on phone, that's when the loneliness will kick in and she start regretting.

Great contribution....stay alone if you know that you don't have anything called value to add to someone's life...

zed7:
Marriage is not compulsory. It's better for some people to remain single than to mess up another person's life by being married to them.

Many horrible people have gotten married and made other innocent people's life miserable. Stay away from marriage if you have no value to bring to another person's life.

Time will tell, you are already feeling it that you have made wrong decision, you just want to deceive other young girls to be like you. Just imagine your childish reason, fear of unhappy marriage, in the beginning God created a man and a woman because God said Adam was lonely that's why God created Eve, you are already feeling the pains of loneliness, i wish you well.