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I saw a thread on nairaland

https://www.nairaland.com/8691510/how-react

And it made me remembered the encounter I had about two months ago.

About two months ago, I and my wife were sleeping, It was mid night, then suddenly we heard a sound, I went to the parlor to check what made that kind of sound, lo and behold, I noticed that we didn't lock the parlor front protector and the parlor main door too, we forgot to lock them. While I was about locking the door, I suddenly heard our first room door lock "as at then I thought it was someone" but now I'm thinking maybe It was breeze, I'm really not so sure until date if it's someone or if it's breeze. However, instead of me to go back to our room and take my cutlass out from under the bed and go into the first room to see who it was, because on that day I really thought it was someone "because we forgot to lock the parlor door and protector as stated above" I ran into our room and locked our room door with keys and couldn't come out of the room which Is just opposite our room even when my bladder was filled to the brim, I remained in the room until dawn. I also didn't lock the parlor door and protector on that particular day because I ran to the room as soon as I was about locking the parlor door and heard the first room door shut, my wife was angry with me throughout that night, but fortunately, after that day everything died down, she didn't brought up the issue again, until date.



Also, in 2016 I also recalled that things were very tough for my mom. I haven't married then though, this Is an entirely different scenario. So my mom borrowed money from this woman and she couldn't pay back, on one faithful day my mom was washing clothes, this woman came and pour the clothes and water on my mom that lapo people are on her neck that my mom should pay up. I was there live and direct and saw everything "body pepper me" and I angrily confronted her but didn't raised my hand on her or insulted her, and her teenage son that's not up to the age of our last born jumped in from afar. My mom insulted this woman and her small boy son kicked my mom in the leg where she was having ruematism pains which made her leg slightly bent, I was scared and couldn't do anything, the boy called my mom "ishan witch" also. I couldn't do anything, I was scared that the boy might beat me up, a boy that's not up to the age of our last born, I senior 3 people before our last born.

Remembering that day right now, I feel like strangling myself to death.

which kind man u be? we can forgive the first. but no human can humiliate my mom when I am there.

whatmoreng:
which kind man u be? we can forgive the first. but no human can humiliate my mom when I am there.

I also remember living in the shadow of my younger bro while growing up, I couldn't talk to him anyhow, there was a day we were having an argument and he picked up my phone and smashed it to the ground, I couldn't do anything. He would insult my mom and do whatever he likes, but I couldn't do anything. It started the day we fought and he beat me up, ever since that day I lived in his shadow for years until I rented my own house, he does whatever he likes, insults me as he likes but I couldn't do anything.

It's funny but not funny o...


What type of man are you?

You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

Aniwhyte:
I saw a thread on nairaland

https://www.nairaland.com/8691510/how-react

And it made me remembered the encounter I had about two months ago.

About two months ago, I and my wife were sleeping, It was mid night, then suddenly we heard a sound, I went to the parlor to check what made that kind of sound, lo and behold, I noticed that we didn't lock the parlor front protector and the parlor main door too, we forgot to lock them. While I was about locking the door, I suddenly heard our first room door lock "as at then I thought it was someone" but now I'm thinking maybe It was breeze, I'm really not so sure until date if it's someone or if it's breeze. However, instead of me to go back to our room and take my cutlass out from under the bed and go into the first room to see who it was, because on that day I really thought it was someone "because we forgot to lock the parlor door and protector as stated above" I ran into our room and locked our room door with keys and couldn't come out of the room which Is just opposite our room even when my bladder was filled to the brim, I remained in the room until dawn. I also didn't lock the parlor door and protector on that particular day because I ran to the room as soon as I was about locking the parlor door and heard the first room door shut, my wife was angry with me throughout that night, but fortunately, after that day everything died down, she didn't brought up the issue again, until date.



Also, in 2016 I also recalled that things were very tough for my mom. I haven't married then though, this Is an entirely different scenario. So my mom borrowed money from this woman and she couldn't pay back, on one faithful day my mom was washing clothes, this woman came and pour the clothes and water on my mom that lapo people are on her neck that my mom should pay up. I was there live and direct and saw everything "body pepper me" and I angrily confronted her but didn't raised my hand on her or insulted her, and her teenage son that's not up to the age of our last born jumped in from afar. My mom insulted this woman and her small boy son kicked my mom in the leg where she was having ruematism pains which made her leg slightly bent, I was scared and couldn't do anything, the boy called my mom "ishan witch" also. I couldn't do anything, I was scared that the boy might beat me up, a boy that's not up to the age of our last born, I senior 3 people before our last born.

Remembering that day right now, I feel like strangling myself to death.

You are less of a man, which kind of man are you.
From the two narrative,it shows you are weak or the fearful type of person.
In the First scenario, what if someone actually enter that room, na so you for lock your self in your room and that intruder take advantage of the situation.
In the second part, nobody will stand and let another person rain abuse and curses on his/her Mum without any resistance from you.
Guy man look, nor let any person or situation scare you, brace up react and resist, even the person when one attack you in the course of fight or agurement dey fear to attack you first.
Moreover,nor give anybody especially your wife or any woman the impression say you dey weak, women generally want a man that is heard in nature that can protect her and the family. Na ruggedity dey define man

Nowayback10:
You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

Na that one pain you pass...?


Person run hide inside room with him wife almost pee for pant. I just dey picture how him and his wife dey inside room as he dey whisper.

Person wey even smallie dey threaten.

Op sorry I'm making fun of you. But it's actually funny.


Make e no go be say na medical condition o. If na oyinbo people now dey no dey waste time diagnose one kind syndrome - pissingpant syndrome PP syndrome for short!

Man absent sir 😂😂
Imbe present sir

brain54:
It's funny but not funny o...


What type of man are you?

I'm the scared type, a friend I met years back, whenever we come across each other, the very first word he normally says is "Raymond, hope you nor dey fear again, because you fear pass Rat" for my life I never see who fear pass you for this earth" always and always and whenever he sees me, that's the word he always says. And he isn't the first that have told me that "I fear pass Rat" I have heard it more than once.

Nowayback10:
You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

Yes, that's the second if not 3rd time it had occurred, but since the last occurrence, I have been more extremely cautious, it hasn't happened since then, and until date. And I won't let it happen again.

samwash:
You are less of a man, which kind of man are you.
From the two narrative,it shows you are weak or the fearful type of person.
In the First scenario, what if someone actually enter that room, na so you for lock your self in your room and that intruder take advantage of the situation.
In the second part, nobody will stand and let another person rain abuse and curses on his/her Mum without any resistance from you.
Guy man look, nor let any person or situation scare you, brace up react and resist, even the person when one attack you in the course of fight or agurement dey fear to attack you first.
Moreover,nor give anybody especially your wife or any woman the impression say you dey weak, women generally want a man that is heard in nature that can protect her and the family. Na ruggedity dey define man

Yea, if eventually someone actually entered the room, he'd have taken full and total advantage 100% absolutely no way I would have come out, knowing he's inside the house.

Regarding what transpired between the woman and her son and my mom. I was just scared, because there were people around, I don't want a scenario whereby I would be the talk of the area that a small boy beat me up, that was why I was so scared then and couldn't retaliate when he kicked the leg of my mom and also called her an "Ishan witch"

Nevertheless, I would try to man up from now henceforth and grow some balls, I'm 36 already, and without being told, I know for sure that lots of women have more balls than I do.

brain54:
Na that one pain you pass...?


Person run hide inside room with him wife almost pee for pant. I just dey picture how him and his wife dey inside room as he dey whisper.

Person wey even smallie dey threaten.

Op sorry I'm making fun of you. But it's actually funny.


Make e no go be say na medical condition o. If na oyinbo people now dey no dey waste time diagnose one kind syndrome - pissingpant syndrome PP syndrome for short!

It's not a medical condition, I have been this way all my life, easily scared. E.G once it's raining and I see lightening, no matter how small, I normally dive and run into any place to take cover, anywhere at all.

As for the scenario when I couldn't come out of the room until it was dawn, I have cutlass under my bed, I bought it years ago when I was still living in my former compound, but I still couldn't bring it out to go see if anyone was indeed inside the room. I was so scared to my bone marrow that day.

Someone hit your mom, you couldn't fight that's okay, you cannot pick up a nearby stone , bottle or wood to smash his head.
Your problem is your mind, you must learn to convert fear to aggression.

Nowayback10:
You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

he is a serious person but a very well known liar

Lol.. Abeg which country you dey like this

Small breeze blow ya door you run go mount for ya woman back inside room

God forbid @ OP may your kind of man never near my unborn daughter's. Amen.

Your problem maybe from your father, I believe your father didn't play his role in your life, fathers are supposed to harden up children while mothers will soften them to balance the equation, some mothers are also hardeners ooo🤣. Some single moms have turned most children into indomie children that can neither stand for themselves nor others😏, mothers should never deny fathers their roles in children's lives.

Yes I support you on this,he can't protect his home

Nowayback10:
You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

I support you on this, the man can't protect his home.

Nowayback10:
You slept and forgot to lock your door protector and the main door. And you are married? You are not a serious person. You can't even protect your family?

Aniwhyte:
It's not a medical condition, I have been this way all my life, easily scared. E.G once it's raining and I see lightening, no matter how small, I normally dive and run into any place to take cover, anywhere at all.

As for the scenario when I couldn't come out of the room until it was dawn, I have cutlass under my bed, I bought it years ago when I was still living in my former compound, but I still couldn't bring it out to go see if anyone was indeed inside the room. I was so scared to my bone marrow that day.

Bro seriously though...


This your fear seems abnormal. It could really be a medical/phycological condition. Forget the jokes.


It's because you have been that way all your life it could be a condition. Maybe something triggered you at childhood or that is just how you were born. But they could be an underlying cause.


You can use Google to check if there is any condition similar to what you are going through.


Everything or most things in excess can be compulsive or a disorder.


I had a landlord a long time ago. That man was so clean he didn't want to see a speck of dirt in his compound or around him. He would wash the concrete floor, pick the tiniest leafs that dropped ( he had trees and flowers planted in the compound) and would keep everywhere so neat and spankling clean. Some of his tenants would pack out because they thought his cleanliness wasn't ordinary.


He never used to bother anyone in the compound but would do everything himself.


He was excessively neat.


I later discovered it was a condition. Yours too could be a condition... medical or physiological but I'm sure if you check or visit specialists it could have a name.


How person go dey fear pass rat... you know how rat dey fear reach?

Op is trolling

whatmoreng:
which kind man u be? we can forgive the first. but no human can humiliate my mom when I am there.

god forbid you touch my mama for my face, them go count teeth for ground tire.

the fact say you mum was not even feeling well and the fact say you broke that period you suppose use that para enter the boy. like this if you talk this thing for my face i go slap you

yarimo:
he is a serious person but a very well known liar

how far jagaban adopted son

Aniwhyte:
It's not a medical condition, I have been this way all my life, easily scared. E.G once it's raining and I see lightening, no matter how small, I normally dive and run into any place to take cover, anywhere at all.

As for the scenario when I couldn't come out of the room until it was dawn, I have cutlass under my bed, I bought it years ago when I was still living in my former compound, but I still couldn't bring it out to go see if anyone was indeed inside the room. I was so scared to my bone marrow that day.

If you desire solutions then you must first accept that there is a problem that needs been fixed. Don't try to rationalize issues you're not comfortable with, deal with it practically.

If you reflect deeply, you would see that this irrational fear have also made you loose opportunities in the past.

I'll recommend you visit a psychotherapist in a hospital closest to you to better understand how to deal with these fears that has held you bound for years.

Aniwhyte:
I saw a thread on nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/8691510/how-react
And it made me remembered the encounter I had about two months ago.
About two months ago, I and my wife were sleeping, It was mid night, then suddenly we heard a sound, I went to the parlor to check what made that kind of sound, lo and behold, I noticed that we didn't lock the parlor front protector and the parlor main door too, we forgot to lock them. While I was about locking the door, I suddenly heard our first room door lock "as at then I thought it was someone" but now I'm thinking maybe It was breeze, I'm really not so sure until date if it's someone or if it's breeze. However, instead of me to go back to our room and take my cutlass out from under the bed and go into the first room to see who it was, because on that day I really thought it was someone "because we forgot to lock the parlor door and protector as stated above" I ran into our room and locked our room door with keys and couldn't come out of the room which Is just opposite our room even when my bladder was filled to the brim, I remained in the room until dawn. I also didn't lock the parlor door and protector on that particular day because I ran to the room as soon as I was about locking the parlor door and heard the first room door shut, my wife was angry with me throughout that night, but fortunately, after that day everything died down, she didn't brought up the issue again, until date.
Also, in 2016 I also recalled that things were very tough for my mom. I haven't married then though, this Is an entirely different scenario. So my mom borrowed money from this woman and she couldn't pay back, on one faithful day my mom was washing clothes, this woman came and pour the clothes and water on my mom that lapo people are on her neck that my mom should pay up. I was there live and direct and saw everything "body pepper me" and I angrily confronted her but didn't raised my hand on her or insulted her, and her teenage son that's not up to the age of our last born jumped in from afar. My mom insulted this woman and her small boy son kicked my mom in the leg where she was having ruematism pains which made her leg slightly bent, I was scared and couldn't do anything, the boy called my mom "ishan witch" also. I couldn't do anything, I was scared that the boy might beat me up, a boy that's not up to the age of our last born, I senior 3 people before our last born.
Remembering that day right now, I feel like strangling myself to death.

Go get yourself a gun and a gun license. And head to a shooting range to make sure you are well trained on its use for at least 60 days. There is no need for you to live afraid for your life when you can fight back when faced with the worst.

You just dey run fast like small boy wey don see ghost.

The funny thing is, you locked yourself inside with your wife and even held your pee till morning. Imagine say person enter for the room - him go find two of you dey stand by the door like security guards instead of sleeping in bed.

Cowardice is a lifestyle. Once you start running from everything, e follow you everywhere. You need to join gym and lift some iron. Make you grow balls again.