₦airaland Forum

casualobserver:
its ok to tell girls they can be anything they want (so also men) but the reality is most people end up a mediocre life.

Flangelo12:
What is wrong with frying Akara?

What's the difference between Akara and pizza or hamburger?

yarimo:
Mumu man is first lady office elective office? Rufai you are supposed to be in the forest doing documentary on animals

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?

maestroferddi:
Common sense is far from you ...Of course you are an APC supporter so we can relate...

You asked a very silly question...

Please tell us how many of your family members are akara vendors...

Their own children school abroad only to come back to lead mindless people like you by the nose while they are telling you supporters that you and your children can only aspire to be akara sellers...

You should pause and weep for yourselves...

budaatum:
Unfortunately, many stup¹d men think the same way, and then don't empower their daughters to be the best they can possibly be.

My only hope is that parents today are much wiser, for they will reap what they sow or not in their children.

eazzzy1:
Rufai the twister. You won’t need to sell Akara if you had the aspirations and opportunity to be a First Lady. Madam Remi was referring to the poor and unemployed, a lot of Nigerians would go abroad and wouldn’t need advise to become a care worker or cleaner.

Even the bible says whatever your hand finds to do, do it well. There are Togolese in Nigeria who have bought properties back home from selling beans.

yarimo:
Mumu man is first lady office elective office? Rufai you are supposed to be in the forest doing documentary on animals

politicoNG:

“Other ladies should not aspire to be First Lady like her; they should just start selling akara” — Arise TV anchor Rufai Oseni reacts to Remi Tinubu’s comment pic.twitter.com/VsI2vCKjBm

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 26, 2026

sacajawea:
You are not Referring to Rufai are you??
Did you understand the post/video?

budaatum:
Yes I did. And not only him but the first lady who should be fighting for women to be Nigerian president but is empowering to sell akara like that is what she wishes for her own daughters.

That said, my emotions from another thread spilled over to here.

https://punchng.com/remi-tinubu-faces-backlash-over-akara-roasted-corn-remarks/

budaatum:
But I can bet you top dollar that those who try are much better off for trying than those who don't.

Take ones children, mine or yours. We will not only tell them they can be anything they want, we'd hopefully support them and train them and educate them too, and I bet they'd be better off for it than if we didn't, or do you disagree?

But know that 1st lady is not so much an achievement, as far as I am concerned. I'd rather train my own daughters to be president. They might not be presidents of a nation, but they just might end up as the CEO of a multi billion dollar company, which is close enough.

Society will train you and your children to be slaves. Our Nigerian society will even teach you to be stupid, or what do you think is being done by convincing you that naked enslaved Adam is the Image of God, when it's obvious their job descriptions and pay and reward differ immensely?

I would strongly suggest you not let society determine your achievements, much less that of your offspring. Strive to be the best you can be, and empower yours to do likewise. You and they might not get to the summit, but you would likely rise higher than those who don't bother.

For your information, every woman who has ever risen to rule a nation had children and a husband beside her, so your "most women who chase careers end up childless or single mothers" is false.

casualobserver:
You are someone who clearly revels in self delusion. You are entitled to that but stop deceiving people.

This you can be anything you want is the kind of thing that messes up the lives of young people. 99% of the time, they don’t have what it takes to become what they want. Their lives would be much better if they were guided towards where their true gifts are and be as good as they can be.

I will just touch on the last bit of your post. Even those high flying women who have families, you have no idea the price their children and family pay for their success because clearly you have never been in that environment.


There is a woman who made a fortune selling Amala. It is better to be the best or a good Akara seller that to be deceived you have what it takes to be a Hollywood actress or an Afribeat singer if you have no talent.

You clearly live a world of deceit where you tell an ugly girl she is a queen and “beautiful” when she clearly isn’t. Unfortunately she will believe it but the world will ultimately let her know at great cost that she isn’t.

Only a fool trains his daughter to be president. Those are things that happen by chance. A good father trains his daughter to have good values and character. That daughter will have a better life that the daughter obsessed with becoming president. It’s one thing to encourage your daughter to be a lawyer if she has a talent for it but that she will rise to the apex and become a chief judge or a SAN is another thing.

Life will eventually bring the deluded down to earth.

casualobserver:
This you can be anything you want is the kind of thing that messes up the lives of young people. 99% of the time, they don’t have what it takes to become what they want. Their lives would be much better if they were guided towards where their true gifts are and be as good as they can be.

casualobserver:
I will just touch on the last bit of your post. Even those high flying women who have families, you have no idea the price their children and family pay for their success because clearly you have never been in that environment.

casualobserver:
There is a woman who made a fortune selling Amala. It is better to be the best or a good Akara seller that to be deceived you have what it takes to be a Hollywood actress or an Afribeat singer if you have no talent.

casualobserver:
You clearly live a world of deceit where you tell an ugly girl she is a queen and “beautiful” when she clearly isn’t. Unfortunately she will believe it and have aspirations beyond her aesthetic blessings but the world will ultimately let her know at great cost that she isn’t as aesthetically gifted as what she has be led to believe she is.

casualobserver:
Only a fool trains his daughter to be president. Those are things that happen by chance. A good father trains his daughter to have good values and character. That daughter will have a better life that the daughter obsessed with becoming president. It’s one thing to encourage your daughter to be a lawyer if she has a talent for it but that she will rise to the apex and become a chief judge or a SAN is another thing.

casualobserver:
Life will eventually bring the deluded down to earth.

Proudlyngwa:
Which kain mumu analogy be this , do people aspire to be first lady

SonOfWords:
The keyword is "aspire", not "work".

Very huge difference bro.

You apc supporters can be so painfully dull eh😹.

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?

Kushites:
UTTER BULLSHHIT.

''ASPIRE'' TO BE FIRST LADY.

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?

Mbanda:
Tell your goddess to look into the points below, no be by cho cho chọọ.

Dshocker:
Check the last the post, before this post on nairaland, before you make hasty conclusion, the first lady should be ashamed of herself for suggesting that nonsense to Nigerians.

budaatum:
So, you think I tell people they can be whatever they want to be but they don't need to work for it?

But it's that bold that got me. In UK in the 70s, black kids were guided to be nurses and bus drivers and postmen by people who saw that to be the "true gifts" of black people, to the extent that a black child who aspired to be a doctor or a lawyer or accountant was told that was not their gift.


Because I am not a high flying woman with a wonderful family with children who are flying high like me?


I hope it's also okay to go to school and get an education and be the best lawyer or accountant or doctor or AI specialist too, even if one does not make millions doing so. I mean, it might beat "Hollywood actress or an Afribeat singer", especially if you have no talent to be "Hollywood actress or an Afribeat singer", since the talent for what I propose is dedication and study.


Actually, I tell all girls that they are queens in their own right, and I tell all young people that they should develop their minds. Their beauty or lack off is irrelevant to me, since that's not what's going to feed them.


I get you. You leave your life to chance. I don't.
A good parent trains their children to be morally upright, yes, but they also ought to train their children to earn a living is what I think.

If I train my daughter to be a president or a chief judge, which would be odd to be honest, even if she does not achieve those goals and only gets half way, she'd be a lot better off than if I did not bother and left it to chance.

But for your information, I've trained my children to have skills that will earn them incomes so they can feed themselves and their own and that they can build on. Apex is for them to determine. They are now training their own children.


And the foolish and the ignorant too.

casualobserver:
I didn’t read your post. I have said what I have to say. Disagree or agree that’s your problem. I post or respond on Nairaland for the benefit of the silent wider audience. My point has been made, I am not interested in engaging in meaningless back and forth with you.

Have a good day!

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?

BATified2023:
This rufai is too dull


So who works to b first lady?