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If a man impregnates a newly widowed lady less that 6 months after her husband's death, who owns the baby?

The man met the widow 1 month after she lost her husband and the widow already has 3 children, 1 male and 2 females

AgonyAunt:
Please share your opinion on this

AgonyAunt:
Please share your opinion on this

shortgun:
You see our forefathers had already figured these things out centuries ago. To prevent situations like this where the paternity of a widow's child would be in question, they wisely established the custom of making widows mourn their late husbands for a period of one year.

During the one year mourning period no other man was permitted to have sex with the widow. By the end of that period any seed planted by her late would have been born..... there will be no room for doubts about the child's paternity.

If this woman had mourned her husband for one year, she won't be in this situation
It was a simple solution.

shortgun:
You see our forefathers had already figured these things out centuries ago. To prevent situations like this where the paternity of a widow's child would be in question, they wisely established the custom of making widows mourn their late husbands for a period of one year.

During the one year mourning period no other man was permitted to have sex with the widow. By the end of that period any seed planted by her late would have been born..... there will be no room for doubts about the child's paternity.

If this woman had mourned her husband for one year, she won't be in this situation
It was a simple solution.

oz4real83:
civilization is good but there are many good things that civilization spoilt, what you mentioned is one of them.

QuinQQ:
Wrong! That's NOT the reason for the one year.
Our forefathers established that it was IRRELEVANT who deposited the sperm, whoever owned the woman owned the pregnancy. Until the woman remarries or her bride price returned, ANY pregnancy belongs to the husband!
That applied to all married women not just widows

udede:
widowhood and pregnancy does not make her your wife. Even a childless widow can have children unbehalf of her husband so as far as tradition is concerned in Africa. You are a sperm donor

udede:
widowhood and pregnancy does not make her your wife. Even a childless widow can have children unbehalf of her husband so as far as tradition is concerned in Africa. You are a sperm donor

oz4real83:
it is the forefathers from your ethnic group that decided that a man owns the children a woman gets after sleeping with another man, my own forefathers considered that as abomination and such acts have repercussions. The children will start getting sick or dying, the husband will also get sick and may even die if he sleeps with the woman that committed adultery or even eats her food. It was very easy for the elders in the family to diagnose what have happened when the signs start showing. My forefathers and yours are very different in how they handled adultery from women, a wife can't bring children she got from adultery into the family, but men can bring children from anywhere into the family.

oz4real83:
it is the forefathers from your ethnic group that decided that a man owns the children a woman gets after sleeping with another man, my own forefathers considered that as abomination and such acts have repercussions. The children will start getting sick or dying, the husband will also get sick and may even die if he sleeps with the woman that committed adultery or even eats her food. It was very easy for the elders in the family to diagnose what have happened when the signs start showing. My forefathers and yours are very different in how they handled adultery from women, a wife can't bring children she got from adultery into the family, but men can bring children from anywhere into the family.

IamPatriotic:
Which Africa? Please don't generalize a barbaric practice and call it African culture. In Yorubaland, where I come from, we do not have such a culture.
A pregnant woman knows who impregnated her, so she should take responsibility for the pregnancy with the man responsible. The only somewhat similar practice in Yorubaland—one that has largely become obsolete—is that a widow may quietly remarry the younger brother or cousin of her late husband. Any children from that union belong to the new husband. The late husband is gone and no longer part of the equation.

oz4real83:
it is the forefathers from your ethnic group that decided that a man owns the children a woman gets after sleeping with another man, my own forefathers considered that as abomination and such acts have repercussions. The children will start getting sick or dying, the husband will also get sick and may even die if he sleeps with the woman that committed adultery or even eats her food. It was very easy for the elders in the family to diagnose what have happened when the signs start showing. My forefathers and yours are very different in how they handled adultery from women, a wife can't bring children she got from adultery into the family, but men can bring children from anywhere into the family.

shortgun:
You see our forefathers had already figured these things out centuries ago. To prevent situations like this where the paternity of a widow's child would be in question, they wisely established the custom of making widows mourn their late husbands for a period of one year.

During the one year mourning period no other man was permitted to have sex with the widow. By the end of that period any seed planted by her late husband would have been born..... there will be no room for doubts about the child's paternity.

If this woman had mourned her husband for one year, she won't be in this situation
It was a simple solution.

udede:
widowhood and pregnancy does not make her your wife. Even a childless widow can have children unbehalf of her husband so as far as tradition is concerned in Africa. You are a sperm donor

oz4real83:
it is the forefathers from your ethnic group that decided that a man owns the children a woman gets after sleeping with another man, my own forefathers considered that as abomination and such acts have repercussions. The children will start getting sick or dying, the husband will also get sick and may even die if he sleeps with the woman that committed adultery or even eats her food. It was very easy for the elders in the family to diagnose what have happened when the signs start showing. My forefathers and yours are very different in how they handled adultery from women, a wife can't bring children she got from adultery into the family, but men can bring children from anywhere into the family.

Orinechi:
Ikpu nne gi there. You don't have respect for your elder

CJStarz:
You must be nwa afo Igbo

oz4real83:
it is the forefathers from your ethnic group that decided that a man owns the children a woman gets after sleeping with another man, my own forefathers considered that as abomination and such acts have repercussions. The children will start getting sick or dying, the husband will also get sick and may even die if he sleeps with the woman that committed adultery or even eats her food. It was very easy for the elders in the family to diagnose what have happened when the signs start showing. My forefathers and yours are very different in how they handled adultery from women, a wife can't bring children she got from adultery into the family, but men can bring children from anywhere into the family.

shortgun:
G am!.....Eji ya!.
Abum ezigbo Nwa afo Igbo.
Ndị be anyi si na ọ bụ̀ nwata ne bugara nna ya oche na n'ikpo arusi mara aha a na atụ ndị mmụọ.
Ya gazie nwanne.

Orinechi:
Ikpu nne gi there. You don't have respect for your elder

shortgun:
You see our forefathers had already figured these things out centuries ago. To prevent situations like this where the paternity of a widow's child would be in question, they wisely established the custom of making widows mourn their late husbands for a period of one year.

During the one year mourning period no other man was permitted to have sex with the widow. By the end of that period any seed planted by her late husband would have been born..... there will be no room for doubts about the child's paternity.

If this woman had mourned her husband for one year, she won't be in this situation
It was a simple solution.