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If someone should solicit assistance from you , if u dont have the money I think is better u open up n inform the person about it instead of you just snubbing the person

And the truth of the matter is that most of our readers here the most stingiest in Nigeria.

Such a pity.

Firstcitizen:
I often visit Nigeria and no one offers even a small gift like a tuber of yam to take back but they know how to ask for help from time to time. A tuber of yam is nothing but the heart behind it matters.

I have stopped giving out money to people in Nigeria, no matter the reason.

According to Michael Jackson, "You are not alone"🎵 .

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

Oga close mouth. If you no fit meet up, come back Mek anothe pesin go so dem go fit dey send you

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

Abeg, forgive them because they don't know what they are doing hahaha 😂

@ Topic, the bills you highlighted above are real ooo, not to talk of , if you miss or default payments, interest will be compounded on you ooooooooo, personally, l try my best to lend a helping hand to anyone, sometimes, l send family members, to help me take items to those in prison or buy food items and share it with those going through challenges ooooooooo mucheche 😂

Then how Nigeria top d list of most generous country??

Exactly. It's only to take. Some people you have given over 500K, will not even buy you a 2,000 Naira snack or food.

Firstcitizen:
I often visit Nigeria and no one offers even a small gift like a tuber of yam to take back but they know how to ask for help from time to time. A tuber of yam is nothing but the heart behind it matters.

I have stopped giving out money to people in Nigeria, no matter the reason.

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

What of $50 or $20?
Na only me done ask of this one.
I take Ogun beg you. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

givedemwotowoto:
Most (if not all) Nigerians are very entitled.

I’m telling you… always ready to receive, but not ready to give.

Can

Nairaland111:
Giving Is a Gift, Not a Geographical Location

Have you ever asked yourself why some people in the diaspora do not send money home to their friends?

Many people argue that it is because of the struggles and sacrifices involved in earning money abroad. Others believe that people back home often assume that everyone overseas is picking money like fruit from trees. To be fair, both arguments have some truth to them. Sometimes, when you see how hard people work just to survive abroad, you may even wonder how they manage to support others financially.

Despite these arguments, I decided to carry out a little experiment this morning. I called a few friends back home and told them I urgently needed ₦5,000 to complete a transaction. I promised to repay the money the following week.

Out of 10 close friends, only one was willing to help immediately and even told me not to worry because we are friends. Imagine that. Ten friends, eight of whom work in government institutions and the remaining two are businessmen. Some people may ask about the nature of our relationship. These are people I consider brothers, and we had been together for more than five years before I travelled.

That experience led me to a conclusion: giving is a gift, and it has little to do with geographical location. Before calling people in the diaspora stingy, how often have we helped those around us with the little we have?

You do not have to live overseas before you can help someone. Generosity is a way of life. While it may be true that some people abroad become more cautious because of the stress involved in making money, I would argue that we should also ask what they were like before they travelled. Were they naturally generous? Or were they often taken advantage of because of their kindness?

At the end of the day, kindness is not determined by where you live but by the condition of your heart. The willingness to help others is a character trait, not a geographical advantage.

Let us all try to support one another, regardless of our location. As said:

"It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving."

If your friends are all living in Nigeria, don't be surprise they might not have a spare 5k to give. Sometimes, majority of people want to give but don't have to give. That same moment you called them, maybe they don't have money, you can never tell. Whether abroad or Nigeria, before you conclude that someone is stingy, you must be very close to them to genuinely know if they can afford to give certain amount of money irrespective of their current situation.

Sometimes If I don't have much money with me, I use to be praying that certain persons should not need my assistance at that moment because there is no way or excuse I can give that they will understand.

To me life is very simple, if someone ask me for help, I will do if i can at the moment, but if I don't, I will apologize and promise or outrightly tell them off. I don't see any reason we should be complaining about people asking us for helps, when they don't put knives in our throats to help them.

muyico:
Then how Nigeria top d list of most generous country??

Not sure if Nigeria is top but african do a lot in remittances back home. Loads of money remittance apps abroad are tragetet at Africans.

Even the likes of lemfi have grown into a $1billion unicorn on top of african diaspora remittances.

As someone said earlier, Nigerians are often very entitled. After a while, people abroad wise up and decide who is worth it

pocohantas:
What of $50 or $20?
Na only me done ask of this one.
I take Ogun beg you. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

😂😂

JoeEeL:
It is mostly diasporan nigerians that do this thing alot. When they travel, they begin to ask their fellow japarians about any app used for sending money that gives the best transfer rates: apps like LemFi or SendWave.

Most other nationalities don't remit as much. After Nigerians, maybe some other african countries. All these mullatos and carribean people no really send anybody papa for here.

And by diasporan nigerians, Im strictly talking about nigerian men, and not women. Instead, women will not mind billing you wey dey nigeria, and them dey diaspora. If u doubt me, go ask Roby Ekpo wey cry for Daddy Freeze live' honest bunch podcast.

Liabilities both home and away!

$20bn yearly Nigerians send home. Bigger than gdp of many countries, and I believe they are part of the problem Nigeria faces today because a lot of people have a lifeline and become lazy to even think solutions to problems around them or face useless politicians squarely

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

On a monthly basis o, plus heavy taxes. Make I stingy dey go

ednut1:
😂😂

Make e no be say we are rigid. 50, 20 or even 10dollars can fly. 😃

Smiles. Hypocrites everywhere.

Most of you condemning it once feel entitled before you left the country. Nonsense.

Jeezuzpick:
I get money from my diaspora friends anytime I ask, and it's for a reason.

I borrow, and return it.

When you understand that money is much more precious over there than it is here, that they cannot afford to lose what we can lose here, that no one is coming to help them if they're in a bind, you will understand that you need to give back every penny you take from them.

Funny enough, there are times when I ask for a loan, and they just give me and tell me it's a gift, but mostly, I keep it as a transaction, and honour it.

Nice one but I hope you pay back in the same currency they lent to you cos the way Naira gyrates upandan, paying back in Naira is not it. That's how someone I lent N500k in 2021 keeps promising to pay back, forgetting that N500k was $1k dollars back then which is N1.6m now.

Before I traveled, I used to volunteer at my church in Nigeria, Gateway Baptist Church, teaching youths Sciences and Maths for WAEC and JAMB. I was humbled by not meeting my JAMB cut off, and Dad made me stay home to retake instead of using his influence to get me into another course my number would enter at UI. I retook and got way more than ...then UI went on strike for 9 months.

I started home tutoring and I was informed some of our youths had issues passing entrance exams in church and had instead taking to religious positions. I volunteered and started. Eventually a new position, Academic Coordinator was created. They also agreed to pay my transportion because I had refused to be paid. It was then I got my admission and told them I have to go for the visa interview. I was told if God wants me to travel, it will be done...else I can continue in my position. I was sure it was God's time.

Like the author said, giving is a gift. We all have something to give. Stunned by scholarships I had received over the years by unknown people I never met, I made a decision to give back. This year marks the 5th year of MultiMillion Naira Summer Project at IDAGBA Empowerment Foundation. I am not RICH, but I believe in giving, I have gotten much more.

I have also created a free WhatsApp group for landlords called Landlording in Nigeria to help people manage tenants well. Reach out if you want to join.

Nairaland111:
Giving Is a Gift, Not a Geographical Location

Have you ever asked yourself why some people in the diaspora do not send money home to their friends?

Many people argue that it is because of the struggles and sacrifices involved in earning money abroad. Others believe that people back home often assume that everyone overseas is picking money like fruit from trees. To be fair, both arguments have some truth to them. Sometimes, when you see how hard people work just to survive abroad, you may even wonder how they manage to support others financially.

Despite these arguments, I decided to carry out a little experiment this morning. I called a few friends back home and told them I urgently needed ₦5,000 to complete a transaction. I promised to repay the money the following week.

Out of 10 close friends, only one was willing to help immediately and even told me not to worry because we are friends. Imagine that. Ten friends, eight of whom work in government institutions and the remaining two are businessmen. Some people may ask about the nature of our relationship. These are people I consider brothers, and we had been together for more than five years before I travelled.

That experience led me to a conclusion: giving is a gift, and it has little to do with geographical location. Before calling people in the diaspora stingy, how often have we helped those around us with the little we have?

You do not have to live overseas before you can help someone. Generosity is a way of life. While it may be true that some people abroad become more cautious because of the stress involved in making money, I would argue that we should also ask what they were like before they travelled. Were they naturally generous? Or were they often taken advantage of because of their kindness?

At the end of the day, kindness is not determined by where you live but by the condition of your heart. The willingness to help others is a character trait, not a geographical advantage.

Let us all try to support one another, regardless of our location. As said:

"It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving."

gassbee:
If someone should solicit assistance from you , if u dont have the money I think is better u open up n inform the person about it instead of you just snubbing the person

God bless you, some people are just too irrational. Why snubbing or blocking someone asking for help when they didn't put gun on your head to help them. Only a bad people or pretenders do that.

Although some people are found of intentionally asking for help despite being comfortable but i found it difficult to believe that every man out there is proud of asking for help. It is not easy at all to be asking a fellow man for help, infact no man is proud of doing that. People put their pride, dignity and self worth at stake to ask a fellow man for help. That is one thing that should come to our minds if someone ask us for help. We can honourable tell them no, but it is not fair to be disgracing them by snubbing, blocking or coming on social medias to make jest of them.

Angelfrost:
Anyone who has the audacity to call another stingy has a ridiculous and silly entitlement mentality... Which basically sums up most average Nigerians, especially those down the economic spectrum.

No one owes you a damn thing... If you ask for money, and the request is turned down or ignored, there is absolutely no need getting wrung out of shape about it.


No matter your situation, no one was created or born to carry your burdens... Especially when not even bound to you by blood.

I deeply hate the begging culture in every sector and cranny of this nation... Who bewitched you people with this Bambiala spirit?!!

I do not understand the concept behind the word "stingy". No one is entitled to another person's resources.

If you are seeking validation from people, that is when you care what they think. A gift is not an entitlement.
Stingy Kee you there.

Oyinbo fans go see footballer n ask for autograph and pix but naija fans no be like that

Its all about billings

Warri people will say...

Na begi begi make you think say ya brother stingy...

It is called non-verbal communication. Maybe the person already opened up several times but trust many Nigerians, that won't stop them and they will start negotiating from $100 all the way to "can you at least send like 5k naira or anything anything"

gassbee:
If someone should solicit assistance from you , if u dont have the money I think is better u open up n inform the person about it instead of you just snubbing the person

You got the gist. Guys no even mind $1.50. At all at all na him bad

pocohantas:
What of $50 or $20?
Na only me done ask of this one.
I take Ogun beg you. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

People shouldn't feel entitled. But I can't imagine not sending money when what's barely any money abroad will make a world of difference for family back home. I couldn't do it.

It's one thing if you're barely managing, but if you're comfortable and don't want for anything, it's kind of bizarre. If it's family that was evil to you, I understand, but others? Why? As long as people aren't draining your wallet, what's the problem?

I feel like this is a more common mentality with black people. I mean, I'm not close with nonblacks, so maybe I'm not aware of the same gripe. But it seems like a segment of black people, regardless of nationality, have this mentality that they shouldn't do anything for family, even their children, or only the bare minimum. I think this is a symptom of poverty, insecurity, and maybe internalized racism. Some call it a scarcity mindset.

ETA: Some people also see their family as competition. They have this dysfunctional view that their own blood should be poorer. It's disgusting.

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

Kip kwaiet dia!!!!

Certified Ebenezer scrooge

If na to buy designer fish to eat or to go to ski resort no problem

To help ya boys you begin dey prepare schedule of completed expenses

Chop knuckle

The way some begi begi people dey look this thread dey vex but dem no fit talk. It is well

correctguy101:
Warri people will say...

Na begi begi make you think say ya brother stingy...

ednut1:
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹

After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you

U wey dey Somalia sef cey brag

You still find a way to feature women in this your remix , my hand no dey oo, there are still good women that are truly deserving, I know how many women have bought flagship watch and earbuds from me for their hubby and they are Nigerians

JoeEeL:
It is mostly diasporan nigerians that do this thing alot. When they travel, they begin to ask their fellow japarians about any app used for sending money that gives the best transfer rates: apps like LemFi or SendWave.

Most other nationalities don't remit as much. After Nigerians, maybe some other african countries. All these mullatos and carribean people no really send anybody papa for here.

And by diasporan nigerians, Im strictly talking about nigerian men, and not women. Instead, women will not mind billing you wey dey nigeria, and them dey diaspora. If u doubt me, go ask Roby Ekpo wey cry for Daddy Freeze live' honest bunch podcast.

Liabilities both home and away!

Metrofox:
$20bn yearly Nigerians send home. Bigger than gdp of many countries, and I believe they are part of the problem Nigeria faces today because a lot of people have a lifeline and don't become lazy to even think solutions to problems around them

Uve said it all, ma guy