₦airaland Forum

True. Diaspora remittance is one of the major factors, if not the biggest, why Nigerians are not facing their oppressors at home squarely.

In those days of just Western Union and the likes, you would see many Nigerians shivering uncomfortably on money transfer queue several miles away from home just to send money to help folks at home. The sad thing is how most of them got insulted in the end or even duped by their own people.

Metrofox:
$20bn yearly Nigerians send home. Bigger than gdp of many countries, and I believe they are part of the problem Nigeria faces today because a lot of people have a lifeline and don't become lazy to even think solutions to problems around them

MatrixCircle:
Black tax.
Immediately month ends, Nigeria diaspora in Uk 🇬🇧, Canada 🇨🇦, U.S.A ,Australia etc Starts receiving texts messages, calls etc from family, freinds and unknown people putting forward one problem or the other thinking money is picked from the streets.

Me sef dey protect my end.
Forgetting the level of bills guys abroad pay no be here o.

We all receive the tax man's demands, but It's all about striking a balance because in all honesty, you can't really say no to some people. It can be really frustrating sometimes.

FutureFocus:
You still find a way to feature women in this your remix , my hand no dey oo, there are still good women that are truly deserving, I know how many women have bought flagship watch and earbuds from me for their hubby and they are Nigerians

Wives of wealthy men, who take out a fraction of the amount their men gives them from their earned income or proceeds of an investment.

Outiers are children of the few and prestigious elites who were born into wealth like the Otedolas. So that way, the money they use to buy all those things are from their parents instead, more like an inheritance.

But a nigerian lady, born into an average or poor family, then works her way into wealth, and can think of buying a prized watch for her husband as a gift, and you believe its from her toil, you sir, na joneser.

givedemwotowoto:
Most (if not all) Nigerians are very entitled.

my dear we are all entitled to 'help' from one another that's why we are humans and not animals(even some animals do).
What is 'Help' ? My Dear what will be your disposition towards passers-by God forbid you are in or someone dear to you is in a crash(car,plane,train),your house or car on fire, having a cardiac arrest,trapped in a lift,in an about to be capsized yacht, medical emergency if they refused to 'help'.

JoeEeL:
Wives of wealthy men, who take out a fraction of the amount their men gives them from their earned income or proceeds of an investment.

Outiers are children of the few and prestigious elites who were born into wealth like the Otedolas. So that way, the money they use to buy all those things are from their parents instead, more like an inheritance.

But a nigerian lady, born into an average or poor family, then works her way into wealth, and can think of buying a prized watch for her husband as a gift, and you believe its from her toil, you sir, na joneser.

Actually to be honest in my 7 years of selling,

1 in Lagos
1 in Uyo
1 in Benue
1 in Delta

Okay Total of 4 in 7 years , and I really respected them because it was a very rare thing , compare to men that does it on weekly basis , and only about 5 have also purchased something for themselves, it’s our culture, men are the provider but I will not agree with you openly but in secret

Ibime:
Nice one but I hope you pay back in the same currency they lent to you cos the way Naira gyrates upandan, paying back in Naira is not it. That's how someone I lent N500k in 2021 keeps promising to pay back, forgetting that N500k was $1k dollars back then which is N1.6m now.

1k dollars is less than 1.5m now.

Ibime:
Nice one but I hope you pay back in the same currency they lent to you cos the way Naira gyrates upandan, paying back in Naira is not it. That's how someone I lent N500k in 2021 keeps promising to pay back, forgetting that N500k was $1k dollars back then which is N1.6m now.

I borrow in Naira, pay back in Naira.

Haven't done that in years, at this point.

PS: That person who borrowed N500k from you five years ago?
Doesn't plan to pay back.

tito44:
1k dollars is less than 1.5m now.

So long as you get the point

EvangelistChuks:
my dear we are all entitled to 'help' from one another that's why we are humans and not animals(even some animals do).
What is 'Help' ? My Dear what will be your disposition towards passers-by God forbid you are in or someone dear to you is in a crash(car,plane,train),your house or car on fire, having a cardiac arrest,trapped in a lift,in an about to be capsized yacht, medical emergency if they refused to 'help'.

Entitlement is something you're legally or contractually guaranteed or supposed to receive, without which you can take legal action. E.g. if you work for someone for an agreed pay, you're entitled to the agreed salary. If they don't pay you, you can take legal action.

Receiving financial or physical help is not an entitlement. It's done out of goodwill.

Many Nigerians feel entitled to someone else's money just because they are in need, or share a blood relationship, not because they worked for it or earned it by goodwill, or the person is gracious enough to help.

Nice2023:
And the truth of the matter is that most of our readers here the most stingiest in Nigeria.

Such a pity.

That is emotional maligning. Nobody owes you a gift.

FutureFocus:
Actually to be honest in my 7 years of selling,

1 in Lagos
1 in Uyo
1 in Benue
1 in Delta

Okay Total of 4 in 7 years , and I really respected them because it was a very rare thing , compare to men that does it on weekly basis , and only about 5 have also purchased something for themselves, it’s our culture, men are the provider but I will not agree with you openly but in secret

Lol those are the exceptions na. As u see, its rare. U just wan defend them small lol. I get.

givedemwotowoto:
Entitlement is something you're legally or contractually guaranteed or supposed to receive, without which you can take legal action. E.g. if you work for someone for an agreed pay, you're entitled to the agreed salary. If they don't pay you, you can take legal action.

Receiving financial or physical help is not an entitlement. It's done out of goodwill.

Many Nigerians feel entitled to someone else's money just because they are in need, or share a blood relationship, not because they worked for it or earned it by goodwill, or the person is gracious enough to help.

my dear morality is the string holding legality together it's the fulcrum upon which legality stands.Like I tried to let us know,'Help' is a generic word for 'coming to the rescue of one in distress'. Or do you justify what the priest and the Levite did when they saw the man wounded by robbers in Luke 10:30-37.
My dear we all OWE ourselves let me use another word KINDNESS as the social being that we are.
Remember it can be you or a dear one needing it tomorrow.

Firstcitizen:
I often visit Nigeria and no one offers even a small gift like a tuber of yam to take back but they know how to ask for help from time to time. A tuber of yam is nothing but the heart behind it matters.

I have stopped giving out money to people in Nigeria, no matter the reason.

Seems all the people you know in naija don't have shishi.

Bluna:
In your circle of friends, if it is just only 1 out of 10 that could help you with 5k, it means your friendship is terrible

Thank you, you described his circumstances accurately. Lol

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Carry talk
They are stingy period
I get family full dey
I get clients clients send but family
Na so so story

femi4:
My whatsapp is on steady blocking. Why will every "hi, how you dey" get "should I send my aza" as a response

you sound very mean and wicked, mind you that without us at home you are nothing

nedekid:
Seems all the people you know in naija don't have shishi.

Lol, aside the 1% of the 1% in Nigeria, all others are fully assimilated into the 'abeg culture' The well to do ones beg like they are doing you a favour like "I have one deal with LASG that is about to mature, Find me N1M as things dey rough now, I don spend over N300+m on the contract" or I like this your shoes bro, you go leave am for me when you dey return". Check that guy 4 hours later, him go dey club dey spend like international footballer.

You lot in Nigeria are all entitled beggars, from the airport, they go like, show us love sir! You get to an eatery, the security are all over you as a begging technique, all airport workers are beggars, Toilet staff, beggars, You give someone a job to do, he finishes the job gets paid, then goes like, "oga any way you show appreciation for the job is welcome"

Ever wondered why Nigeria is called Abegistan?

deji17:
That is emotional maligning. Nobody owes you a gift.

Emotionally maligning people who come to accuse their friends,uncles and aunties as stingy while in reality,they are the stingiest.

Abeg make I hear word.

Make I Japa first.

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nedekid:
Yeah, ABEGISTAN no doubt, that's the name the south Africans gave Nigeria and aptly too.
The issue is when you say "you lot" Oga I put it to you that you are the local champion within your community, your group of friends and probably your family, the only one so far to have found his way to "heaven" in their minds aka abroad, so it is expected that they will beg you even if you are a janator in the "ablod".
Oga I have friends abroad, I send them money when they ask and if I have any reason to ask they will send to me. Infact among group of friends those of us here in naija have sent more money to friends and siblings abroad than they do to us. I was speaking with a childhood friend few weeks ago and he mentioned of how he had to support his younger bro with £10k twice when he had issues and had to stabilize him. Bros, I know how many times I sent $1k to paddies in the US. When I go abroad my guys take me out, when they come here I do the same no biggie. Last time I was on vacation my main man said I will find him something that his bills was over his head, na my paddy I assisted him and was proud to do so, because he has had my back in the past and will have it if needed in the future.
As I said earliee the begging issue in naija as you rightly said is noteworthy. I was in a friend's office 4 years ago in welling Kent, a call came in from Abuja, another of our friends, a billionaire, we we got talking and poor me trying to feel among spoke of how I avoid calls those days because every call has to do with someone begging for money, guess what, to my surprise the billionaire guy said that was wrong, that you must always pick up calls, he said what if the person that called has a life threatening issue? Omo, who I tried to impress rather taught me a big lesson. Rich man de pick call how much more struggling person like me? Nb in the conversation that guy paid cash money for a 800k house in the UK from naija, no mortgage.
Bro be humble, after all that same America their own begin begi is on another level, their own is by force, you eat in a restaurant, the waiters will expect you to tip them atleast 20%, you park your car valet expects tip, Uber eats delivers food you must settle the delivery, begi begi on an American style. lol
The really big guys, the rich ones abroad no de talk, na the struggling ones de make noice pass.

Just see person wey dey brag say he send people $1k From the way you even write, it is obvious you have not eaten for straight 2 days . Send Aza make I bend my rule small . You need it.

Just wear your Abegistan toga with pride. Billionaire friend my a...... Typical Nigerian, deluded boasting to impress even when they have a zero bank balance, then beg at every given opportunity.

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nedekid:
Show evidence of $20k in your aza and I will show evidence of 40, show of 40 and I will show of 80.
Walai I may be poor in naija but I bet I am better than you.

Only empty vessels beat their chests like this. You actually sound like a juvenile with this comment. Let me still ask "You don chop today"

Firstcitizen:
Only empty vessels beat their chests like this. You actually sound like a juvenile with this comment. Let me still ask "You don chop today"

Oga I don throw you challenge, if you cannot keep up then keep quite.

nedekid:
Oga I don throw you challenge, if you cannot keep up then keep quite.

What a child. Poverty can sometimes make adults behave like toddlers

Edusouls:
you sound very mean and wicked, mind you that without us at home you are nothing

Lazy bone...learn to live according to your means. Nobody owes you nothing, may God delivers you from beggi beggi spirit

Firstcitizen:
I often visit Nigeria and no one offers even a small gift like a tuber of yam to take back but they know how to ask for help from time to time. A tuber of yam is nothing but the heart behind it matters.

I have stopped giving out money to people in Nigeria, no matter the reason.

I'm glad I have never asked anyone and will not ask

femi4:
Lazy bone...learn to live according to your means. Nobody owes you nothing, may God delivers you from beggi beggi spirit

begging is not a bad thing even you wicked stingy person was helped by someone and u begged at some point when you were struggling to survive, the thing is that once people are comfortable the inner true colors begins to show, so the world have seen your type many times over

Edusouls:
begging is not a bad thing even you wicked stingy person was helped by someone and u begged at some point when you were struggling to survive, the thing is that once people are comfortable the inner true colors begins to show, so the world have seen your type many times over

It becomes bad when you feel entitled.

I have never begged, always learnt to be contented and never lived above my means.

You dont go about calling people 'stingy' over their money