₦airaland Forum

ukaface:
Why do you think that is though?

Could it also have something to do with how the men treat their wives? Maybe the issue isn’t race at all, but differences in relationship dynamics, respect, communication, and expectations.

No its beyond how African men treat their wives, and you know why?


You hardly hear that a core Asian woman divorced her husband. You hardly hear Asian women and their migrant husbands having all these issues black women have with their migrant husbands in America, Europe, Canada, etc, very rare even when most of the Asian women earn more than their husbands cos most of them are either in tech or medical where they earn fat salaries and still stay loyal and submissive to their husbands.


Even foreign men that marry Asian women experience same, reason most tech billionaires go for Asian women.



Our women really need to have a rethink. The freedom you think you have gotten just because you relocated abroad and started earning good income will only turn you to a intimacy gadget for small small boys which brings dishonor to a woman.

Ojagun:
Personally,i believe African/Nigerian men should stop trying to control women.
Thinking constantly about controlling women as a man,is the mindset/mentality of pathetically weak,insecure men.

How do mean controls women?
In what way do men controls women ?

What are the tears for?

There is no logic to this or why would women marry broke guys in the first place.

Why should the table turn. Women retrain, take career brakes to have children, all the female medical students get engaged during university almost to guys that are being fed by parents what is that all about.

What is with all the women bashing that only happens with black men against black women. Please make una leave them alone. To marry no be by force now.

Una problem be say a woman with money has options from an oppressive man.

seunmsg:
Women generally. It is not just African women. Basically, the respect and love they show before they start making their own money is never real. It was simply out of necessity. Once the table turns, they show their true colors.

The set up is different most Asian households na the grandmothers take care of the cooking and cleaning during the week even the school runs.

Them quick to kill over refusal to marry and divorce.

The family income is joint and both party have access.

Infidelity is not rampant.

franchasng:
No its beyond how African men treat their wives, and you know why?


You hardly hear that a core Asian woman divorced her husband. You hardly hear Asian women and their migrant husbands having all these issues black women have with their migrant husbands in America, Europe, Canada, etc, very rare even when most of the Asian women earn more than their husbands cos most of them are either in tech or medical where they earn fat salaries and still stay loyal and submissive to their husbands.


Even foreign men that marry Asian women experience same, reason most tech billionaires go for Asian women.



Our women really need to have a rethink. The freedom you think you have gotten just because you relocated abroad and started earning good income will only turn you to a intimacy gadget for small small boys which brings dishonor to a woman.

AbosedeFalade:
Now I know that you don't have respect for your betters. No wonder your type here in America are usually sent away from the house.

America dream

The very moment an average African man redefines his concept of respect and an average African woman eschews self-absorption, this very problem will be reduced to the minimum level.

In recent time I begin to wonder what men actually benefit from marriage. My wife treats me like a cotten wool on top scale . You know what I mean? .. zero respect . She can talk to outsiders, laugh with strangers ( men) but can nagg at me for just no reason . ...... Men I don't even know my offences most times .

In recent time I begin to wonder what men actually benefit from marriage. My wife treats me like a cotten wool on top scale . You know what I mean? .. zero respect . She can talk to outsiders, laugh with strangers ( men) but can nagg at me for just no reason . ...... Men I don't even know my offences most times .

Daataane:
In recent time I begin to wonder what men actually benefit from marriage. My wife treats me like a cotten wool on top scale . You know what I mean? .. zero respect . She can talk to outsiders, laugh with strangers ( men) but can nagg at me for just no reason . ...... Men I don't even know my offences most times .

Maybe she has caught you cheating or see herself deserving more than you currently offer.

The only way she can keep respecting the husband is if he maintains his masculine frame.

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adamkkk:
This generalisation is demeaning.

That you have a bad woman doesn't make other women bad.


There are women that are well trained and will baff u with adoration even as they progress in life.

In some situations, the woman will boast u till u start making it. Your growth will be totally the handiwork of the woman.




Many of u here are enemies of progress. U don't want Ur own wife to progress because of fear of imaginary domination. Some men even go as far as using juju against their own wife.

You are just blabbing calm down

That's very unequivocally true

3kay945:
Maybe she has caught you cheating or see herself deserving more than you currently offer.

I don't cheat .

Daataane:
I don't cheat .

Good hubby!

franchasng:
No its beyond how African men treat their wives, and you know why?


You hardly hear that a core Asian woman divorced her husband. You hardly hear Asian women and their migrant husbands having all these issues black women have with their migrant husbands in America, Europe, Canada, etc, very rare even when most of the Asian women earn more than their husbands cos most of them are either in tech or medical where they earn fat salaries and still stay loyal and submissive to their husbands.

Being abusive to loved ones, allowing abuse, and sticking together no matter how you're treated appear to be parts of Asian culture. You're talking about people who if they're an office manager in their country, they hit subordinates. And that's considered normal. And they're just not very independent people either. It's less sticking together and more sharing a brain. They're Pikmin. They also have an intense belief in shame, and fear of it. Shame for any and everything. Everything except scamming. Leaving her husband is one of those things they might feel a lot of shame about for multiple reasons.

Foreign born Asians don't really move like this.

Another reason is many Asian immigrants are of means. These are people who had money and a nice lifestyle before they went abroad. What wife is itching to leave her man when they've been dripping in Versace and been chauffeured in a Benz to the spa daily? Once they get to US/CA/AU/UK, life doesn't change much. How many Nigerian immigrants are balling? Asians, even the broke ones, also have networks and resources to exploit as soon as they touch down. The US government also practically throws money at them to start a business. The average Nigerian immigrant has to start over, and battle racism. Networks? Nigerians don't even want to send $50 home. A lot of Asian wives are dealing with a different situation than a poor Nigerian woman who marries a man pretty much only to escape poverty or go abroad, and then she gets a nursing degree and a great salary with job security. And other women move like this. A fair amount of latina women trade up. But it's not due to their job. They just find a dude they like more once the ink dries on their green card. I've also heard about Russian women taking off once they finish school, but I don't know how common that is.

I'm here to read comments especially the one writtened by Mynd44.

Kemetian:
Any woman that rates you based on the value of your phone is trash.

A worthless ho.

Not worthy of your time, because the day you run into rough times, she's gone.

That's how Nigerian girls differentiate a wealthy or well to do guy. Hold keys that looks like car keys and have a good phone, with good apartment, forget it, you'll be changing women every 2 days like clothes

I say we too dey put emotions for everything, imagine someone up there in the first page saying all our mothers generation was loyal,.. LOL,..

If they make more money than you. If a woman makes money, she will still comport so far you make more than her. Frustration grows when she realizes she’s potentially the breadwinner. Nothing women hate more than supporting their partner financially or knowing that they are in such a position.

This is actually on point, but most people won’t understand. Men crave respect, women crave love. Even the bible says wives should RESPECT their husbands and husbands in turn should LOVE their wives. Now let me tell you one funny but true reality….. There is no man that is well-respected by his wife that wouldn’t “ love” her and no woman that is rightly loved by her husband that won’t “respect “ him.


In conclusion, the onus is on us to be “better halves” and do right by our partners.

Peace !!!!

Daataane:
In recent time I begin to wonder what men actually benefit from marriage. My wife treats me like a cotten wool on top scale . You know what I mean? .. zero respect . She can talk to outsiders, laugh with strangers ( men) but can nagg at me for just no reason . ...... Men I don't even know my offences most times .

Lol @Emboldened
Baba,there is obviously another bull in the ring

Daataane:
In recent time I begin to wonder what men actually benefit from marriage. My wife treats me like a cotten wool on top scale . You know what I mean? .. zero respect . She can talk to outsiders, laugh with strangers ( men) but can nagg at me for just no reason . ...... Men I don't even know my offences most times .

Have you ever cheated on her?
Be honest...

Ojagun:
Personally,i believe African/Nigerian men should stop trying to control women.
Thinking constantly about controlling women as a man,is the mindset/mentality of pathetically weak,insecure men.
Leave the women alone to roam free and if they later decide to perch someplace and build a nest,then let them.If they don't,also let them be.It is their right/choice.

Na who pay bride price naim suppose decide.

No. It's does who are feeding from their pocket that they disrespect. Even if you are her ashawo boyfriend, she will definitely disrespect you.

vickydevoka:
Fact. That's why I cancelled my wedding. I wanted to sponsor her nursing abroad but after thinking about women I chose to be single

Good one oo. But still marry o. The good ones are out there but never ever loseguard with them