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I saw this picture online and it got me thinking.

Do you think marriage is still worth it even when money is tight?

Or is it better to wait until you are financially stable before getting married and having children?

What would you choose and why?

DLordofhost:
I saw this picture online and it got me thinking. Do you think marriage is still worth it even when money is tight? Or is it better to wait until you are financially stable before getting married and having children? What would you choose and why?

Stop badmouthing marriage already! 😒😒😒

What that picture shows can be interpreted in a multitude of ways....
➜ A man who, knowing he had not much to offer, went ahead and had himself more children than he could handle anyway
➜ A man who is down on his luck, but still has the know-how, diligence, and perseverance to get himself out of the hole he currently finds himself in
➜ A man who unexpectedly found himself needing to take care of children belonging to someone else
➜ A man whose father imposed on him the care of his own siblings from either the same or another mother
➜ A man who has spent all of his money fighting against the powers-that-be in the courts, only to end up poor for it at the end of the day
➜ A man who has had to spend his money trying to treat his sick wife/child, while the rest of the family has had to bear it with him
➜ A homeless man who was welcomed to manage and share with a poor family....

Stop downloading random pictures online only to then use them are backdrops for your private ignorance.

These are the people yekini should have in mind when he is buying cement to do coastal road.

Nothing wrong in starting from a humble beginning. But the poor decision of that family (the man and wife) is birthing more than one child in their current situation.

It takes a long time to be financially stable as we would love to, but when you have set up systems in place, you've gotten skills that can be converted to value and You're also setting up something that brings even the tiniest passive income, then please look for an equally visionary woman to build with.

Kobojunkie:
Stop badmouthing marriage already! 😒😒😒

What that picture shows can be interpreted in a multitude of ways....
➜ A man who, knowing he had not much to offer, went ahead and had himself more children than he could handle anyway
➜ A man who is down on his luck, but still has the know-how, diligence, and perseverance to get himself out of the hole he currently finds himself in
➜ A man who unexpectedly found himself needing to take care of children belonging to someone else
➜ A man whose father imposed on him the care of his own siblings from either the same or another mother
➜ A man who has spent all of his money fighting against the powers-that-be in the courts, only to end up poor for it at the end of the day
➜ A man who has had to spend his money trying to treat his sick wife/child, while the rest of the family has had to bear it with him
➜ A homeless man who was welcomed to manage and share with a poor family....

Stop downloading random pictures online only to then use them are backdrops for your private ignorance.

A man, a man, a man, a man. Isn't marriage the union of a man and a woman?

Stephen0mozzy:
➜A man, a man, a man, a man. Isn't marriage the union of a man and a woman?

Marriage is also the making of decisions by both a man and a woman. If either or both made overall bad decisions, they are likely to get a bad marriage in return. If both made good decisions overall, they are likely to get in return a good marriage, regardless of how long or short the marriage is. Marriage is a system that spits out a net of what the man and woman put into it. It is not a magical tool.

The picture above does not seem to include a woman; that girl in the picture appears to be a child, and I refuse to entertain the suggestion that the child is the wife in the picture. The boy in the background also looks like a child. As I said, there are a multitude of ways the picture can be interpreted without a clear picture of events given.

Mr Obavoh… where are you? 😂😂😂

Involving a lot of people in your suffering is not humble beginning but foolishness and madness

As long as there’s food, love and peace. I value these more than millions

The foundation of generational poverty, nothing person go tell me. Avoid that gender when their desperation for partner begins.

VeevoH:
As long as there’s food, love and peace. I value these more than millions

And many go trapped and ended this way

Well, they look happy, that's all that matters.

Kobojunkie:
Stop badmouthing marriage already! 😒😒😒

What that picture shows can be interpreted in a multitude of ways....
➜ A man who, knowing he had not much to offer, went ahead and had himself more children than he could handle anyway
➜ A man who is down on his luck, but still has the know-how, diligence, and perseverance to get himself out of the hole he currently finds himself in
➜ A man who unexpectedly found himself needing to take care of children belonging to someone else
➜ A man whose father imposed on him the care of his own siblings from either the same or another mother
➜ A man who has spent all of his money fighting against the powers-that-be in the courts, only to end up poor for it at the end of the day
➜ A man who has had to spend his money trying to treat his sick wife/child, while the rest of the family has had to bear it with him
➜ A homeless man who was welcomed to manage and share with a poor family....

Stop downloading random pictures online only to then use them are backdrops for your private ignorance.

Can you please help me with your supplier's phone number? Your own brand of weed is extraordinary!

I don't think it sounds pretty cool,❤️ but mehn really need to get stable and self independent financial or attain a certain hight in life B4 making plans towards marrying a woman not talked of bring children with her ..itsounds so ridiculous at times saw prenty gone through alot in their marriages ❤️🤩😃

Cleties:
➜I don't think it sounds pretty cool,❤️ but mehn really need to get stable and self independent financial or attain a certain hight in life B4 making plans towards marrying a woman not talked of bring children with her ..itsounds so ridiculous at times saw prenty gone through alot in their marriages ❤️🤩😃

Better still, most men, particularly those from poor backgrounds and do not have themselves a house already before marriage, in Nigeria should avoid women who are not financially independent altogether.

Marriage only works out well for those who follow it with common sense! It ends up a hellhole for those who refuse to.

It is hard to imagine that some people live like this.... it is well. And I hope those babies are a triplet....it would be very unfair on them if she carried them as singletons fa.

The divine ordered institution of marriage is under destruction by yoppies.

Let me start with the op, can you post a picture of yourself and other coursemates of yours in University lecture hall with no fan or air conditioner.

Can you post a picture or video of APC primary election this year where even BAT was in a scorching sun addressing the people of his ward

Our lives must pass thru this stage constantly if we must succeed in our endeavour

What if he was financially stable before marriage but after birth of these children, he lost his job and multiple disappointments follow suit which made them to relocate to a room apartment

Cleties:
I don't think it sounds pretty cool,❤️ but mehn really need to get stable and self independent financial or attain a certain hight in life B4 making plans towards marrying a woman not talked of bring children with her ..itsounds so ridiculous at times saw prenty gone through alot in their marriages ❤️🤩😃

DLordofhost:
I saw this picture online and it got me thinking.

Do you think marriage is still worth it even when money is tight?

Or is it better to wait until you are financially stable before getting married and having children?

What would you choose and why?

I don't see them suffering, except they are living in an untidy space.

Kobojunkie:
Stop badmouthing marriage already! 😒😒😒

What that picture shows can be interpreted in a multitude of ways....
➜ A man who, knowing he had not much to offer, went ahead and had himself more children than he could handle anyway
➜ A man who is down on his luck, but still has the know-how, diligence, and perseverance to get himself out of the hole he currently finds himself in
➜ A man who unexpectedly found himself needing to take care of children belonging to someone else
➜ A man whose father imposed on him the care of his own siblings from either the same or another mother
➜ A man who has spent all of his money fighting against the powers-that-be in the courts, only to end up poor for it at the end of the day
➜ A man who has had to spend his money trying to treat his sick wife/child, while the rest of the family has had to bear it with him
➜ A homeless man who was welcomed to manage and share with a poor family....

Stop downloading random pictures online only to then use them are backdrops for your private ignorance.

You are right. Any of these scenarios is possible. Thanks for seeing it from a different perspective.

Social media is the one gassing all of u up

This was how most people grew up

But these days, everybody is forming rich online

Marrying into poverty is not as terrible as we all make it seem. With the right partner, you can achieve a lot more than you would have as a single person.

The problem is having children in poverty… don’t children into a situation where you can’t yet provide for their basic needs

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is also the making of decisions by both a man and a woman. If either or both made overall bad decisions, they are likely to get a bad marriage in return. If both made good decisions overall, they are likely to get in return a good marriage, regardless of how long or short the marriage is. Marriage is a system that spits out a net of what the man and woman put into it. It is not a magical tool.

The picture above does not seem to include a woman; that girl in the picture appears to be a child, and I refuse to entertain the suggestion that the child is the wife in the picture. The boy in the background also looks like a child. As I said, there are a multitude of ways the picture can be interpreted without a clear picture of events given.

The bolded logic doesn't always hold in real life scenario. But then I agree with your earlier stance. Picking up random pictures from the Internet and giving it an ignorant caption to spark debate is diabolical. In the larger scheme of things wether or not this type of union holds depends on the tolerance of both the man and the woman to withstand each others on and off days .. especially when the pressure cooks.

DLordofhost:
I saw this picture online and it got me thinking.

Do you think marriage is still worth it even when money is tight?

Or is it better to wait until you are financially stable before getting married and having children?

What would you choose and why?

Marriage is not worth it. Why would anyone stick to eating amala and ewedu for more than a year?? Marriage is high over head and too much latency coupled with lack of privacy and freedoom.

WantsandMore:
✓ The bolded logic doesn't always hold in real life scenario.
✓ But then I agree with your earlier stance. Picking up random pictures from the Internet and giving it an ignorant caption to spark debate is diabolical.
✓ In the larger scheme of things wether or not this type of union holds depends on the tolerance of both the man and the woman to withstand each others on and off days .. especially when the pressure cooks.

That greatly depends on what your idea of a good marriage is. To me it is a union one can maybe eventually walk away from without regret or remorse. Or the feeling that one was used and abused. Unlike most, I don't believe marriage is about locking down the other party in a relationship neither do I think it should always be a lifelong agreement. We are humans and we get bored or disinterested too, some more than others. That should not stop us all from experiencing the best of things though. 🤔

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3. Interest, too! I believe knowing and accepting that one may have to move on from a marriage is also a good mind to have. I love the saying, "If you love someone, set them free!" That do or die mentality towards marriage kills more than it heals. 🤔