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EhisChelsea1:
“IF HE US GUILTY” kwa?

“I don’t understand why she went alone to see a man”

In an ideal and normal situation, Why should a young girl feel unsafe going to see a man alone? Why can’t men control themselves? Why can’t a man gets full consent from a lady before trying to do anything? Even if she visits you and sleeps over, why should sex be on the table at all if it was not pre-discussed and agreed on? The purpose of the girl coming over was so she can be helped. If the help was to come with the condition of sex, why didn’t he spell it out from the beginning so she make an informed decision before leaving her house?
Now, all these were not bargained and concluded and you can’t hold yourself and feel you must have sex wih her, why not take your time to convince her and probably woo her over to get her consent and approval before doing anything?

This is all shades of wrong. I don’t know why but unfortunately, this is how the majority of Nigerian men reason. I have had lot of persons seeing me and telling me I am a fool and a weakling simply cos a lady will sleep over in my place either due to one thing or the other and I didn’t touch her… or that a lady in need of accommodation will stay temporarily at my place u til she is able to sort out her accommodation and I didn’t touch her…. And am like, “am I suppose to touch her?” Is that not even taking advantage of a vulnerable person? Even if she is “catching feelings”, must I act on it while she is under my roof and suppose to be under my protection? Isn’t that being an Okonkwo to Ikemefuna?

we just do not raise our boy child well and that, has being a menance to the girl child. We have made the girl child appear to be an endangered specie ——- and the crazy part is, “we sabi protect our own sisters die” but another person sister, we wan chop by thunder by force

It’s all shade of wrong but the girl too mess up..

In cases like this, it is necessary to call out what is wrong to prevent future occurrences…

Going to see a stranger alone in a hotel is very wrong sir

Even as a man, it’s not wise to meet a stranger alone for the first time in an unsafe place…

The crime has happened and we must all learn from this!
As we hold the criminal responsible and seek justice, we must also tell this ladies the truth so they keep safe…
Forget rapist, it is unsafe for anyone not to be security conscious.. in this era of kidnapping, ritualistic, organ harvesters, human traffickers??

Haba!

One mumu girl gone. Plenty more to go.

Zonefree:
What was the guy expecting after forcing himself on the girl? That the innocent girl would come back for more content creation lessons?

Make them just shoot this guy. That's the only judgement that will make sense to me.

This guy should be sentenced to death by hanging.

Omor... I just watched the video and I'm really disappointed at her poor decision making at the time. At 21 she should have been smarter.
1. Going to see a man alone for whatever reasons in another location where you don't have any close person is a big error
2. Going there alone is another error. She even follow am enter hotel room.
3. Going there without an exit plan especially in today's Nigeria is a failure on her part. Never go visit a man without an exit plan or you will be at his mercy and unfortunately for you if he's one of those without any mercy to give then your case is fukced
4. She should have walked out the moment he started with the sexual intent as it became obvious what he wanted and not being on the same page with that she should have done the needful.
But she stayed and even allowed him pull her clothes off and her her panties. I really hate to say this but she died stewwpdly and it now seems like a transaction gone wrong because from the way she sounded if he had given her 100k for her troubles she would have taked the experience to her grave like a lot of young girls her age do.

The guy na animal but she fvckup. Forget her excuses, she knew exactly what was about to happen and she damned the consequences but she got outsmarted by a senior gorilla in the game.

wehdone:
Is it possible that this is a business transaction gone wrong?

1. She travelled to meet him, and went into the hotel room with him, sat on the bed
2. Allowed him to UnCloth her
3. Allowed him to try putting it in... When it didn't enter, she said "allow me go". She then turned to her side to come down from the bed, and he saw an opening
4. He did it... He came on her arse... She cried... She didn't know the deek entered until she saw blood... He bathed her, knelt and begged. She agreed. She hugged him
5. She went back to bed...
6. They talked, he made her laugh. He almost went "round 2". She refused... (Up till this point, nothing to show she was angry and wanted to end it all. That thought came after she left.)
7. He gave only transport, promised to buy a 32k drug that will make her feel like a virgin again. She agreed
8. He didn't send the 32k (50k he wanted to send)


My point... He didn't pay for the sex, he didn't buy the drug to "help make her new again", he didn't give her the help she asked for. I want to think her blocked her, or told her off, or told her to do her worst, or told her the sex was very terrible, or bodyshamed her, or asked her to come for another round before he paid her, etc. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

She felt used and ashamed, and then decided to end it all. But then, she decided she'll bring him down with her. A woman can destroy herself just to destroy a man, so, keeling herself is a very simple decision.


I want to have a divergent view... The sex was consentual, but he didn't pay what was agreed (which is a crime (or wrong) on its own). This led her to take her own life; which is worse, and not commensurate with the offense

Any which way... This guy own don be

Although you raised some vital point which might seems so on the surface, but on a deeper reflection, you realize that, your points are not correct.

Was it a consensual sex gone wrong? You and I know it wasn’t. I would rather say, she was a NAIVE but OVER TRUSTING and that was the window the guy took advantaged of

Now, to the issues you raised, why would a VIRGIN turned down an offer to come to Abuja to meet someone who has been HELPING her and who she is already sure would help her more if she succumb to his advances only to go give out that same virginity to a new guy entirely for same transactional purposes? Doesn’t make sense.

Why did she follow him to a hotel? Traveling from another town to visit a guy who wants to help you, I would naturally expect him to lodge her either in a hotel or take her to his house…….to me, I would rather lodge her than bring her to my place except we are already good friends (to avoid stories that touch)

As for allowing him to UnCloth her and every other thing that happened thereafter, that was a girl in a panicky mood and “unsure of if I want this or not”… “should i, should I not”? That is naive girl with lot of emotionally draining decisions to make within a short time and finding it difficult to process her mind. Whatever happened in that window, she was definitely going to regret it and feel used….. a smart and emotionally empathic guy would not take advantage of a lady in that state, especially since she already said she was a virgin……

As for playing cool after ward, that was a lady trying to be strong. Trying to convince herself that, “the deed has been done already, what else? Just bear it and move on”…..

……perhaps, sending the money would have made her feel less dirty and stupid. She still would have felt guilty and pained but not dirty, stupid and used. It is that feeling of being dirty, stupid and used that made it impossible for her to confort herself and moved on. That is the reason she took her life……

So, the guy trying to play a smart one directly led to her death. Why play a smart one with a girl who is not even up to half your age?

lightwind:
This is no longer ordinary, this is madness now...

Truth just dey pain you for body

Omoawoke:
It’s all shade of wrong but the girl too mess up..

In cases like this, it is necessary to call out what is wrong to prevent future occurrences…

Going to see a stranger alone in a hotel is very wrong sir

Even as a man, it’s not wise to meet a stranger alone for the first time in an unsafe place…

The crime has happened and we must all learn from this!
As we hold the criminal responsible and seek justice, we must also tell this ladies the truth so they keep safe…
Forget rapist, it is unsafe for anyone not to be security conscious.. in this era of kidnapping, ritualistic, organ harvesters, human traffickers??

Haba!

I agree with you to a large extent. Nigeria today is a dangerous place…. And it ought not to be so.

I think the reason she was so comfortable in going to such lonely places with him was because he was popular, a celebrity who have much to loss and as such, would naturally behave.

So, I can’t blame ber entirely. Even me as a man in his late 30’s, feel somehow SAFER and more comfortable when dealing with a man that has much to loss. I by default, assume, they won’t act funny because, they have a name to protect. So, I could understand why the lady will feel comfortable to a large extent in being alone with him….

Again, this brings light to the ongoing debate — who are our celebrities? Who are we elevating in the social strata? People with no values, no fear and no conscience. It is bad. It is sad

Most people did not even watch the video.

The girl didn’t go to him for content creation lesson. According to her she said she reached out to him to seek advice on a man that wanted to have sex with her because she had some family problems she needed to sort and the Odogwu Asaba guy asked her not to do it and instead said he’ll help her if she came to him which she did.

This is so sad and heartbreaking. I feel like crying. I wish the girl had opened up to someone before taking this action.

EhisChelsea1:
Although you raised some vital point which might seems so on the surface, but on a deeper reflection, you realize that, your points are not correct.

Was it a consensual sex gone wrong? You and I know it wasn’t. I would rather say, she was a NAIVE but OVER TRUSTING and that was the window the guy took advantaged of

Now, to the issues you raised, why would a VIRGIN turned down an offer to come to Abuja to meet someone who has been HELPING her and who she is already sure would help her more if she succumb to his advances only to go give out that same virginity to a new guy entirely for same transactional purposes? Doesn’t make sense.

Why did she follow him to a hotel? Traveling from another town to visit a guy who wants to help you, I would naturally expect him to lodge her either in a hotel or take her to his house…….to me, I would rather lodge her than bring her to my place except we are already good friends (to avoid stories that touch)

As for allowing him to UnCloth her and every other thing that happened thereafter, that was a girl in a panicky mood and “unsure of if I want this or not”… “should i, should I not”? That is naive girl with lot of emotionally draining decisions to make within a short time and finding it difficult to process her mind. Whatever happened in that window, she was definitely going to regret it and feel used….. a smart and emotionally empathic guy would not take advantage of a lady in that state, especially since she already said she was a virgin……

As for playing cool after ward, that was a lady trying to be strong. Trying to convince herself that, “the deed has been done already, what else? Just bear it and move on”…..

……perhaps, sending the money would have made her feel less dirty and stupid. She still would have felt guilty and pained but not dirty, stupid and used. It is that feeling of being dirty, stupid and used that made it impossible for her to confort herself and moved on. That is the reason she took her life……

So, the guy trying to play a smart one directly led to her death. Why play a smart one with a girl who is not even up to half your age?

Omo... A lot of "ifs". Lot's of blank spaces. Lots of many unsaid words. What did he tell her that made her "allow him" to un-dress her? What did he promise her to make her allow him to try putting it in? Remember she wasn't shouting when he tried the first time. Her mouth wasn't covered. There was no struggle... It was when she tried to come down from the bed that he finally pinned her, and had his way. Hmmm even that, I'm not not ready to dissect because I heard of a guy that told his girl to bite pillow so that her scream won't be heard. Well... Could it be that if he didn't use hand covering her mouth, he could have asked her to bite pillow? Is it still rape? Would she have shouted the first time he tried if it had gone through?

ppogba:
Train a child the way he should go and when he is old will not depart from it..........The holy creed.

What manner of training did this unfortunate lady had?

Where did she get the liver to embark upon such journey alone?

Are the parents aware?

At 20, is content creation all she wanted to do with her life?

What is even her level of education?

So many questions.....

Yes, the girl was naive, but that guy is a monster for taking advantage of her like that.

Funny enough just like some people have said, these are the kind of people, content creators and influencers Peter Obi is buying out to support him.

These fellows got nothing upstairs, and with questionable characters but just because they operate on cheap social medias, they don’t know anything about where we were and where we are as a country just be shouting Peter Obi or nothing, can’t engage in an intellectual discourse.

To Favour May your soul rest in peace.

why do the video without wearing bra

for no reason should a mature lady follow any male to an enclosed place regardless of whatever agreed on.

cr7lomo:
U all should stop saying trash...death by hanging for what... some of u men have started acting like women by not being able to control ur emotions ... he dint kill her ... she said she follows him and watches his contents...but dint see where he said no woman will escape his " D" if that woman enters his house ... why did she go there ?? And then started asking for the money he promised after he " rapd" her ... if he gave her 100k, she for happy and this wudnt b news ... she felt used ...thats why she commited suicide...

Some of you read but don't assimilate because the Bitter Bile in you always pushes you to find someone to insult. Your Rapist Brother already accepted on camera that he Rape the girl and have started begging the family for forgiveness.
Mr Emotionless Man if you can't digest what I wrote let me break it down for you. The guy cannot be charged for murder but manslaughter which carries a sentence of Life in prison if his lawyer fails in arguing for a lesser sentence.

What point was she trying to prove by killing herself?

wehdone:
Is it possible that this is a business transaction gone wrong?

1. She travelled to meet him, and went into the hotel room with him, sat on the bed
2. Allowed him to UnCloth her
3. Allowed him to try putting it in... When it didn't enter, she said "allow me go". She then turned to her side to come down from the bed, and he saw an opening
4. He did it... He came on her arse... She cried... She didn't know the deek entered until she saw blood... He bathed her, knelt and begged. She agreed. She hugged him
5. She went back to bed...
6. They talked, he made her laugh. He almost went "round 2". She refused... (Up till this point, nothing to show she was angry and wanted to end it all. That thought came after she left.)
7. He gave only transport, promised to buy a 32k drug that will make her feel like a virgin again. She agreed
8. He didn't send the 32k (50k he wanted to send)


My point... He didn't pay for the sex, he didn't buy the drug to "help make her new again", he didn't give her the help she asked for. I want to think her blocked her, or told her off, or told her to do her worst, or told her the sex was very terrible, or bodyshamed her, or asked her to come for another round before he paid her, etc. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

She felt used and ashamed, and then decided to end it all. But then, she decided she'll bring him down with her. A woman can destroy herself just to destroy a man, so, keeling herself is a very simple decision.


I want to have a divergent view... The sex was consentual, but he didn't pay what was agreed (which is a crime (or wrong) on its own). This led her to take her own life; which is worse, and not commensurate with the offense

Any which way... This guy own don be

Why are you contradicting yourself...at one point you agreed that the guy begged her after having sex with her (which means you agree that the sex was forced), at another point, you're saying you believe the sex was consensual.

The girl was just naive, that's it.. sad ending to her life.

Englishisamust:
The news have been listening about rape and infedelity makes me fear men in this Nigeria. Especially from age 30 upward, it seem as they are getting older they are losing thier sense of reasoning. To born female kid in this Nigeria Dey fear me . Because we are breading a lot of weak men into this society currently they can not take rejection or take thier l in peace when it comes to relationship. They will always try to do things by force..

You must be idiot to want to generalize this unfortunate incident. Condemn the individuals involved in such acts and stop there.
If we talk about the atrocities of the female gender in this nations we no go fit finish am oh, so stfu

Kemical23:
He was having fun just like the few useless men who was not properly raised...

Many men/women always misbehave whenever they begin to make small cash, they just believe they will go scot free with whatever action they take....

It lack of proper home training and lack of common sense....

My brother God bless you for this insight, proper home upbringing is a great deal in the life of every child, society too has a role to play. I thank God that I was raised by a good mother and grew up in a society where every parent is your parent.

Most parents are busy chasing money and neglecting their children..... that is how a nine year old boy in my estate came back from boarding school and was caught masturbating by his mother junior sister.

God!

God!

God!

You think From your back hole obviously..
You have a dad? You have brothers?
Male friends? Uncles? How many have done such that you are generalising men ?

You are scared of having female kids In Nigeria? 😂. Because of men?



All the footballer and sports Perons that have been sent to prison for rape, it happend in what countries?

So you think this happens only in Nigeria that makes you quick to generalise men over 30?

I condemn rape in the strongest terms but all you wrote here makes no sense at all ..

A female child should also know she's not supposed to leave home without telling anyone her intentions..


How will a girl child be able to tell a man about being broke but couldn't tell her family members where and who she's talking to?

That guy is just one of the few animals we have among men, he's not a true reflection of all men ..

That guy will rot in jail, I really wish he doesn't survive but also teach your girl child not to trust strangers.

Englishisamust:
The news have been listening about rape and infedelity makes me fear men in this Nigeria. Especially from age 30 upward, it seem as they are getting older they are losing thier sense of reasoning. To born female kid in this Nigeria Dey fear me . Because we are breading a lot of weak men into this society currently they can not take rejection or take thier l in peace when it comes to relationship. They will always try to do things by force..

ppogba:
Train a child the way he should go and when he is old will not depart from it..........The holy creed.

What manner of training did this unfortunate lady had?

Where did she get the liver to embark upon such journey alone?

Are the parents aware?

At 20, is content creation all she wanted to do with her life?

What is even her level of education?

So many questions.....

God bless you for this. I don't support rape, but whatever makes a girl agrees to be alone in a secluded place with a guy e.g. a guy's room or a hotel room, then crying rape later is either pure manipulation or foolishness. From the girl account it was obvious that she resulted to killing herself to get back at the guy mainly because the guy refused to compensate her enough. Humnn, she just wasted her life upon nothing. She went alone to be with a stranger, a male for that matter, in a distant environment, what was she thinking? What was she doing in a hotel room with a stranger? Lack of contentment, greed, keeps sending many women to their early graves. My condolences goes to her family left behind.

wehdone:
Is it possible that this is a business transaction gone wrong?

1. She travelled to meet him, and went into the hotel room with him, sat on the bed
2. Allowed him to UnCloth her
3. Allowed him to try putting it in... When it didn't enter, she said "allow me go". She then turned to her side to come down from the bed, and he saw an opening
4. He did it... He came on her arse... She cried... She didn't know the deek entered until she saw blood... He bathed her, knelt and begged. She agreed. She hugged him
5. She went back to bed...
6. They talked, he made her laugh. He almost went "round 2". She refused... (Up till this point, nothing to show she was angry and wanted to end it all. That thought came after she left.)
7. He gave only transport, promised to buy a 32k drug that will make her feel like a virgin again. She agreed
8. He didn't send the 32k (50k he wanted to send)


My point... He didn't pay for the sex, he didn't buy the drug to "help make her new again", he didn't give her the help she asked for. I want to think her blocked her, or told her off, or told her to do her worst, or told her the sex was very terrible, or bodyshamed her, or asked her to come for another round before he paid her, etc. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

She felt used and ashamed, and then decided to end it all. But then, she decided she'll bring him down with her. A woman can destroy herself just to destroy a man, so, keeling herself is a very simple decision.


I want to have a divergent view... The sex was consentual, but he didn't pay what was agreed (which is a crime (or wrong) on its own). This led her to take her own life; which is worse, and not commensurate with the offense

Any which way... This guy own don be

You just analyzed the scenario like chatgpt would.

Majority of ladies lack contentment and believe it's possible to eat your cake and have it. What an effontery, visiting a far location to be with a stranger, a guy alone in a hotel room. Thanks God she was not murdered right there -

If I may suggest, except where outright murder is involved, sex that happens in a guy's room or a hotel room between 2 matured adults should be assumes to be consensual and no party should be allowed to report such as a rape.

I don't support rape but women should stop manipulating the public whenever transactions went wrong. What are you doing alone in a stranger hotel room? Were you kidnapped and kept there, then violated? Women and manipulations!!! If the guy had sent N200k, nobody would here pim.... infact she might visit again, but now....

Again, condolence to her family

Tenses:
Nothing wrong with content creation as a career. Her parent failed her by not educating her to never trust a stranger no matter how genuine he or she may sound.

I have a 6 months old daughter and I am already preparing her for the world 🌎 she's already in.

As for my girl, I'll raise her to think that she breathe fire 🔥.. quote by Jessica Kirkland

Her parents failed her for not being able to sort her needs.

It was that desperation that pushed her to that animal.

This is why I often say that before bringing innocent kids to this cruel world,

First make sure you are financially ok enough to sort their needs.

No be by force to born.

If you don't have the means,

Die single, it is not a sin.

Not everybody is real human just imagine what this girl is saying visiting a man in a hotel for content creator now he heard created your pussy you killed your self shame on you

He should rot in prison.

His foolishness finally caught up with him. But why would the girl be careless enough to go meet up with a stranger because she needed money? What kind of upbringing did she get that made her do such a thing in today's world where there are beasts everywhere?