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Yeye advice no allow person pressure u

No let anyone put you under pressure:
Just have a skill that will move you forward in life. A skill will give you leverage anywhere in the world. That will remove fear. Do not let anyone pressure you o. If you no get skill that will make you money, and you go commot from home, "shege-pro-max and sapa - Y model" are waiting for you outside of home.

How I left home and never returned to my parents:
I left home at twenty because I wanted to study ICAN ATS. I went to another state to study and to receive lectures, just for me to be able to focus. What should have taken me 12 months took me 24 months, with many days of sleeping without food. I finished ICAN ATS, but there was no job.

I started teaching:
I started making my first money by teaching Economics, Commerce, and Accounting.
Tutoring centers were looking for me to teach. At a point, I started doing one-on-one tutoring.When teaching jobs were owing me too much, I started weekend laborer jobs by following bricklayers in my area. When I left home, I dey go church; I no dey miss any service, prayer meetings, Bible study, revival, etc. My church members found out that my parents were not in that state, and they were surprised. Some people were saying, "You are stupid. You have an ICAN ATS result and you dey follow bricklayers." I no answer.

I became Okada rider:
At a point, I needed more income. I joined a contribution and bought my first Okada from it. I learnt to ride it and continued tutoring while riding the Okada. At a point, I bought a second Okada, brand new. I continued and started catfish farming. I sold one of my Okadas to start poultry farming of broilers from day old. I did ICAN ATS and qualified as an AAT, and that was it.

I bought my first land:
Fast forward: I was able to buy land and built a two-room self-contain, and the rest is history. Tutoring was the skill that started everything for me.It is hard sometimes to think outside of the box as a young man, but if you identify your skill set or learn one, the sky is not your limit.I was comparing myself with people that left me and were doing better than me in my 20s, but I kept grinding.

My status now:
Today, I am not poor and I am not rich. I thank God that I can regularly put food on the table for my family.My motto in life is "watch and pray." God is the lifter of men. Many people made my kind of journey and never made it into their 30s. I am in my 50s now. Although the journey was rough, God is still faithful.

No let anyone pressure you o. Have the skill you can make money with before leaving home. May God bless your hustle as you journey in life as young men.

Some people go just take colos, dem no go know where market dey to carry their madness go.

They go just come online waah to unleash their madness.

Most Nigerians are half empty and half full with shit..awon standard bearers association..

What would your seriousness do for them?

They don't even know you,

And you can barely add value to their lives.

Everyone has an opinion nowadays

Bro I’m up to 30+ and living with my parents, na u never see life.

saweide:
yes by all means. They should just find means. It’s a bad thing returning to parent house after nysc. During Mine. After concluding my NYSC I vow not to stay in my Parent house. Tho it’s high risk decision. I travelled outside my parents region to find a living in a far place. I survived. I bought car within 7 months and achieved a whole lot of things. I married quick and have my children Which I wouldn’t have chai ever if I had settled in my parent house. Sometimes it’s good to live ur comfort zone and pray for God protection and mercies. Without that. Laziness ans comfort will set in Don’t just look at the risk. Look more of the advantages
Today have build my own house and have build additional house for my parent to use it as rentage. I achieved all these cos I refuse to put up with them and become lazy. I lost myself so I can be found. Most lazy guys cannot do this. Cos they are scared of facing realities

can you just keep quiet?😏 . Some of you just open mouth and talk anyhow .

Mysteryduke:
Dey play. For this present nigeria? No take me serious. The feeling is mutual

Damn nigga, and I just watched the Michael movie

A lady should move to her husband's house right from her parents' house. A lady should not stay alone.

Guys too can stay in their parents' house.


See it's all about protection. Except you have solid reasons to move out.

If we check now,the op still dey live with parents dey survive on him/her mama food.

Dey play, some people dey over 40 years still dey for their papa apartment you dey talk about 25 years.

cr7lomo:
Only poor people reason this way... the ones from rich homes dont see it that way cos they live in big houses with many rooms

I have from a family with a duplexe and rooms everywhere. I left when I entered school and saw no reason to return back my parents house. Dude, not everyone is broke or from a broke home. It's wisdom to live alone once you're 24 and above

henrybomb:
Whatever suits anyone let them do it afterall it is not a competition
I still live in my parent’s house and I am super comfortable there so it is your business if you respect me or not.

I know people living with their parents will be mad at my post. Whatever rocks your boat. Try as much as to get money and live alone so you can experience life in full

bluefilm:
Who the eff are you for your opinion to even matter in the first place?

Nigga go toss off, man

Nonsense

People still living with their parents are highly immature and your comment just proved it. Hustle hard so you can live alone my brother. That's when you can experience life in full

GanagiBitrus:
So this is your standard for measuring who is serious or unserious in life.

Anyway, you are entitled to your nonsense opinion.

Oga leave your comfort zone, go out there and fight for your life. How can a full grown man like you still be living with his parents? Omo!

DMCA:
imagine as my papa get big house with plenty empty rooms then i go go rent house stay when i never marry.
OP u dey ment.

My father owned a duplex with rooms inside. I left when I entered school. I saw no reason to go back there despite it's a duplex.

Dude, you need to leave your comfort zone if you ever desire to experience life in full

bestman09:
I concur. It still beats my imagination how a man of over 25 years old will be comfortable living with his parents permanently

They are mad at my post. Check the comments above before yours. You'll be shocked that alot of men and women here on nairaland are all still living with their parents.

More reason why I don't take people serious on nairaland because they're kids in adults body who haven't experienced life at all

femi4:
Twitter lies...the writer might be typing from the parent's bedroom

Maybe not me.

I have been living alone since I was in 100l tilo I graduated, went for service and currently running my business. Maybe you meant the Twitter girl

VaginaAcademic:
Who you be I dey my papa house 😂😂

Ok. You shouldn't be talking when people who stays alone are talking, probably your friends, because what they've seen and experience u never experience am

nonny1212:
For girls, it is okay,
For guys, you can go and experience life and its challenges.

For girls it's not ok at all.

That idea of a girl of age still living with her parents is what makes majority of them to have entitlement mentality. You'll see a girl saying she wants a guy who has built a house, buys a car and he is super rich. Meanwhile she has never paid a single bill in her before. She doesn't even know how much a self con cost let alone feeding herself.

She needs to live alone to experience all these things in full so they'll know you don't pick money from trees. Any girl living with her parents and she's 25, lol. I'll never take her serious because I'll believe she hasn't known nor understand anything about life

ogaprime:
You yourself, how old are you?

I started living alone since I was 21. Infact since I entered school. Mind you my parents are extremely well to do.

geoworldedu:
This write up does not make sense for the Nigeria of yesterday and today. There is no single sense in it.

Hustle my brother so you can move out of your parents house and experience life in full

Goo0dHardDick:
I don't take people who are 25years and above serious, once I noticed they're still living with their parents.

The moment I noticed you're still living with your parents, whether you're a guy or a girl, I'll never take you serious. I'll immediately see you as an unserious person in life.

People who are 25years and above sometimes do not have clear goals for their lives. They waste any money that comes to them. A young man of 25 living with his parents is ready to waste money on hotels esp when he wants to meet with a lady for comfort and relaxation. A girl of 25 and above sees no reason to move out of her parents house because of fear of payment of bills and house rent including feeding. I see people who lives with their parents as loosers afraid of taking risks in life, afraid of starting life and afraid of life in general.

The thing is, I have more respect for girls and people generally who lives alone than those living with their parents!

you are dragging family values Bro. It’s forbidden in the Africa culture! No one does that! The south eastern part of Nigeria is almost like your opinion, but check it out during festive season, na dem full road pass, na them dey face dangers pass , like insecurity on high ways.

If everyone begins to leave independently, all men and women will begin to leave on their own in the near future. People coming together selling off their ancestral properties which is forbidden in many African tribes.

So ask yourself who retains ancestral home? Is it an intentions to erase family names?

Your father’s house and your mother’s house is your root.

In fact, respect those categories of people you are condemning, they are the ones born with family values, and will inculcate it into their new family. It’s a shameful thought to think and do otherwise …

Is a first born son not supposed to live in his father’s house and get married to raise more offspring? Or who else then should stay there? Make dem put the place on rent ?

How about daughters? Is it for them to be sleeping around with random men just to fund and sustain fake lifestyles?

Think deeply

Goo0dHardDick:
My father owned a duplex with rooms inside. I left when I entered school. I saw no reason to go back there despite it's a duplex.

Dude, you need to leave your comfort zone if you ever desire to experience life in full

Your problem o....
I live and work in the same city my father's house is, parents have a 4 bedroom main house, 2 bedroom guest house, only my parents and I live there.
I am not married yet, and you expect me to go and rent a place to stay?
Apart from the master bedroom occupied by my parents, what happens to the 3 bedrooms in the main house and even the other 2 rooms in the guest house.
You must be suffering from a complex.

Goo0dHardDick:
Hustle my brother so you can move out of your parents house and experience life in full

I'm a married man and I'm not living in my parents' house but it doesn't make sense to think that those still in their parent's house at 25 are not serious or are lazy.

Viccur:
Your respect won't pay their bills. Do you know how expensive accommodation is in Lagos, let alone the accompanying bills to be paid as you go by each day?

Exactly why they need to leave alone so they can experience life in full. Imagine a girl still living with her parents is telling you she wants a rich man who has cars and houses already. Meanwhile the same girl is living with her parents. She has never paid a bill before in her life. Is it house rent and feeding she'll now pay for herself? If Such a girl lives alone she'll understand that life itself isn't full of gold, that money is hard to come by and her expectations in life will be careful analyzed. Life has a way of teaching people things.

Imagine a guy being afraid of taking risks in life? Always looking for where to take his female friends to for comfort and relaxation?

My brother, let them start from somewhere and live alone. Let them leave their comfort zone and experience life in full.

geoworldedu:
Maybe things are coming to him on a platter of gold and then he felt like talking, then ended up spitting trash.

I have been living alone since I was 21, since I entered school. What platter of gold are you talking about? It's all about mindset dude.

If you can't take risks in life, be rest assured that you'll remain where you are in life. I have to come to understand that life itself listens and acts accordingly to how you want and determine it to be. Mindset is powerful!

If your mind can travel far ahead over something even in years time, I guarantee you that your body will follow suit. Everything around you will be to resonate to that mindset you have

FalseProphet1:
I see angry Nigerians descending on the op, I see him deactivating his account, I see DSS tracing him to his house to arrest him.

This I have seen.

Those are kids on nairaland still living with their parents, lol. I don't take them serious.

Goo0dHardDick:
For girls it's not ok at all.

That idea of a girl of age still living with her parents is what makes majority of them to have entitlement mentality. You'll see a girl saying she wants a guy who has built a house, buys a car and he is super rich. Meanwhile she has never paid a single bill in her before. She doesn't even know how much a self con cost let alone feeding herself.

She needs to live alone to experience all these things in full so they'll know you don't pick money from trees. Any girl living with her parents and she's 25, lol. I'll never take her serious because I'll believe she hasn't known nor understand anything about life

your words speak an outright lack of family value. Every woman has a right to go for what she wants. Yes, it comes in disguise but greed and youthful exuberance makes many loose it.

Mind you, Our society is getting more corrupt by the day.

Prostitution is the order of the day, including crime and vice. This is as a result of those who choose to leave alone.

Can a girl go prostitute from her father’s house? or a guy go commit crime from his father’s house?

geoworldedu:
You said 25 and you still said permanently. How do you know that it is a permanent stay when the person is not yet 70 or 80 years?

Still living with your parents at 25 should get you worried. Which one is 70 or 80? Omo!

Na so kids full nairaland?

Esthered:
I think your assertion is wrong OP. I had a colleague who lived with his cousin, saved bought a plot of land, built his house and got married months later at 30.

You'd have written him off based on your post above but he lived with her in her property at Agungi. She helped him save through her insurance firm for a while and when the investment matured, she encouraged him to build his house.

Read my post for proper understanding

Host78:
why would anybody bother if you don't take them serious? is your taking them serious going to feed, cloth and house them? some of una too dey overrate unaself and then look down on others.

Just imagine. i am supposed to be concerned with you taking me serious

Exactly why they need to leave alone so they can experience life in full. Imagine a girl still living with her parents is telling you she wants a rich man who has cars and houses already. Meanwhile the same girl is living with her parents. She has never paid a bill before in her life. Is it house rent and feeding she'll now pay for herself? If Such a girl lives alone she'll understand that life itself isn't full of gold, that money is hard to come by and her expectations in life will be careful analyzed. Life has a way of teaching people things.

Imagine a guy being afraid of taking risks in life? Always looking for where to take his female friends to for comfort and relaxation?

My brother, let them start from somewhere and live alone. Let them leave their comfort zone and experience life in full.