₦airaland Forum

“If e sure for you, tell us...” — Lady challenges divorced women to admit their own faults

A lady has stirred widespread reactions on social media after questioning why many divorced women allegedly blame only their former husbands when discussing failed marriages.

In a post that has since gone viral, the woman argued that she has rarely seen divorced women openly admit their own mistakes, claiming that discussions about failed marriages often focus solely on the shortcomings of men.

Her remarks have generated mixed opinions, with many internet users weighing in on the issue of accountability in relationships.

Lady questions accountability after divorce

Expressing her opinion, the lady wrote, “I’ve never seen any divorced woman tell us why they had a failed marriage, everytime, the man no good, the man no good.”

She further challenged divorced women to be open about their own roles in failed unions, suggesting that such honesty could help younger women learn valuable lessons before getting married.

The lady added, “If e sure for you, con tell us why your marriage failed. As una dey tell young girls to carry shoulder up and disrespect men, make una dey also tell us why your marriage failed.”

According to her, successful and unsuccessful marriages are shaped by the actions of both partners, rather than one person alone.

Social media users share divided opinions
She concluded her message by saying,

“Everytime na the man get fault. What about you? It takes two to make a wrong, it takes two to make a right. Make una come out tell us your fault so that we can learn.”

The post has since sparked a lively debate across social media platforms. While some users agreed that both partners should take responsibility for the breakdown of a marriage, others argued that every relationship is different and that it is unfair to generalise the experiences of divorced women.

The discussion continues to attract comments from people sharing personal experiences and differing perspectives on marriage and accountability.

“I have never seen any divorced woman that has come out to tell us their mistakes that led to their failed marriage, every time, na the man no good. Come out and say the truth”

- Lady says pic.twitter.com/fVTFYVLS0D

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) August 1, 2026

Lai Lai. They will never and can never

Gender wey dey derive ecstasy from shifting all their blames on men

They always think the grass is greener on the other side, only for them to get out and later realize say majority of those men who were in the DMs when they were in their men's houses were only weed and were only after their coochies

They will never ever admit their faults

All students of kobojun.kie

Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

It is good that the question is coming from their fellow woman

Oniovo try dey rest......shuooooo

Sonnobax15:

Lai Lai. They will never and can never

Gender wey dey derive ecstasy from shifting all their blames on men

They always think the grass is greener on the other side, only for them to get out and later realize say majority of those men who were in the DMs when they were in their men's houses were only weed and were only after their coochies

Here to read comments.

Great question....I am waiting to read there answers if de truly hav d liver to answer

Anything to trend😂

While I agree that its the era of anythingto trend, can you say that opinion isnt valid? In the context of marriage/relationships?

eniolorunfe:
Anything to trend😂

Haba.... Saint you are not been fair

saintopus:
Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

This one wants to trend small

saintopus:
➜ Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

Well, since you continue running outdated programming-- marriage based on what you were taught in that part of the world ---, why complain knowing the output comes out the same each time? 🤔

Kobojunkie:
Well, since you continue running outdated programming-- marriage based on what you were taught in that part of the world ---, why complain knowing the output comes out the same each time? 🤔

With the coming in of Gen Z, men are now pushing for shared responsibility in marriage, it's not like before again!
That's the reason behind the sparks and fireworks that causes the collapse of most marriage.
For now, most ladies in Nigeria go into marriage for survival reasons and not because of companionship and love.

saintopus:
➜ With the coming in of Gen Z, men are now pushing for shared responsibility in marriage, it's not like before again!
➜ That's the reason behind the sparks and fireworks that causes the collapse of most marriage.
➜ For now, most ladies in Nigeria go into marriage for survival reasons and not because of companionship and love.

1. Would you want it to be like before? 🤔🤔

2. I am not following! You complain that the way it was before led to the collapse of most marriages. Yet, here you are insinuating tha the new way causes sparks and fireworks, which, according to you, causes the collapse of most marriages. Make up your mind already. Was it better the old way, or is the new way the more reasonable option in preventing the old problems in marriage? 🤔

3. For now? In your previous post, you complained that men were taught to be responsible for everything in the house while women were allowed to take, take, and take. You also blamed this for why women were prone to abandoning the marriage the moment the man went broke. Did the women back then not go into marriage with survival as their major reason? 🤔🤔

It's easy to.spot a professional homewrecker from their posts. How about divorced men? Do they admit any fault in the breakdown of their marriage? Go and marry one of the divorced men and leave their ex wives alone. The koboko used in flogging the ex wife out of the marriage will be kept aside for her.

Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

They will rather die than agree to that. Self accountability or indeed accountability of any sort is kryptonite for most women.

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=140206402]“If e sure for you, tell us...” — Lady challenges divorced women to admit their own faults

A lady has stirred widespread reactions on social media after questioning why many divorced women allegedly blame only their former husbands when discussing failed marriages.

In a post that has since gone viral, the woman argued that she has rarely seen divorced women openly admit their own mistakes, claiming that discussions about failed marriages often focus solely on the shortcomings of men.

Her remarks have generated mixed opinions, with many internet users weighing in on the issue of accountability in relationships.

Lady questions accountability after divorce

Expressing her opinion, the lady wrote, “I’ve never seen any divorced woman tell us why they had a failed marriage, everytime, the man no good, the man no good.”

She further challenged divorced women to be open about their own roles in failed unions, suggesting that such honesty could help younger women learn valuable lessons before getting married.

The lady added, “If e sure for you, con tell us why your marriage failed. As una dey tell young girls to carry shoulder up and disrespect men, make una dey also tell us why your marriage failed.”

According to her, successful and unsuccessful marriages are shaped by the actions of both partners, rather than one person alone.

Social media users share divided opinions
She concluded her message by saying,

“Everytime na the man get fault. What about you? It takes two to make a wrong, it takes two to make a right. Make una come out tell us your fault so that we can learn.”

The post has since sparked a lively debate across social media platforms. While some users agreed that both partners should take responsibility for the breakdown of a marriage, others argued that every relationship is different and that it is unfair to generalise the experiences of divorced women.

The discussion continues to attract comments from people sharing personal experiences and differing perspectives on marriage and accountability.

“I have never seen any divorced woman that has come out to tell us their mistakes that led to their failed marriage, every time, na the man no good. Come out and say the truth”

- Lady says pic.twitter.com/fVTFYVLS0D

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) August 1, 2026

, the women Don go break, you no fit see them for this whatsapp group

How can a woman agree she is wrong , in their world, they are always right ....

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

If the man doesn't contest the divorce and doesn't agree to the court mandated efforts for settlement, that doesn't mean he is at fault. Pick up a book and read sometime so you stop making such a public embarrassment of yourself.

This mentality is the reason why Nigerian women outside the country are at the lowest rung of the dating ladder.

They will never. Many of them wished they never made that mistake. They cry in silence but wear fake smiles in the open. Once you're divorced, the crown is gone and you become vulnerable to all manner of men, drunkard, diabolical, uncultured, wicked...all of them will just be climbing you and dropping you. You can only escape this if you refuse to have intimacy for the rest of your life.

90% of the time, women cause this. I was on public transport to Oshodi recently. Cos where i was going, there was no space for parking . There was this lady who was dressed like a church deaconess. She was complaining of a man bitterly behind me, that he's carrying woman and I joined the conversation. I asked her, why was he carrying women,what happened at home? She said the man was just too loose, blablabla. I now said, the man too needs to share his part of the story. I told her things have changed as women have abandoned their core vaiues and duty as wife at home. I cited Margaret tatcher example and our grandmas who wouldn't joke with their husbands meals. She said it was because our grandmas didnt have a choice than succumb to men in their time. I now cited examples of some women who were successful in that era but would close their shop by 5pm and tell customers to go and come back tomorrow cos she's going to cook for her husband. I said nowadays, they'd say the man should enter kitchen, pick food from freezer, warm and eat...same man who provided all the things at home oo. Guess her response...she said if that man cannot warm food from the freezer,that means he's not yet ready to eat. Thats his wahala. I was like, you see now? People turned their attention to her in the vehicle. If that man sees a woman who can make him happy with good meals, he would not hesitate to go for her after years of endurance and deliberate mistreatment.

Women would be the first to cry foul once this happens. Obinrin rere , ni ade ori oko re. A good woman will protect her home at all cost. It doesn't happen anymore in our world of feminism. That's why divorce has become a commonplace. We men don't need much to be faithful and stay at home. Give us good food, respect us with at least, same measure of respect we give you and give us intimacy when needed. We won't go outside. You can't be full at home and still be hungry for food outside.

Our world has changed greatly. When there's no battery or threat to life in marriages, you can cohabit and correct things. Na you see am and say you want am. The love soon vanish the moment you begin to cohabit. You keep complaining and nagging. Men have their flaws too. Women know how keep home if they truly want to.

In a world made of beans, just choose your bread wisely ....

Eriokanmi:
They will never. Many of them wished they never made that mistake

Very painful mistake that many men also realized too late. As much as there are ways to make a non-violent marriage work, divorce should be avoided at all cost. Satan stuck my Marriage heavily in 2022 because my foreign wife and I were in different Countries. I felt very betrayed and concluded it was the End when she told me to marry another wife where I was. Yet, The Ever Pure Supreme SPIRIT commanded me to Fast and Pray for her because her Family is Witchcraft personified. HE finally brought her out and today, I thank ALMIGHTY I AM THAT I AM that we now have additional awesome Child. My Wife is the Best Woman on Earth!

I always Encourage those that want to marry to do 3 Days Dry Fasting and Prayer Program together on Phone using MFM Marriage Prayer Book to Pray against Foundational Witchcraft of Bloodlines, and pay Attention to write down the Dreams they have during those 3 Days, I did this before marriage and that was why they woefully Lost when those Forces of Darkness heavily came against my Marriage. Much later when my younger Brother was about to Marry and brought her Fiance, I told them before I can approve, they should go and do same Program. He called me a days after the Program with shaky voice on Phone to tell me the Revelation he saw, I smiled because I knew veils always drop during such Deep Fasting and Prayer Program.

she is so hhwwttt. see bwst.

This one wey never smell .marriage, go come dey advise us yours faithfully madam content creator

Lols...most often than not men's faults are physical and obvious but most likely triggered by the partners hidden 'dark acts' to make the fault one sided as wished.

Feminist will never accept they have fault, never. They are always right and if you take a close at them you will definitely see clearly why their husband send them packing.

85% of issues that lead to divorced are caused by women, go and do the verification.

Just last 2 week my mechanic send his wife parking cus one of his boys learning mechanic dey opueh his wife and the shameless thing still stood defending her disgraceful action the man almost chop off her head if not for quick intervention.

This generation women pls just dey look at dem if you go empty your account for a wrong woman you are doom or go allow love to blind you you come dey train bastards eyes go turn you wella..

Caaz:
Oniovo try dey rest......shuooooo

Allow Oniovo express himself oooo. He is a man with plenty opinions 😎

Ahayalift:
Very painful mistake that many men also realized too late. As much as there are ways to make a non-violent marriage work, divorce should be avoided at all cost. Satan stuck my Marriage heavily in 2013 because my foreign wife and I were in different Countries. I felt very betrayed and concluded it was the End when she told me to marry another wife where I was. Yet, our The Ever Pure Supreme SPIRIT commanded me to Fast and Pray for her because her Family is Witchcraft personified. HE finally brought her out and today, I thank ALMIGHTY I AM THAT I AM daily that we now have additional awesome Child. My Wife is the Best Woman of Earth!

Very nice. We must always be spiritually inclined in the face of marriage crisis. I've even added to my post you responded to. You may read it up later. Congratulations !

saintopus:
Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

bro this what fear me about marriage the most. My ex stay with me during lockdown for 5month, the only time she help was full our gas when I have issue with my card.... No matter how rich a man is, let him marry a supportive wife who can take up responsibility too. If person go broke, on his own. Those gender don't care in as much you bring Money home.