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Men doesn't complain like women ,that why whenever a divorce takes place ,men is usually blamed ...

Chucks13:
Feminist will never accept they have fault, never. They are always right and if you take a close at them you will definitely see clearly why their husband send them packing.

85% of issues that lead to divorced are caused by women, go and do the verification.

Just last 2 week my mechanic send his wife parking cus one of his boys learning mechanic dey opueh his wife and the shameless thing still stood defending her disgraceful action the man almost chop off her head if not for quick intervention.

This generation women pls just dey look at dem if you go empty your account for a wrong woman you are doom or go allow love to blind you you come dey train bastards eyes go turn you wella..

a single lady I know marry a single dad with two girls, the man say ex wife dey give naubour opueh. The guy suffer for that woman hand, his two children who are grow now love the new wife as there own runaway mother because of the care they get. Imaging a mother of two girls giving naubour opueh.... Those two girls would have been wayward by now. Thankfully they are doing fine with there adopted mother.

God Almighty will bless you greatly for this wonderful take of yours.
A word is enough for the wise.
Have a blessed week ahead.

Eriokanmi:
They will never. Many of them wished they never made that mistake. They cry in silence but wear fake smiles in the open. Once you're divorced, the crown is gone and you become vulnerable to all manner of men, drunkard, diabolical, uncultured, wicked...all of them will just be climbing you and dropping you. You can only escape this if you refuse to have intimacy for the rest of your life.

90% of the time, women cause this. I was on public transport to Oshodi recently. Cos where i was going, there was no space for parking . There was this lady who was dressed like a church deaconess. She was complaining of a man bitterly behind me, that he's carrying woman and I joined the conversation. I asked her, why was he carrying women,what happened at home? She said the man was just too loose, blablabla. I now said, the man too needs to share his part of the story. I told her things have changed as women have abandoned their core vaiues and duty as wife at home. I cited Margaret tatcher example and our grandmas who wouldn't joke with their husbands meals. She said it was because our grandmas didnt have a choice than succumb to men in their time. I now cited examples of some women who were successful in that era but would close their shop by 5pm and tell customers to go and come back tomorrow cos she's going to cook for her husband. I said nowadays, they'd say the man should enter kitchen, pick food from freezer, warm and eat...same man who provided all the things at home oo. Guess her response...she said if that man cannot warm food from the freezer,that means he's not yet ready to eat. Thats his wahala. I was like, you see now? People turned their attention to her in the vehicle. If that man sees a woman who can make him happy with good meals, he would not hesitate to go for her after years of endurance and deliberate mistreatment.

Women would be the first to cry foul once this happens. Obinrinr ere , ni ade ori oko re. A good woman will protect her home at all cost. It doesn't happen anymore in our world of feminism. That's why divorce has become a commonplace. We men don't need much to be faithful and stay at home. Give us good food, respect us with at least, same measure of respect we give you and give us intimacy when needed. We won't go outside. You can't be full at home and still be hungry for food outside.

Our world has changed greatly. When there's no battery or threat to life in marriages, you can cohabit and correct things. Na you see am and say you want am. The love soon vanish the moment you begin to cohabit. You keep complaining and nagging. Men have their flaws too. Women know how keep home if they truly want to.

Women are saying it's mostly the man's fault. Men are saying it's mostly the woman's fault. Both contribute to the breakdown of marriages no matter what. Even if there was disrespect or abuse by one partner, the other partner likely overlooked the red flags and that is the contribution they made. As long as you keep blaming the other gender, you'll never make progress. Own up to your own contributions

Women will always blame men for their own fault.

saintopus:
Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

Nigerian women are mostly lazy and very greedy, but again how can anyone expect a different dynamic in a society as intensely patriarchal as Nigeria?

So long as the system places men ahead of women in everything, irrespective of individual capability/competence, you can't blame the majority of the womenfolk for settling into the assigned (enforced) roles and just playing along in the interests of peace. It is mostly the stubborn (and exceptionally talented) women that break that mould, and usually at the expense of conventional marital expectations or unless they're lucky enough to get married to an equally extraordinary man

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=140206402]“If e sure for you, tell us...” — Lady challenges divorced women to admit their own faults

A lady has stirred widespread reactions on social media after questioning why many divorced women allegedly blame only their former husbands when discussing failed marriages.

In a post that has since gone viral, the woman argued that she has rarely seen divorced women openly admit their own mistakes, claiming that discussions about failed marriages often focus solely on the shortcomings of men.

Her remarks have generated mixed opinions, with many internet users weighing in on the issue of accountability in relationships.

Lady questions accountability after divorce

Expressing her opinion, the lady wrote, “I’ve never seen any divorced woman tell us why they had a failed marriage, everytime, the man no good, the man no good.”

She further challenged divorced women to be open about their own roles in failed unions, suggesting that such honesty could help younger women learn valuable lessons before getting married.

The lady added, “If e sure for you, con tell us why your marriage failed. As una dey tell young girls to carry shoulder up and disrespect men, make una dey also tell us why your marriage failed.”

According to her, successful and unsuccessful marriages are shaped by the actions of both partners, rather than one person alone.

Social media users share divided opinions
She concluded her message by saying,

“Everytime na the man get fault. What about you? It takes two to make a wrong, it takes two to make a right. Make una come out tell us your fault so that we can learn.”

The post has since sparked a lively debate across social media platforms. While some users agreed that both partners should take responsibility for the breakdown of a marriage, others argued that every relationship is different and that it is unfair to generalise the experiences of divorced women.

The discussion continues to attract comments from people sharing personal experiences and differing perspectives on marriage and accountability.

“I have never seen any divorced woman that has come out to tell us their mistakes that led to their failed marriage, every time, na the man no good. Come out and say the truth”

- Lady says pic.twitter.com/fVTFYVLS0D

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) August 1, 2026

geh sister

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

So women no get faults, they're perfect in the marriage it's only the men that are wrong ?

Una problem looonnng gannnn, you women can never be satisfied in this life.

If i tell you my experiences with women, u will sorry for me.

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

99%? No. It's 55%, and woman 45%.

You are not different from those women which the lady called out, if you refuse to accept your own inadequacies, the situation would never resolved, in as much that I blame men whose their action and inactions for marriage failure, women too are causing crises in marriage.

Endless nagging.
Comparison of husband to exes
Comparison of her marriage to his sister or friend marriage.
Take instructions from pastor or her parents instead of hubby.
Poisoning children minds against their father.
Reluctant to have sex with husband.
And having concubines.

The above attitudes and others which usually break down beautiful marriage, you want to say, is not existing among women abi.

Admit ke, lailai

Gender wey go offend you and expect you to apologize for peace sake

Nothing is ever their fault, nothing

Sonnobax15:

Lai Lai. They will never and can never

Gender wey dey derive ecstasy from shifting all their blames on men

They always think the grass is greener on the other side, only for them to get out and later realize say majority of those men who were in the DMs when they were in their men's houses were only weed and were only after their coochies

saintopus:
Many collapsed marriages are caused by irresponsibility. In this part of the world we are taught that the man should be responsible for everything in the house. While the woman goes on taking and taking and taking without ever thinking about putting responsibility into the marriage. As soon as the man's fortune goes down, the marriage collapses.

I recently discussed this with a married friend. My observation: many women today only seem to recognize a man during moments of financial abundance. His response was that this is how it should be ,a man is by nature a provider, and no woman should consider dating, let alone marrying, a man who can’t provide.

This raises questions for me:

1. Is any financial situation guaranteed? A man providing today could lose that capacity to circumstance tomorrow — just as easily as he could keep growing it.
2. If society doesn’t condemn a man for choosing a partner who can’t provide financially, why should a woman need to prove she “deserves” a man who can provide, when she can’t reciprocate?
3. If society accepts this imbalance, why do women still expect equality within it? Should such men then have outsized power in the relationship, even to the point of controlling their partner, without that being called abuse?

I’ve tested this in small ways. One woman I was getting to know asked for money for food; when I sent something, her response was dismissive. Another woman I’d dated for a while reacted badly when I asked her for a small loan, and the relationship ended shortly after. Experiences like these have shaped what I now look for or avoid in a partner.

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

Any small issue...dem don file divorce

So that one come mean say na Men be the problem all the time.

Haven't you seen pple who file for divorce basically cos they are a mismatch?

Women fit be the problem make she still file for divorce just to sit out for her mental health

Men don't easily file for divorce even when the woman is the problem

Legitbeauru:
I recently discussed this with a married friend. My observation: many women today only seem to recognize a man during moments of financial abundance. His response was that this is how it should be ,a man is by nature a provider, and no woman should consider dating, let alone marrying, a man who can’t provide.

This raises questions for me:

1. Is any financial situation guaranteed? A man providing today could lose that capacity to circumstance tomorrow — just as easily as he could keep growing it.
2. If society doesn’t condemn a man for choosing a partner who can’t provide financially, why should a woman need to prove she “deserves” a man who can provide, when she can’t reciprocate?
3. If society accepts this imbalance, why do women still expect equality within it? Should such men then have outsized power in the relationship, even to the point of controlling their partner, without that being called abuse?

I’ve tested this in small ways. One woman I was getting to know asked for money for food; when I sent something, her response was dismissive. Another woman I’d dated for a while reacted badly when I asked her for a small loan, and the relationship ended shortly after. Experiences like these have shaped what I now look for or avoid in a partner.

Your observation is half-truth, women have been braving up to support husbands, financially in recent time. Infact, so many marriages that are still intact today, it's as a result of supports, wife giving husband. Nevertheless, we still have many lazy women out there, who are not ready to work, instead to blame their laziness, they would shift it on husband, since they know, society will definitely support them.

Meanwhile, many of such lazy women usually learn in hard way, when they finally become single mothers.

Diamond098454:
This one wants to trend small

Na lie, she dey talk true

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

Common sense is truly not common, a gender that runs away from accountability with always file for divorce if they can feed themselves, simple fact

Smiles smiles smiles smiles

Rayjnr:
Na lie, she dey talk true

Where’s the lie?

GuestInfinity:
Women are saying it's mostly the man's fault. Men are saying it's mostly the woman's fault. Both contribute to the breakdown of marriages no matter what. Even if there was disrespect or abuse by one partner, the other partner likely overlooked the red flags and that is the contribution they made. As long as you keep blaming the other gender, you'll never make progress. Own up to your own contributions

Religious books said look for kind hearted fertile women, our forefathers said the same,, if you want to marry your sisters will also tell you to look for a good woman why?

Diamond098454:
Smiles smiles smiles smiles

Religious books said look for a good woman, our fore father's said the same, our moms and sisters said look for a good woman even you if i ask for advice on getting married you will say please look for a good woman, why please?
Does it mean women are usually bad and the good ones are few?

Women are not bad
There are good girls everywhere.

About what the holybook and others says is normal if a girl is getting married they will also say the same

Rayjnr:
Religious books said look for a good woman, our fore father's said the same, our moms and sisters said look for a good woman even you if i ask for advice on getting married you will say please look for a good woman, why please?
Does it mean women are usually bad and the good ones are few?

Very correct 💯 am glad that the question is coming from a female.na so my madam friend divorce her husband ooo say the stingy ,now she dey waka waka about,chaiii women

Rayjnr:
Religious books said look for kind hearted fertile women, our forefathers said the same,, if you want to marry your sisters will also tell you to look for a good woman why?

That's true but certain kind of men attract kind hearted women. You have to be the kind of man that can attract and keep kind hearted women. Those women are very picky

Diamond098454:
Haba.... Saint you are now been fair

That's true

Diamond098454:
This one wants to trend small

That's the truth that she said .
Quote her wrong

dominique:
It's easy to.spot a professional homewrecker from their posts. How about divorced men? Do they admit any fault in the breakdown of their marriage? Go and marry one of the divorced men and leave their ex wives alone. The koboko used in flogging the ex wife out of the marriage will be kept aside for her.

Divorced men don't come online blaming women up and down like Tonto and co.
Get that into ur head or expect a destructive marriage .

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense.

They go online to deceive u lots and kept deceiving u lots how saintly their attitude is thereby creating shit into ur heads .

Dialpad:
How can a woman agree she is wrong , in their world, they are always right ....

Men who supports them out of their croc tears are the worst

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Kelvin3476:
Divorced men don't come online blaming women up and down like Tonto and co.
Get that into ur head or expect a p
destructive marriage .

They go and cry on podcasts

saintopus:
With the coming in of Gen Z, men are now pushing for shared responsibility in marriage, it's not like before again!
That's the reason behind the sparks and fireworks that causes the collapse of most marriage.
For now, most ladies in Nigeria go into marriage for survival reasons and not because of companionship and love.

It's because the economy is tougher now

She's lying🤥🤥🤥

Kelvin

Kelvin3476:
That's the truth that she said .
Quote her wrong

Kelvin,
Is like you hate women

Kelvin3476:
That's true

IbnB:
Nigerian women are mostly lazy and very greedy, but again how can anyone expect a different dynamic in a society as intensely patriarchal as Nigeria?

So long as the system places men ahead of women in everything, irrespective of individual capability/competence, you can't blame the majority of the womenfolk for settling into the assigned (enforced) roles and just playing along in the interests of peace. It is mostly the stubborn (and exceptionally talented) women that break that mould, and usually at the expense of conventional marital expectations or unless they're lucky enough to get married to an equally extraordinary man

Point of correction, the system doesn't place men at any advantage over the women! The last I checked, both men and women have equal access to education and jobs(infact, women enjoy more advantages when it comes to job opportunities). Men are also not paid higher (as per providers) at work places. Even in politics, women still pull their weights and are even clamouring for reserved positions in government which to me is total rubbish!