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femi4:
vague or you just dont want to accept the fact that two believers can be a couple

Sigh…. I said i dont get your question??
U said do I have issues with that….?? I dont get what you are referring to as “that”….

Yall are too paranoid on nairaland ..

Don't fall into adultery.

My husband can tell me because I can forgive him but me I no go tell o cos he will never forgive

There's no right , there's no wrong... Only the consequences of your actions.

You know your spouse better sha, things may never be the same again...

To hear is human, to forgive is Divine...

Try read between the lines

Amotolongbo:
Some secrets are better kept to oneself to the grave

Exactly. I will tell my wife it is better for you to never cheat but per adventure you cheat you better manipulate me never to know or believe the rumors, if you ever tell me you cheated and you are pleading for forgiveness, that marriage has ended and forgiveness will never ever come. If the burden of conscience is killing you better share it with your mother or father as they can never use it against your marriage, your pastor may use the information to start sleeping with you and threaten if you refuse he will forward your evidence to your husband, likewise your male or female friends. Only your father or mother will never use it to manipulate your marriage. Share the information with your parents and feel relieved. Never ever share it with me. You will regret it.

sync:
My husband can tell me because I can forgive him but me I no go tell o cos he will never forgive

if he tells you, will you feel like "cheating back ?" after forgiving

That's exactly how it should be

Adultery doesn't happen on impulse ... it is usually the result of a side relationship. One will know he's on the road and that road leads to destination Adultery. Confession should be made to God and discuss with spouse when in the road.... not after meeting the destination. You know what you were doing. What will you tell God? .... forgive me for I know not what I was doing? ... when you went in with your full chest? .. trying to fool God? Confessing to the spouse ..... hmmmm ..... some things are better left unsaid. .... especially to a woman. Few will forgive ... to some will develop scorn... and we know what they say about a woman scorned .... many will see it as an invitation to compete ... as in what a man can do a woman can do better ... but most of all ... the glue of the relationship.... trust ... will become loose. One should be prepared to face these consequences if they decide to confess. As for me ..... hmmmm ..... on this matter my tongue shall be on sleep mode.... and I'm talking from e

sync:
My husband can tell me because I can forgive him but me I no go tell o cos he will never forgive

How do you know he wont forgive ??

Confess it to God alone, it is easier for men to confess to their wives after cheating but for women that would be end of their marriage

Adultery is the sweetest thing on earth. Especially with another man's wife or husband. It's sweeter than honey.

ebubeson:
If as a Christian married man or married woman you fall into adultery, should you confess to your spouse after you have asked God for forgiveness?

When you commit adultery or have sex with someone else outside your spouse, the first thing to do is to go to God for repentance, the next thing to do is to find a way your spouse should know about it.

You can go for counselling and meet trusted elders for reconciliation. Do not keep adultery as a secret from your spouse. God wants you to let it known to your spouse. It is restitution

Letting your spouse know, ro my own understanding is confession, not restitution. And depending on the type of spouse you have, it is better to let bygones be.

gohf:
first God, then a trusted elder in the house of God, who will then follow you to your spouse.

Don't approach a spouse with possible bitterness and unforgiving spirit alone o

Show biblical reference or its an human ideology. No pun itended

After asking God to forgive you, Just allow it to remain a secret

AntiChristian:
Your marriage don finish be that!

Adultery is an option for divorce for Christians!

THERE IS NO BIBLE VERSE THAT SUPPORTS DIVORCE BASED ON ADULTERY. MOSES IN HIS DAYS PERMISSIVELY PERMITTED IT BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF THE PEOPLES HEARTS BEACAUSE THEY COULD NOT FORGIVE. BIBLE ONLY PERMITTED DIVORCE FOR THE CAUSE OF FORNICATION, NOT ADULTERY AND BOTH OF THEM ARE BOT THE SAME AS A MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN CANT COMMIT FORNICATION. IT WILL BE LENGTHY FOR ME TO DO THE EXPOSITION HERE BUT BIBLE DIDNT PERMIT THAT.

This a response from Chat GPT- The central Christian question is usually whether repentance before God requires disclosure to the innocent spouse, and how confession, forgiveness, honesty, and the potential harm caused by disclosure should be weighed. If you like, go and confess to your partner and cause more harm than good

IF YOU COKMIT ADULTERY AND GO TO GOD AND CONFESS, HE WILL NEVER LISTEN TO YOU TILL YOU GO TO YOUR PARTNER AND CONFESS IT FIRST. WHEN YOU COMMIT IT, YOU BREAK YOUR VOW TO YOUR PARTNER TO LIVE THROUGH TO THE PERSON TILL DEATH. GOING TO GOD IS A SHORT CUT AND U GO TO GO BECAUSE OF THE FEAR OF INFORMING YOUR PARTNER . IF YOU ARE GOING TO THE TEMPLE (CHURCH) TO OFFER SACRIFICE SAID THE BIBLE AND ALONG THE ROAD U REMEMBER THAT THERE WAS SOMEONE THAT YOU HURT. BIBLE SAID THAT YOU SHOULD GO BACK FIRST AND MAKE YOUR WRONG RIGHT BEFORE GOING TO OFFER SACRIFICE THAT GOD WONT RECEIVE.

Adultery is a valid ground for dissolution of marriage in the Catholic Church.

90% of people cannot take the fact that their partner cheated. If you know that your spouse cannot forgive, never bother confessing

enemyofprogress:
Adultery is the sweetest thing on earth. Especially with another man's wife or husband. It's sweeter than honey.

And after that, it is cries and cryses the person will get

Dtruthspeaker:
And after that, it is cries and cryses the person will get

yinmu!

APOSTLECHUMA:
IF YOU COKMIT ADULTERY AND GO TO GOD AND CONFESS, HE WILL NEVER LISTEN TO YOU TILL YOU GO TO YOUR PARTNER AND CONFESS IT FIRST. WHEN YOU COMMIT IT, YOU BREAK YOUR VOW TO YOUR PARTNER TO LIVE THROUGH TO THE PERSON TILL DEATH. GOING TO GOD IS A SHORT CUT AND U GO TO GO BECAUSE OF THE FEAR OF INFORMING YOUR PARTNER . IF YOU ARE GOING TO THE TEMPLE (CHURCH) TO OFFER SACRIFICE SAID THE BIBLE AND ALONG THE ROAD U REMEMBER THAT THERE WAS SOMEONE THAT YOU HURT. BIBLE SAID THAT YOU SHOULD GO BACK FIRST AND MAKE YOUR WRONG RIGHT BEFORE GOING TO OFFER SACRIFICE THAT GOD WONT RECEIVE.

God may forgive you but you are still going to pay for the adultery.

APOSTLECHUMA:
THERE IS NO BIBLE VERSE THAT SUPPORTS DIVORCE BASED ON ADULTERY. MOSES IN HIS DAYS PERMISSIVELY PERMITTED IT BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF THE PEOPLES HEARTS BEACAUSE THEY COULD NOT FORGIVE. BIBLE ONLY PERMITTED DIVORCE FOR THE CAUSE OF FORNICATION, NOT ADULTERY AND BOTH OF THEM ARE BOT THE SAME AS A MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN CANT COMMIT FORNICATION. IT WILL BE LENGTHY FOR ME TO DO THE EXPOSITION HERE BUT BIBLE DIDNT PERMIT THAT.

Is the Judgment for adultery not stoning to death? So, is that not a divorce?

The hardness Moses dealt with was with men attempting to put away their wives since they could not do polygamy is why as if they are forced to stay with the wives they don't want, wickedness always came out

Teymanhenry:
This a response from Chat GPT- The central Christian question is usually whether repentance before God requires disclosure to the innocent spouse, and how confession, forgiveness, honesty, and the potential harm caused by disclosure should be weighed. If you like, go and confess to your partner and cause more harm than good

Can you not think again that you had to ask a thing to think and answer for you?

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Will confessing reverse the fact that you banged outside?

A married woman that has been banged cannot be unbanged

What about a married man that has been banged??

ebubeson:
If as a Christian married man or married woman you fall into adultery, should you confess to your spouse after you have asked God for forgiveness?

When you commit adultery or have sex with someone else outside your spouse, the first thing to do is to go to God for repentance, the next thing to do is to find a way your spouse should know about it.

You can go for counselling and meet trusted elders for reconciliation. Do not keep adultery as a secret from your spouse. God wants you to let it known to your spouse. It is restitution

Yes, In James 5:16, it states: "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed."

Christian couples are traveling on a spiritual journey and ADULTERY is one hell of a stumbling block that could deter their spiritual advancement so both of them should fight the battle together as one body! Matthew 19:5-6

Yes, if he or she truly wants God to forgive

The person you cheated is still around you and not dead.

Offpoint1:
Why should I tell her that? You've confess to God already... Use the brain he gave you.


Never confess your sins to a human unless you were caught in the act... Don't try it as a man, women lack the ability to forgive... They're master of pretense, you'll be reminded about such issues till eternity.
It's hard for men to forgive, but once they do you'll never ever hear such issue mentioned ever again.

It’s even harder for men to forgive their cheating wife

AntiChristian:
Your marriage don finish be that!

Adultery is an option for divorce for Christians!

Option at the will of the offended partner

Focusmind:
Adultery is a valid ground for dissolution of marriage in the Catholic Church.

90% of people cannot take the fact that their partner cheated. If you know that your spouse cannot forgive, never bother confessing

Then, that's not a Christian lifestyle.

Take this advice to the beer parlour or orgy hall

24SEVEN:
What about a married man that has been banged??

Yeah
I'm sure the woman inserted her pun pun into the man's john thomas and expanded it

Yes confess to your wife too after seeking God's forgiveness. However, do it with wisdom, love and humility. If you don't the devil will use it to tie you down into it; you will keep doing it over and over again