₦airaland Forum

There are certain changes that a woman can make to keep her man. It’s about mimicking or creating a semblance of that thing that is distracting him outside. Learning the way of the ‘side-chics.’

These simple and cost-effective changes are as follows:


(1) Staying in shape:

Yes, I understand that the toll of childbirth and motherhood stress causes an increase in weight, but adjustments could be made. Some Nigerian women eat too much, and they avoid the gym. They will get big and add ‘food lover’ to their bio on social media. Most times, the man will not complain; he will stay in the marriage and use the in-shape women to satisfy his sexual interests.


(2) Dressing well, both inside and outside:


Some women only dress well when going out. Some dress badly both outside and inside the house. You don’t need to buy expensive clothes. Look for what fits. Thank God for the TikTok market, where nice and affordable clothes are sold. Have a nice bath, shave the bushy areas and wear those skimpy wears and wait for your husband while returning from work. Wear some enchanting perfumes; they are not that expensive on Amazon. Stop tying those old ‘wrappers’ of your mother or grandmother around the house. They are not nice at all. This is the 21st century oh!


(3) Reduce the financial conversations:

Nowadays, it’s hard to have a normal conversation with a woman. The moment you start, she starts to tell you how badly money is needed at home. A man who is stressed from work, in search of money, will be frustrated hearing that, especially when the capacity isn’t there. Create diversity in your discussion. If he is a football fan, start watching football too. It’s not hard.


(4) Keep the house peaceful:

Sometimes, it’s okay for silence to be observed in the house. Silence and malice are not the same. Men need me-time too. Go with the flow. No man will marry a combative wife who is stirring more drama than Nollywood movies. The home is supposed to be a resting place. Avoid unnecessary arguments, no matter how small.

(5) Cooking:


Be a true African woman! Cook some good meals and make sure there is always something in the fridge for him to eat. The way to a man’s heart is his tummy.


(6) Work on your bedroom skills:

A woman needs to be calm as a dove but as fierce as a lion in bed. Don’t just lie down like a log of wood and tell him to do the work. Watch some educational videos and improve your delivery. Give him a run for his money. Initiate that style that almost stops his heartbeat. If he dies, he dies.


(7) Spend your money sometimes:

African women love to hide and save their money. Once a man spends all the time, the fun times created might be fun to you, but not him anymore. Learn to use your own money to give him a treat. At least once in a blue moon.

( Don’t cage him:

Allow your man to hang out with friends at least once in a while. Let him feel young again. Your company could be tiring, and he needs to mix this up. Stop panicking and assuming he is cheating when he is not with you.

(9) Create time for your man:

For Nigerian women in the UK, stop picking shifts and abandoning your men. Some of you will be telling him you are tired when he wants to do the do. Spend some weekends and bank holidays with him. Create memories that could last forever.

(10) Stop checking his mobile phone:


Most women are very good at unconventional investigations. They read meaning into everything they see on a man’s phone. A man’s phone is like onions; the more you look, the more you cry. Keep your mind at peace and give him that privacy. Most times, things you read meaning into always amount to nothing when critically examined.

This list goes on and on. I believe if these changes are made, the state of some marriages might improve.

Ishilove:
Leave us be abeg. Don't do this, don't do that, blah blah.

Biko carry your advice to the men. They are not babies. They too should keep in shape and look good for us, abi we sef no sabi beta tin?

Abeg koshi danu ke geddifok

Cooking:


Be a true African woman! Cook some good meals and make sure there is always something in the fridge for him to eat. The way to a man’s heart is his tummy

pocohantas:
Hahahahahahahahahaha

You made me burst into laughter, Ishi. 😂

At least his least is realistic and good. I have seen some dangerous lists here. 😂😂😂

Ishilove:
They are always doing lists for women as if the men are gods who cannot abide by lists too. Yeye and ingredients

Ishilove:
They are always doing lists for women as if the men are gods who cannot abide by lists too. Yeye and ingredients

pocohantas:
Confusion done enter person head.

Lol! They hate to advise themselves. It is something I noticed. Almost like they are scared to.

Samantha125:
1. This is probably coming from someone with a beer belly, unfit men have high chances of kicking the bucket during shaboinky than women... And last time I checked, some of your gender forbade their women from going to the gym.

2. When we dress well, some of your insecured gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, they'd prefer us looking unattractive instead.

3. The moment we reduce the financial conversations at home, better believe that we'll talk about them elsewhere with someone attentive.

4. It's fine, we'll keep the house peaceful and find someone outside with an active listening skill to listen to our hearts' desires.

5. Cooking is an essential life skill that everyone show know, because a way to everyone's hearts is through their stomachs... No one wants to starve to death.

6. The moment we come up with new ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, some of your gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, or of being retired ladies of the night.

7. We will spend our own money given that you wouldn't be asking us questions the moment we start buying ourselves a variety of designer clothes and going on girls' weekend getaways.

8. You can hangout with your friends for as long as you like, it'll give us some time to also hangout with our own friends and do some self exploration.

9. Having time for each other should be reciprocatory.

10. We should all stop checking each other's phones.

MY JOB HERE IS DONE!!!!

Samantha125:
1. This is probably coming from someone with a beer belly, unfit men have high chances of kicking the bucket during shaboinky than women... And last time I checked, some of your gender forbade their women from going to the gym.

2. When we dress well, some of your insecured gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, they'd prefer us looking unattractive instead.

3. The moment we reduce the financial conversations at home, better believe that we'll talk about them elsewhere with someone attentive.

4. It's fine, we'll keep the house peaceful and find someone outside with an active listening skill to listen to our hearts' desires.

5. Cooking is an essential life skill that everyone show know, because a way to everyone's hearts is through their stomachs... No one wants to starve to death.

6. The moment we come up with new ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, some of your gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, or of being retired ladies of the night.

7. We will spend our own money given that you wouldn't be asking us questions the moment we start buying ourselves a variety of designer clothes and going on girls' weekend getaways.

8. You can hangout with your friends for as long as you like, it'll give us some time to also hangout with our own friends and do some self exploration.

9. Having time for each other should be reciprocatory.

10. We should all stop checking each other's phones.

MY JOB HERE IS DONE!!!!

Ishilove:
Leave us be abeg. Don't do this, don't do that, blah blah.

Biko carry your advice to the men. They are not babies. They too should keep in shape and look good for us, abi we sef no sabi beta tin?

Abeg koshi danu ke geddifok

Ishilove:
Leave us be abeg. Don't do this, don't do that, blah blah.

Biko carry your advice to the men. They are not babies. They too should keep in shape and look good for us, abi we sef no sabi beta tin?

Abeg koshi danu ke geddifok

Samantha125:
1. This is probably coming from someone with a beer belly, unfit men have high chances of kicking the bucket during shaboinky than women... And last time I checked, some of your gender forbade their women from going to the gym.

2. When we dress well, some of your insecured gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, they'd prefer us looking unattractive instead.

3. The moment we reduce the financial conversations at home, better believe that we'll talk about them elsewhere with someone attentive.

4. It's fine, we'll keep the house peaceful and find someone outside with an active listening skill to listen to our hearts' desires.

5. Cooking is an essential life skill that everyone show know, because a way to everyone's hearts is through their stomachs... No one wants to starve to death.

6. The moment we come up with new ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, some of your gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, or of being retired ladies of the night.

7. We will spend our own money given that you wouldn't be asking us questions the moment we start buying ourselves a variety of designer clothes and going on girls' weekend getaways.

8. You can hangout with your friends for as long as you like, it'll give us some time to also hangout with our own friends and do some self exploration.

9. Having time for each other should be reciprocatory.

10. We should all stop checking each other's phones.

MY JOB HERE IS DONE!!!!

viqSmallz:
Haha. Women.
Point 3 - so you can easily give someone else attention when it comes to financial conversations? Since I can't be your burden. Let me go and become another person's.

Point 4 - so keeping the house peaceful equates not listening to your desires, that you can easily give someone else? Does it always have to be about your desires?

Point 5 - e reach turn to cook, now everyone should know how to cook. Its a life saving hack, blabla. Should every one not know how to provide for his or herself? Abi should he also go and look for who can cook and care for him?

Point 7 - e reach to spend money now, it still on yourself. Everything is about yourself

Women.

Young ladies learn from good marriages around you and not some internet statements that you don't even know if the person is truly living it or just trying to gain attention

Samantha125:
1. This is probably coming from someone with a beer belly, unfit men have high chances of kicking the bucket during shaboinky than women... And last time I checked, some of your gender forbade their women from going to the gym.

2. When we dress well, some of your insecured gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, they'd prefer us looking unattractive instead.

3. The moment we reduce the financial conversations at home, better believe that we'll talk about them elsewhere with someone attentive.

4. It's fine, we'll keep the house peaceful and find someone outside with an active listening skill to listen to our hearts' desires.

5. Cooking is an essential life skill that everyone show know, because a way to everyone's hearts is through their stomachs... No one wants to starve to death.

6. The moment we come up with new ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, some of your gender would be suspecting us of having extramarital affairs, or of being retired ladies of the night.

7. We will spend our own money given that you wouldn't be asking us questions the moment we start buying ourselves a variety of designer clothes and going on girls' weekend getaways.

8. You can hangout with your friends for as long as you like, it'll give us some time to also hangout with our own friends and do some self exploration.

9. Having time for each other should be reciprocatory.

10. We should all stop checking each other's phones.

MY JOB HERE IS DONE!!!!

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid02ApFsZR34HLXqinYVC57qnMwjxW8GPx2VDF6RRVw1xJ9T2LLZKL6Xrhiy4eFzeTskl

TimiofAbuja:
Please don't listen to this person oooo
This is coming from a place of bitterness