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3weeksblocking:
That is what Bidemi Odukoya should have done

Do you still take mkpuru...?

Stay away from it!

autoez:
I think you misunderstood my point completely. I did not say people should hate women, neither did I say marriage is bad. My point is about peace and the kind of life a person chooses to live.

You called someone lazy for saying that remaining single after having children can give a person peace. But is choosing peace automatically laziness? Marriage requires communication, patience and hard work, yes. But so does deciding to walk away from a situation that is destroying your peace. Staying married at all costs is not the only evidence that a person is hardworking or mature.

And please, let's not use children as an emotional weapon. Children can be bitter when parents separate, but children can also grow up bitter when they spend years watching their parents fight, disrespect each other, cheat, abuse each other or live together without love and peace. Marriage under one roof does not automatically mean a happy family.

You also said my point is self-centeredness. I disagree. Wanting peace of mind is not selfish. A person has one life, and nobody should be forced to remain in a relationship simply because society says, “You must stay married.” If a person decides that they would rather raise their children and remain single than enter another relationship that may bring them pain, that is a personal choice.

And bringing my mother and sisters into it doesn't strengthen your argument. The fact that my father married my mother does not mean I must make the same choices he made. Every generation faces different circumstances, and every individual has the right to learn from what they see around them.

My original point remains very simple: if a man wants children but genuinely values his peace and does not want the complications that can come with marriage and relationships, remaining single after having children may be a better choice for him.

You may disagree with that choice, and that's fine. But disagreement does not make the person lazy, selfish or incapable of communication.

Sometimes the real wisdom is not in forcing yourself to remain in a situation just to prove that you can endure it. Sometimes wisdom is knowing what kind of life gives you peace and having the courage to choose it.

Oga, I have seen the end result of people who remained single and had children, and it isn't funny

The guy is being irresponsible. If you cannot settle down with the mother of your children, or the mothers of your children, that's not being responsible, that's being an irresponsible person.

Your explanation is just a long winded defence of irresponsiblity.

What a tragedy!

Only too much love could lead to this kind of killing.
Don't love too deeply so that when the day of disappointment comes, you will not be too deeply hurt.

Kuginzi:
By Taiwo Bankole



https://punchng.com/horror-in-ogun-celestial-pastor-kills-wife-over-infidelity-runs-into-speeding-truck/

AguluLiar:
Do you still take mkpuru...?

Yes sir but they told me to avoid oil floating beans else I will end up as Bidemi Odukoya

ttoyetade:
It is not always easy to send wife away. It is another great wahala entirely

That's why as a man you need to hustle and make money before rushing into marriage

EdiskyHarry:
That's why as a man you need to hustle and make money before rushing into marriage

No, that is why you as a man must work on yourself so that you are the kind of person a woman would never leave, not because you are rich, but because you have good character, and are mature enough.

nairalanda1:
Solomon did not have side chicks, solomon had wives...properly married wives. Not women he was sleeping with while married to his other wives.

You people should stop equating polygamy with sleeping around. Our forefathers did not look at it that way o. If they saw a woman they liked, they opened negotiations about marriage immediately. Not keep am as side chick, in case relationship with wife did not work out.

Also, look, you should not sleep outside your marriage, as a man or as a woman. It always does not end well at all atall. Wheter you be monogamist or polygamist.

(Infact a classic example from history. A certain king was married to the daughter of another king. He sacked that daughter for his side chick. The other king was not amused, and sent an army to rampage and pillage his sonin law's kingdom. )

The bible in kings 11:3 clearly stated solomon had 700 wives and also 300 concubines or girlfriends.

EdiskyHarry:
That's why as a man you need to hustle and make money before rushing into marriage

So you can easily send away your cheating wife and easily marry another one abi? 😐

Well money is a defense, but money can't stop a woman from cheating.

Mrexcell:
The bible in kings 11:3 clearly stated solomon had 700 wives and also 300 concubines or girlfriends.

To be/get a concubine there were some formalities one had to go through.

As summarised

Legal Status: Concubines were not casual mistresses or prostitutes; they were bound by a legitimate marital bond, and the Bible sometimes uses terms like "husband" and "father-in-law" for their relationship

Origins: Many concubines came from low-income families, were foreign war captives, or were purchased as female slaves.

Primary Purpose: Their main roles were to provide companionship, satisfy sexual desires, and bear children often as surrogates for a barren primary wife

Legal Protections: Mosaic law provided them with basic rights, food, clothing, and physical protection, meaning a master could not simply abuse or discard them without legal consequence

So, not a side chick.

In your old age, you will die of loniless, even as a single.

autoez:
As a man ehhhhhh, if you want to have peace in this life, have kids and remain single. There's no better peace that been far away from that gender of destruction.

No one is talking about the guy being possibly mentally ill.

DennisEche:
Men don't take cheating spouse likely, most men don't forgive it.
Evil woman, she led her husband into this. Women stop competing with men.

where did you read that his wife cheated?
He just lacks emotional control.

People wey never marry, abeg make una marry woman wey una no like o, wey no dey attractive to you at all, we you no dey expect any better thing from and know peace for the rest of your life, because women dey always get feelings for them pikin most of the time because of what society expect of mother, no be say dem really send the mother status

Pastor wife, did you know whom she cheated with that pained him?
Easy to just comment,

Squirrel1:
Well, him for just beat her, leave her alive.

Dear men, if you have a certain amount of wealth and can cater for more than a wive, do yourself a favor and marry two.

Christians should also follow the old testament and marry two, what a waste of life. Sigh!

franchasng:
Unaliving his wife because she cheated was a very stupid decision.


Dear ladies, be wary of possessive men! They are very dangerous, their love is dangerous, they monitor your life 247, they suspect you when you greet another man and can do and undo even on mere suspicion of you cheating.



Dear ladies, be wary of your husband or man if he doesnt admire other ladies once in a while, he has a very dark and possessive heart, dont celebrate it that your husband doesnt cheat, its a sign of a dangerously possessive lover with potential to hurt! It's an unhealthy love

You should be advising nigerian women to stop their wayward lifestyle of sleeping around while still in their marriages rather than condemning men for been too protective and loving their wives excessively, every man comes from different backgrounds and so can never have the same orientation, some of those men that loves with their whole hearts usually comes from stable loving homes where they have never seen their father cheat on their mother so why demonise such men instead of condemning their insatiable wives who don't even know what they really want in life?

elitper:
No one is talking about the guy being possibly mentally ill.

True that.

Once came across a mental illness case of a man who thought his wife was cheating on him. The cold hard fact was that everyone in his life , including his relatives and friends and co workers, people who knew the man, wife, and the so called person she was cheating with all point blank stated that not only was that not happening, it was impossible

Paranoia is a classic mental illness, or sign of one.

Heartbreak caused by infidelity hurts deeply, but men should learn to understand that it can happen to anyone. No man is immune to being cheated on, and accepting this reality can help you cope when it eventually happens.
If she cheats on you, walk away. End the relationship, preserve your dignity, and move on. It may hurt terribly at first, but with time, you will heal. Don’t let someone’s betrayal destroy your peace or define your life.

What are you saying. Solomon has wives and concubines. Do you know what concubines mean? It means side chicks. Concubine is used loosely to mean "mistress" or "partner without marriage". Some cultures still have related practices under different names.

nairalanda1:
Solomon did not have side chicks, solomon had wives...properly married wives. Not women he was sleeping with while married to his other wives.

You people should stop equating polygamy with sleeping around. Our forefathers did not look at it that way o. If they saw a woman they liked, they opened negotiations about marriage immediately. Not keep am as side chick, in case relationship with wife did not work out.

Also, look, you should not sleep outside your marriage, as a man or as a woman. It always does not end well at all atall. Wheter you be monogamist or polygamist.

(Infact a classic example from history. A certain king was married to the daughter of another king. He sacked that daughter for his side chick. The other king was not amused, and sent an army to rampage and pillage his sonin law's kingdom. )

DennisEche:
Men don't take cheating spouse likely, most men don't forgive it.
Evil woman, she led her husband into this. Women stop competing with men.

Grow sense please. As much as I would like to think that the late wife might be guilty, it may surprise you that she might actually be innocent because nothing was proven.
You didn't know the husband/pastor before, he might actually be an insecure husband. Besides, why should you commit murder over infidelity? That's a sign of mental illness.

elitper:
No one is talking about the guy being possibly mentally ill.

Don't mind them. Like we haven't seen husbands who killed their wives over false allegations of infidelity and vise versa

DennisEche:
Easier said than done, only few can do such by walking away

Oga, there's nothing difficult there. How will you kill your partner because of cheating?

Life no easy has no formula or map, so people here blaming the man una never see something , when life throws your own script let’s see how you handle it, as for the man and woman may God accept their souls, this is what happens when you love a a woman too much…

maasoap:
Grow sense please. As much as I would like to think that the late wife might be guilty, it may surprise you that she might actually be innocent because nothing was proven.
You didn't know the husband/pastor before, he might actually be an insecure husband. Besides, why should you commit murder over infidelity? That's a sign of mental illness.


Don't mind them. Like we haven't seen husbands who killed their wives over false allegations of infidelity and vise versa

You dey mind that guy? It baffles me how some people reason

franchasng:
Unaliving his wife because she cheated was a very stupid decision.


Dear ladies, be wary of possessive men! They are very dangerous, their love is dangerous, they monitor your life 247, they suspect you when you greet another man and can do and undo even on mere suspicion of you cheating.



Dear ladies, be wary of your husband or man if he doesnt admire other ladies once in a while, he has a very dark and possessive heart, dont celebrate it that your husband doesnt cheat, its a sign of a dangerously possessive lover with potential to hurt! It's an unhealthy love

when are you going for your next clinical evaluation?

No

nairalanda1:
Sorry mate, but under the new convenant, one man for one wife.

Even in the old testament, we see the mess that polygamy left behind. Ishmael was thrown out of his father's house because of issues, david married wives, and developed a taste for women, that made him take over his loyal subordinate's own wife, and kill said subordinate, Solomon had wives, and they turned him away from god, and so forth.Let's not even talk about the issues with kids. Many of them polygamists no get peace.

The story of Joseph self, ehm, Joes' problem started with 'Jacob loved Rachel'.

As Jesus said.., and ordained it, a man shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one. He knew what he was talking about based on experience...

If you cannot live up to that, then leave christianity. Nothing dey stop una, and nothing is wrong with taking up another religon.

And the funny thing is that all the polygamy religions frown on adultery and keeping side chicks. If you like a woman, marry am, no dey do side chick tings.

chill. I'm not even Christian. I was just concerned for the poor guy.

LARRYOBRAIN:
Pastor wife, did you know whom she cheated with that pained him?
Easy to just comment,

"pastor wife" lol him for beat her leave her......kiling is too extreme. Now, he'll serve life, while she enjoyed a good during before she left earth. She'd laff at him in her grave!

nairalanda1:
To be/get a concubine there were some formalities one had to go through.

As summarised



So, not a side chick.

No matter how u choose to twist it it's still what it is an illegal union that's not officially recognised by law so it's still safe to refer to a concubine as a side chick or girlfriend.

franchasng:
Your wife cheated and you decided to take her life, what a stupid decision. When prettier, hotter ladies abound everywhere, all because of sex you destroyed your own life in a horrible, painful manner, ire oh

You think the whole scenario is ordinary? I'm very sure, the destruction of the family is rooted in spiritual battle.

Abi no be same celestial prophet, who usually having access to uncountable girls, single mothers and even married women daily basis. I won't be surprised, he slept with someone wife in which, that one bewitched him back diabolically.....Yoruba call it "eedi"

3weeksblocking:
Yes where Bidemi Odukoya comes from they love polygamy

lol… baba read the room….its a crime of passion….No one attributes that to specific tribe….
the numerous likes you were hoping for with this ur unnecessary tribal bigotry did not come so u Just kept jumping on every body’s mention with the same thing….. e funny die…

Fuckallmods:
If u catch ur wife cheating just send her away… life too sweet to jeopardize because of woman o

I would say find out the root cause of the infidelity and forgive her. Forgiveness is meant to be part of marriage, therefore don't make an already bad situation worse.

DennisEche:
Men don't take cheating spouse likely, most men don't forgive it.
Evil woman, she led her husband into this. Women stop competing with men.

....but women take cheating less seriously haa? If you look closely, the man is also a cheat. Nobody own anybody. You may be sad that your partner betrayal your fidelity and agreement of exclusivity, but that emotion or your ego does not give you right to kill!