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as a teenager, i used to be shy and timid all the time, i like attention but don’t know what to do with it when i get it.

it got worse in my late teens, my hands and legs will shake profusely during class presentation and it used to be hell talking to girls.

but as i grow older well into my 20’s, my confidence naturally grew and now i feel like i can talk in front of anyone or any crowd confidently. what was the magic that changed it all?

RESPONSIBILITIES.

the human mind engrosses itself with lower problems when it’s not occupied, imagine you got a call that your kid got an electric shock outside your house and you are in the bathroom, aren’t you going to dash out with probably just a towel to go save the kid? are you going to worry about dressing up or the color of your shirt or shoes? no.

thats exactly how it is, take on more responsibilities and you will just kill it off naturally. your mind will just switch the shy/less confident part of you to optimize for the task at hand.

another example is how older people seem more confident and less timid compared to young people, because they have gone through crazier things that transformed their lives to the point where being shy or timid doesn’t even register to them.

in essence, what i’m trying to say is that if you are shy or timid you are probably dealing with lower problems in your life, set bigger goals and expectations for yourself and your brain will be forced to kill off your shyness and timidity.

We both have the same mindset

Winnerrrr:
as a teenager, i used to be shy and timid all the time, i like attention but don’t know what to do with it when i get it.

it got worse in my late teens, my hands and legs will shake profusely during class presentation and it used to be hell talking to girls.

but as i grow older well into my 20’s, my confidence naturally grew and now i feel like i can talk in front of anyone or any crowd confidently. what was the magic that changed it all?

RESPONSIBILITIES.

the human mind engrosses itself with lower problems when it’s not occupied, imagine you got a call that your kid got an electric shock outside your house and you are in the bathroom, aren’t you going to dash out with probably just a towel to go save the kid? are you going to worry about dressing up or the color of your shirt or shoes? no.

thats exactly how it is, take on more responsibilities and you will just kill it off naturally. your mind will just switch the shy/less confident part of you to optimize for the task at hand.

another example is how older people seem more confident and less timid compared to young people, because they have gone through crazier things that transformed their lives to the point where being shy or timid doesn’t even register to them.

in essence, what i’m trying to say is that if you are shy or timid you are probably dealing with lower problems in your life, set bigger goals and expectations for yourself and your brain will be forced to kill off your shyness and timidity.

Imalwayshorny:
We both have the same mindset

yeah right.

i feel like it’s mostly young people that have this kind of problem.

So true. I agree with you.
Shyness is not always a good thing

istina:
So true. I agree with you.
Shyness is not always a good thing

yeah, shyness makes you look weird.

Winnerrrr:
as a teenager, i used to be shy and timid all the time, i like attention but don’t know what to do with it when i get it.

it got worse in my late teens, my hands and legs will shake profusely during class presentation and it used to be hell talking to girls.

but as i grow older well into my 20’s, my confidence naturally grew and now i feel like i can talk in front of anyone or any crowd confidently. what was the magic that changed it all?

RESPONSIBILITIES.

the human mind engrosses itself with lower problems when it’s not occupied, imagine you got a call that your kid got an electric shock outside your house and you are in the bathroom, aren’t you going to dash out with probably just a towel to go save the kid? are you going to worry about dressing up or the color of your shirt or shoes? no.

thats exactly how it is, take on more responsibilities and you will just kill it off naturally. your mind will just switch the shy/less confident part of you to optimize for the task at hand.

another example is how older people seem more confident and less timid compared to young people, because they have gone through crazier things that transformed their lives to the point where being shy or timid doesn’t even register to them.

in essence, what i’m trying to say is that if you are shy or timid you are probably dealing with lower problems in your life, set bigger goals and expectations for yourself and your brain will be forced to kill off your shyness and timidity.

not only responsibilities, it's more of where(environment ) and how(family relationship).

An environment dt is loud and very busy will always attract ur attention. wt you see often will force you to express urself dt moment. could be an environment where is populated with tout and street urchins doing their ratmatazz and battle of supremacy btw diff grps. the avg mushin or ajegunle resident in Lagos Nigeria eyes don see the good , the bad and the ugly at an early age as they grow up. .

Also, how we were raised too in a home is even the major reason. A home where parents allow their children express themselves freely over any issue is a booster to the child's confidence. You can call it a happy home. House wen be say any papa and mama no dey allow their pikin talk their mind dey kill their self esteem and in turn makes dem timid. If the huz com be huz wen the parents like to dey instill fear for the children body dey also add to it.

When children are not always put forward to be seen, heard and them seeing things outside the home also affects their confidence level. You can call it exposure. the more a child interfaces with his peer outside his home and also socializes, the more he gets use to relating wit people without feeling shy..

communication pattern too. when a parents pattern of communication wit a child is rooted to instill fear such child gets witdrawn. Any small error or mistake, na back hand for the child back. Or from the papa koboko. Instead of talking it out and letting the child explain him or himself.

Poverty sef add to it. pikin wen dem born inside poverty ,most of dem dey very timid. wat a 10yrs old rich man pikn know ,most 15yrs poor man pikin no know. big man pikin don watch a lot of educational programs on paid TV like dstv either frm the TV or on his tab 24/7. Such child easily get informed on trends at the tap of his finger. It is an informed mind dt knows and knowing makes you confident. How many poor man fit afford tab for.his pikin? Poor man area sef no dey get light to even watch trends and events compare to the rich. If light no dey, dem on generator.

Anoda thing na physical deformity. A child dt has one deformity or the oda will AV a low self esteem. Low self esteem makes a child shy. because dt child sees himself or herself as not normal frm oda children. several attempts of socializing with his peers always lead to him/her been teased or mocked. so he/she prefers to get witdrawn most of d tym.

The reasons are quite much. Let me allow odas express themselves.