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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Hhh4444: 11:33am On Sep 17

I swear,you don talk am finish...they prefer to come back home late than face their wive's shege.

DennisEche:
Go to the Bar, you will see many of them, staying out late because they can't go home and fave their Delilah at home,

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by blackboy2star(m): 11:40am On Sep 17

The only way you can enjoy your marriage is e.g You're staying in Ibadan with your family, wife working in Ibadan and you working in Lagos. Meaning you're not staying together every night and day and weekends, that's when you both will miss and cherish each other.

BUT if staying together, it takes patience from both parties cos no human is 100% perfect.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by dbestuncle: 11:53am On Sep 17

It's a deception of the devil.

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by abiala2015(m): 12:00pm On Sep 17

I saw the red flags during my relationship with my fiancee then. But I don't have the courage and wherewithal to pull out due to parent,friends and religious leaders factors. Now I'm just enduring and not enjoying my marriage.
Please my advice to the singles out there that intend to get married.
Please take your time to do research very well the kind of spouse you wanna bring into your life.
Please don't get married to an illiterate or someone that is not up to your standard of level of education. He get why..
Make sure you marry someone that reciprocate the unconditional love you have for each other. Love matter should not be one sided.
And lastly, get married to a genuine believer in God. Someone that have the fear of God in him or her.
Do your research very before you say I do ooo.
May God help us!

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by pocohantas(f): 12:00pm On Sep 17

Marriage doesn't benefit men. So if you dey regret am and it is choking you, come out to the streets. Always remember men are the prize.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Angelfrost(m): 12:03pm On Sep 17

obojememe:
i shld not b bothered sha ,i consider any one banging another man’s wife a dead meat that doesn’t value his life , as a living entity i ain’t worried about what dead people does

So, let me get this straight...

The man or a man sleeping with your wife is dead meat, but the woman sleeping with you (someone's husband) is a living and wonderful person who deserves accolades?!!

Misogyny will be the very end of so many of you guys.

Free that woman and give yourself peace of mind by ending that union abeg... You both deserve peace and happiness afterall.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by kingamaa(m): 12:04pm On Sep 17

The wife changed

Reduced income

Negative influence of third parties

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by TemmyT002(m): 12:05pm On Sep 17

Before you get married, get your priorities straight.
Your plans for the future must align with the plans of the person you want to marry.
For example, if you want to become a pastor in the future, make sure the person you want to marry knows. You need huge support for that.
Also, if you date someone you meet on dating sites or on social media, VERIFY EVERYTHING SINGLE THING they say.
There is a reason why people go to dating sites instead of real life. Verify everything to avoid stories that touch.
People lie and pretend A LOT.
Also, make sure the person you want to marry has cut off all communication with his or her exes. Very important. In fact, know all the exes. If the ex attends your wedding, e don finish.
Kí Olúwa wà pẹ̀lú ẹ

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by professore(m): 12:10pm On Sep 17

tuoyoojo:
The fact that you married and regretted does not mean others are unhappy with their marriages

Why do people feel better when they people others are going thru same misery with them

How can I like this 1000 times?

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by eagleonearth(m): 12:10pm On Sep 17

obojememe:
i shld not b bothered sha ,i consider any one banging another man’s wife a dead meat that doesn’t value his life , as a living entity i ain’t worried about what dead people does

you failed the golden rule!

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Angelfrost(m): 12:10pm On Sep 17

blackboy2star:
The only way you can enjoy your marriage is e.g You're staying in Ibadan with your family, wife working in Ibadan and you working in Lagos. Meaning you're not staying together every night and day and weekends, that's when you both will miss and cherish each other.

BUT if staying together, it takes patience from both parties cos no human is 100% perfect.

Covid-19 stay at home period gave me a whole new perspective of discipline and marital understanding.

That period made me bond deeper with my wife and family.

After Covid, I switched careers to spend more time at home... Could no longer enjoy being away from home all day long. Quit weekend work permanently too.

My marriage and life have been more blissful since.

...Many of you have serious problems that are beyond marriage or marital life.

This is why I completely understand why some young ladies prefer older and more mature men.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by eepeepook(f): 12:10pm On Sep 17

Mscheew.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Tendd: 12:11pm On Sep 17

Not yet married but it's a basic human psychology.My takes are,Wife starts nagging a lot.Husband has a little or less finance for contuinual upkeep.Wife becomes overweight a few years in marriage,eats a lot and have no clue on how to cut down.Wife perhaps becomes financially stable and starts being abusive.Husband may be finds an attractive lady and loses interests on the wife.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Emeskhalifa(m): 12:12pm On Sep 17

Cum4me:
Please Seun carry this topic go front page. This marriage matter for man pass 10 unit course for university. As bachelor I need to learn from others experience. I really don't want to marry but society and family members won't allow me to breath

So you want to put your self in a position that you won't be happy about coz of what people are saying?

Omoorrrr u get mind o, this can never be me ooo

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Atarakpa: 12:12pm On Sep 17

Is your fault. You won money on Australia pool gambling. Instead of you sending her to Australia you then send her to UK. Baba nah your fault.

Cheatmessiah:
In week 50 2014 Australia pool.
I won close to 50m.
I got married that year.
Sent my wife to UK in 2015 to study nursing.
She graduated and married oyibo man.
I vow never to remarry again

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by GuestInfinity: 12:12pm On Sep 17

SmartyPants:
Meaning you also consider that your side chic dead meat?

Not judging you for having a side chic but I wonder how you rationalize these two contrasting positions.

Double standards

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Emeskhalifa(m): 12:13pm On Sep 17

PerfectStranger:
Story

Lols no mind am, e pain am cheesy

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by tuoyoojo(m): 12:14pm On Sep 17

professore:
How can I like this 1000 times?

Start with one like grin

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Angelfrost(m): 12:15pm On Sep 17

Atarakpa:
Is your fault. You won money on Australia pool gambling. Instead of you sending her to Australia you then send her to UK. Baba nah your fault.

Doesn't matter where he sent her...!

If she had gone to outer space, she would have hooked up with an alien or extraterrestrial species.

That woman left him long before that... He just never realized it.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Emaprince: 12:16pm On Sep 17

obojememe:
i shld not b bothered sha ,i consider any one banging another man’s wife a dead meat that doesn’t value his life , as a living entity i ain’t worried about what dead people does

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by hosemujica: 12:20pm On Sep 17

Cheatmessiah:
In week 50 2014 Australia pool.
I won close to 50m.
I got married that year.
Sent my wife to UK in 2015 to study nursing.
She graduated and married oyibo man.
I vow never to remarry again

This na Joke abi na true story.

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by everythingtall3: 12:31pm On Sep 17*

Marriage is one thing they can't explain to you until you experience it. Being single is not better either, being single can kill you before your time.

Imagine a life without your family when growing up , without your father and mother , without your other siblings. It will definately be boring and lonely right. Who will teach you how life works. Who will show you how to take your bath properly. etc.

Now imagine a life without your family when you grow older, when your elder sisters or brother have gone their separate ways. Who will take care of your meals, who do you run to when you become the oldest person in the club and you can no longer vibe wit wizkid's songs. Who will teach you how to bath when you grow old and you turned to baby.

That's when you need another family and you won't get that outside marriage. And you can't find true love at 50. So marry as soon as you can.

Cum4me:
then what's the point of getting married if your peace of mind is in your side chick. Marriage contribute to millions of men death around the world. many are facing real hell inside them being with the wrong woman 👠

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Cum4me(m): 12:36pm On Sep 17

hosemujica:
This na Joke abi na true story.

E dey find Maga Na advertis E dey do

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Cum4me(m): 12:39pm On Sep 17

abiala2015:
I saw the red flags during my relationship with my fiancee then. But I don't have the courage and wherewithal to pull out due to parent,friends and religious leaders factors. Now I'm just enduring and not enjoying my marriage.
Please my advice to the singles out there that intend to get married.
Please take your time to do research very well the kind of spouse you wanna bring into your life.
Please don't get married to an illiterate or someone that is not up to your standard of level of education. He get why..
Make sure you marry someone that reciprocate the unconditional love you have for each other. Love matter should not be one sided.
And lastly, get married to a genuine believer in God. Someone that have the fear of God in him or her.
Do your research very before you say I do ooo.
May God help us!

you nail it from your experience

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by obojememe: 12:52pm On Sep 17

SmartyPants:
Meaning you also consider that your side chic dead meat?

Not judging you for having a side chic but I wonder how you rationalize these two contrasting positions.

i ain’t contrasting, yeah i am of capable of marrying two if i want and the side is someone i can def go for , al truth are but half truth , d side ain’t own by. anyone , i paid a price one her already, so i ain’t contrasting

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Solofresh2(op): 12:54pm On Sep 17

pocohantas:
Marriage doesn't benefit men. So if you dey regret am and it is choking you, come out to the streets. Always remember men are the prize.

You said 'men are the prize' then in the same breath said marriage doesn't benefit men.Which one is it?
If men are the prize, why are you telling them to come out to the streets?If marriage doesn't benefit men, why are women still pushing for it?If men are the prize, why are so many women panicking about the 'marriage crisis'?
Men aren't the prize. Peace is the prize. And most men don't find it in marriage. That's why they regret it. That's why they stay silent. That's why they're walking away.You can't call men the prize and then mock them for not wanting to be claimed. Pick a lane

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by obojememe: 12:55pm On Sep 17

Bahamas95:
This everyday marriage complain on nairaland is becoming annoying.

Nobody forced, or is forcing you guys to get married. It's not written anywhere in the Nigerian constitution that citizens must get married......Make una rest!

d complaints has always been around but the older generation like enduring and thanks to social media and anonymity so people express themselves if u ain’t witnessed any trouble don dey marriage since ages

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by obojememe: 12:57pm On Sep 17

eagleonearth:
you failed the golden rule!

as how

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by obojememe: 12:57pm On Sep 17

Angelfrost:
So, let me get this straight...

The man or a man sleeping with your wife is dead meat, but the woman sleeping with you (someone's husband) is a living and wonderful person who deserves accolades?!!

Misogyny will be the very end of so many of you guys.

Free that woman and give yourself peace of mind by ending that union abeg... You both deserve peace and happiness afterall.

i can marry her

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by mmsen: 12:59pm On Sep 17

obojememe:
lol, i go like comment but mesef no dey 100% so i did let this one slide but then at a point in time a great percentage of couples wil regret y they chose their partner but it is just a phase which wil def pass so yea i have my regrets but then it’s al part of what i sign for.. a very big shout out to my side chick for keeping my marriage running smoothly, a very understanding babe wey dey understand my silence and all , she don promise me better doggie over d weekend sef

Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Solofresh2(op): 1:01pm On Sep 17

tuoyoojo:
The fact that you married and regretted does not mean others are unhappy with their marriages

Why do people feel better when they people others are going thru same misery with them

You're right. Not every marriage is miserable. But let's be honest,If marriage was as great as people pretend, why do so many married men avoid going home?Why is the divorce rate over 50% in many countries?Why do married men live shorter lives than single men in some studies?Why do men die earlier after divorce than women?
The thread isn't saying every marriage is bad. It's saying many men are suffering in silence and they need a space to speak.You don't have to be miserable to acknowledge that others are.
And people don't feel better because others are suffering. They feel better because they're no longer alone in their suffering.
If your marriage is great, good for you. But don't dismiss the pain of men who are trapped. Empathy costs nothing

Am not married by the way

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Re: Married Men Who Secretly Regret Their Marriage, What Happened? by Angelfrost(m): 1:02pm On Sep 17

obojememe:
i can marry her

Then, why haven't you done so?!!

If polygamy is what tickles your fancy, why stress yourself and someone's daughter in a clearly failed monogamous union?!!

Nah... You just want to have your cake and eat it. Typical of an average immature Nigerian, especially men.

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