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Jakarta:
Did you border to read what the OP wrote? A heartless man would not bother to create a thread like this to voice out his pains.He is even ready to take possession of the child.

A simple question do you know the OP
Yes or no?

We4all:
➜At the emboldened, let's assume you are joking. There are many married men who prioritise themselves and their side chics over their children. They won't provide for their kids, but will be the one sponsoring the children of their side chics. Stop acting like you don't know these things.

Many of these same boys commenting were raised by fathers who did exactly that to them and their mothers. 😒😒

We4all:
And what makes you think the OP is exceptional, different, or not behaving like one of those men?

Read what he wrote, you will find your answers there.

Samueltemi337:
A simple question do you know the OP
Yes or no?

No time to feed babies.

capetownboyz:
These past few days have been emotionally and mentally hectic for me. I've been dealing with my child's mother and the disrespect that comes with it. I don't understand how someone can be so cruel insulting my family and stirring up trouble just because I decided to take a few weeks off from child support so I could recover and look into other sources of income.

I'm dealing with someone who can barely take responsibility for her child and couldn't even allow me some time off. Instead, she flared up, made the issue about my family, and started posting pictures of me and my mother online, insulting us and saying my mother should tell me to take care of my child.

I have always wanted to have custody of my child, but she is making it impossible. Now I feel so hurt because she keeps making the situation difficult for everyone and is painting herself in a bad light. My child is trapped in this horrible situation and I feel like I can't do anything to get her out. It feels like I'm slowly losing her and all the happiness I've ever had watching her grow, all because of her mother's behavior. She is divisive and chaotic and always tries to cause provocation instead of seeking peace. I feel bad and I get hear ache thinking how it all went wrong. I just feel it wasn’t ripe for me to have a child but she pushed for it and the outcome is quite a sad tale except for the beautiful experience I had with my child .. we never dated long for me to vet her horrible behavior but I guess chameleons are best at disguising themselves.. jeez I hate this version of life I had bringing my first child into this world and if I had a chance I would put a stop to whatever fling we had that led to this.. one of my worst fears ever

If you die today they would survive without the help of your family.
Have that at the back of your mind.

capetownboyz:
These past few days have been emotionally and mentally hectic for me. I've been dealing with my child's mother and the disrespect that comes with it. I don't understand how someone can be so cruel insulting my family and stirring up trouble just because I decided to take a few weeks off from child support so I could recover and look into other sources of income.

You don't get to take a break from parenting. That is why people should look well before having a child and with whom they have that child.

Child custody issues are very delicate and I cannot just take your words for it. You are also not to be with a minor because you would most likely not do the fulltime parenting (i.e) you will outsource it to your mother or sister. However, if what you said is the case, stop responding to her messages. Only message her if it is something that concerns the child. Send whatever you can when you can. If you have the financial and emotional wherewithal, take it to family court. Let visitation rights be established.

capetownboyz:
ask yourself , I can see the F on your profile so you wouldn’t understand what a man goes through to provide and needing a mental calculation to sort things through.. my head ache is dealing with a jobless one who can’t play a supportive role while a man goes out to look for better means to create wealth than being stuck with status quo ., emotional beings pffft

I still don’t understand what your point is. You want a break from your responsibilities?

My friend abandon your child with your whole chest and be another deadbeat dad.

You are not the first nor will you be the last.Tell yourself whatever makes you sleep at night.

You had the energy to make a baby and all this energy to make excuses for your failure as a parent.

Take your break and make another person work and sweat for your child.

Say what you want about this woman but she is doing her part by carrying your child for 9 months and raising your child.

Your only role was to cum and go make money and you got 1/2 on your test.

Double0h7:
I still don’t understand what your point is. You want a break from your responsibilities?

My friend abandon your child with your whole chest and be another deadbeat dad.

You are not the first nor will you be the last.Tell yourself whatever makes you sleep at night.

You had the energy to make a baby and all this energy to make excuses for your failure as a parent.

Take your break and make another person work and sweat for your child.

Say what you want about this woman but she is doing her part by carrying your child for 9 months and raising your child.

Your only role was to cum and go make money and you got 1/2 on your test.

like your father cumed and had a slow poke like you .. get off my mention , I don’t need your opinion on this. Dead beat or not some of you women makes things worse off for a man than make things better.. the earlier a man fixes himself the better than drowning with you at the end of day you lay claim to a child .. what do you have to offer just what’s between ur legs then sit down and watch Korea drama all day ..

capetownboyz:
These past few days have been emotionally and mentally hectic for me. I've been dealing with my child's mother and the disrespect that comes with it. I don't understand how someone can be so cruel insulting my family and stirring up trouble just because I decided to take a few weeks off from child support so I could recover and look into other sources of income.

I'm dealing with someone who can barely take responsibility for her child and couldn't even allow me some time off. Instead, she flared up, made the issue about my family, and started posting pictures of me and my mother online, insulting us and saying my mother should tell me to take care of my child.

I have always wanted to have custody of my child, but she is making it impossible. Now I feel so hurt because she keeps making the situation difficult for everyone and is painting herself in a bad light. My child is trapped in this horrible situation and I feel like I can't do anything to get her out. It feels like I'm slowly losing her and all the happiness I've ever had watching her grow, all because of her mother's behavior. She is divisive and chaotic and always tries to cause provocation instead of seeking peace. I feel bad and I get hear ache thinking how it all went wrong. I just feel it wasn’t ripe for me to have a child but she pushed for it and the outcome is quite a sad tale except for the beautiful experience I had with my child .. we never dated long for me to vet her horrible behavior but I guess chameleons are best at disguising themselves.. jeez I hate this version of life I had bringing my first child into this world and if I had a chance I would put a stop to whatever fling we had that led to this.. one of my worst fears ever

Do not let anyone come in between you and your peace of mind.
To the horrible baby mama, warn her that any negative post on you or your mother an you will block her. Or retaliate too with crazy post of how she came to ruin your life. She is hurting you because she thinks you are weak and susceptible to her tactics. Don't ever be a gentleman when dealing with her.
Send wat you think is fit for the child and save every receipt of transfer sent to a 3rd party.

Some baby mamas are terrible to the core,but op you saw all the red flags before.

My advice is....send what you have to the child occasionally,things are cumbersome at the moment.

Try not to reason her shenanigans,if you can block her for your peace of mind,pls do

But when you want to send money,use POS and send to her account directly,do not send funds directly from your account to hers.

My sympathy goes to the child.