What is up with all the funny treatment towards people that are mixed with Nigerian and another nationality? I happen to be mixed, and all my life I have noticed the stigma surrounding bein of mixed heritage. People, even family, treat those of us who are mixed differently. In my experiences people automatically assume you don't know anything about culture, cuisine, language, history, etc.
Is there anyone else out there who has experienced this?

hi

ive actually done a topic on this or very similar check it out 'do british born or other have african values',,,

with regards to being mixed race I feel it is not looked at any diffrently in this day and age, unless you are living in a very rural area with people living in the dark ages or very uncomfotable with themselves and feel it necessary to show there ignorance,

As you are a grounded person and totally comfortable with your mixed race and african values the best thing to do is not try and convince any one , they will SEE LOOK AND LEARN FROM THE PERSON you are and your actions without you having to utter a word

When you say mixed heritage is it the same as mixed race?

Well, kind of mixed race, but not really. My mother is a mix of mostly french and american indian with some black american and my father is Nigerian.

Britgirlee, you have made a good point. However, I don't live in a rural area. I have always lived in metropolitin areas. Its the same thing everywhere I go. I don't know if its me, maybe i am sensitive. That is why I posted this topic, to see if anyone else has the same experience. By the way, I am not really mixed race, just mixed heritage. thanks

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1nOnlyAde:

Well, kind of mixed race, but not really. My mother is a mix of mostly french and american indian with some black american and my father is Nigerian.

American Indian  Black American , Nigerian, are all diffrent races  

Race
definition one of the major divisions of man kind
Group of persons etc regarded as one of common stock  posterity of 

Little oxford dicionary

Heritage

what may be inherited i.e inherited cultural influence or tradition

Little oxford dicionary.

I am correct in my description however you have contradicted your self in your poster and have shown confusion and somewhat opened up issues within yourself as determining your actual ethnic background culture etc? Opening yourself up to criticism on the site

1nOnlyAde

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Britgirlee, you have made a good point. However, I don't live in a rural area. I have always lived in metropolitin areas. Its the same thing everywhere I go. I don't know if its me, maybe i am sensitive. That is why I posted this topic, to see if anyone else has the same experience. By the way, I am not really mixed race, just mixed heritage. thanks

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I think you need to get some form of grounding and confidence in who you are before you critique others as it comes across on here that you are the one who actually has the issues be happy with who  you are girl your mixed race and  heritage learn the diffrent cultures and enjoy your life

wendymanda:

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I have given a definition of the two

Britgirlee, thank you for taking time to respond. While I acknowledge that the definitions of 'heritage' and 'race' you have provided are accurate, I feel that the context in which they were related to my situation was a little off. Nigerian, and black american are not major divisions of mankind. I don't think that the 'major division of mankind' I fall into is any different from any other black person.

"I am correct in my description however you have contradicted your self in your poster and have shown confusion and somewhat opened up issues within yourself as determining your actual ethnic background culture etc? Opening yourself up to criticism on the site"

In response to this statement, I wish to assert that I have displayed no such confusion. If you carefully read my original post, you will see that the question I asked was aimed to find out if anyone else has had the same experience that I have had. I used phrases like 'in my experience" and "i have noticed". I never critiqued anyone, Just asked a question.

I think its funny that you are telling me to get confidence and grounding. I won't even respond to that because it is senseless to "prove" yourself to a stranger, who makes assessments about you based on what they have read in the Little Oxford Dictionary! No offense.

acknowledge your response , however I think its best left for others on the forum who reply to give  their personal views, have fun on nairaland girl and see you around the forum

1nOnlyAde it has always been like that but people will deny.
They will never let you forget you are not really one of them,
It its yourmum that is Nigerian its worse for you they will think she is a prostitute.
I bet a lot of people ask you who is white (mother or father) that question has a lot of meaning beheind it,.

Mamaput, my dad is Nigerian and people always ask me "Where does your dad live?" and I say "He lives here, in the US." Then they will ask "Where does your mom live?" and I'm like "um, she lives with my dad?". So many seem surprised that my parents are actually married to each other. My mom is not white, but she if very very fair, like Mariah Carey's complexion, and she has wavy/straight hair, so a lot of people think that she is a white.

you seeask your self why they ask. am sure they think you are one of those lost children that do not know their dad.
I have to admitt they are many like that,
Be you here or in Nigeria , there is no difference, only in the questions

Yes there are. One of my classmates who never knew her father just recently found out that he is actually a Nigerian. I've met so many illegitimate children with Nigerian dads.

I'm going to be real the reason they are like that because 99% of the time children that are mixed Nigerian with another heritage and/or race & etc don't have any Nigerian culture in them(especially ones with non-Nigerian black mothers especially since majority of them are raised in the westernized world), the only exception is if they were born & raised in Nigeria all their lives; most likely with a Nigerian mother.
maybe if its a person that's mixed Nigerian with another black African culture they may treat you better or include you but it depend though but besides that they will treat you differently, which is understandable. I have seen mixed Nigerian kids/adults, and all have Nigerian fathers and their mothers are either Black american, white americans and etc, and it's always the same thing they come out with no Nigerian culture and are the cultures of the mothers. To most Nigerians it tends to be expected once a child is born from a home like that how they will be culturally, there are many mixed Nigerian celebrities I have seen that come out with no Nigerian culture either. there is nothing wrong with it but the sad fact is kids 99% of the time are the culture of their mother. You may argue that kids that are born in western world from Nigerian parents sometimes have no culture which is true but the difference is it can go both ways with kids from homes like that & it depends on the parents(because majority of the time most Nigerian kids from both Nigerian parents tend to have the culture in them; I am a example of that) but kids from a one Nigerian parent homes(most likely the Nigerian parent is the father) it's already a given fact how most will be like culturally

I'm still waiting for the discussion on nigerians who are tribally mixed ie mixed nigerian ethnicities.

Everyone seems to be skirting round this topic while throwing sneaky jabs on the sly.


Products of yoruba and hausa marriages for instance- how una dey see am. Are the offspring yoruba, hausa or none of the above.

Lets discuss this, people.

takers, plz.

1nOnlyAde:
Well, kind of mixed race, but not really. My mother is a mix of mostly french and american indian with some black american and my father is Nigerian.

I think that means your mum is AA or Creole, technically speaking.

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.am mixed- yoruba&delta


*na my dad spoil show

ivyT:
.am mixed- yoruba&delta


*na my dad spoil show

This particular thread is for people who are mixed with nigeria and another nationality, not another ethnic group.

There's a separate thread for that.

itstpia8:



This particular thread is for people who are mixed with nigeria and another nationality, not another ethnic group.

There's a separate thread for that.

Na u sabi,
Oya kon fling me comot na

wendymanda:
When you say mixed heritage is it the same as mixed race?

mixed heritage is different from mixed race.