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Hello house
I have 2 friends,a male and female. We all work in the same establishment.
They are both single,so i decided to hook them up.
The arrangement was going so well.
As they have being coming to work together.
The guys goes to pick her in the morning, goes to buy her lunch,takes her to almost everywhere she wanna go,
Everything seems o be going so well.

Well yestaday i asked the girl what she felt for the guy, and she said nothing,she just sees him as a nice guy that she follows to work.
Am like whatttt?? .this is a guy that is almost certain you love him, feels like you have a bond and is willing to do anything for you. I didnt tell her this dou.

The issue is the guy is actually a very nice guy and i feel kinda guilty knowing the girl seems to just be taking advantage of his good heart.

Well am confused whether to tell the guy how the girl really feels or just let them sort themselves out??

Matured response pls
Thank you pals!

rofemiguwa:
Hello house
I have 2 friends,a male and female. We all work in the same establishment.
They are both single,so i decided to hook them up.
The arrangement was going so well.
As they have being coming to work together.
The guys goes to pick her in the morning, goes to buy her lunch,takes her to almost everywhere she wanna go,
Everything seems o be going so well.

Well yestaday i asked the girl what she felt for the guy, and she said nothing,she just sees him as a nice guy that she follows to work.
Am like whatttt?? .this is a guy that is almost certain you love him, feels like you have a bond and is willing to do anything for you. I didnt tell her this dou.

The issue is the guy is actually a very nice guy and i feel kinda guilty knowing the girl seems to just be taking advantage of his good heart.

Well am confused whether to tell the guy how the girl really feels or just let them sort themselves out??

Matured response pls
Thank you pals!

From my own perspective about women o, I don't think she would want to tell you expressly if she feels something for the guy.
If the guy is a matured guy, leave him to handle the situation.
He will not die.
Hands off girl.

Shes in love and doesn't want to admite it,just let them be time wil tell [color=#000099][/color]

What exactly would you tell him...? Never mind.
However you put it, it would never sound right to him (or to her if she ever got to find out).

If you're still single, your female friend may not be comfortable telling you how well things are really going between them (its got something to do with jealousy).

Bottom line, whichever one it is (single or married), stay out of their business.

Common,gals can neva admit they r in luv wit a guy in presence of their female frds.so live her alone nd let d man figure out if she is a player or nt.

Thanks for responding.
My ish is knowing her it is very possible she is taking advantage
Aldou i really wanna believe she is in denial
Cos i really want them togeda,dy will make such cute couple dou.


*tinking* why will she be hiding her feelings for the guy

rofemiguwa:
Thanks for responding.
My ish is knowing her it is very possible she is taking advantage
Aldou i really wanna believe she is in denial
Cos i really want them togeda,dy will make such cute couple dou.


*tinking* why will she be hiding her feelings for the guy

Stop trying to bring them together, it's not about making good couples, Marriage no be beans....

Allow them to sort things themselves please. .. They're both mature. .. Thank you

Sincerely, stay away as others had advice. Maintain a neutral stand on both side, don't bring up any issue concerning their relationship and see what happens then, let the guy figure out whatever it is they're having.

rofemiguwa:
Thanks for responding.
My ish is knowing her it is very possible she is taking advantage
Aldou i really wanna believe she is in denial
Cos i really want them togeda,dy will make such cute couple dou.


*tinking* why will she be hiding her feelings for the guy

At this thought-rate, you're leaning more towards jealousy or lust (for your male friend)...

theLORDreigns:
At this thought-rate, you're leaning more towards jealousy or lust (for your male friend)...

Jealousy or lust?
I don't think so
She just want the best for her friends
Didn't you see the part where she wrote "I really want them together, they'll make a cute couple"?
Go and break your fast, my dear

rofemiguwa:
Hello house
I have 2 friends,a male and female. We all work in the same establishment.
They are both single,so i decided to hook them up.
The arrangement was going so well.
As they have being coming to work together.
The guys goes to pick her in the morning, goes to buy her lunch,takes her to almost everywhere she wanna go,
Everything seems o be going so well.

Well yestaday i asked the girl what she felt for the guy, and she said nothing,she just sees him as a nice guy that she follows to work.
Am like whatttt?? .this is a guy that is almost certain you love him, feels like you have a bond and is willing to do anything for you. I didnt tell her this dou.

The issue is the guy is actually a very nice guy and i feel kinda guilty knowing the girl seems to just be taking advantage of his good heart.

Well am confused whether to tell the guy how the girl really feels or just let them sort themselves out??

Matured response pls
Thank you pals!

You friend may be right ( Girl).

Has the guy asked her out? Has he made his intention known to the girl or not?

If not, the girl may just see him as a colleague who picks her up every morning with no string attached.

Also she may not feel anything for him even though he is a nice guy.

Ask the guy if he has made his intention know before you frown at your friend.

My 2 cents

Are you single? If you have a partner introduce them to him/her as lovers. The shock will make them take a definite stance

zeemoore:
Jealousy or lust?
I don't think so
She just want the best for her friends

That's your opinion, sweets.

Didn't you see the part where she wrote "I really want them together, they'll make a cute couple"?

Anybody can say anything...its what's in the heart that really matters.

No offence @OP!

Go and break your fast, my dear

My dry fast still has two more days to go!

theLORDreigns:
That's your opinion, sweets.



Anybody can say anything...its what's in the heart that really matters.

No offence @OP!



My dry fast still has two more days to go!

How come you know what's in the heart of the OP?
You now read people's innermost thoughts from afar?

Break the fast, biko

zeemoore:
How come you know what's in the heart of the OP?
You now read people's innermost thoughts from afar?

Break the fast, biko

Mind reader I am!

Nothing is breaking this fast midway...

theLORDreigns:
Mind reader I am!

Nothing is breaking this fast midway...

Seriously, you need to slow down and break the fast
I don't want you to suffer a breakdown

zeemoore:
Seriously, you need to slow down and break the fast
I don't want you to suffer a breakdown

Thanks hon', I'll be fine.

Well Actually he has not asked her out yet, he wanted to be sure the feeling is mutual,or atleast there is some form of aTtraction.


Apparently he feels there is now and wants to make the move ,but when i asked my gAlfriend she told me she didnt feel the same.
I didnt tell her the guy wanna ask her out now . I was actually expecting the same level of excitement the guy had with her, was realLy disappointed.

We actually talk about relationship so i dont tink she should be feeling shy to tell me anytin.
Am engaged and she wants a man,and she is friendzoning this one .what are the odds.??

Anyway its her decision to make dou

I will just backoff and let the guy find out him self.

skyladon22:
You friend may be right ( Girl).

Has the guy asked her out? Has he made his intention known to the girl or not?

If not, the girl may just see him as a colleague who picks her up every morning with no string attached.

Also she may not feel anything for him even though he is a nice guy.

Ask the guy if he has made his intention know before you frown at your friend.

My 2 cents

Not at all my dear.
She is a nice person, he is a nice person. Just tot they can work it out.
Will not interfer sha.
Hopefully they will.
These things grow right

theLORDreigns:
At this thought-rate, you're leaning more towards jealousy or lust (for your male friend)...

Brijet:
Common,gals can neva admit they r in luv wit a guy in presence of their female frds.so live her alone nd let d man figure out if she is a player or nt.

I don't know how you guys come to such conclusions but women usually tell each other EXACTLY how they feel about a guy. We love talking about our feelings and guys. And if a woman is into a guy, it can be seen by the way she talks, moves, smiles ......

@OP

Tell her to stop playing her nasty game.
Tell her that you have a very good opinion of this guy and that he doesn't deserve it.

Warn her subtly that you will not be able to see her using him for a long time.

Actually this was what i had in mind. But i dont. Wanna look overzealous or am telling her how to run her life.and i dont wanna be the bad friend.
On the other hand i feel like i shud jus tell the guy to cut down abit on all the services. Maybe the gal will miss him or sometin.
The guy has Such goodheart. Jus hope she isnt taking advantage of it.

Like the guy goes out of his way to do tinz for her like he will wake up by 7am to drop her at work den go back home to prepare for his afternoon shift.

That kin tin.i cant belive she sees him like jus a loyal driver of some sort!!

carefreewannabe:
@OP

Tell her to stop playing her nasty game.
Tell her that you have a very good opinion of this guy and that he doesn't deserve it.

Warn her subtly that you will not be able to see her using him for a long time.

rofemiguwa:
Actually this was what i had in mind. But i dont. Wanna look overzealous or am telling her how to run her life.and i dont wanna be the bad friend.
On the other hand i feel like i shud jus tell the guy to cut down abit on all the services. Maybe the gal will miss him or sometin.
The guy has Such goodheart. Jus hope she isnt taking advantage of it.

Like the guy goes out of his way to do tinz for her like he will wake up by 7am to drop her at work den go back home to prepare for his afternoon shift.

That kin tin.i cant belive she sees him like jus a loyal driver of some sort!!

It's your decision to make eventually.
I just told you what I would probably do.

Since it is not a cheating case, don't tell him yet, she might not want to tell her true feelings about this guy to you, because you are the one that hook them up.

Just maintain the friendship and warn her not to play this guy like carefreewannabe said.

If she continue with her fake feelings to the guy, it is better you tell the guy to be careful with this girl, this will make the guy study the girl.

It is better he know the truth himself.

tintingz:
Since it is not a cheating case, don't tell him yet, she might not want to tell her true feelings about this guy to you, because you are the one that hook them up.

Just maintain the friendship and warn her not to play this guy like carefreewannabe said.

If she continue with her fake feelings to the guy, it is better you tell the guy to be careful with this girl, this will make the guy study the girl.

It is better he know the truth himself.

rofemiguwa:
Hello house
I have 2 friends,a male and female. We all work in the same establishment.
They are both single,so i decided to hook them up.
The arrangement was going so well.
As they have being coming to work together.
The guys goes to pick her in the morning, goes to buy her lunch,takes her to almost everywhere she wanna go,
Everything seems o be going so well.

Well yestaday i asked the girl what she felt for the guy, and she said nothing,she just sees him as a nice guy that she follows to work.
Am like whatttt?? .this is a guy that is almost certain you love him, feels like you have a bond and is willing to do anything for you. I didnt tell her this dou.

The issue is the guy is actually a very nice guy and i feel kinda guilty knowing the girl seems to just be taking advantage of his good heart.

Well am confused whether to tell the guy how the girl really feels or just let them sort themselves out??

Matured response pls
Thank you pals!

Girls don't usually like to reveal how they really feel for someone, even to their close friend. If they look cool with the whole arangent, no need to tell the guy anything. Even if she is telling the truth and she doesn't feel anything for the guy now, that might change later. Whatever the case, don't tell the guy anything.

rofemiguwa:
Well Actually he has not asked her out yet, he wanted to be sure the feeling is mutual,or atleast there is some form of aTtraction.


Apparently he feels there is now and wants to make the move ,but when i asked my gAlfriend she told me she didnt feel the same.
I didnt tell her the guy wanna ask her out now . I was actually expecting the same level of excitement the guy had with her, was realLy disappointed.

We actually talk about relationship so i dont tink she should be feeling shy to tell me anytin.
Am engaged and she wants a man,and she is friendzoning this one .what are the odds.??

Anyway its her decision to make dou

I will just backoff and let the guy find out him self.

Let your guy make the move asap if possible after this break.

If she says she's not interested, let him cut her off straight. No more pick up of drop off.

She may say she will think about it but there shouldn't be any time to waste.

I may be wrong but sher is not interested in the guy to me.

If she was you would see it her smile or face when you asked about her feelings.

She doesn't have any reason to hide her feelings for you if you guys are close and she knows you are engaged.

Mind you, don't be offended with her if she doesn't like the guy. You should understand if the feeling is notthere it is simply not there.

Thank you

If you want to talk, talk to your girlfriend.

It takes a village gossip!

rofemiguwa:
Actually this was what i had in mind. But i dont. Wanna look overzealous or am telling her how to run her life.and i dont wanna be the bad friend.
On the other hand i feel like i shud jus tell the guy to cut down abit on all the services. Maybe the gal will miss him or sometin.
The guy has Such goodheart. Jus hope she isnt taking advantage of it.

Like the guy goes out of his way to do tinz for her like he will wake up by 7am to drop her at work den go back home to prepare for his afternoon shift.

That kin tin.i cant belive she sees him like jus a loyal driver of some sort!!

D guy is acting desperate hw can he b doing all these to a woman he is nt yet dating wat more ll he do assuming they finally start dating. Dt lady is way ahead of him in d dating game n ll really show him pepper esp as he is getting attached to her. Introduce another girl to d man if u care abt him so dt he ll reduce d attention he gives to her. Sinces it is only frnds for nw let him increase his options to b safe. He is obviously nt jst nice but weak n has surrendered too much power to dt lady. He shld tell her his mind n cut his loses asap

Right on spot, i wouldn't say more.

ogawisdom:
D guy is acting desperate hw can he b doing all these to a woman he is nt yet dating wat more ll he do assuming they finally start dating. Dt lady is way ahead of him in d dating game n ll really show him pepper esp as he is getting attached to her. Introduce another girl to d man if u care abt him so dt he ll reduce d attention he gives to her. Sinces it is only frnds for nw let him increase his options to b safe. He is obviously nt jst nice but weak n has surrendered too much power to dt lady. He shld tell her his mind n cut his loses asap