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cococandy:
most Nigerian women put up with cheating sometimes because being a divorcee in a society like ours puts them in a disadvantaged position. I hope some gullible men don't mistake that for forgiveness.


She remembers. Everyday.
Don't get too cocky and play russian roulette with the most important thing you have.

50calibre:
Bravo!!! The queen of self-deceit has spoken!!

Please can you stop making noise & misleading gullible young girl?

If your husband cheats on you, what's the worse you're going to do? Divorce? Hahahaha don't make me laugh.

Yeah right.
If concurring with what she wrote in red makes me gullible, I couldn't possibly have enough in one lifetime.

Cococandy Ma'am, I want to be like you when I grow up

Ugovin:
It takes a devilish and a wicked man not to forgive. if been cheated on,, WHY? Don't Judge Others. (Judge not, and ye shall not be Judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive and ye shall be forgiven (luke6:37) ) as a christian, one of the features of your recreated human Spirit is love, and love doesn't judge or slander others. One day JESUS was sitting somewhere and the jewish leaders and men chased after a woman whom they said was caught in the very act of adultery. So they said to Jesus, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the Law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But JESUS stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. (John 8:4-6) when JESUS eventually raised his head, He said to the womans accusers ''let the one without sin cast the first Stone'' (john 8:7) but they couldn't. So one after the other, they dropped their stones and left, leaving the woman alone with JESUS. Then JESUS said to her, ( hath no man condemnd thee? She said No man, lord. And JEsUs said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go and sin no more'') John8:10-11) we are to act like JESUS; HE said, "I wouldn't condemn you,go and sin no more." Jesus recognized her sin; Meaning we can recognize when people do something wrong; yet, like JESUS, don't judge them. Love is not all about sex, or making love. There is more to It.

ugoezeik:
sis r u serious? wman r really wore onto man

timawoku:
she means 'more acceptable by the society'.

Babaji111:
Women do forget that no matter how men have sex outside their homes, there won't be any noticeable physical or whatsoever changes that sex would cause on them. But women having sex illegally has a lot of physical and biological effects on them. Few among the effects includes: 1. Loss of virginity (for spinsters)
2. Unwanted pregnancy
3. STDs
4. Breast stacking
5. Virginal enlargement or looseness
6. Disrespect to her spouse (if she is getting 'IT' better outside)
7. Loss of morality and sound faith
8. Lack of interest in her spouse
9. Lack of interest in spending good time at her marital home
10. Psychological defects in rare cases......etc

So, NO reasonable man will forgive his spouse for exposing herself to the above. This is not a matter of Beijing Conference it is NATURE that made man and woman differ .

iwakolewa:
And the risks of getting infected with a deadly sexu.ally transmitted disease isn't worse?

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

Fkforyou:
I prefer she ask for divorce than for her to cheat on me. This might sound wierd to some people esp for married folks anyway its just a thought as well as my personal opinion.

Babaji111:
Women do forget that no matter how men have sex outside their homes, there won't be any noticeable physical or whatsoever changes that sex would cause on them. But women having sex illegally has a lot of physical and biological effects on them. Few among the effects includes: 1. Loss of virginity (for spinsters)
2. Unwanted pregnancy
3. STDs
4. Loss of natural firmness in breasts
5. Virginal enlargement or looseness
6. Disrespect to her spouse (if she is getting 'IT' better outside)
7. Loss of morality and sound faith
8. Lack of interest in her spouse
9. Lack of interest in spending good time at her marital home
10. Psychological defects in rare cases......etc

So, NO reasonable man will forgive his spouse for exposing herself to the above. This is not a matter of Beijing Conference it is NATURE that made man and woman differ .

MizMyColi:
Yeah right.
If concurring with what she wrote in red makes me gullible, I couldn't possibly have enough in one lifetime.

Cococandy Ma'am, I want to be like you when I grow up

ochon:
The simple truth is, women are the reason why society frowns badly at women cheating, while they moderately condemn men's cheating.

I said so because, while the society is to be blamed for such laws/norms INITIALLY, women of this age should've emancipated themselves from such mental slavery and refuse to stand a cheating partner. If the women don't stop tolerating cheating men, the status quo will never be changed. The situation favours us, men, and hell will freeze over before they relinquish such rights to the women.

At the end of the day, it's even the women that supports such norms. For example, women are quick to call their fellow cheating women, "slùts," but when they tag cheating men "bad boys" "ladies men" "playas" Etc. Some women will say, "I don't care if my husband is sleeping around, as long he doesn't bring them inside my house, I'm okay". WTF!! This is the highest form of low self-esteem. Some women takes their stupidity to a greater level by publicly fighting with the mistress of their lover. No shame whatsoever!! They fight and kill each other while the cheating man is allowed to sit back and laugh at their madness.

So until women say enough is enough, society will keep allowing men to walk away with cheating while they get scolded and called slùts.

I'm not claiming to be a saint that has never cheated, I'm just saying, just like I as man will hardly forgive a cheating woman, such treatment should be meted out to me if I cheat on my woman, shikena.

BananaBender:
It can change, starting from you. Change your mindset, you are only thinking like the product of the society you grew up in. One way to do that, is by encouraging and teaching gender equality in social institutions.

MizMyColi:
Hmmmmmm
Eleyi Gidi Gan.

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Talking about paying her price - well, that's true, let's not forget that the same way the guy forwent scores of women to pay her price, she forwent scores of guys to accept his price

Owh, OP, I think the points you raised are valid and affects both sides of the divide equally, depending on the individuals involved.

cococandy:
I don't know about you ladies but if a man cheats on me,it ruins everything for me.

I wonder what he said to her to woo her.
Were they the same things he said to me?

I wonder what he said when he was about to cum.
"You're the sweetest woman I've ever had"
I know he said that to me too.

He must have complimented her beauty in ways he did to me.

Maybe lied too. "I'm single. Not married. Divorced. Just broke up". Anything to get her to relax and open up.
I like to feel that I'm the apple of my man's eye.

If he could forget how valuable he said I was,if he could discard my well being and feelings the moment he see another,then it means I'm not the woman I thought I was to him.

It will make me feel CHEAP.

It is not acceptable. Not even slightly acceptable.

I don't know what he'll feel if I cheat on him but I'm pretty sure it's akin to what I'll feel if he cheats on me.

50calibre:
Bravo!!! The queen of self-deceit has spoken!!

Please can you stop making noise & misleading gullible young girl?

If your husband cheats on you, what's the worse you're going to do? Divorce? Hahahaha don't make me laugh.

InHim4Him:
Just wondering if you read your own comment. For you the problem is gender? SMH.

Mintayo:
i smh too when i read her comment,what she is saying is that,once the man cheats,d woman should cheat too!
Smh again!

timawoku:
dunno? The society sucks!!!

ochon:
The simple truth is, women are the reason why society frowns badly at women cheating, while they moderately condemn men's cheating.

I said so because, while the society is to be blamed for such laws/norms INITIALLY, women of this age should've emancipated themselves from such mental slavery and refuse to stand a cheating partner. If the women don't stop tolerating cheating men, the status quo will never be changed. The situation favours us, men, and hell will freeze over before they relinquish such rights to the women.

At the end of the day, it's even the women that supports such norms. For example, women are quick to call their fellow cheating women, "slùts," but when they tag cheating men "bad boys" "ladies men" "playas" Etc. Some women will say, "I don't care if my husband is sleeping around, as long he doesn't bring them inside my house, I'm okay". WTF!! This is the highest form of low self-esteem. Some women takes their stupidity to a greater level by publicly fighting with the mistress of their lover. No shame whatsoever!! They fight and kill each other while the cheating man is allowed to sit back and laugh at their madness.

So until women say enough is enough, society will keep allowing men to walk away with cheating while they get scolded and called slùts.

I'm not claiming to be a saint that has never cheated, I'm just saying, just like I as man will hardly forgive a cheating woman, such treatment should be meted out to me if I cheat on my woman, shikena.

coogar:
isn't that present from both genders? cheating wife can infect her hubby. cheating hubby can infect his wife. however, a cheating wife can sneak a bästard into the house - a cheating husband cannot sneak a bastärd into the house & claim the baby belongs to his wife.

that's the difference.

Babaji111:
Women do forget that no matter how men have sex outside their homes, there won't be any noticeable physical or whatsoever changes that sex would cause on them. But women having sex illegally has a lot of physical and biological effects on them. Few among the effects includes: 1. Loss of virginity (for spinsters)
2. Unwanted pregnancy
3. STDs
4. Loss of natural firmness in breasts
5. Virginal enlargement or looseness
6. Disrespect to her spouse (if she is getting 'IT' better outside)
7. Loss of morality and sound faith
8. Lack of interest in her spouse
9. Lack of interest in spending good time at her marital home
10. Psychological defects in rare cases......etc

So, NO reasonable man will forgive his spouse for exposing herself to the above. This is not a matter of Beijing Conference it is NATURE that made man and woman differ .

Babaji111:
Women do forget that no matter how men have sex outside their homes, there won't be any noticeable physical or whatsoever changes that sex would cause on them. But women having sex illegally has a lot of physical and biological effects on them. Few among the effects includes: 1. Loss of virginity (for spinsters)
2. Unwanted pregnancy
3. STDs
4. Loss of natural firmness in breasts
5. Virginal enlargement or looseness
6. Disrespect to her spouse (if she is getting 'IT' better outside)
7. Loss of morality and sound faith
8. Lack of interest in her spouse
9. Lack of interest in spending good time at her marital home
10. Psychological defects in rare cases......etc

So, NO reasonable man will forgive his spouse for exposing herself to the above. This is not a matter of Beijing Conference it is NATURE that made man and woman differ .

MizMyColi:
Yeah right.
If concurring with what she wrote in red makes me gullible, I couldn't possibly have enough in one lifetime.

Cococandy Ma'am, I want to be like you when I grow up

carefreewannabe:
Please show me where she said so.

50calibre:
Very well then, enjoy!!

When someone is bent on being mislead, there's not much that could be done or said to save that person.

Cococandy & her likes are in the habit of laying out self-destructive routes for young girls to follow, routes they themselves are not willing to take, while the gullible ones like you adhere religiously to their teachings.

I pity you!!

Thank you sir