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goofyone:
Mizz!!! couldn't stop laughing at the bolded.

I'm trying to be an all rounder.

bebe2:
Bro r u kidding?

Everything u listed can happen both ways, and I mean everything.

And pls forget this loose virg-ina issue.
Its a myth,

one mans tight is another man's loose

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

cococandy:
I wonder what your business is with how I decide to handle a cheating a husband.

All in all my post wasn't telling any lady how to handle her own situation. Infact I don't remember directing my post at ANY lady.

It is simply directed to guys like you who think putting up with a cheating partner because it is more convenient than divorcing is the same thing as forgiveness.(Gullible you would believe that)

I take god beg you,I don't have the energy to be misunderstood today.

Ugovin:
It takes a devilish and a wicked man not to forgive. if been cheated on,, WHY? Don't Judge Others. (Judge not, and ye shall not be Judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive and ye shall be forgiven (luke6:37) ) as a christian, one of the features of your recreated human Spirit is love, and love doesn't judge or slander others. One day JESUS was sitting somewhere and the jewish leaders and men chased after a woman whom they said was caught in the very act of adultery. So they said to Jesus, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the Law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But JESUS stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. (John 8:4-6) when JESUS eventually raised his head, He said to the womans accusers ''let the one without sin cast the first Stone'' (john 8:7) but they couldn't. So one after the other, they dropped their stones and left, leaving the woman alone with JESUS. Then JESUS said to her, ( hath no man condemnd thee? She said No man, lord. And JEsUs said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go and sin no more'') John8:10-11) we are to act like JESUS; HE said, "I wouldn't condemn you,go and sin no more." Jesus recognized her sin; Meaning we can recognize when people do something wrong; yet, like JESUS, don't judge them. Love is not all about sex, or making love. There is more to It.

Mintayo:
Yinmu,i know your likes. I have been in the family section enough to know what it means!
The same trick some people make," i didnt say this! Where did you see me say that?" they wll even go to the extend of bringing the post!
Don't play ignorance,i am sure you know what gender equality means! Afterall,you all move in the same direction!
Smh again!

ROSYL:
Bullshit! Did you hear me? That's total bullshit!

iiiyyyk:
i can forgive every wrong thing from a wife
but i dont think i can forgive a cheating wife, as much as i will like to do, but i dont think it will be possible.
I won't be able to touch her again.

pls God never allow such thing to come my way.

Mintayo:
Some set of people in the family section do not believe this. Infact they will tell you that prayer cannot solve the problem,neither can the Bible,such is it that they see divorce as the only option!
I once told a lady that,if my wife cheats on me,i am ready to forgive her as long as she tells me why she did it...maybe there is something that i am not doing right!
Some people don't know what it means to be married or stay married,they don't know what it means to be in love or to love someone!
Well,i guess that is why we are different!

carefreewannabe:
Show me where she said so.

Mintayo:
sorry,i can't help you if you are smart enough to deduce that!

ochon:
The simple truth is, women are the reason why society frowns badly at women cheating, while they moderately condemn men's cheating.

I said so because, while the society is to be blamed for such laws/norms INITIALLY, women of this age should've emancipated themselves from such mental slavery and refuse to stand a cheating partner. If the women don't stop tolerating cheating men, the status quo will never be changed. The situation favours us, men, and hell will freeze over before they relinquish such rights to the women.

At the end of the day, it's even the women that supports such norms. For example, women are quick to call their fellow cheating women, "slùts," but when they tag cheating men "bad boys" "ladies men" "playas" Etc. Some women will say, "I don't care if my husband is sleeping around, as long he doesn't bring them inside my house, I'm okay". WTF!! This is the highest form of low self-esteem. Some women takes their stupidity to a greater level by publicly fighting with the mistress of their lover. No shame whatsoever!! They fight and kill each other while the cheating man is allowed to sit back and laugh at their madness.

So until women say enough is enough, society will keep allowing men to walk away with cheating while they get scolded and called slùts.

I'm not claiming to be a saint that has never cheated, I'm just saying, just like I as man will hardly forgive a cheating woman, such treatment should be meted out to me if I cheat on my woman, shikena.

Toks2008:
I can see you are not getting it and i pray you never find yourself in this situation.

Its easy to lip talk but when faced with the harsh reality you will understand.

Its not in the forgiveness bu the problem lies in the memory. Of-course i can forgive my wife of sexual infidelity but trust me, it cant be the same again.

When i make love to her afterwards i will start thinking, was it that i was not good enough? Could it be that the other guy did it better, even if i handle her bosoms i will start imagining how the other guy sucked it and .. honestly its a terrible thing.

Kudos to GOD on the way he wired ladies that are just ok sharing a man with another woman when a man cant even stand the imagination of his woman been caressed by another man.

And please understand this, the worst one is when you catch her in the act,chai! the picture will never erase from your brain till you grow old and die. you may still get over hear say or her confession.

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

carefreewannabe:
From which post did you deduce your statement?

kokotango:
Very simple pls answer this when a man chats on his wife what name is given to him .......... And when a woman chats on her husband a name is given to her ...........

hardbody:
Just like mine. The man immediately starts a downhill slide to put him on enquiry so that the woman is dealt with. But if he the man turns a blind eye, his fortunes will close down and he will die mysteriously. Little wonder some of our ladies forbid to marry from home and we the guys think twice before marrying a non indigene. And yes i am from Arochukwu kingdom.

Tallesty1:
Before I start this, I want to make it clear that I'm not a sexist.

People say it is a man's world, and honestly, it is. I will show you how.

Nature gave us some bonus and women gave their support. Even if a man forgives a cheating wife, the women(society) will not.

Here are the few reasons some men find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife(They are what I heard men say. I didn't author some of them)

1: EGO:- It certainly has alot to do with their ego being bruised. The thought that another man was able to sleep with Someone they believed they had "ownership" of breaks them to pieces as most of them think the women incapable of sex without emotions, meaning the woman loves another. Remember men are like a lioness that can kill most animals for its cubs but will not allow another animal to even play with its cubs.

2: GUILT:- If a woman cheats, the man will never forgive not only the woman but himself no matter whose fault it is. He feels he has failed as a man to protect and keep his own.

3: THEY CAN'T FORGET:- When a man is making love with his wife, it is a sacred rituals the way she moan shows that his sacrifice has been accepted. So if she makes love with another man he will be thinking the temple is no more sacred and when he make love to her and she moan, it will be disgusting cause it will be like that is the way she moaned for the other guy! ..

4: YOU HAVE LOST HER IF SHE CHEATS:- Female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship. For men, cheating often tends to be opportunistic—they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and the cheating doesn’t necessarily mean anything emotionally. In fact a man can sleep with a woman today and not remember her again but for a woman to have sex with you(in most cases)you must win her heart to win her body.

5: HE PAID YOUR PRICE:- I guess i gotta be blunt here. I know we call it marriage but I think women are being bought in a way. Don't kill me yet, let's analyze it. He buys engagement ring. Proposes to you, you accept then he decides to see your people. Your people accept him and give him a list containing heaven and earth. He agrees to pay, he pays for everything and when your parents feel they have collected enough, they hand you over to him. Then you automatically change your name(Change of ownership) which confirms that you are now his own.

I have seen where women sponsored their marriage and the men don't care when they cheat soI believe the day you stop asking for head-cutting bride price for us to marry then we won't bother much, imagine paying all that money and she gives it to another man..

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

pickabeau1:
Can you explain the correlation between cheating in a marriage and gender equality
I get the relation to equal opportunities, education, jobs, access to property.

carefreewannabe:
From which post did you deduce your statement?

ayodeji752:
delta father and ekiti mother. Born and livin on yoruba land but my dad told us alot abt d culture in d village and he took us there twice

MzMariah:
You just reminded me of a culture in my village. If a man cheats on his wife it has no side effect but if a woman cheats (sleeps with another man) then she is as good as dead if she doesn't confess and have the necessary sacrifice done. She go just die like chicken.

We all are hoping and praying for the best sha, nobody wants a cheating partner.

BananaBender:
It can change, starting from you. Change your mindset, you are only thinking like the product of the society you grew up in. One way to do that, is by encouraging and teaching gender equality in social institutions.