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Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Tallesty1(m): 12:04pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Ugovin:He is not devilish nor wicked. Thank God you quoted the Scripture so lets look deeper into it............ Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. That is the only acceptable ground for divorce amongst Christians. Ugovin:I no lie you bro, I honestly hate the Way Christians misquote this verse. When Jesus told us not to judge in Matthew 7 He was telling us not to judge hypocritically. He was telling us not to condem rather we should judge with the goal of bringing repentance in the other person. 2 Timothy 4:2 instructs us, "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage with great patience and careful instruction." We are to "judge" sin, but always with the goal of presenting the solution for sin and its consequences. Ugovin:You are right but then, if you know that you cannot forgive and forget then free the person otherwise none of you will know peace. Ugovin:I can say that most Christians do not understand what happened here. In the time of old(according Jewish oral tradition)when a woman is caught in adultery. She is to be brought to the priest alongside with the man and at least two witness. The priest will then write their names on the ground(the man, the woman, and the people that caught them). Then judgement will follow. When the woman was brought to Jesus. The accusers said she was caught in adultery. Jesus(being a priest) wrote down the woman's name, then waited for them to present the man but they couldn't. It is possible that he even wrote with who?. He waited for them to tell him the name of the accusers but they couldn't. All they could say was that she was caught in adultery. With who? By who? So the accusers broke the law which they were trying to protect(Hypocritical judgement). Jesus knew this so he said to them."Let him who is without sin be the first to cast the stone" They couldn't because. 1: I'm not sure if the woman was really caught in adultery. The bible says they wanted to test him. 2: They didn't bring the man. 3: There were no witness. Lemme stop here. Thanks for the comment thou, I am not against forgiveness but you can't force someone to forgive. My comment is just to right some contradictions in your comment. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:05pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
sexylogan:Hmmmm...I wonder why people cheat anyway. My popcy's friend's daughter cheated on her hubby because they had a big misunderstanding over this cheating ish and at the end of the day she suffered it. Things got worst for her hubby business wise, her 2 kids started falling sick and when it got to her, she was almost dying when she confessed and was taken to the village for the sacrifices. When she was telling me how the sacrifice went I no fit talk. She came back and fell seriously sick. The sacrifice takes 7 days and the woman will see hell and back in that 7 days such that when she settles with her hubby ( that is if her hubby agrees to take her back) she will NEVER think of doing such again. It is believed that any woman who goes ahead to have fun with another man would be adjured to have defied the culture of the entire village and has to pay a price for that, all her mates will gather together to conduct Igba Ebu. Cheating for me is cheating and I feel the men should also have their share of punishment. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:13pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:15pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
It still amazes me that women do actually cheat in marriage...how come? |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:16pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
PStylish: You still haven't explained how it hurts a man more than a woman to be cheated on. |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Fkforyou(m): 12:17pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
ugoezeik:. The day you were discharged from yaba left. 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by centjamie(m): 12:18pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
BananaBender: The man is the head of the family.Nature made it so not the society. Not saying he should go on and cheat though |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:19pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
centjamie: How has nature made him the head? |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Tallesty1(m): 12:21pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
drlawizle:You sound like you just came back from another planet |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Tallesty1(m): 12:24pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:Can one really explain that? I don't think so. But we are different and you know it............ Take 4instance. A man can get another woman pregnant, and the wife may never know about it. But can you imagine your wife pregnant for another in your house nah to just drink rat poison. |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by smokescreen4: 12:28pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
I pity women, going through all these posts I can't but feel sorry for women, good thing we are all equal in death and will be judged the same no preference in heaven. what men don't know is no woman will continue to love her husband when she finds out that he is cheating, she might not divorce him but the he would be dead to her, like someone says she begins to see him only as the father of her kids. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by IdiAmin2(m): 12:28pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
[quote author=Chillisauce post=26960631]Make una dey console una selves, that person you are cheating with, might be another persons good girlfriend or wife. There is love in sharing. Nigeria sharing punny and big.Joe since the 6th century bc. Make una dey cheat, keep acquiring them viruses and training other peoples children. For the ladies, if you don't want a cheating spouse, define your relationship . Spell it out, that if he cheats on you, you walk out. Now, that depends largely on you. You have got to be at the edge here. Not those looking for who to tell them they are beautiful , nice etc. You are an adult, you should know your value. Only the low-esteem, almost dying of hunger and greedy ones will accept a cheating partner. Society my brown as.ss, biology my black as.ss. [quote please clarify which colour your a.$$ is, black or brown? It can't be the 2 at the same time |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by bebe2(f): 12:30pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
donclichy: Ok o, e go tay u then. Dnt forget that a non virgin has had enuf hormone and has managed to control it. But a virgin has no experience wit different "hormones" so the first outside one she tastes will be the end of u in her life. 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:32pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Tallesty1: If it cannot be explained then I cannot understand it. But we are different and you know it............ Of course, we are different in some ways but the fact that I can carry a pregnancy and you don't, doesn't make you inferior (This is just an example). Take 4instance. We shouldn't justify one evil with another. But can you imagine your wife pregnant for another in your house We all know that it has been happening for ages. It is only now that paternity tests are possible that men can know that the children under their roof are not theirs. Finding out that your children are not yours or finding out that a husband has children somewhere else, he has been hiding, are experiences I don't wish anybody. Both scenarios are very painful. Cheating is wrong and can have severe consequences. It doesn't matter who cheats. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Tosinville(m): 12:34pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
If ur wife cheat then never hesitate to file for divorce, abi I lie below?
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Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:36pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Tallesty1: I can still understand a gf cheating on his man perhaps d 2 of dem are not yet in a serious relationship but as bad boy as I wannabe, it still beats my imagination how a married woman will decide & choose to have another man ride her while still under her man's roof...it sends shivers down my spine. 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Tosinville: Yes, you lie! |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:38pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
drlawizle: And it doesn't send shivers down your spine when a married man cheats? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by bebe2(f): 12:39pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Toks2008: tnx bro, *smiling and fluttering my eyelids* |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Tallesty1(m): 12:41pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
bebe2:Scary |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by bebe2(f): 12:43pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:47pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
Any thread in. Which you see cococandy, bananabender and carefreewannabe, just know the issue in discuss really hurt their feminist ego . They are mad at the privilege a man has in this fuckinb world 5 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:48pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: You women yourselves know dat when you cheat on your men its goes beyond just sex, except its for cash, vengeance or shes a nymphomaniac. So for a woman to cheat on her man outside of these 3... I think I have to go back and meditate to find out another reason why. All in all..it is better to call it quits with your man b4 cheating on him...cos it will hurt him d more if you call it quits by letting him find out. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:48pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
bebe2: Which science? 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:49pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
drlawizle: And you think a woman won't be hurt? |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:51pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
eighTHREAD: You have confessed it yourself. Thank you! |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:51pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
[quote author=IdiAmin2 please clarify which colour your a.$$ is, black or brown? It can't be the 2 at the same time [/quote] All the statement I wrote , it's this one you have to question. Anyway. , answer. Changes with the weather . In Japan is very fair, in Nigeria Is very black. Caused by the wicked sun, dust , heat and nepa 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by okotv(m): 12:52pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:is that true |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:55pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:na person say make u be woman? sebi una sef get una own privileges? |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:56pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
okotv: See how people here find excuses for the evil committed by men and how they will find reasons to condemn the same evil committed by women and you will have your answer. 1 Like |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by Nobody: 12:57pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
eighTHREAD: No need discussing the issue any further. You have just admitted what we have been saying all along. |
Re: Why Naija Men Hardly Forgive A Cheating Partner. by okotv(m): 12:59pm On Oct 08, 2014 |
[quote author=carefreewannabe post=26966162] See how people here find excuses for the evil committed by men and how they will find reasons to condemn the same evil committed by women and you will have your answer. [/quote anyone who is wrong is wrong in any situation or relationship regardless if gender...I support you on this |
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