Ugovin:
It takes a devilish and a wicked man not to forgive. if been cheated on,,

He is not devilish nor wicked. Thank God you quoted the Scripture so lets look deeper into it............ Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. That is the only acceptable ground for divorce amongst Christians.

Ugovin:
WHY? Don't Judge Others. (Judge not, and ye shall not be Judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive and ye shall be forgiven (luke6:37) )

I no lie you bro, I honestly hate the Way Christians misquote this verse.
When Jesus told us not to judge in Matthew 7 He was telling us not to judge hypocritically. He was telling us not to condem rather we should judge with the goal of bringing repentance in the other person. 2 Timothy 4:2 instructs us, "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage with great patience and careful instruction." We are to "judge" sin, but always with the goal of presenting the solution for sin and its consequences.

Ugovin:
as a christian, one of the features of your recreated human Spirit is love, and love doesn't judge or slander others.

You are right but then, if you know that you cannot forgive and forget then free the person otherwise none of you will know peace.

Ugovin:
One day JESUS was sitting somewhere and the jewish leaders and men chased after a woman whom they said was caught in the very act of adultery. So they said to Jesus, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the Law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But JESUS stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. (John 8:4-6) when JESUS eventually raised his head, He said to the womans accusers ''let the one without sin cast the first Stone'' (john 8:7) but they couldn't. So one after the other, they dropped their stones and left, leaving the woman alone with JESUS. Then JESUS said to her, ( hath no man condemnd thee? She said No man, lord. And JEsUs said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go and sin no more'') John8:10-11) we are to act like JESUS; HE said, "I wouldn't condemn you,go and sin no more." Jesus recognized her sin; Meaning we can recognize when people do something wrong; yet, like JESUS, don't judge them. Love is not all about sex, or making love. There is more to It.

I can say that most Christians do not understand what happened here.

In the time of old(according Jewish oral tradition)when a woman is caught in adultery. She is to be brought to the priest alongside with the man and at least two witness.

The priest will then write their names on the ground(the man, the woman, and the people that caught them). Then judgement will follow.

When the woman was brought to Jesus. The accusers said she was caught in adultery.

Jesus(being a priest) wrote down the woman's name, then waited for them to present the man but they couldn't. It is possible that he even wrote with who?. He waited for them to tell him the name of the accusers but they couldn't. All they could say was that she was caught in adultery. With who? By who?

So the accusers broke the law which they were trying to protect(Hypocritical judgement).

Jesus knew this so he said to them."Let him who is without sin be the first to cast the stone"

They couldn't because.

1: I'm not sure if the woman was really caught in adultery. The bible says they wanted to test him.

2: They didn't bring the man.

3: There were no witness.

Lemme stop here. Thanks for the comment thou, I am not against forgiveness but you can't force someone to forgive.

My comment is just to right some contradictions in your comment.

sexylogan:


I broke off an engagement after my ex confessed to cheating on me.
I hate cheats.
God forbid that my future wife cheats on me...if she does, I swear the marriage is over.
I have promised myself that I will be faithful and if I hav been able to do that while dating, I don't see why marriage will be different.
I can't stand cheats.

Hmmmm...I wonder why people cheat anyway.

My popcy's friend's daughter cheated on her hubby because they had a big misunderstanding over this cheating ish and at the end of the day she suffered it. Things got worst for her hubby business wise, her 2 kids started falling sick and when it got to her, she was almost dying when she confessed and was taken to the village for the sacrifices. When she was telling me how the sacrifice went I no fit talk. She came back and fell seriously sick. The sacrifice takes 7 days and the woman will see hell and back in that 7 days such that when she settles with her hubby ( that is if her hubby agrees to take her back) she will NEVER think of doing such again.

It is believed that any woman who goes ahead to have fun with another man would be adjured to have defied the culture of the entire village and has to pay a price for that, all her mates will gather together to conduct Igba Ebu.

Cheating for me is cheating and I feel the men should also have their share of punishment.

....

It still amazes me that women do actually cheat in marriage...how come?

PStylish:


At most, a woman can have 2 children in a year.

But a man can have countless number of children born to him in one year alone.

Also, a woman may not be able bear children when she's past a certain age. But a man can bear a child (impregnate a woman) in his last days.

If you still don't get it, then ...

You still haven't explained how it hurts a man more than a woman to be cheated on.

ugoezeik:
when were u released from quarantine center

. The day you were discharged from yaba left.

BananaBender:


Explain how "nature" made it so. It would be nice if you back that up with reference.

The man is the head of the family.Nature made it so not the society.

Not saying he should go on and cheat though

centjamie:


The man is the head of the family.Nature made it so not the society.

Not saying he should go on and cheat though

How has nature made him the head?

drlawizle:
It still amazes me that women do actually cheat in marriage...how come?

You sound like you just came back from another planet

carefreewannabe:


You still haven't explained how it hurts a man more than a woman to be cheated on.

Can one really explain that?

I don't think so.

But we are different and you know it............

Take 4instance.

A man can get another woman pregnant, and the wife may never know about it.

But can you imagine your wife pregnant for another in your house

nah to just drink rat poison.

I pity women, going through all these posts I can't but feel sorry for women, good thing we are all equal in death and will be judged the same no preference in heaven. what men don't know is no woman will continue to love her husband when she finds out that he is cheating, she might not divorce him but the he would be dead to her, like someone says she begins to see him only as the father of her kids.

[quote author=Chillisauce post=26960631]Make una dey console una selves, that person you are cheating with, might be another persons good girlfriend or wife. There is love in sharing. Nigeria sharing punny and big.Joe since the 6th century bc.

Make una dey cheat, keep acquiring them viruses and training other peoples children.

For the ladies, if you don't want a cheating spouse, define your relationship . Spell it out, that if he cheats on you, you walk out. Now, that depends largely on you. You have got to be at the edge here. Not those looking for who to tell them they are beautiful , nice etc.

You are an adult, you should know your value. Only the low-esteem, almost dying of hunger and greedy ones will accept a cheating partner.

Society my brown as.ss, biology my black as.ss.
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please clarify which colour your a.$$ is, black or brown? It can't be the 2 at the same time

donclichy:

you said it all maam. Damn, bout that hormone thingy then am not gona marry a non virgin.

Ok o, e go tay u then.

Dnt forget that a non virgin has had enuf hormone and has managed to control it.

But a virgin has no experience wit different "hormones" so the first outside one she tastes will be the end of u in her life.

Tallesty1:
Can one really explain that?
I don't think so.

If it cannot be explained then I cannot understand it.

But we are different and you know it............

Of course, we are different in some ways but the fact that I can carry a pregnancy and you don't, doesn't make you inferior (This is just an example).

Take 4instance.

A man can get another woman pregnant, and the wife may never know about it.

We shouldn't justify one evil with another.

But can you imagine your wife pregnant for another in your house

We all know that it has been happening for ages. It is only now that paternity tests are possible that men can know that the children under their roof are not theirs.

Finding out that your children are not yours or finding out that a husband has children somewhere else, he has been hiding, are experiences I don't wish anybody. Both scenarios are very painful.

Cheating is wrong and can have severe consequences. It doesn't matter who cheats.

If ur wife cheat then never hesitate to file for divorce, abi I lie below?

Tallesty1:
You sound like you just came back from another planet

I can still understand a gf cheating on his man perhaps d 2 of dem are not yet in a serious relationship but as bad boy as I wannabe, it still beats my imagination how a married woman will decide & choose to have another man ride her while still under her man's roof...it sends shivers down my spine.

Tosinville:
If ur wife cheat then never hesitate to file for divorce, abi I lie below?

Yes, you lie!

drlawizle:


I can still understand a gf cheating on his man perhaps d 2 of dem are not yet in a serious relationship but as bad boy as I wannabe, it still beats my imagination how a married woman will decide & choose to have another man ride her while still under her man's roof...it sends shivers down my spine.

And it doesn't send shivers down your spine when a married man cheats?

Toks2008:


I am in love with you.

I love intellectually sound ladies. A turn on for me. You just sums up everything.Check! check! check! a thousand likes.

This is why i still feel something for my supposed ex because if there is one thing i can bet anything on, its the fact that she is sexually decent and irrespective of what went down between us, i can not accuse her of sexual infidelity and worse still if she is doing it, as long as i have not discovered then it is non and void but the day i find out that a lady cheats on me sexually with another man,no more story, that is a man for you.

tnx bro,

*smiling and fluttering my eyelids*

bebe2:
But a virgin has no experience wit different "hormones" so the first outside one she tastes will be the end of u in her life.

Scary

smartchoice:


Bebe!

SIR!!
how can i help

Any thread in. Which you see cococandy, bananabender and carefreewannabe, just know the issue in discuss really hurt their feminist ego . They are mad at the privilege a man has in this fuckinb world

carefreewannabe:



And it doesn't send shivers down your spine when a married man cheats?

You women yourselves know dat when you cheat on your men its goes beyond just sex, except its for cash, vengeance or shes a nymphomaniac. So for a woman to cheat on her man outside of these 3... I think I have to go back and meditate to find out another reason why.

All in all..it is better to call it quits with your man b4 cheating on him...cos it will hurt him d more if you call it quits by letting him find out.

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

Which science?

drlawizle:


You women yourselves know dat when you cheat on your men its goes beyond just sex, except its for cash, vengeance or shes a nymphomaniac. So for a woman to cheat on her man outside of these 3... I think I have to go back and meditate to find out another reason why.

All in all..it is better to call it quits with your man b4 cheating on him...cos it will hurt him d more if you call it quits by letting him find out.

And you think a woman won't be hurt?

eighTHREAD:
Any thread in. Which you see cococandy, bananabender and carefreewannabe, just know the issue in discuss really hurt their feminist ego . They are mad at the privilege a man has in this fuckinb world

You have confessed it yourself.

Thank you!

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please clarify which colour your a.$$ is, black or brown? It can't be the 2 at the same time




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All the statement I wrote , it's this one you have to question.

Anyway. , answer. Changes with the weather .

In Japan is very fair, in Nigeria Is very black. Caused by the wicked sun, dust , heat and nepa

carefreewannabe:


You have confessed it yourself.

Thank you!

is that true

carefreewannabe:


You have confessed it yourself.

Thank you!

na person say make u be woman? sebi una sef get una own privileges?

okotv:
is that true

See how people here find excuses for the evil committed by men and how they will find reasons to condemn the same evil committed by women and you will have your answer.

eighTHREAD:
na person say make u be woman? sebi una sef get una own privileges?

No need discussing the issue any further. You have just admitted what we have been saying all along.

[quote author=carefreewannabe post=26966162]

See how people here find excuses for the evil committed by men and how they will find reasons to condemn the same evil committed by women and you will have your answer.





[/quote anyone who is wrong is wrong in any situation or relationship regardless if gender...I support you on this